Girl Problem Megathread!

[Rizzle]

lmao i love the way you put that folax.

[aviator]

Well, the girl that I was dating most recently wasn't the person I thought she was. Its a long long story, and dumb, so whatever. And I'm giving up on the other girl and just staying friends, for now, we where in a really wierd spot this week. But the fwb girl is going good :). Annd recently I met another girl. Smokin hot...so hot to where I was suprised to find out how cool and down to earth she was. I'm starting to like her. Just goes to show you guys that there's always a chance and always options :)

Although I miss the first girl, I'm moving on.

[Stringer4Lax]

Well, the girl that I was dating most recently wasn't the person I thought she was. Its a long long story, and dumb, so whatever. And I'm giving up on the other girl and just staying friends, for now, we where in a really wierd spot this week. But the fwb girl is going good :). Annd recently I met another girl. Smokin hot...so hot to where I was suprised to find out how cool and down to earth she was. I'm starting to like her. Just goes to show you guys that there's always a chance and always options :)

Although I miss the first girl, I'm moving on.

Thats why i cant stand private school, obviously your school has more than 1 hot girl... mine has one, but im dating her so no biggie. And she isnt only hot, she plays lax, listens to hardcore which are extremely hard to find in NC

[Bretmac]

yes aviator's problems continue haha that might be kinda mean but when ever theres a new post i go and check to see if it was avaitor i enjoy reading about his probelms... avaitor liquid nailed it so i cant really say much else... but good look and keep us informed

[falconslax10]

ok i desperatley need help. I got mad at the world one night and borke up with my girlfriend. We still like eachother and shes always like you never talk to me anymore. I dont talk to her because it feels kinda akward. plz help me

[Stringer4Lax]

I hate to say this to you..... but just talk to her, get over the awkwardness.

[valax16]

thats the only way your going to get over the awkwardness is by talking to her.

[Attackalltheway]

dude I can't even get a gf, I'm the type that is friends with everybody... but not close close friends.. lol

go with liquids advice... seems like hes been around the block a couple times

if you have some friends at another school, go hang out with them and their lady friends and get to know them.

[Lacrosse4life31]

I got the same problem. I heard I'm likable, but nobody can ever get close with me. I'm great friends with a lot of people, but not close enough with anyone (girls, really).

This is the reason my last relationship didn't work out, and neither did one I was trying to get going (you can read about it some posts back).

I don't know what it is, but I heard that I focus a little too much on lacrosse and football and school and things. I really want to get into a good college to play lax, so maybe that's why. I got a dream and wanna make it happen, but maybe I'm not spending enough time being a kid while I still got the chance.

How could I uh, become closer with my friends who are girls though, and possibly make something happen?

yea.. I have friends that happen to be girls, and like we goof around together (like tickle each other blah blah blah) but like nothing serious... Only during school type of stuff...

[laxr24]

Well move that school activity to the weekend at someone's house

[aviator]

yes aviator's problems continue haha that might be kinda mean but when ever theres a new post i go and check to see if it was avaitor i enjoy reading about his probelms... avaitor liquid nailed it so i cant really say much else... but good look and keep us informed

ahahaha
wow
thanks though

ok i desperatley need help. I got mad at the world one night and borke up with my girlfriend. We still like eachother and shes always like you never talk to me anymore. I dont talk to her because it feels kinda akward. plz help me


thats partially what happened to me but it was the other way around.

I'm so confused about the first girl, because after talking to her today, i realized she really was as crazy about me as I once thought, and that she was sorry for comming of another way. I'm really confused, me and her are "friends" now, it will be awkward right away though, and I don't know how close we will become, but idk. Well, I like her and she likes me, but not enough to where I want her back. I'll always miss her, but shes not the right one for me. And yeah, long story short thats whats happining.


The "new girl" is going good. We hung out friday after school for a little bit and it was really really fun for both of us. Ran into the "first girl" with her, haha. Awkwardness. She said she was faking being happy to make me jelous, but she was just kidding (first girl). I've been talking to "new girl" alot more now, and shes even cooler then I thought :).

And fwb girl is going reallllly good :)
if you have some friends at another school, go hang out with them and their lady friends and get to know them.

[IHSLAX4]

Falcons like said before just talk to her, i recently got out of a pretty brutal relationship where we were always fighting and stuff and both hoped it would get better, and when we talked about everything it did...for about a week. Well needless to say we are both done with each other and moved on, but if this girl really does like you she definitely want to talk everything out with you.

[ShockerAutc]

Girl 3 has a boyfriend. SOB. Met a new girl at this winter formal thing, but she's more of just a flirt. And I'm not really talking about an easy girl, just really flirt. Will do anything but it. Haha.

