Girl Problem Megathread!

[kevidinho]

Well just call her or go to the park or something in a couple days and be like yeah I kind of regret saying that..how are you feeling about me and my other friends..and if everything falls into place just ask her out again

[AttackMan18]

Well just call her or go to the park or something in a couple days and be like yeah I kind of regret saying that..how are you feeling about me and my other friends..and if everything falls into place just ask her out again

She is going to Hawaii in 1 hour for a week to visit her dad and her mom has her phone.

[hockeyandlax]

She is going to Hawaii in 1 hour for a week to visit her dad and her mom has her phone.

Im going to Hawaii next week also, shall I tell her you want her back?

[murderlax]

you pretty much put yourself into a tough position right now. you have pretty much broken up with the chick, but may not have wanted to, and you both still have feelings for each other.

well you can be a "man" and let her pass, there'll be others.
or you can be a man and let her know how you feel, and that you still like her.

its as simple as that.

just give it time to settle down a bit, then make your move.

[kevidinho]

Well try to let her know you want to say goodbye before she leaves and then when she gets back just talk with her

[AttackMan18]

Im going to Hawaii next week also, shall I tell her you want her back?

She's going to the Big Island.

[AttackMan18]

Well try to let her know you want to say goodbye before she leaves and then when she gets back just talk with her

Hopefully her dad has a computer so I can talk to her.

[ESPN]

just do it like in the movies and run to the airport for her at the last minute while she is just about to board the plane and have a dramatic make out scene. then she will be back together with you.

[AttackMan18]

just do it like in the movies and run to the airport for her at the last minute while she is just about to board the plane and have a dramatic make out scene. then she will be back together with you.

Haha, I wish I could do that. It would take 2 hours to run all the way to the airport.

[murderlax]

Haha, I wish I could do that. It would take 2 hours to run all the way to the airport.

drive until you get down the street from the airport. then park your car, and run the rest of it.
that way you'll get there, and wont be sweaty. :idea:

[Thumper 9C2]

espn's got the right idea, but don't run there, just grab a taxi and then take off through the terminal at the airport.

you could dress like a terrorist to make it funny....idk if customs would like it though..

[AttackMan18]

drive until you get down the street from the airport. then park your car, and run the rest of it.
that way you'll get there, and wont be sweaty. :idea:

I'm only 14. I cant drive.

[LiquidMercury16]

Lol forget about her. You're 14. Enjoy life. You have your whole life ahead of you to be irritated by women.

[AttackMan18]

Lol forget about her. You're 14. Enjoy life. You have your whole life ahead of you to be irritated by women.

Yea, but she's a model.

[crazylax13]

dude trust me getting with a girl at 14 aint the biggest thing to worry about even though if she is a "model" anyways you shouldnt just try to go out with a girl base on looks.

ALSO can anyone post a link to that thread with that girl friend card thing

[kleinlax-75]

dude we all have girl problems i just had one recently and posted about it

you just have to move on bro

but if you think it will work then try it out and talk to her

[AttackMan18]

dude trust me getting with a girl at 14 aint the biggest thing to worry about even though if she is a "model" anyways you shouldnt just try to go out with a girl base on looks.

ALSO can anyone post a link to that thread with that girl friend card thing
I don't care what she looks like. I like her personality.

[LiquidMercury16]

Yea, but she's a model.

Dude at 14 being a model doesn't mean crap. Doubt she has any goods or even knows how to use them. Believe me you're better off cuttin her loose and movin on. You'll look back on this later in life and laugh.

[aussielax]

Ahh it's times like this i wish OClaxer was still a TLF member.

[LiquidMercury16]

So true, if only he was still here to provide some interesting insight...

[slinkyspine]

Hit her in the face with a brick.

[Native]

drive until you get down the street from the airport. then park your car, and run the rest of it.
that way you'll get there, and wont be sweaty. :idea:

Yeah, but if he does that, then he should like rip his t-shirt up and stuff so it looks like he has gone through he** (is that profanity?) to get to her.

[laxman01]

That same thing has happened to me before, besides the model part. We've gone back out together but it hasn't been the same as that first time. But if you really like her, go for her.

[bigdale9]

darn you slinky why do you have to post before me!
tell her you want her back
then hit with a brick in the face(2)
just dont tell her on aim or with a txt message, tell her in person.

[Enjoi LAX]

What does she model? The Hanna Montana clothing line? c'mon shes 14 and so are you, don't act desperate, treat her as a friend, and see how it goes.

[Attackalltheway]

Hit her in the face with a brick.

youve got the right idea my friend

[ML_LAX09]

Cut that fish loose and continue fishing.

[RIT37FO]

le sigh.....

[livin4lax09]

who cares? honestly. just find another girl.

[kingwolf]

if you keep hanging out with her something is bound to happen again that happens alot but whats a the big deal find a new girl and move on. Also you kinda dug your own grave here any way too

[laxr24]

just lay low for a while and see how things pan out, if you two really like each other it will work out eventually.

[MACDADDY]

IT WORKED AGAIN!!!!! YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!!!!
I just asked a girl to homecoming and she said she would go if she had nothing scheduled

thats just a nice way of letting a guy off, telling them they dont ever want to see you agian.












jk good job

[laxgoalieking]

if all that fails, hit her in the face with a brick and have your way with her.

[laxattackman 22]

Oh and for the honor of the lacrosse forums, just say you play lacrosse. EVERY girl loves lacrosse players, we are just simply amazing, in every aspect of life, 3 foot poles. In some cases 6 ft. We look AMAZING. And lacrosse is like the manliest sport of all. BY FAR.

lol not in my town girls love soccer players =/ it's cuase were mostly spanish and blacks lmaoo....

[sjesuitlax]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m75g_A731q0

there you go

[aussielax]

Hit her in the face with a brick.

Sorry slinky, It's just not the same as when OClaxer said it.

[lax21goalie2008]

As the great Flounder says, "Girls. Can't live with them. Can't live without them."

[lax21goalie2008]

I think girls like it if you act confident, but not cocky or over the top. Throw in some light jokes just to get them giggling.

[rebellax10]

Just have fun, don't be serious or else your just going to look dumb. Have fun, don't really care at all. However, don't be sleazy or a jerk, just be nice, have fun, try and make them laugh, confidence is key. If you go and start conversation they most likely will talk back. It's good clean fun!

[Live4It]

If I seriously see one more girl problem thread I will flip, and say something like, "wow, I didn't know there were so many insecure losers on here that can't get a girl or can't work out their own problems so they have to make a whole new thread just for them because they can't just read all the other threads to find help, or post in an already made thread." I'm just saying that's what I would say, so I didn't really say it.

[CSlax06]

Smooth L4I.

Get another.

[ahslax18]

nothing a pipe, cement, and a 55 gallon drum cant handle

[bee_laxer5]

yeah i was always trying to impress the girls, then senior year i was just like hey if they don't like me, there's nothing i can do about it, so i was just myself and i ended up having a girlfriend, and apparently tons of girls liked me senior year

[ahslax18]

go out with her best friend to piss her off or kill everyone she talks to so your the only one in her life. those are the simple fixes or you can go through hel* and try to "talk" it out.....

great answer!

[AttackMan18]

go out with her best friend to piss her off or kill everyone she talks to so your the only one in her life. those are the simple fixes or you can go through hel* and try to "talk" it out.....

Her best friend is ugly.
gross

[playwithpride14]

Ok so, Theres this girl. And she's as you would say.. clingy. She follows me around everywhere, calls me all the time, and waits for me at places I don't even know I'm going. Shes not exactly pretty either. (i'm not saying that's everything). But she's alwyas telling me how she's depressed and no one likes her, and im stuck listening to this.

PROBLEM: she has dropped many hints she's gonig to ask me out in the near future.

She has a body guard. Big.. football lineman, scary... has friends.

Me: small freshman.. fast middie in lax... thats it.

Please help, I really have no idea what i'm gonig to do. I'm not really afriad of her body guard, I just don't wanna get stuck in an even worse of a jam.

[laxr24]

you could avoid her or tell her that you really are not interested and if she asks you out, obviously say no

[ATXlacrosse]

become friends wiht the lineman then tell her how you feel

[roycegracie47]

All current girl problem threads have been merged into the girl problem mega-thread, where they should have been posted in the first place rather than creating a new thread each time someone has a new problem.

[slinkyspine]

Her best friend is ugly.
gross

I thought you liked her personality. So whats her best friends looks have to do with anything.

I smell lies.

[Tehb2]

Chances are the lineman won't beat you up. Most kids wont, only threaten to, but aren't actually that violent. Although if he is that kind of guy, watch out! If she is really bugging you, and you fear for the worst (she asks you out and you either have to say no then, or feel guilty and say yes), then you might just have to man up and be blunt. Tell her she's getting on your nerves, and if she thinks anything might happen its not. Or, if she does ask you out, don't be afraid to say no, just say it. Its not pretty-- its not nice-- but you can't always be nice to everyone, and you can't expect everyone to like you either. She'll stop bothering you (hopefully), or whine about it and stop soon afterwards. It might make you feel bad at the time, but you'll be relieved she's stopped following you around.

I know that advice is harsh, but you gotta do what you gotta do, and it should work.