[akalata]

I am the kind of guy that is friends w. girls and they wont take a chance on me because im a bigger guy. I am a nice guy, but im not that attractive (kinda weird i know) so girls will judge me, which is stupid and stuff. I broke up w. my (now ex) gf because i couldnt trust her and she expected me to wait around for her. I got over her within a week...im kinda talkin to this girl but i dk how she feels about me..what should i do to find out and increase my "Sexual appeal" PM me if you have any advice

[shotgun]

So I'm in the 5th grade,(I know you guys will ramble on about enjoying life while you still can and bla bla bla, so dont) but I like this girl in the 6th grade.
I know her and everything, I'm nice to her and she's nice to me, but no boy in the 5th grade has asked out a 6th grade girl. But some 6th grade boys have gone out with 5th grade girls. But I really want to ask this girl out.

Any suggestions?

[Live4It]

So I'm in the 5th grade,(I know you guys will ramble on about enjoying life while you still can and bla bla bla, so dont) but I like this girl in the 6th grade.
I know her and everything, I'm nice to her and she's nice to me, but no boy in the 5th grade has asked out a 6th grade girl. But some 6th grade boys have gone out with 5th grade girls. But I really want to ask this girl out.

Any suggestions?

Sounds a little like an elementary school cliché to me.

I don't know what help you need. She's only a year older than you, it's the same as asking out any other girl.

[TallLax]

don't girls have cooties in 5th grade?

[Live4It]

don't girls have cooties in 5th grade?

You saying that, is less mature than kids thinking it.

[Bretmac]

shotgun all i can say is nothing ventured nothing gained

[shotgun]

I dont get to see her alot b/c at lunch she is allways a crossing guard. And all of my friends would make a big deal about it. I don't know what to do.

[GoBucks]

I dont get to see her alot b/c at lunch she is allways a crossing guard. And all of my friends would make a big deal about it. I don't know what to do.

O man, at that age all your friends will tease you. Ignore them, they're just being immature. It's no big deal. Just make the most of whatever opportunity you get, and if you think you can, go for it. If it doesn't work out then you'll find some other girl down the road.

[Tehb2]

Hahaha! I remember those times! Looking back its kind of ridiculous to think of "going out" with girls when you're that young, or at least not in the way it becomes as you get into middle school and high school. Not to put you off, you can try what you like, but I think it might be a good time to get more friendly and comfortable with the girls now so that'll help you out later.

[CtLaxin]

ok so there is this girl who I'm unsure about and looking for advice to see if any of you think I should persue it further

I have known her for awhile and I can talk to her so easily and about whatever.But sometimes I think she is really hot and other times I do not think she is hot.I also dislike some of her friends.

[DJ Death]

you seem fickle...like a girl would feel about a guy...girls like that make me wanna put her head thru a wall, so i'd suggest no, but that's just me.

[cheesehead]

i tend to get stuck in that black hole all us guys know and love known as the friend zone

[akalata]

i would like to point out the song "what is love" by haddaway. Story of my life right there

[smooth87]

Read I hope They Serve Beer in Hell by Tucker Max and it will make you see a new side to every girl situation.

[EastCoastDeft]

I dont get to see her alot b/c at lunch she is allways a crossing guard. And all of my friends would make a big deal about it. I don't know what to do.

since i passed the 5th grade 3 years ago i know alot.

your friends either want the girl or are jelous or your friends are think its crazy too go out

well girls go out with mr popular in the younger grades becasue theyre into "cool" guys and not always the honest and nice ones, but soetimes the cool kids can be the nice ones.

if your mr popularity and the big sixth graders think your cool or their jelous of you because you could take there girl, your 1/2 there.

if your friendly with alot of the 6th grade girls and they go out of their way to say a simple "hi" your in. im not good with pick up lines so your gonna need help with that.

[laxgoalie66]

Read I hope They Serve Beer in Hell by Tucker Max and it will make you see a new side to every girl situation.

It's weird you say that, my friend brought it at lunch and asked me to read a one page story in there and i laughed for quite a while.

[Rizzle]

i tend to get stuck in that black hole all us guys know and love known as the friend zone

I have the exact same problem 10 fold. It's really bad. Good friends with everyone, close friends or even "partners" with no one.

As an example, tonight I hung out with 2 girls, but just as friends. We just watched a movie and chilled. Not saying there is anything bad about that, I've known them most of my life. I just wish I wasn't just good friends with everyone only.

[laxattack17]

i tend to get stuck in that black hole all us guys know and love known as the friend zone

I pretty much live in the friend zone.

[valax16]

If you get stuck in the friend zone. try talking to a girl for like 2 or 3 weeks, but don't talk to her a lot. and then ask her out. i'm not sure if that will actually work because i've only had that problem once and i moved on. but just making a suggestion.

[LaxProdi G]

alright everybody i need some girl help. last week i asked this girl out. i was just wondering if i should get her a christmas gift when we go out over the school break. jw thanks in advance for any help.

ps if this helps i like her a lot and she likes me alot

pps i dont know if she is getting me anything

[LAXinJD]

alright everybody i need some girl help. last week i asked this girl out. i was just wondering if i should get her a christmas gift when we go out over the school break. jw thanks in advance for any help.

ps if this helps i like her a lot and she likes me alot

pps i dont know if she is getting me anything

Yeah, get her a gift. But make it small and inexpensive. No jewelry or anything like that. Even a card might work or just a small teddy bear or something. Just remember, it's only been a week.. so it doesn't need to be a way serious gift.