[playwithpride14]

Chances are the lineman won't beat you up. Most kids wont, only threaten to, but aren't actually that violent. Although if he is that kind of guy, watch out! If she is really bugging you, and you fear for the worst (she asks you out and you either have to say no then, or feel guilty and say yes), then you might just have to man up and be blunt. Tell her she's getting on your nerves, and if she thinks anything might happen its not. Or, if she does ask you out, don't be afraid to say no, just say it. Its not pretty-- its not nice-- but you can't always be nice to everyone, and you can't expect everyone to like you either. She'll stop bothering you (hopefully), or whine about it and stop soon afterwards. It might make you feel bad at the time, but you'll be relieved she's stopped following you around.

I know that advice is harsh, but you gotta do what you gotta do, and it should work.

Thanks man. Turns out I jsut got a girlfriend and I'll leave it at that.

Made friends with the lineman. turns out he's one of my sister's friends, and wont try huritng me since theres some "hype" about me coming to the lax team. (appearntly he plays D) and he wouldn't have beaten me up anyway.

So, problem solved. Thanks guys.

[Lacrosse4life31]

ugh i wish i could get a girlfriend lol...

[Live4It]

ugh i wish i could get a girlfriend lol...

There are two kinds of people in this world, those who want things to happen, and those who make things happen. Consider making the switch.

[MACDADDY]

where do yall go on dates anyways. keep in mind, im usually break. :chuckle:

[fhmid7]

There are two kinds of people in this world, those who want things to happen, and those who make things happen. Consider making the switch.

There are two kinds of people in this world, those who divide the world into two kinds of people, and those who do not.
Just jokin, its good advice.

[DanTheMan]

movies, dinner, riverfront, house, concert, etc many places

[Tehb2]

There are two kinds of people in this world, those who want things to happen, and those who make things happen. Consider making the switch.

The hard part is making something happen with someone you want it to happen with; unless you're willing to take anyone just to have someone.

[kevidinho]

The hard part is making something happen with someone you want it to happen with; unless you're willing to take anyone just to have someone.

I don't think he means find the first random hooch, just go out and be yourself and try talking to a bunch of different girls until you find someone you're into.

[Live4It]

The hard part is making something happen with someone you want it to happen with; unless you're willing to take anyone just to have someone.

So, I take it you don't like a challenge? Or maybe you're just too afraid to try in the first place.

[GoBucks]

So, I take it you don't like a challenge? Or maybe you're just too afraid to try in the first place.

Ooh, strong words. He's right though. The more times you try the more success you're gonna have.

[Rizzle]

I got a silly thing with a silly girl.

I broke up with this chick a little over a month ago, after dating for about 6+ months. Thought we had a good thing going, but she was a little too "friendly" with other guys. I realized she wasn't the right one for me.
So now, she is trying to make me feel all guilty about dumping her sorry behind, and is like hooking up with juniors and junk and trying to talk to them in front of me and all (We're both freshmen). So, I think that's pretty pathetic of her, considering I couldn't care less what she does now and she thinks I do.

So, what's a good way I could let her know how pathetic she is and how I really don't have an attraction to her anymore at all?

[bluesdevils22]

hook up with some hot seniors

[Live4It]

I got a silly thing with a silly girl.

I broke up with this chick a little over a month ago, after dating for about 6+ months. Thought we had a good thing going, but she was a little too "friendly" with other guys. I realized she wasn't the right one for me.
So now, she is trying to make me feel all guilty about dumping her sorry behind, and is like hooking up with juniors and junk and trying to talk to them in front of me and all (We're both freshmen). So, I think that's pretty pathetic of her, considering I couldn't care less what she does now and she thinks I do.

So, what's a good way I could let her know how pathetic she is and how I really don't have an attraction to her anymore at all?
You say that you don't care that she's doing this stuff in an attempt to make you jealous, and honestly bro, if you don't care, why does it bother you?

And how was she 'friendly' with other guys? Was she just talking and you were a little insecure so you thought she was flirting, or was it all out flirting. Here's the way I look at that problem, if she's making out with other guys, or worse, then you worry, so making out-throw it out, you follow? Now if she's talking to guys, don't worry about it, but if she starts paying more attention to other guys instead of you to where it really bothers you, then talk to her about it.

So, to your problem, if she wants you back that bad and is doing stuff to the extant that it's affecting your relationships/possible relationships with other girls, and it's obvious she's trying to make you jealous (so that it isn't a misunderstandning and you aren't making a fool of yourself) just talk to her, and tell her that you aren't interested anymore, and ask her to stop, or if you have any interest in her still, and the only reason you don't like her is because of the thing with other guys, tell her that, and maybe try to work things out again.

Sorry for the long post, and going to deep into a fairly simple problem.

[Gannonthecannon]

Alright fellow men i seek guidence.

Today a girl, lets call her sarah, came over to my house. We hung out and...well did something we probably shouldnt have, this being the second time we probably shouldnt have done this.

Well the funny thing is, sarah has a boyfreind, lets call him matt. Matt used to play lax, but quit after freshmen year becuase some of the upperclassmen picked on him.

So matt and i aren't cool at all, never really have been, and he knows and dislikes that sarah and i talk, but he doesnt know about the hanging out.

And to add to all this, i'm being recruited by a school, Rpi if you know of it, and sarah told him and im pretty sure he's jealous/bitter.

but anyway, today while sarah and i are in the livingroom doing something we shouldnt have, her phone starts going off, then my phone starts going off, and then i hear someone pounding on the front door, so we both jump up and get dressed, and i walk to the front room and see matt looking in my front windows.

Well things procceed with me opening the door and askin why hes there, and sarah going out to call him down, and him eventually leaving.

So i ask you these few questions, first, was i right in not freaking out and beating him down for comin to my house like that, i felt he kinda should have a freebee becuase he just found out about it all

and second, do i continue this with sarah or should i think about backin out

[LaxAttackman28]

well you should continue if you like doin it with a cheater, i would use the w word but i might get banned

[itsthatkid]

Oh my god man, that is rich.

Are they over with? If so, and she wont cheat on you, go on with it.

Personally I probably would have wrecked that kid, but you did the right thing. Thats his chick, or was, and he has all that right.

[Gannonthecannon]

ha ironicly she just sent me a text message saying she broke up with him, and i do still kinda feel bad for stealin her from him, but again she has been wanting to get away from him for a while so i simple helped out

[HRodLAX]

If she cheated with her boyfriend with you, what's gonna keep her from cheating on you with another guy?

[Gannonthecannon]

HrodLAX you bring up a very good question and one ive been considering myself for a while.

thats part of the reason im unsure as to if i should just keep it casual like it is, get serious with her, or break it off

[irishlax555]

If she cheated with her boyfriend with you, what's gonna keep her from cheating on you with another guy?

well clearly hes wayyyyy more attractive.... and better at lacrosse

[HRodLAX]

If you can keep it at friends with benefits do it, but I am serious. If she's done it once she'll do it again. Be careful because its an issue of when, not if.

[mullengoal141]

seriously dude, the whole thing is a bit shady because nothing is keeping her from cheating on you then...

if you can keep it friends with benefits then you've got it on lock though dude...

[veronalax33]

well clearly hes wayyyyy more attractive.... and better at lacrosse

honestly, i couldn't have said that any better.

[Lacrosse4life31]

Hey fellow laxers, I have a problem... There is this girl that I like, but I'm not really sure she likes me... Like she is in my 2nd hour Honors English class, but I'm not sure she likes me. We don't talk to often, but I want that to change. She is very talkitive when you actually engage in conversation, but any tips? lol... I haven't really had a girlfriend before so... I want that to change. If you need more info just ask... I mean, I think she likes me, because she has asked me some questions that were kinda... wierd. Like last year when I was a freshmen she just came up to me and asked "Your the Goalie for Lacrosse right?" I said "Yea" she said "That's cool!" Because she plays lacrosse too, but after that she really didn't talk to me, but, sometimes during english, she *stares* at me... Ugh, and i'm not sure if she is going out with another guy... so any tips at all!!! Oh, and I know the talk to her blah blha blah, but... it would just be kinda awkward to all of a sudden talk to her and we really don't know each other too well. How should I start talking? like talk about school work, and then slip in a few personal questions?

Thanks
wow I feel embarressed.

[mullengoal141]

dont feel embarassed.

take charge of the situation man. be confident, if you seem feeble chances are she'll get a strange vibe from you. and finding out if she has a guy could be as easy as asking a mutual friend or perhaps just asking her, dont just ask her outright though, such things would seem odd. talk about school work, or even talk about lacrosse, it could be as easy as talking to her at the end of english. just be like hey i just wanted to see how you guys were doing so far, practices blah blah blah, and then the conversation could lead elswhere, if you have a good sense of humor and strong wit, use it. chicks dig it.

anyways, hope this helps, but the most important thing is looking sure of yourself.

[laxr24]

I think you just need to initiate the friendship. You said she is talkative, so just start of by asking all kinds of questions. Talk about school work, lacrosse since she also plays, tv shows and movies that she likes. Maybe she'll say I like ____ movie, do you want to come watch it with me? Basically, just get the ball rolling and you'll be set. Don't kill yourself over one girl though- play it cool and confident.

[Lacrosse4life31]

dont feel embarassed.

take charge of the situation man. be confident, if you seem feeble chances are she'll get a strange vibe from you. and finding out if she has a guy could be as easy as asking a mutual friend or perhaps just asking her, dont just ask her outright though, such things would seem odd. talk about school work, or even talk about lacrosse, it could be as easy as talking to her at the end of english. just be like hey i just wanted to see how you guys were doing so far, practices blah blah blah, and then the conversation could lead elswhere, if you have a good sense of humor and strong wit, use it. chicks dig it.

anyways, hope this helps, but the most important thing is looking sure of yourself.

alright thanks dude, I'm friends with one of her guy friends (not boy friend, just a friend who so happens to be a guy) so i'll ask him if she's going out with someone. Yea, I have a mediocre sense of humor, sometimes I crack out funnies non-stop, sometimes i'll be boring and dull. lol.