[Live4It]

alright everybody i need some girl help. last week i asked this girl out. i was just wondering if i should get her a christmas gift when we go out over the school break. jw thanks in advance for any help.

ps if this helps i like her a lot and she likes me alot

pps i dont know if she is getting me anything

Don't go overboard, but get her something, because if she does get you something, and you don't get her anything...not a good situation. Better to be safe than sorry.

[Beastlaxman12]

Like everyone else i have a bit of some trouble as well, im in the same exact position as CTlaxin. Man i see how you feel, this girl is hot sometimes btu other times its liek she is not hot at all. So shes like my best friend in my grade, btw im in 8th grade, but i know as a lil youngin you should jsut be friends and have fun but, when your having fun, things may happen. Like i already messed up with 2 girls this year. one is nto too fond of me anymore and the otehr im good friends with. But to sum it all up, there are 3 options for me. 1 is my really good girl friend that i can talk to her about anything like CTlaxin said, 2 is this girl whos friends with my good girl friend that iv ehear dlieks me and i think i kinda like her, and 3 is this hot [no profanity] girl taht i hooked up with before but now were in like an inbetween stage like if i like her or not and if she lieks me a lot. So do any of you ahve any ideas on what i should do?? Oh yea and im goin to NY to snowbaord with the second girl i name dafter X-mas. if that helps. Any suggestions??

[Beastlaxman12]

ps- girl #2 i meant i fshe lieks me or not

[Live4It]

Like everyone else i have a bit of some trouble as well, im in the same exact position as CTlaxin. Man i see how you feel, this girl is hot sometimes btu other times its liek she is not hot at all. So shes like my best friend in my grade, btw im in 8th grade, but i know as a lil youngin you should jsut be friends and have fun but, when your having fun, things may happen. Like i already messed up with 2 girls this year. one is nto too fond of me anymore and the otehr im good friends with. But to sum it all up, there are 3 options for me. 1 is my really good girl friend that i can talk to her about anything like CTlaxin said, 2 is this girl whos friends with my good girl friend that iv ehear dlieks me and i think i kinda like her, and 3 is this hot [no profanity] girl taht i hooked up with before but now were in like an inbetween stage like if i like her or not and if she lieks me a lot. So do any of you ahve any ideas on what i should do?? Oh yea and im goin to NY to snowbaord with the second girl i name dafter X-mas. if that helps. Any suggestions??

I would suggest not chosing this girl, because if you have doubts about her because "she's only hot sometimes", then you don't deserve her.

[hockeyandlax]

Read I hope They Serve Beer in Hell by Tucker Max and it will make you see a new side to every girl situation.

+1

Make sure to check out his website.
Worth the time to read it.

Since I don't like reading pages worth of little kids spilling their hearts out, here is my advice after years of dating-

Middle school and high school is for finding out what you like in girl. You may think you know exactly what you want. Ya don't. Don't worry about trying to make something last 1 year +. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, you know what you don't like/do like in a girl. If you get you dumped...sack up--> there are more fish in the sea.

Also, make sure to engage them in conversation and don't just talk about what you're doing. Be interested in what they are up to. Women find a comfort zone if they talk about themselves :chuckle:

[Live4It]

+1

Make sure to check out his website.
Worth the time to read it.



And A--holes Finish First comes out soon too, not sure if you could top I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell though.

[Beastlaxman12]

aight thanks but theres still 2 more? the one who is hot and that and the one im going snowbaording with after christmas, opinion on who?

[<<RANGER>>]

I hate the friend zone. Dangit.

[eaglelax4]

aight do some work with this one fellas:
i met this girl at a party, got her number and weve been talking and hanging out since then
not a ton, but still
she kinda hints that theres something there but other times she hints that there isnt, her friends do the same and im really confused as to what to do
cause she'll go days without talking to me and then just pops back in and i just dont know how to field this one

[Rizzle]

Be yourself.

[Live4It]

aight do some work with this one fellas:
i met this girl at a party, got her number and weve been talking and hanging out since then
not a ton, but still
she kinda hints that theres something there but other times she hints that there isnt, her friends do the same and im really confused as to what to do
cause she'll go days without talking to me and then just pops back in and i just dont know how to field this one

I'm just as confused as you are, if not more. Are you asking how to know if this girl wants to be your girlfriend, and how to get her?

[eaglelax4]

yeah thats pretty much what im asking
cause she seems indecesive, or a tease

[DJ Death]

ok you guys, what's your take on church girls? on the one hand, there that incredible prudishness that'll get you absolutely nowhere physically but might be infinitely rewarding emotionally, and on the other, there's that chance that you'll find that diamond in the rough who doesn't believe a single word she hears every sunday, who's got that hungry look in her eyes and who just wants to rebel and get down and dirty. and then there's the chance that you'll be real pissed off that you thought you had a chance of landing a church girl with those aforementioned attributes. do you guys think church is a good place to look for girls? i'm not actually gonna start going for church girls, but i was asked this question by my friend and i thought it was pretty interesting and can go both ways. what do you guys think?

[<<RANGER>>]

Very few of the church girls I know have this "incredible prudishness", nor do very many that I've met want to get "down and dirty". They are mostly somewhere in between. I spend most of my time with "church girls" because not only are they the best looking chicks around, but they are smart and still have some self-respect. It does suck when they turn you down though. It makes everything really, really, awkward, especially if you go to the same church.

[smalbikpro]

idk jamey lynn spears met her boyfriend at church, and look what happened there.

[LAXinJD]

ok you guys, what's your take on church girls? on the one hand, there that incredible prudishness that'll get you absolutely nowhere physically but might be infinitely rewarding emotionally, and on the other, there's that chance that you'll find that diamond in the rough who doesn't believe a single word she hears every sunday, who's got that hungry look in her eyes and who just wants to rebel and get down and dirty. and then there's the chance that you'll be real pissed off that you thought you had a chance of landing a church girl with those aforementioned attributes. do you guys think church is a good place to look for girls? i'm not actually gonna start going for church girls, but i was asked this question by my friend and i thought it was pretty interesting and can go both ways. what do you guys think?

Personally, I think that it is wrong to go after a church girl just so that you can "land" her. I mean come on, have a little bit more respect for girls and for yourself. You shouldn't just go after girls to "land" them. Girls shouldn't be treated as objects guys.. honestly. Also, I wouldn't call the rebel church girl a "diamond in the rough". The diamond in the rough is the girl that actually believes what she hears and church and applies it to her life. Usually they are being taught great things, take religion out of it, but just the traits she will have like kindness and charity.

Sorry about my rant. I just think that it's okay to go for girls, but to actually try and develop a relationship.. not to get "landed". Come on guys, we can be a little bit more mature, can't we?

[<<RANGER>>]

Personally, I think that it is wrong to go after a church girl just so that you can "land" her. I mean come on, have a little bit more respect for girls and for yourself. You shouldn't just go after girls to "land" them. Girls shouldn't be treated as objects guys.. honestly. Also, I wouldn't call the rebel church girl a "diamond in the rough". The diamond in the rough is the girl that actually believes what she hears and church and applies it to her life. Usually they are being taught great things, take religion out of it, but just the traits she will have like kindness and charity.

Sorry about my rant. I just think that it's okay to go for girls, but to actually try and develop a relationship.. not to get "landed". Come on guys, we can be a little bit more mature, can't we?

Ditto. I was trying to say something like that, but I couldn't get the right words. I agree 100%.

[DJ Death]

ahahahaha, that was totally taken out of context, but i can see where you're coming from with that. i've never heard anyone use the term "land" in a sexual way. ppl around here use it as another term for "get", as in landing a fish when you go fishing, and that's what i meant it as. LOL hahahahaaha :clap:

[CPLAX08]

As a girl, it's not too cool to hear about guys wanting to 'land' other girls, regardless of the context in which it was meant.

Don't mean to be a complete femenist, but we're not objects that y'all can just choose and land. Hello? We have feelings, you know. Then you guys get mad when girls aren't sure if they want to go out with you, well, simply because a whole lot of guys are wanting just that, to 'land' us.

Come on, let's act like mature people, no?

[DJ Death]

i don't understand how getting (let me reiterate: this was the context i meant for it to be in) a girl can be taken as immature...guys get girls by asking them out. guys get girls by talking to them and getting to know them. isn't that what this thread is about? guys talking about their girl problems? in other words, how to get girls/relationships? sorry if that's a little crude for you, but i was never one to sugarcoat anything. i am completely confuzzled at how you somehow SOMEHOW managed to see it differently than that...

oh and while you're at it, why don't you go back a couple pages and read how someone was talking about girls who basically "guaranteed action" i believe was the term, and go chew that person out as well. i'm sure it'll satisfy you to no end...

[cjm3113]

Agreed, I don't believe that DJ Death's comments were meant to be taken as immature or disrespectful. He was simply referring to the act of becoming a boyfriend to a girl, as landing a girlfriend.

[bigdale9]

this is more directed at a girl.

what are girls looking for in a guy when they first meet?

[laxgoalie66]

...that would depend on the girl.