What do you mean by strong wit?

Thanks for the quick reply

[mullengoal141]

being able to come up with funny things quickly, basically being able to think well on your feet.

[Lacrosse4life31]

being able to come up with funny things quickly, basically being able to think well on your feet.

Oh, yea, I can do that pretty well, or at least that's what my honors bio teacher thinks... lol she has to isolate me because i make to many puns... but it's all just for fun, not like serious isolation lol.

Well, thanks alot laxr and mullengoal, you have boosted my confidence alot and well... probably starting tomarrow i'll start being man enough to talk to her lol.

Thanks alot.

[Lacrosse4life31]

being able to come up with funny things quickly, basically being able to think well on your feet.

Umm... I have another question, I would I initiate a conversation? like we don't talk to much, but what should I ask her or say to her without being awkward? Basically, how can I become friends with her, without being awkward at first?

[mullengoal141]

it is most likely going to be a slow process.

basically... the easiest way to begin to talk is about the class, before class, say something about how your teacher is, if your teacher is awkwardor somehting, or talk about the lax season, fallball and such, chances are its going to be slow and painful at first, sorry, no way aropund it unless she already is into you... so... start with your common interests... dont go on talking about lax over and over... even if the the girl loves lax, she will grow tired of you talking about it.

without knowing this girl and how she is or much about anything else in the situation... i'm not able to give you much more info.
plus every situation is unique.
sorry for the vague response, but i hope this helps.

[Lacrosse4life31]

mullengoal your a god, you don't have to say sorry, what you said was good, I just wish it wouldn't be so slow! LOL thanks dude. I owe you

[Wooks]

Umm... I have another question, I would I initiate a conversation? like we don't talk to much, but what should I ask her or say to her without being awkward? Basically, how can I become friends with her, without being awkward at first?

If you can't learn to handle yourself in awkward situations, you're gonna be pretty lonely for a long time.

[EastCoastDeft]

ask her to shoot on you before practice to warm you up. ask her for help on your science fair project. things like that.

[Rizzle]

that ain't cool.

[Lacr0sse15]

I want to know how to break up with a girl without hurting her too bad. obviously no1 likes getting dumped, but i don't want to make enemies or anything. Thanks for any advice!

[laxman01]

Say this:
You know when water flows in a creek and the rocks stop the water from moving, well you're kind of like the rock in my creek. I'm sorry.

[Live4It]

I want to know how to break up with a girl without hurting her too bad. obviously no1 likes getting dumped, but i don't want to make enemies or anything. Thanks for any advice!

In my opinion, rejecting a girl, or breaking up with one, is harder than asking a girl out, or getting her in the first place.

It's little hard for me to come up with something good for you to say, unless I know why you are breaking up with her.

I've never personaly said this, but you could try something like: "I don't feel the same way as I used to about you,(or you could say, 'I don't love you the way you love me) and it's not fair to you to have a boyfriend like me, you could do much better." It's the 'not fair to you' part that is the key, again, I've never used that line exactly, it's fairly basic and general though.

[laxr24]

A key is not to run around afterwards saying bad things about her or anything of that nature, just don't talk about it. Don't accuse her of anything even if she did something detrimental to your relationship, just state that its not working any more and there's nothing that can be done about it.

[Live4It]

A key is not to run around afterwards saying bad things about her or anything of that nature, just don't talk about it. Don't accuse her of anything even if she did something detrimental to your relationship, just state that its not working any more and there's nothing that can be done about it.

Yea, the "it's just not working out" line works fairly well sometimes too.

[Tehb2]

Here's an interesting story. A friend of mine has been going out with this girl for around 2 years now, and occasionally they have had problems, but it finally ended for real a few weeks ago. Not to list all of her faults, and there were several, and added up gave a legitimate reason for breaking up, but the final straw came with her admitting to him that she had been seeing another guy, and was interested in this other guy, yet confused about them (herself and my friend). So he became increasingly annoyed and decided to first send her a large letter explaining all of his feelings and the problems he has had with her. Then he wanted to have a big talk over this, what they should do, and probably end it by breaking up with her and promising they would never get back together.

Well this was supposed to take a few days, go into the weekend (I think his GF came out with the other-guy-news on a Thursday), but it never got that far. She became angry over his attitude, and broke up with him that Friday, so he never gave her the letter, although that was probably better as it could have caused quite the argument.

Basically, don't do what he planned to do, and don't be too elaborate in how you decide to break up with you're girlfriend.

[Tehb2]

Know what would be cool? There should be a huge "Guy Problem Mega Thread" for the ladies. But then again, it'd probably be spammed by the guys, and the girls probably would refuse to reveal any of their secrets on what they truly think of and want from a guy. Come on! Look how much potential advice to the girls of TLF are listed in this thread! I can gurantee they look at these posts! Help us out, spread the wealth!

[Live4It]

Know what would be cool? There should be a huge "Guy Problem Mega Thread" for the ladies. But then again, it'd probably be spammed by the guys, and the girls probably would refuse to reveal any of their secrets on what they truly think of and want from a guy. Come on! Look how much potential advice to the girls of TLF are listed in this thread! I can gurantee they look at these posts! Help us out, spread the wealth!

Well, the original "megathread", were for guys or girls, they were called whine about relationships, and/or something of the sort. They were mostly guys anyways, and these days not many girls are as active in the open forum.

[Lacr0sse15]

In my opinion, rejecting a girl, or breaking up with one, is harder than asking a girl out, or getting her in the first place.



I completely agree

[QBYattackmen15]

so heres my problem. this is a quickie. So thiers this girl that shows lthe signs of liking me but even since i got rejected by this one girl im sort of afraid of rejection, and i really screwed up. Today was the last day of school before vacation for Thanksgiving. and shes gonna be away all vaca. so really its just me being a wuss and not asking her. but i totally messed up since i cant ask her in person now, unless i wait till we have school again in like a week. so i was wondering if you guys think i should askher in person and risk her losing her feelings or if it owuld be good to ask her on the phone. i REFUSE to ask any girl out on the internet, thats stupid.

[valax16]

just do it in person, i mean really whats the worse thing that can happen? she says no and your back in the exact same situation your in, "girl-less" if you want to call it that. being rejected isnt that big of a deal it happens to everyone. dont feel discouraged about it at all. just move on.

[QBYattackmen15]

so your sayin i should wait till monday next week in school. and shes a friend of mine and i see her in school everyday, i hate awkwardness hahaha.

[Lacrosse4life31]

^^yes^^ wait, and do it in person. Make sure you look your best on that monday. Wear your favorite clothes, just make sure your comfortable. And do yo thang.

[QBYattackmen15]

alright ill do it. ill order some balls on ebay and ship them express. i dont really have favorite cloths, ill prolly just wear what i normally do. im a t-shirt and jeans sorta guy...

[Tehb2]

a...ill order some balls on ebay and ship them express.

Hahaha! I like that one, gotta save that one for the future...


...i dont really have favorite cloths, ill prolly just wear what i normally do. im a t-shirt and jeans sorta guy...


Just pick your favorite t-shirt. I do the same thing, as does most of the kids in my school since we're public, and I still have a favorite t-shirt and pair of jeans.

[Live4It]

alright ill do it. ill order some balls on ebay and ship them express. ...

Stay away from the blue ones.

[QBYattackmen15]

Stay away from the blue ones.

ha will do. My only problem is, walk with her like all the way to her class then we just say ill talk to you later and i leave. i never step up and just ask her. Cause if i do and she says no then im pretty humiliated. and i seriously dont talk to my ex's as alll. not any of them. and id like to keep talking to her. Just id rather be going out with her also.

[Live4It]

ha will do. My only problem is, walk with her like all the way to her class then we just say ill talk to you later and i leave. i never step up and just ask her. Cause if i do and she says no then im pretty humiliated. and i seriously dont talk to my ex's as alll. not any of them. and id like to keep talking to her. Just id rather be going out with her also.

Well if she just rejects you, and you never actualy go out, she wouldn't really be your "ex". And if she was to turn you down, it wouldn't be a harsh one, I'm guessing, if you're friends. And if you guys have been friends, I would suggest asking her to "be your girlfriend", rather than asking her "to go out with you", that's the road I would take.

I would also suggest working on that thing with never talking to your ex's after you break up, you can never have too many friends. And I don't belive in never talking to past girlfriends again.

[Lacr0sse15]

i have another question. So, i go to two different schools in my nerdy program, alternating between my nerdy school and regular school. With things set up this way, i see my girlfriend every other day. I was wondering if breaking up with her by phone would be okay. I have no problem doing it in person, but when we walk to the buses there's always more people walking with us. and we don't get to talk much in school other than that. and i don't live close enough to walk or ride bike. and i can't drive yet. we don't talk much, we've only been going out for a month or so, and every date is boring and awkward. SO, under the circumstances, is phone okay?

[Live4It]

It always, always, shows that you are a bigger person if you do it face to face, than those who do it by the phone. It may seem that you are afraid, and/or just disrespectful to her. I would suggest 100% in person, for me I do it in person because A. it's the right way to go, and B. If I can see it in their eyes that they are really upset, I'm gonna wanna talk to them more, and make her feel ok, and make sure I don't leave her heart broken, you can't really do that over the phone. For most things in person is always best.