[eaglelax4]

my buddy doesnt play lax but he wants help

he says him and this girl text a lot (texting around here is a major form of communication) but in person they dont talk that much, and even when they do its short, but he cant tell if she doesnt like him or maybe even does, but he wants to know cause hes into her and all, but any move he makes cant be rushed, cause he knows this is the kind of girl that likes to take things slow

[Live4It]

my buddy doesnt play lax but he wants help

he says him and this girl text a lot (texting around here is a major form of communication) but in person they dont talk that much, and even when they do its short, but he cant tell if she doesnt like him or maybe even does, but he wants to know cause hes into her and all, but any move he makes cant be rushed, cause he knows this is the kind of girl that likes to take things slow

Any kind of straight up texting/IM relationships never work out, I don't care where you are, if most of your communication is through texting with your boy/girlfriend, and not alot of person to person, it's guranteed not to work, so if I were him, I'd cut the text convos and start face to face convos asap.

[eaglelax4]

Any kind of straight up texting/IM relationships never work out, I don't care where you are, if most of your communication is through texting with your boy/girlfriend, and not alot of person to person, it's guranteed not to work, so if I were him, I'd cut the text convos and start face to face convos asap.

he says hes been trying to do so but she doesnt make it real easy to do so

[ShockerAutc]

this is more directed at a girl.

what are girls looking for in a guy when they first meet?

In my experiences being "super cute" gets their attention. Also, most girls for relationships do care about a good personality, if they are the girl worth commitment at least. Example, last night I arrive to a party around midnight, a guy I know says he is going to hook up with this girl. Using good lines he made limited progress, gave up and decided to go to bed. Having no particular great lady getting skills I just my usual friendly self. She noticed a few little things such as being cute and nice and she was into it. End up snuggling up with her and her number.

[stinch38]

Read I hope They Serve Beer in Hell by Tucker Max and it will make you see a new side to every girl situation.

I started reading that book on your reccomendation last night. After five hours, im half way through and have literally laughed out loud many times. I reccomend this bok to any guy

[Live4It]

I started reading that book on your reccomendation last night. After five hours, im half way through and have literally laughed out loud many times. I reccomend this bok to any guy

Over the course of about 2-3 days, I finished the book in about 4.5 hours.

[matt c]

hey guys i want to ask this girl out that I really like but its my second time asking a girl out and the first time didnt go so well. I was just wondering how i should ask her out.

[Chas]

Just be yourself, and do it causally. Ask her to somewhere public, like dinner or something.

"Hey, would you like to catch a movie sometime?" No need to go crazy. Just be calm and confident. Women can read confidence. If she says no, don't get down, just say something like "Okay, some other time then, see you later"

[Live4It]

hey guys i want to ask this girl out that I really like but its my second time asking a girl out and the first time didnt go so well. I was just wondering how i should ask her out.

Chas' advice is pretty good. But to add to it; You have to move on when you get rejected, don't let it get you down, just because one girl turns you down, doesn't mean they all will, every girl is differnt, so unless it's the same girl, there is no way that you can gurantee a rejection, I shouldn't say that, because even if it is the same girl, you still never know, people change.

[Chas]

I used to be afraid of asking girls out, this was up until sophomore year. To practice, I would walk up to new girls every day and ask them out. It didn't work all the time, but some were like "yeah sure that sounds great". I asked a girl to prom that I had never seen before, she responded with, how about coffee first. You never know.

If its a girl you really like, and she says no, don't get all upset. How you handle the rejection is important. If you whine about it or act all depressed, it may make her think your immature or something. just play it cool.

[Live4It]

I used to be afraid of asking girls out, this was up until sophomore year. To practice, I would walk up to new girls every day and ask them out. It didn't work all the time, but some were like "yeah sure that sounds great". I asked a girl to prom that I had never seen before, she responded with, how about coffee first. You never know.

If its a girl you really like, and she says no, don't get all upset. How you handle the rejection is important. If you whine about it or act all depressed, it may make her think your immature or something. just play it cool.

Did this work better, or worse after word got around that you were asking out every girl in school? :P

[Chas]

I went to a school of 4500, no one knew each other. It was very "clicky".

[aviator]

BACK

so remember the "FWB Girl" from a few pages ago? Welllll, I messed up...
She is the most amazing girl I know, and I wasted so many chances with her going for other girls. I wasn't thinking.

Pretty much, everyone "found out" about everyone else and I got screwed over haha.

I'm rebuilding the closeness I had wwith all of them and am focusing mainly on "fwb girl" because in reality she is SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT.

Just an update...

[aps11691]

so last night i was heavily intoxicated and texted this girl that im interested in. the text was meant for someone else who i was talking to at the time, but after she responded i went on a drunken rant and i think it turned her off a little bit. The only reason I know what i said is because im reading the texts now and it ain't pretty. What do i do to get back into her good graces cuz i think she got the impression that im a drunk idiot.

[Chewie]

ok - i have this bad habit of cussing. every girl hates me cussing, but im still rather good friends with them. the one girl i like really despises me cussing and supposivly (sp) hates me but we are pretty good friends i think, and we have every class together. i do a bit of flirting nothing serious, what you think i should do?