Now under your situation, I would simply tell her that you want to go talk to her, or pull her aside, you can't tell me that you go to school with her every other day and don't have a chance to do this.

[QBYattackmen15]

Alright dudes ill give it a shot on monday...ill post how it goes on monday.

[bigdale9]

im having trouble meeting girls. i go to school dance and stuff like that but i can't seem to meet anyone. advice?

[Live4It]

umm...well, if you go to school and school dances there must be girls there, so you must have opportunities, so I don't get what exactly you are asking? Are you having trouble talking to the girls, don't know how to start conversations, etc...?

[bigdale9]

i go to an all boys school
my main thing is i have no opertunities to meet girls. so i need sugestions of things to do to meet girls
help with starting a conversation would be nice too. once i get into a conversaton im good but starting one has always been an issue. every time i talk to a girl it seems kinda awkward

[Live4It]

So you go to school dances that are all boys? if so..weird.

Well, there must be something that you do where there are girls. Do you have friends that are friends with girls, that could possibly hook you up, under other circumstances I would not suggest having friends ask girls out for you though. Do you ever go to parties where there are girls? Oh, the mall is a really good place. You can meet girls anyplace there are girls if you try.

[bigdale9]

So you go to school dances that are all boys? if so..weird.

Well, there must be something that you do where there are girls. Do you have friends that are friends with girls, that could possibly hook you up, under other circumstances I would not suggest having friends ask girls out for you though. Do you ever go to parties where there are girls? Oh, the mall is a really good place. You can meet girls anyplace there are girls if you try.

our dances are with a sister school. i only have one friend who has a girl friend. i might go to the mall if i get some cash over the holiday. nobody i know throws parties. ( i have boring friends i know)

[Live4It]

our dances are with a sister school. i only have one friend who has a girl friend. i might go to the mall if i get some cash over the holiday. nobody i know throws parties. ( i have boring friends i know)

Well then you have the dances that are full of chances. And the mall is definitly a good spot.

[bigdale9]

i'll try that but i still need some help starting conversations

[Tehb2]

I just thought of a funny story: Moral is - never do this!

Crazy hot girl at my school goes up to my friend at or around the last day of school last year and gives my friend her number, and asks him to call her sometime. Seriously, she is bangin in every sense of the word, and you know what he does? He never/forgets to call her during the summer. Come on, total freebie! She came to him, what more could you ask for?

Anyways, remember to take advantage of the opportunities you get.

[LAXinJD]

I just thought of a funny story: Moral is - never do this!

Crazy hot girl at my school goes up to my friend at or around the last day of school last year and gives my friend her number, and asks him to call her sometime. Seriously, she is bangin in every sense of the word, and you know what he does? He never/forgets to call her during the summer. Come on, total freebie! She came to him, what more could you ask for?

Anyways, remember to take advantage of the opportunities you get.

Although I would agree with you on this situation 99% of the time the same thing happened to me with different results. This girl gave me her number and she was also very hot. I didn't call her because mostly I forgot. But it turned out okay because next year she came to school and had gained A LOT of weight. So I guess my stupidness helped me out for once.

[lhslaxer22]

Although I would agree with you on this situation 99% of the time the same thing happened to me with different results. This girl gave me her number and she was also very hot. I didn't call her because mostly I forgot. But it turned out okay because next year she came to school and had gained A LOT of weight. So I guess my stupidness helped me out for once.

Maybe she gained wait from being so depressed from you not calling her.

Haha kidding. Same thing happened to me but instead of getting fat, she got a boyfriend.

[Live4It]

Maybe she gained wait from being so depressed from you not calling her.

Haha kidding. Same thing happened to me but instead of getting fat, she got a boyfriend.

haha, man. Getting fat and getting a boyfriend would be two totaly different things, if she gets a boyfriend it means you could've had her, but now she's taken, so you lost your chance. But if she gets fat you don't want her anymore. So pretty much, gets fat, her loss, gets a boyfriend, your loss.
See, if a hott girl gives me her number and says call her, if I don't have a girlfriend, I call her, so I don't have to worry about it.

[attackman56]

Alright everyone, big update on my amazing story

There is a plot twist/new characters!!!

ok

So I end up going to that fair shindig yesterday (well by the time I get done posting this it will be 2 days, wahtever, just the 24th) and I see her there. She said she was looking for her friend, so I help her find her. Later after talking with a group of people, we ditched everyone as we always do during group outings. She said she was actually looking for me or whatever. We end up talking alone not about relationship stuff, but about our summers so far and sports and stuff. Then a few of her friends show up, and one of them says (we will call him A) A is here. The gal I like seemed worried, and was sorta hiding, anyway, we all talk and take pictures and stuff, when we see A in the distance, he notices her and comes over right away.


A little info on kid A
he is really popular
he is one of my more distant friends, we talk occasionally, both think eachother is cool, and stuff like that, but like he was never in my group of close friends
he really likes her
most girls end up liking him
he really likes the girl I like (we will call her C so it is less confusing)
C thinks A is kind of annoying though, she used to like him, he likes her now, alot
He texts her alot
He acts as if they are going out
She doesnt really like this because she likes someone else


So he comes over, and like hugs her and stuff and starts trying to start a conversation with her, she goes with it because she said earlier she is to nice to let someone down, which allthough very inconvienont for me, I also think is kinda cute. I said it, get over it. Ok, so after time he leaves, and she sits down and talks with me again. One of her other friends is walking by, and she says she is going to say hi. The girl that came up to talk to us earlier is still with us, and C walks away for a sec. This girl says right away "You know she likes you alot right?" And I respond with "Kindof, I thought so until the whole A thing, but I really like her".....

C comes back and after talking some more, we go BK to get some food, only her friend goes in, because me and C where getting food elsewhere. This gave me some time to talk to her alone. I say "well if you don't like a, who do you like." then she has me guess which I started doing at that party from chapter one I think, haha. I ask what sports he plays, she said she can't say, that it would give it away. I say "Oh like they are sports that not many people here play (my town is lame on lax, we dont have a team), sports he has to go to other schools to play. (C)"yes exactly", Around this point in the conversaition I ask "Well does he like you" (My head was screaming YES HE DOES) and she said " SOmetimes I think so, not sure" I said something liek " well I am sure he does" and see her friend coming out of BK (UGGHH).

We then go to a grocery store, where they decide to get me stuff for my bday. They end up getting brownies, candels, streamers, pop, and cups and stuff, hurrying to make sure they get it before 3 (time I was born). We end up setting the stuff up in front of the store, and it was great. I really liked it, and it only made me like the girl more. Me and her took more pics together, and we headed back to the fair.

We talk to the rest of the people in our grade, where A is clearly avoiding me, supposidly really mad. I go back with C and her friend to get there bikes at the grocery store. As I was about to ask her out (seriously, i said her name and it was on the tip of my tounge) her friend butted in and changed the subject, hurrying her home. We said our goodbyes, and she biked away. I go back to hang out with the other people, waiting for my ride. We all start walkin in the directioon of BK, and when we are there my dad calls and tells me to wait there for him. While sitting there waiting, I text her saying

Sorry about that, truth is, I really really like you, I was about to say something, but didn't want to with your friend there

She almost instantly responded with

Me too :)

I then told her

I feel really dumb saying that over a text, but whatever

she responded, and we talked for a bit where I said I would ask her out the next time we hung out, that she would be happy and "suprised" (sarcasm, even more of a plus, shes great), also she was excited that she could not be stalked by A anymore. She had to leave after some convorsation, and texted me later that night, I told her I was setting up my new net that I got as a present, and that I wanted to talk to her after. After shooting on the cage for a bit, I texted her saying "hey, Im done, whats up" or something. She responded saying she was in a fight with A and she would bbl. I shot some more, ate, watched some tv and texted her, thinking the fight was over, she said it wasnt, I asked what it was about, she said he was mad she hung out with me, and other stuff as well. I told her I would talk to her tommorow because she had to go to bed. I texted some of my other friends for a bit, and went to sleep my self, listening to "our Cd" (sounding the seventh trumpet, I burned it for her when I first met her, we had our first big get to know eachother conversation about music mostly, and she has said mmany times how she loves the cd and stuff, that I had great taste and it made her think of me or whatever) Next morning I woke up, came on here for a bit and texted her. She said she was still in the fight, I told her she could text me after if she wanted. I went to shoot more, and do other stuff, checking my fone for a txt. I thought of her all day, except for the few hours of my lax game tonight. I texted her a while after it, saying I was back and whats up. She said she was at cheerleading practice and had to go. I then texted her at 11 something assuming it was over. It was, but she had already fallen asleep, no response yet (tommorow I will get one early in the morning most likely)


The problem is, we are at a very akward stage, in between friends and boyfriend/girfriend, I am planning on taking her to a movie this week so we become the latter. Hopefully it will work out. I was going to say something like "Now I know this is going to be a major shocker (SARCASM), but will you be my girlfriend?"

good, not good? opinions please, or should I go with the serious "I have really liked you for a long time, I think you are an amazing person, and are very beutiful, I would love it if you where my girlfriend" or something along those lines

Meh, none of you read that probably :p

wow :jawdrop: thatscrazy long what I think you should do is kind of mix them like say,this my be a shocker thing and then add on your an amazing person blah blah blah stuff and ask er out if you two do start going out im sure it whould be good.hope everything works out man. good luck :thumbsup:

[lhslaxer22]

Haha yeah, it was a pretty dumb mistake on my part.