[mikeman5]

ok - i have this bad habit of cussing. every girl hates me cussing, but im still rather good friends with them. the one girl i like really despises me cussing and supposivly (sp) hates me but we are pretty good friends i think, and we have every class together. i do a bit of flirting nothing serious, what you think i should do?
stop cussing

[Chewie]

its a habit, in which it isnt the easiest habit to break. any ideas on how to stop?

[eaglelax4]

ok - i have this bad habit of cussing. every girl hates me cussing, but im still rather good friends with them. the one girl i like really despises me cussing and supposivly (sp) hates me but we are pretty good friends i think, and we have every class together. i do a bit of flirting nothing serious, what you think i should do?

i used to have this problem, you can't stop cold turkey but we'll get you there
you can either work on not in certain places/situations (like not around girls, or only at practice, or only with my guy friends)
or take out a word at a time

[FitzGoalie]

ok - i have this bad habit of cussing. every girl hates me cussing, but im still rather good friends with them. the one girl i like really despises me cussing and supposivly (sp) hates me but we are pretty good friends i think, and we have every class together. i do a bit of flirting nothing serious, what you think i should do?

if you must curse, learn to curse creatively. it may sound strange, but if you add some creative adjectives to the beginning (or end) of your profanity, girls are more likely to be impressed. doesn't make much sense, i know, but i am very creatively profane, and chicks that are normally turned off by swearing actually think it's really funny.

[Live4It]

its a habit, in which it isnt the easiest habit to break. any ideas on how to stop?

Everytime you say a swear word around someone you don't want to, apologize, if it doesn't help break your habbit, it'll make girls not hate you, they'll see that you apologized for swearing around them...and... I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, but it'll make them notice like...err...they'll see that you are showing them respect...something like that, I can't find how to describe what I'm trying to say.

I sometimes have the same problem, because I don't usualy think when I talk, I just talk, it's not a huge problem to me, except for one word I relized I say way too much, I'm trying to work on that now......The only time my swearing isn't at all habitual is around my parents, I don't swear at all around them out of respect, they probably wouldn't care if I did, but I don't.

[ccslax6]

Did anyond see that movie I think it was calles "the Man" with Samuel L Jackson? Whenever he said the "F" word, he followed it up with "crying out loud" so like For crying out loud. Do things like this and maybe no one'll notice.

[Chewie]

Live4It - That sounds like a good idea, ill try it, but i also dont really cuss around my parents either, only in front of my mom ill say like s l * t or anything that means the same as that
eaglelax4 - Taking out words of my every day vocabulary also sounds good.
Im also going to try having a rubber band on my wrist - snapping it every time something slips.

FitzGoalie - I also do use my curses very...weirdly. Sometimes they laugh and sometimes they are all like omg potty mouth. its like wow.

Thank you for all of your advice so far and keep it coming please

[Sjrlax69]

Hey i need some advice, ive been going out with this girl for 7 months now, and im realy starting to get tired of her. I stil have feelings for her but more in a friend way. Should i just break up with her?

[Chewie]

Sjrlax69 - I'm not exactly " pro " in the topic about the species of " chicks " but break up with her. If you don't have feelings for her as you use to then break up with her. Staying with her could only lead to hurting her more in the long run if you do break up with her later on. She will feel that you guys are "inseparable" and will cry and make you feel all guilt ridden. For those of you who are pro in the topic about the species of chicks, please correct me if I'm wrong.

[Live4It]

Hey i need some advice, ive been going out with this girl for 7 months now, and im realy starting to get tired of her. I stil have feelings for her but more in a friend way. Should i just break up with her?

In what way are you getting tired of her? The way she treats you, or just getting bored with her? If you don't have the same feelings for her that she has for you, but you still have some feelings for her, I would suggest telling her that you want to take some time off.....if you know that there's no chance you would ever really like this girl, and you'll never have those feelings for her, then tell her you just want to be friends, don't say exactly like that ("I just want to be friends") but that's basicaly what you want.

Chew: Your advice is pretty good, if you don't have the same feeling for her that she has for you, then it's not really fair to keep going out with her, and basically lead her on. Pretty much what you said.

[Beastlaxman12]

ok, so i hooked up with this girl this morning and i like her and she lieks me bu ti am no sur eif i want to go out with her. What do you think? i also have a question, has anyone here ever hooked up with a girl on a chair lift?? and if so say how, by the way im in 8th grade so i know i dont need ot be dating anyone but based on how i have been going through girls it may be tiem to stick with one for a while. some girl sin ym grade are pissed cause i have hooked up with like 5-8 girls this year so what do you guys think?? and each girl i hooke dupw ith multiple times

[ShockerAutc]

beastlaxman12: It depends on your feeling of the girl and the context. Last week at a party I hooked up with a number of girls. Out of the girls I hooked up with, 1-2 are only possible girlfriends. The reason is, if they hooked up with you so easily, why wouldn't they with someone else? One of the girls last week says later she has a boyfriend, she is instantly ruled out because if she will cheat on him then there is little reason to think she wont cheat on you. So, to fully answer your question. If you like and you know this is very untypical behavior why not go for it, you're in 8th grade not a bid deal. If she does this all the time, eh, forget about her.