[CO lax kid]

ok so heres quite the story, I have liked my best friends girl for like 4 months and they just broke up last week. She knows I like her and I've heard she likes me too. When where and how do i ask her and how do i make sure she likes me back. And my friend is ok with this.

[QBYattackmen15]

if your fiends aight wirth it then do it. give her about a week or 2. just be sure to keep close for those 1 or 2 weeks. then just ask her like regular and ytoull be able to tell if she likes you or not just by stayin close for a week or so.

[Tehb2]

ok so heres quite the story, I have liked my best friends girl for like 4 months and they just broke up last week. She knows I like her and I've heard she likes me too. When where and how do i ask her and how do i make sure she likes me back. And my friend is ok with this.

Thank god your friend is okay with it. I can't imagine some of my friends going along w/ that, but good for you. A lot of people I know always seem to break up with their girlfriends in a very bitter sort of way...which might explain why I think they'd be mad in the same situations...:thinking:

[MeowMix]

I really like this girl. We have a dance Friday, and I will probably ''grind'' with her. Should I try to kiss or is it too early for a first date?

[kingwolf]

meowmix let what happens happens but if you are grinding with her and you want to kiss her look her in the eye and tilt your head a little.Also have fun,but sometimes girls just like to dance because its fun not for what you want to do ;)

[FitzGoalie]

I really like this girl. We have a dance Friday, and I will probably ''grind'' with her. Should I try to kiss or is it too early for a first date?

Kissing while grinding is lame/awkward.

Grinding is overtly sexual
Kissing is overtly romantic

Don't confuse the two.

instead, wait for a slow song, slow dance with her, but do it the grownup way (holding her hand wiht one hand, and your other hand on her hip), none of that awkward-middle-school-hands-on-hips-hands-on-shoulders-bullcrap. If your dancing closely the grownup way, your cheek should naturally be pressed up against hers. from here, whisper something romantic in her ear, turn your head and give her a small kiss on the cheek close to her mouth to indicate your intentions. if she reciprocates, let the tongue gymnastics begin.

[laxgoalie66]

This thread is getting kinda awkward with the kissing stuff, especially knowing its 99% guys were talking to on here. hahahah

[Live4It]

I really like this girl. We have a dance Friday, and I will probably ''grind'' with her. Should I try to kiss or is it too early for a first date?

Don't "try" to kiss her, if it's meant to happen it will, you'll know if she wants you to. Don't go in for it if you have any doubts about it, because if you go for it, and she doesn't want it, it will be mad awkward.

meowmix let what happens happens but if you are grinding with her and you want to kiss her look her in the eye and tilt your head a little.
You can look her in the eye when you are going in, but when you get really close, don't look her in the eye.

[kleinlax-75]

wow i just got turned down....these hookers always lie to me

[Live4It]

If you got turned down by a hooker, you must be very messed up.

[laxgoalie66]

Did you pay her? hahaha

I think he is just saying hooker cause he cant say the other word.

[Live4It]

Did you pay her? hahaha

I think he is just saying hooker cause he cant say the other word.

ohhh, well if you are trying to use a derogatory name for a girl, don't use hooker, because if you use hooker, I think prostitute, which is more of an occupation than a name, because a hooker's always a whore, but a whore's not always a hooker. Well, you shouldn't call girls anything at all, unless they make so mad that they give you a reason.

And if you were calling her a hooker because she rejected you, would you rather have had her go out with you, and not want to? So she'd be unhappy? I wouldn't, I'd rather have a girl honestly reject me, than go out with me out of guilt. Learn to accept rejection, don't get mad, move on, sure you can be upset for a little while, it's inevitable, but don't hold on to it, don't hate the girl for it. The way I look at it, if you can't handle rejection, then you should never reject anyone yourself, untill you can learn to accept it.

*Under the following circumstance; she rejects you in a way that is stuck up, snobby, or just as a straight up b., i.e "Yea right, I would never go out with you, I'm out of your league.", You can hate her, she deserves it.

[bigdale9]

im having trouble starting conversations with girls. is there anything to say to start a conversation?

[Live4It]

When starting a conversation, it has to be more spur of the moment,(well, it doesn't have to be, but I think it helps) make it up as you go, because if you plan out what you are gonna say, you're more likely to mess it up, so don't over think it, sure, go in with a base plan, on how to open, then just let it flow. Now, I know you're asking for help with your opening, so if you are gonna ask her name and introduce yourself, as an opening, always ask her name first, so when you respond, it will be "hi, *her name*, I'm Dale." I just think it works better sometimes then, "I'm Dale, what's your name." Introducing yourself first works better in rehab. That's pretty much as basic as it gets, if possible you should start with something that's going on around you, for example, I'm walking into school kind of late, and the door I try to go into is locked, and there's a girl I don't really know attempting to go in the door as well, so I mention something about how I hate how they lock these doors, yadayada, then I introduce myself, (in this case you may wanna introduce yourself first, so it's more like"I'm dale by the way), after that, we walk around to the other doors together. Kind of a weak example, but you get the idea, also, if you see something interesting start talking ot her about it, see what I mean? It helps in the spur of the moment thing I was talking about, because you usualy don't plan to be locked out of school, I didn't atleast, or see something interesting. Possibly start with a compliment if nothing else. Sometimes girls can even set you up and make it so easy for you, for example, a girl wore a shirt from a band I like, almost instant conversation.

[<<RANGER>>]

im having trouble starting conversations with girls. is there anything to say to start a conversation?

Ask her if she likes tacos

[Tehb2]

Live4It - who is that girl in your avatar? I swear every time I scroll down a page your avatar distracts me like crazy. It stands out, and you post a lot on this thread - not that thats a problem, since you help out w/ a lot of the requests - but who's the hottie?

[Live4It]

That would be my girlfriend, she tried some small time modeling, hence the good quality head shot.
Just playing....Her name's Sara Jean Underwood. ; )

[laxgoalie66]

I'm stupid hahahaha

[mullengoal141]

^ a.k.a ^
playboy playmate of the year

[QBYattackmen15]

hey so in some previous posts i said was supposed to ask a girl out on monday. but for some reaosn, i keep talking my way out of it because im not 100% sure on where she stands. what are some quick subtle ways of testing her to see where she stands? i need answers ASAp causeif i don aks her tomorrow then i might just not at all.

[CtLaxin]

That would be my girlfriend, she tried some small time modeling, hence the good quality head shot.
Just playing....Her name's Sara Jean Underwood. ; )

her eyes are scary

[Live4It]

her eyes are scary

You mean sexay.

hey so in some previous posts i said was supposed to ask a girl out on monday. but for some reaosn, i keep talking my way out of it because im not 100% sure on where she stands. what are some quick subtle ways of testing her to see where she stands? i need answers ASAp causeif i don aks her tomorrow then i might just not at all.

Have you ever found your self touching your arm or shoulder, or are really fidgity when you're around someone you like? You probably don't even realize you're doing it, it's more or less kind of sort of an involuntary action, you probably do some sort. They usualy indicate some kind of attraction, there are more of these "signs", but they are harder to pick up on, or are verbal. Now, here's the problem, you guys know each other fairly well, correct? So she's probably some what comfortable, so she may not show any of these signs, which is why I didn't even mention eye contact, if she shows any, they will be subtle, she may touch your arm or something. Now, she may show some that I mentioned, sometimes you can tell by the way she looks into your eyes. And to anyone out there, just because a girl doesn't show any of these signs, doesn't mean they don't like you, or won't go out with you, you never really know unless you try.

Here's what you have to do, if tomorrow may be your last chance, just do it, don't talk your way out of, think to yourself, what do I have to lose? If she says no, she says no, you don't really lose anything, no one's gonna look at you differently. Now, I understand exactly what you are thinking, something like 'if i ask her now, it may blow my chances of ever getting her, or she'll say no and that would ruin my chance of ever getting her, but if I wait and try to get her to like me more first, i may have a better chance.' Am I right? I totaly understand it. But you've just gotta forget about that, the time is now, think to yourself, I can do it, I'm not gonna lose anything, only gain. And just imagine how awesome things will be after she says yes. Just do it tomorrow.

[Tehb2]

That would be my girlfriend, she tried some small time modeling, hence the good quality head shot.
Just playing....Her name's Sara Jean Underwood. ; )

Haha! I was thinking of asking that....but that seemed far fetched, but totally awesome if it were true. There's got to be at least 1 girl like that at most schools - or one would hope. I know there's one at my school that is, in the words of Zooland, "..ridiculously good looking."


That thing you said about subtle actions when you're near someone you like is so true - kind of annoying actually if you catch yourself doing it.

[<<RANGER>>]

Live4It speaks the truth. Do what he says.

[aviator]

wow :jawdrop: thatscrazy long what I think you should do is kind of mix them like say,this my be a shocker thing and then add on your an amazing person blah blah blah stuff and ask er out if you two do start going out im sure it whould be good.hope everything works out man. good luck :thumbsup:

hah, that was a long while ago. Me and that girl drifted majorly. We are distant friends now.

This year, wow. I could write like 3 books about.