[CPLAX08]

Well, personally speaking, I hate it when guys curse, regardless of who they are. It's a big turn off, so just fyi for you guys who were asking.

Also, ditto on the confidence thing that Live4It was mentioning. We can tell when you feel somewhat iffy about asking us out and such.

Look on the bright side, rejection is easier to take than having to wait for the guy to ask. No? At least you're proactive. That's my view on it.

[Beastlaxman12]

ok, thanks, but this gilr never hooks up with anyone and i will be hanging out with her tomorrow and will more than likely hook up again. And another question how do you guys feel about friends with benefits, whenever i do this it doesnt really work out, well it works for me and the otehr girl but the other girls get amd i dotn know why?

[FitzGoalie]

ok, thanks, but this gilr never hooks up with anyone and i will be hanging out with her tomorrow and will more than likely hook up again. And another question how do you guys feel about friends with benefits, whenever i do this it doesnt really work out, well it works for me and the otehr girl but the other girls get amd i dotn know why?

"Friends With Benefits" is a myth. When i was your age, i too thought it was plausible to have a casual relationship with a good female friend. i even tried it several times. and what i learned is that it's impossible to keep the relationship emotionally/romantically sterile, a neccessary pre-requisite in order to prevent the relationship from becoming a committed exclusive one. And, as a result, i've lost several really cool friends because we casually hooked up and thought it would work, but only drove ourselves apart through miscommunication and unrealistic expectations. If you want to repeatedly hookup with this girl with minimal repercussions, you should probably try and make it a romantic relationship.

[Live4It]

ok, thanks, but this gilr never hooks up with anyone and i will be hanging out with her tomorrow and will more than likely hook up again. And another question how do you guys feel about friends with benefits, whenever i do this it doesnt really work out, well it works for me and the otehr girl but the other girls get amd i dotn know why?

"I don't wanna get all Dr. Phil on you, but the last time I checked, women have a hard time separating sex from emotions. So, you may think you're just tappin' that right now, but pretty soon she's gonna be like, "J.D., I need you.""
That's from an episode of Scrubs.

[Beastlaxman12]

"I don't wanna get all Dr. Phil on you, but the last time I checked, women have a hard time separating sex from emotions. So, you may think you're just tappin' that right now, but pretty soon she's gonna be like, "J.D., I need you.""
That's from an episode of Scrubs.

haha, thanks for that but i dont think it will work out between us anyway. She is kinda getting annoying and my buddy in 8th grade remember 8th grade is in a "relationship" and he is "whipped" out of his mind but he wont admit it and i wouldt want that but what did you guys do while you were in 8th grade? any tips?

[pole15]

but what did you guys do while you were in 8th grade? any tips?

Don't talk much but listen to MF Doom and read books so that when you're old enough to not sound like an idiot you'll know what you're talking about.

[Dub C lacrosse]

hey guys i want to ask this girl out that I really like but its my second time asking a girl out and the first time didnt go so well. I was just wondering how i should ask her out.


Dude, WHATEVER YOU DO!, do not just walk up to her, with your hands in your pockets, head down, and spit it all out hoping for some chance it will work. Start a conversation, and nothing lame like, so, how were your cheese doodles yesterday? Get to know her well, and make sure she knows who you are, because if she finds out who you are after your going out, she might not like it and break up with you. tell her a little secret so she knows you trust her. Ask her out somewhere nice, and look into her eyes, not anything
below :loser:

Do not studder, sweat, breath heavily, hyperventilate, pass out, and/or DIE.

Yay for my advice.

Good luck dude.

[aviator7]

IMO, every relationship prior to maybe sophmore year is complete bupkis. this one girl at my school changes her mind about who she thinks is hawt and who she wants to go out with literaly every week.

[FitzGoalie]

Dude, WHATEVER YOU DO!, do not just walk up to her, with your hands in your pockets, head down, and spit it all out hoping for some chance it will work. Start a conversation, and nothing lame like, so, how were your cheese doodles yesterday? Get to know her well, and make sure she knows who you are, because if she finds out who you are after your going out, she might not like it and break up with you. tell her a little secret so she knows you trust her. Ask her out somewhere nice, and look into her eyes, not anything
below :loser:

Do not studder, sweat, breath heavily, hyperventilate, pass out, and/or DIE.

Yay for my advice.

Good luck dude.

actually, as i mentioned earlier, some catastrophe such as passing out would make a great ice breaker. especially if you got up immediately and were like "See? i'm already falling for you."

[Beastlaxman12]

another problem, pic for pics. Do not do them, i did one now everyone is angry at me for doing it. But how many of you guys have had a similar situation to this? I dont know what i should do, i mean i just hooked up with this girl and she doesnt know, i dont think, and hookin gup is bigish at my school in my grade but should i tell her(it was before i hooke dup with her) should i tell her or what? And i have no idea how htis one girl found out, neither me or the girl told and my sisters friend was like, "so this girl in your grade sent a nake dpicture to some guy i heard??" and i said what? and now she says im all wierd about it and im sketchy, and is sketch ynot a good thing? ok, get back to this please.