Going through a short summary:

September: found out this one girl liked me. We had a "thing" (kinda) last year. I told her I thought of her as just a friend, but then we hung out one night and it changed. I made a move and got turned down, because she thought I was just trying to hook up with her that night. I wasnt. I really liked her as a person. She was amazingly funny and cool. We started to get in more arguments. We got in a huge one over thankgiving break. I didnt care, she is a hooker now. Also met 3 other girls that I had kinda things with. Led to october....

October: Friggin crazy month. I found out that 4 or 5 of my friends that were girls liked me, that I had/have had feelings for before. I foudn this out all in the same weeked. I also had an end of september/all through october thing with 2 girls. Both who had boyfriends (one who was the homecoming king :bartmoon: ). One dumped hers when she found out I liked her, the other kinda hid it, until her guy gave her a reason to dump him. She did this the same weekend she told me she liked me. We met this year, became really close. Anyway, me and the OTHER girl went out after I had to make a descision between them all. One of them, I had just met a few days before at a party that I had an instant connection with (My current girlfriend). The other girls understood. Late october, me and the girl broke up, and I started to have a "thing" with my current girlfriend

November: I become friends with my ex again. She says she regrets alot of stuff (reasons we broke up, her friends controlling her time with me, don't really wanna get into it right now), and finds out she stil likes me (she told m, no matter what, if things don't work out with my current girlfriend, she would do anything I wanted whenever and all that :) haha). Me and my current girl are going great, best relationship I've ever been in. Life is good

Don't "try" to kiss her, if it's meant to happen it will, you'll know if she wants you to. Don't go in for it if you have any doubts about it, because if you go for it, and she doesn't want it, it will be mad awkward.


You can look her in the eye when you are going in, but when you get really close, don't look her in the eye.


yeah, confidence is key though. be the one to initiate it

[QBYattackmen15]

Have you ever found your self touching your arm or shoulder, or are really fidgity when you're around someone you like? You probably don't even realize you're doing it, it's more or less kind of sort of an involuntary action, you probably do some sort. They usualy indicate some kind of attraction, there are more of these "signs", but they are harder to pick up on, or are verbal. Now, here's the problem, you guys know each other fairly well, correct? So she's probably some what comfortable, so she may not show any of these signs, which is why I didn't even mention eye contact, if she shows any, they will be subtle, she may touch your arm or something. Now, she may show some that I mentioned, sometimes you can tell by the way she looks into your eyes. And to anyone out there, just because a girl doesn't show any of these signs, doesn't mean they don't like you, or won't go out with you, you never really know unless you try.

Here's what you have to do, if tomorrow may be your last chance, just do it, don't talk your way out of, think to yourself, what do I have to lose? If she says no, she says no, you don't really lose anything, no one's gonna look at you differently. Now, I understand exactly what you are thinking, something like 'if i ask her now, it may blow my chances of ever getting her, or she'll say no and that would ruin my chance of ever getting her, but if I wait and try to get her to like me more first, i may have a better chance.' Am I right? I totaly understand it. But you've just gotta forget about that, the time is now, think to yourself, I can do it, I'm not gonna lose anything, only gain. And just imagine how awesome things will be after she says yes. Just do it tomorrow.

Actually i have noticed her when she talks to me she will touch my arm. she actually does that alot. and with the eyes thing, its hard to explain but we do have the occasinaly wuick glances in the eyes. you actually dont know how much that helped. thanks alot. ill post the answer if its a yes. haha. if she sais no, then i might post it.

[Live4It]

yeah, confidence is key though. be the one to initiate it

100% true, you can be confident and initiate it, but just be a little less cofident, because think about it like this, You go in to kiss her, and she backs up, it's gonna be awkward for the rest of the night, keep in mind this would be the first time they will be really "together" if I'm right. So be confident, but if there's like some obvious sign she doesn't want you to kiss her, don't right way. If you're not sure and feeling feeling confiedent, ask her, say "can I kiss you?" she says yes, you're golden, if she doesn't want you to, it will be something like "not right now", "maybe later", "not yet", etc.. so no awkwardness.

And another thing to QBYattackmen15, let me know how it works out tomorrow.

[Rizzle]

Okay, my situation is probably not too rare, but its really confusing and weird for me nonetheless.

So there is a girl I like. Very much. And we've been friends for...I want to say, 2 years now? Yeah, well we really became close friends this past summer and this school year so far. Really good. She talks to me in school plenty and texts me for hours. She is absolutely gorgeous, and an awesome person. So I'm not complaining, all is good.

But, here's the problem. About a month and a half ago, she started dating this sophmore. (Her and I are both freshmen). Now, I have no problem with her dating him or older guys at all, long as she is happy. But this kid, don't mean to sound incredibly mean here, is a scumbag (for lack of a better term). He is incredibly cocky, and I fear he's only dating her for one thing, and I think we all know what that is. She isn't able to see that he really would rather be drinking and smoking with his friends (also scumbags who one of them I sucker-punched at a party for screwing with a friend of mine) than ever spend time with her. She is too nice of a person to see any bad in people, and I don't want him to hurt her or anything in the long run.

I'm so afraid to tell this girl my feelings for her too for some odd reason, I have so many chances but just can't pull myself to do it. She is always giving me signs too, like writing notes on my books or winking or smiling at me across the hall. I'm really confused, and just want the best for her, but I think I'm really in love with her and I don't know what to do about it.

[<<RANGER>>]

Just tell her that you don't think he's a very good guy, and if she doesn't listen to you, then there's really not much else you can do. At least you wouldn't have a guilty conciense

[DJ Death]

not to sound like a prick, but you have to sort of step back and make sure that this guy really is the type of person that you think he is and that you're not letting your emotions and your perception that maybe you would be better for this girl cloud your judgement. and besides, even if this guy turns out to be a pretty good guy, it doesn't mean that you should stop going after her.

[Rizzle]

No, he's definitely bad news. Trust me.

But anyways, today things got a little better with this girl. She asked me to walk with her to her locker after lunch and free period, and she kept laughing and smiling the whole way there. She could have asked any other of my or her friends, or even her boyfriend (who I could have sworn was high today) to walk with her but nope, she asked me. It felt pretty awesome.

So any idea why she likes to do things like this and drop all these hints for me, but she is still dating this kid? I even heard from a good lady-friend of mine who is her friend also, that she is not really 100% happy with the kid she's dating anyways. Makes me wonder why she is still dating him then.

Also, there is a dance for our school tomorrow night that she is going to with the kid. Me, being the idiot I am, forgot to purchase a ticket and am not going. :dummy:

I'm hanging out with some of my lax buddies from a couple towns away, but I feel really bad I won't be able to see her now, and I don't want anything to happen to her with that kid or anything. I am going to definitely feel powerless about it, but it's my fault I suppose.

Maybe I should just stick to lacrosse full-time, cuz high school is a pain in the ***.:nut:

[<<RANGER>>]

...Maybe I should just stick to lacrosse full-time, cuz high school is a pain in the ***.:nut:[/QUOTE]

That's what I try to do. Solves all my problems. Anytime I'm not in school, asleep, or eating, there is a 90% chance I'm doing something with lacrosse.

[Live4It]

rizzle, you're thinking about it too much, don't worry, nothing's gonna happen to her, so just relax with your lax buddies and take your mind off it. So wait a little while, if he's as bad as you say, and she's not totaly happy, she'll relize it soon...so unless something happens where you've gotta do something, I'd suggest laying back for a little while, give it a week or two. If it doesn't work out in a week or two, tell her the way you feel, 100% complete honesty, you have more than friend feelings for her, and the other guys isn't right for her.

If you are that worried for some reason, and it's totaly stressing you, skip the first step in my second line, so pretty much, if you're tottaly stressing about this go by this:

rizzle, you're thinking about it too much, don't worry, nothing's gonna happen to her, so just relax with your lax buddies and take your mind off it. Tell her the way you feel, 100% complete honesty, you have more than friend feelings for her, and the other guys isn't right for her.

That's the best I've got right now, I had a pain-in-the-anus long day, and I'm tired.

[Bretmac]

rizzle dont be worried ive had the smae thing happen to me well kinda i dint like the girl but she is my bestfriend an she was going out with a scumbag last year and i told her and she was mad for a day or two until the kid tired to fight me at a party cause he heard i ai things and i saw him offering her stuff so i confronted and he pushed me and then things wwent downhill from there and she saw i was right not the best thing and i dont reccomend this but i was over thinking it like you are right now so man just keep it chill and reLAX .

[Attackalltheway]

rizzle i had the exact same problem u had. i ended up telling this girl i liked her on accident cus i was texting my friend about it but since i was so used to texting this girl i accidentally sent it to her and i was freaking out and she was like its fine were close enough to the point where we can tell eachother this. so it sounds like yall are such good friends that u can tell her this without it ruining ur friendship

[QBYattackmen15]

well i talked to that girl i was supposed to aks out and decided not too. i didnt talk my way out of it or anything but it was just, for a while, i knew she wasnt goonna say yes because her friend told me but before that its almost like i totally lost interest in her, wasnt attracted to her in anyway(except physically because shes maddd hot haha(shes actually a model)) and i dont know why, but i think its because this other girl is shwoing interest in me now. and i talk to her wayyy better theni did the first girl.(tyring not to use names). But hers my problem now, for some reason, i can get a girl to like me but i can never just seal the deal. like ill hook the fish but i struggle reeling it in, or ill reel it in but i wont get it in the net. Any pointers?

(i just read that over and im sorry for sounding compltetly pathetic, like i have Alot of friends that are girls but i cant get any of them, thats what im really asking)

[Live4It]

I'm disapointed, I was really hoping things would work out for you, and it sounds to me, like you gave up. You don't just lose interest in a girl over night, unless you never really liked her in the first place, but the way you were talking about this girl, you really liked her, it seemed it...I really wish you would've at least given it a shot. So as far as your reeling it in problem, it's because you cut your own line.

[QBYattackmen15]

I'm disapointed, I was really hoping things would work out for you, and it sounds to me, like you gave up. You don't just lose interest in a girl over night, unless you never really liked her in the first place, but the way you were talking about this girl, you really liked her, it seemed it...I really wish you would've at least given it a shot. So as far as your reeling it in problem, it's because you cut your own line.

well i did try. she said she just liekd me as a really good friend. but this is kinda what always happens. im always seen as only a friend and nothing more. i dont know how to change that. and i dont understand "cutting your own line"

[QBYattackmen15]

Live4It speaks the truth. Do what he says.

haha yeah i do predominantly listen to him.

[Live4It]

well i did try. she said she just liekd me as a really good friend. but this is kinda what always happens. im always seen as only a friend and nothing more. i dont know how to change that. and i dont understand "cutting your own line"

Try to go for somebody outside of your friends, meet somebody new.

[QBYattackmen15]

Try to go for somebody outside of your friends, meet somebody new.

alright...that sounds good, im not too shy no its not hard for me to meet people. But ill have to find someone because im friends with everyone haha.

[Lacrosse4life31]

alright...that sounds good, im not too shy no its not hard for me to meet people. But ill have to find someone because im friends with everyone haha.

haha yea... I hate that, you cool with everybody... Just start going to a group that you don't know to well. that's what i'm doing and I'm going to ask this girl out like a week before christmas... we both like each other it's just a matter when i'm going to spill the beans. haha good luck.

[Show'emTheNumba]

Well one way I know of staying out of a friendzone with a girl, be touchy. By no means am I telling you to be a total creeper and be constantly girls left and right. What I mean is, just an occasional arm touch or something like that. Let the girl know that your not looking for another best friend. Also when first meeting a girl, dont give her all your attention. Make her earn it, show her that shes not as great as she thinks she is and she will want you even more.

[IHSLAX4]

Well one way I know of staying out of a friendzone with a girl, be touchy. By no means am I telling you to be a total creeper and be constantly girls left and right. What I mean is, just an occasional arm touch or something like that. Let the girl know that your not looking for another best friend. Also when first meeting a girl, dont give her all your attention. Make her earn it, show her that shes not as great as she thinks she is and she will want you even more.

...thank you, i tell my friends this all the time, they never understand that to not be in the friend zone they have to do more than talk. One of my buddies always complains that he is in the friend zone with this girl and never knows why...its cause they only talk he doesn't make a move.

[QBYattackmen15]

i know what your talking about. now i just started talking ot this girl at school and we are starting to enter that"friend zone" that you gys are talking about. should i just do the occasional touch and not mae a durastic move but just little hints that im not interetsed in her bing my best friend. and we arent like reall good frineds like i was with the other girl.

[mnlax9]

I have a problem.

im a junior and this senior girl that i talked to like once started texting me and asking me to hang out and stuff so i hung out with her one time, didnt touch her for the record. So she kept texting me all the time and saying she wanted to hang out and finally i asked her if she liked me. she said she had a bit of crush but nothing serious. so i was like good cause im not feelin this chick. so 2 days after my birthday i went to her house to chill with her and her friend cause it was late and i was very bored and when i got there she bought gave me a bag with 2 hats that were 32 bucks each. i was like wow, completley unexpected and thank you and gave her a hug. I still didnt think she liked me and i was good with that so i didnt think much of it. I met this one girl whosse my age and is in a few of my classes who seemed pretty cool and we started hangin out a lot and i aint gonna lie i like this girl a lot. So two nights ago the senior called and asked me if i wante dto hang out and i said i couldnt i had to hockey dinner thing and she was like ok whatever. the dinner ended at 7 and she new that and she called asking what were gonna do i said i cant hang out blah blah blah and she is like why you being weird and i told her i liked somebody and wanted to see them tonight. she flipped a nut. went ballsitic and i saw her last night and she wont even look at me and started complaining about how she made it obvious to me that she liked me and that all guys are the same and are a holes. i have no idea how to handle the situation because i dont know if im right or wrong in this situation?

[laxgoalie66]

Sounds like you didnt do anything wrong, she just expected you to like her back when you had already liked someone.

[Live4It]

I have a problem.

im a junior and this senior girl that i talked to like once started texting me and asking me to hang out and stuff so i hung out with her one time, didnt touch her for the record. So she kept texting me all the time and saying she wanted to hang out and finally i asked her if she liked me. she said she had a bit of crush but nothing serious. so i was like good cause im not feelin this chick. so 2 days after my birthday i went to her house to chill with her and her friend cause it was late and i was very bored and when i got there she bought gave me a bag with 2 hats that were 32 bucks each. i was like wow, completley unexpected and thank you and gave her a hug. I still didnt think she liked me and i was good with that so i didnt think much of it. I met this one girl whosse my age and is in a few of my classes who seemed pretty cool and we started hangin out a lot and i aint gonna lie i like this girl a lot. So two nights ago the senior called and asked me if i wante dto hang out and i said i couldnt i had to hockey dinner thing and she was like ok whatever. the dinner ended at 7 and she new that and she called asking what were gonna do i said i cant hang out blah blah blah and she is like why you being weird and i told her i liked somebody and wanted to see them tonight. she flipped a nut. went ballsitic and i saw her last night and she wont even look at me and started complaining about how she made it obvious to me that she liked me and that all guys are the same and are a holes. i have no idea how to handle the situation because i dont know if im right or wrong in this situation?

It may have seemed to her like you were leading her on. When she said she had kind of a crush on you, it meant she did like you, in a more shy way. Did you ever tell her that you didn't feel that way about her? If not, this situation is 100% your fault, when she said she had a crush on you, you should've told her the truth up front, ecspecialy since you asked her if she liked you, she may have seen that as, you liked her, and wanted to know if she liked you back. To sum it up, if you never told her you didn't have the same feelings for her after she told you she had a crush, then you were in the wrong.


And I don't exactly agree with the 'being touchy' thing, but if it works for you it works for you, other people have the right to give advice, so I won't go into why I don't agree and trash their advice. But I will say this, if you're in highschool, and looking for a girlfriend, it's ok to go into the friendzone a bit at first with a girl you just meet, as long as you don't go in too deep, just stick your toe in, like if you're 'just friends' for close to a month or more, that's where you don't want to go. Also going into the friendzone a little before, avoids awkwardness between the two of you which I've seen happen, like you're really shy around each other, stuff like that. What I'm saying may not be considered actualy going into the friendzone at all, more as getting to know the girl.

[mnlax9]

It may have seemed to her like you were leading her on. When she said she had kind of a crush on you, it meant she did like you, in a more shy way. Did you ever tell her that you didn't feel that way about her? If not, this situation is 100% your fault, when she said she had a crush on you, you should've told her the truth up front, ecspecialy since you asked her if she liked you, she may have seen that as, you liked her, and wanted to know if she liked you back. To sum it up, if you never told her you didn't have the same feelings for her after she told you she had a crush, then you were in the wrong.


And I don't exactly agree with the 'being touchy' thing, but if it works for you it works for you, other people have the right to give advice, so I won't go into why I don't agree and trash their advice. But I will say this, if you're in highschool, and looking for a girlfriend, it's ok to go into the friendzone a bit at first with a girl you just meet, as long as you don't go in too deep, just stick your toe in, like if you're 'just friends' for close to a month or more, that's where you don't want to go. Also going into the friendzone a little before, avoids awkwardness between the two of you which I've seen happen, like you're really shy around each other, stuff like that. What I'm saying may not be considered actualy going into the friendzone at all, more as getting to know the girl.



i told her i had friend vibe the first time we hung out

[Live4It]

i told her i had friend vibe the first time we hung out

If you told her, than it's her fault for assuming without actualy acting. But if you actualy used the words "friend vibe", she may have not understood what exactly you meant.

[Show'emTheNumba]

i know what your talking about. now i just started talking ot this girl at school and we are starting to enter that"friend zone" that you gys are talking about. should i just do the occasional touch and not mae a durastic move but just little hints that im not interetsed in her bing my best friend. and we arent like reall good frineds like i was with the other girl.

Do you hang out with this girl on the weekends? If not ask her to go to the mall or a movie. Don't try and pull a move there if you don't think shes really into you, but still be touchy and play around with her. And when she calls you, you dont always have to pick up the phone. If you always pick up then she knows your always there, which might lead to her just thinking your best friends that will always talk about everything. After a couple days of flirting and you still don't know what her deal is. Don't be awkward about it but just straight up tell her you like her. Get it over with so your not wasting your energy on liking a girl that doesnt feel the same way back.

[Live4It]

Do you hang out with this girl on the weekends? If not ask her to go to the mall or a movie. Don't try and pull a move there if you don't think shes really into you, but still be touchy and play around with her. And when she calls you, you dont always have to pick up the phone. If you always pick up then she knows your always there, which might lead to her just thinking your best friends that will always talk about everything. After a couple days of flirting and you still don't know what her deal is. Don't be awkward about it but just straight up tell her you like her. Get it over with so your not wasting your energy on liking a girl that doesnt feel the same way back.

I don't really understand any of your logic. How does somebody being home all the time make somebody think they will only be a best friend? It doesn't make sense to me. If you always let her talk about her and her problems, and just listen, then maybe she'll get that idea. But if you ignore her calls, and don't bother calling her back if she leaves a voice mail, it may hinder more than help.

[QBYattackmen15]

yeah i really dont understand your logic either haha. i kinda do. BNut nayway, before you guys even said this we made a plan to hang out at her house and go somewhere next weekend. And she was all for it. so ill just kinda test her a little to see where she stands.

[czechinthepipes]

All you need to do is eat some Cheerios, they do wonders.

Seriously though, don't take all this dating stuff to seriously, just have fun. Even if you don't go out with her, you will still have a friend so treat her as one, girlfriends are fun, but I would rather have a friend first and a girlfriend second If your friends first it makes it so much, for example you will have good communication. If you and a girl are good friends first you will know how to talk to each other and know each others feelings and such, its also a lot easier to do this as a friend, because you wont be expecting too much from a friend and it wont be as awkward if you just first started off right into a relationship. I personally don't believe too much into the "friend zone", I have my reasons which I can't really explain here. Even if you're in the so called "friend zone" you can get out of it, it may be hard but just be yourself and slowly work on it, don't rush it, just go with the flow, and if you have good communication it will even make it easier because the two of you will be able to talk about anything.
Just remember to have fun, thats all dating is supposed to be, especially at your age (even my age).

[QBYattackmen15]

yeah i know what you mean czech. like dating isnt the most improtant thing right now. because its just highscool, and if something happens, then cool. I think its just i want one right now because i noramlly dont have problems, but latly i have.

[Live4It]

All you need to do is eat some Cheerios, they do wonders.


hahahaha...golden advice. :agree:

[Rizzle]

Ok, well that girl I've been talking about, she texted me first earlier today, completely on her own. (That's good, right?)

She said she had a good time last night, and she wished I was at the dance and then her friends house after. Now I really wish I had went.

But, I don't know if anything happened between her and her boyfriend. If she is telling me she wanted me to be there and what-not, seriously, why is she still dating this kid!?

I'm afraid she might be too nice of a person to just dump him. But really, he deserves it. A girl told me that he didn't even go to the after-party thing, he went out and smoked with some loser friends of his. Real nice boyfriend.

I guess I'm going to take your advice guys and wait this out about another two weeks. It seems like the safest way to go about things. But what do you think her intentions are? What's with all these hints I'm getting?

My birthday is on saturday too, and I was thinking of going to see a movie or hanging with some friends, should I invite this girl? Or would that be too drastic if she is still dating this guy?

[laxr24]

At least for me, my girlfriend is my best friend.

[XxlacrossexX]

All you need to do is eat some Cheerios, they do wonders.


Haha, good inside joke right there. Listen to czech, he speaks the truth!

[QBYattackmen15]

Haha, good inside joke right there. Listen to czech, he speaks the truth!

haha too bad it doesnt help if you dont know the joke. (i have no idea)

[Live4It]

haha too bad it doesnt help if you dont know the joke. (i have no idea)

that's why it's an inside joke. :nahya:

[aviator]

100% true, you can be confident and initiate it, but just be a little less cofident, because think about it like this, You go in to kiss her, and she backs up, it's gonna be awkward for the rest of the night, keep in mind this would be the first time they will be really "together" if I'm right. So be confident, but if there's like some obvious sign she doesn't want you to kiss her, don't right way. If you're not sure and feeling feeling confiedent, ask her, say "can I kiss you?" she says yes, you're golden, if she doesn't want you to, it will be something like "not right now", "maybe later", "not yet", etc.. so no awkwardness.

And another thing to QBYattackmen15, let me know how it works out tomorrow.

Ah, very good point

Or just the simple "I want to kiss you"
confidence and like "cute uncertantity" all at once

:)

[Rizzle]

Ok, update: (If anyone still cares at all)

People are coming over for my birthday and guess what, the girl we've all been discussing who I really like is setting it all up. Really. She insisted she invites whom and does everything. I don't know why, but it's good because I'm not very good at that planning business.

Also, she texted me earlier today and said I was her "best friend" and she loved me. This is good I figured. It doesn't mean I'm in the friend zone, does it? And if it does, how do I get out of it, quick?

[irishlax555]

rizzle... of course we care... you futile efforts entertain me when im bored
and btw when a girl says i love you.... she probaly thinks your more then just friends
id say your home free

[L4X_M4ST3R]

rizzle... of course we care... you futile efforts entertain me when im bored
and btw when a girl says i love you.... she probaly thinks your more then just friends
id say your home free

not true actually some say "i love you" as like your a really good friend of mine..haha mine does it to people at our school who's shes like bestest of best friends with

sometimes though it does mean something:naughty:

[irishlax555]

i was just about to revise to say that.
after much consiteration ther is 2 types of i love yous. one is said right on the edge of friend zone
ex. for class you need to grab a book, you grab two, one for you and one for girl
girl says: haha i love you
the other is wayyy beyond that. if you didnt do anything to deserve the i love you, and she just said it outright, then she is REALLY into you
ex.
your talking to her on the phone hey, so whats going on
girl: not much i love you

[LaxAttackman28]

alright heres my problem

this girl transfered to one of my classes (I didn't know her at all at that time) and i sat in the back and she sat in the front close to one of her friends. i go to a catholic school so b4 class we stand up n pray so sometimes when were praying shell glance at me sometimes, no smile or anything tho. so im talking w/ one of my friends one day and i get moved up to the front next to her as a punsihment. so im really nerovus cuz shes really hot. i dont really know much about her but i felt good one day cuz i made a joke at the teacher like a "oh boy" remark and she turns around and looks at me n smiles. then l8r that day in class i made another joke i dont even remeber wat it was but she
did one of the cough cough things to make me look at her cuz i wasnt paying attention, i look and she was laughing pretty hard with her hand over her mouth, it wasnt even a funny joke. but then other days its like she doesnt notice me.
also one day she just srated asking me these random questions, but i dont kno if she was just bored bc her friend that sits behind me wasnt there that day.

i dont kno if i should talk to her cuz she hangs out with all the stuck up girls even tho shes not stuck up.

thanks lol i tried to make this as clear as possible

[Live4It]

So your problem is...you don't know wether or not to talk to her?
Why not? It would be rude it you just ignored her. Who cares who she hangs out with, as long as she's cool.

[LaxAttackman28]

So your problem is...you don't know wether or not to talk to her?
Why not? It would be rude it you just ignored her. Who cares who she hangs out with, as long as she's cool.

also if those are some signs she likes me

[Rizzle]

i was just about to revise to say that.
after much consiteration ther is 2 types of i love yous. one is said right on the edge of friend zone
ex. for class you need to grab a book, you grab two, one for you and one for girl
girl says: haha i love you
the other is wayyy beyond that. if you didnt do anything to deserve the i love you, and she just said it outright, then she is REALLY into you
ex.
your talking to her on the phone hey, so whats going on
girl: not much i love you

Okay she kinda said it like the second one...so this ROCKS! :love:

Thanks a bunch, and I'll try to be more futile in the future to keep you entertained. :thumbsup:

I'm so happy, I could go play lacrosse right now! Sounds good.

[Live4It]

also if those are some signs she likes me

I mentioned some signs you could look for in one of my previous posts, such as; touching her hair, touching her arm/shoulder, eye contact, sometimes fidgity, etc... It's on the page before this I think, if you wanna take a look at that post.

[akalata]

:banghead: :banghead: Alright...this is kind of weird...but i have a problem getting girls :-\ I broke up with my girlfriend about 2 months ago...and I can't seem to get any girls... I'm a nice guy...but im big guy too...I hate it because I do what I can to lose weight...and it never works...running, eating right...nothing helps...I just can't take not even getting a chance with girls :banghead: :WTF:

[CSlax06]

Your young, its not the end of the world.

Just act yourself.

[Live4It]

You can't act yourself, if you were being yourself, you wouldn't be acting, it's an oxymoron. :P

[DanTheMan]

You can't act yourself, if you were being yourself, you wouldn't be acting, it's an oxymoron. :P

haha that is clever but what i can say is keep trying to cut the weight and start being nice to your ex and get real nice with her friends...thats what i did and it worked

[NHDSlax]

I have seen plenty of big guys with some fine ladies. It is all about confidence. Girls love a guy who has confidence but is not cocky. Just be yourself and spit your game.

[laxmonster54]

Is there any one you like that you know?
if so try to hang out with them more.
after you do that for like two weeks or when you feel comfortable ask them out.
its simple.
And don't worry about HOW YOU look. Not all girls are into all that.
P.S. When you are hanging out with them have fun. offer to buy things...

Good luck man.

[akalata]

i really don't have that many friends who are girls. I go to an all guys school, which kind of sucks. It is hard for me to talk to girls in a dating situation. I'm going to try though

[mnlax9]

not really a problem, but a question.

if you remember my last post about the whole senior thing and how i liked this junior. Im kinda (not officil ) dating the junior and her birthday is in like a week and I have no idea what i should get her. we only been together for a few days but i would feel real bad if i didnt get her something but i dont wanna go over the top with it cause wee just started kinda dating and that would be weird.

any ideas?

she likes basketball, chipotle (already got gift card), me and hannah montana lol

[Live4It]

I'd take her out for her birthday, rather than give her something. I can explain why I would if you want, but it's pretty simple reasoning.

[laxr24]

For any of you spitting game, try and act like this (10).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m75g_A731q0