[QBYattackmen15]

ok so this is gonna be the last time i post in his thing again. though it has been a while. and anyway here it goes. Ive know this Girl for like, 2 or 3 years, ive been super good friends with her, i know absolutly everything about her, and likewise of her to me. im more fo a best firend to her then her best girlfriends. Now i said one day that me and her will prolly never go out cause ive asked her before and she said no and she replies, "well i dunno maybe, people change" is this some glimmer of hope for me? i mean seriously, she always sais how shes looking for a guy just like me, and she always(gonna sound liek im bragging but whatever) sais about how she loves my body and muscles. and all this stuff. and shes not one of those that like, sais no ebcause your too good of friends, like she told me that she needs to reallly get to know a guy before she goes out with him. and thats me. haha. because im the closest guy friend she has. But anyway what im saying here is i think it might be ebcause i already asked her out before that i just cant seem to do it now. and i mean, im just so confused cause she gives me all these signs that say she likes me(which i have mentioned some but ther are a couple more) and i just think shes gonna say no for some reason,not that im pessimistic, but i jut have this feeling. I see her practiclly everyday at the mountain snowboarding so i have plenty of oppurtunities to ask her out. im going wiht her tomorrow so reply ASAP on like, just what to do. i mean ive been their before ive had a couple gf's but i mean, this girl is just really special and i dont wnat to mess anything up if sh sais no so i dont wnat to say somethng thats gonna mess ur friendship up.

[sabreace]

If she is giving all the signs, and you emotionally feel it's right, go for it. Really think about her situation, if you know her so well, it shouldn't be hard; and anyway, you said you've asked her out before, and obviously you still have a great friendship- as long as you're careful not to intimidate her (I'd go a little slow and try to ease into a relationship with her unless she shows otherwise), you should be just fine.

That's what I'd do anyway. But everyone is different.

[QBYattackmen15]

thats a good idea. ill just talk to her about relationships and then ill sorta just ease into it. good idea.

[sabreace]

Not quite what I meant.

I'm basically saying to ask her out without saying stuff like 'go on a date' or 'go out with me'. Avoiding those phrases will keep her, subconsciously, more comfortable; if it moves on from there, Mission Accomplished! If you don't feel like you do now afterwards, then you'll (and she will, probably) just think of it as a movie out with a friend, and go on with life.

Another option would be to go to something with friends other than you and her, but behave more attached to her than to anyone else there. If she's comfortable with it (and you, by extension), then ask her out.

[QBYattackmen15]

well i mean, whats a way to ask someone out without actually saying the words? thats what confused me. i honestly have just always just said the words will you go out with me. But i dont want her to feel uncofortable with it. And my friend asked her out a while ago with that and she said no because she was really suprised and he didnt ease into it so i dont want to make the same mistake. but again what would i say without sayin the actualy words?

[XxlacrossexX]

well i mean, whats a way to ask someone out without actually saying the words? thats what confused me. i honestly have just always just said the words will you go out with me. But i dont want her to feel uncofortable with it. And my friend asked her out a while ago with that and she said no because she was really suprised and he didnt ease into it so i dont want to make the same mistake. but again what would i say without sayin the actualy words?

"We can go get food and then have sex. Sound good?"

[QBYattackmen15]

haha hmm, i dont think im gonna say that, she would just think i was kidding. haha. but really, i dont know how to ask someone out wihtout syain the words.

[sabreace]

I was thinking ,more along the lines of somewhere near the end of a conversation, say "Hey, want to go to [such and such event] sometime this weekend?". The reason I wouldn't suggest "will you go out with me" right now is that you're obviously nervous- asking her out using more casual conversation will help keep you more comfortable, and not intimidate her so much if she doesn't feel the same way as you (seems pretty unlikely, though, from the signs she's giving).

Basically, ask her out in more casual conversation; the words 'Will you go out with me' have a connotation which implies wish of a relationship; if she doesn't want that, it could hurt your friendship, and you don't want that. So using more connotation-free words like "Wanna go to a movie sometimes?" would be in your best interest if it doesn't work out.

Heh. Nice idea, XxlacrossexX.

The reason she was surprised would be that he showed no visible signs of interest towards her- thus, she wasn't interested in him (it's pretty hard to stay infatuated with someone who doesn't notice you). You need to show some signs of an interest greater than friendship before you ask her out, is all that her rejection of him means.

[QBYattackmen15]

ok well see now i understand. im nto just gonna re explain what you mean because i get i now. What are some ways of shwoing that im nterested in having something greater then a friendship without being too obviou. see wiht all my toher gf's. they were just kinda meaningless, well not meaningless, ic ared about them but just not the way i do bout this specific girl.

[sabreace]

That I don't know how to explain.

I don't think you can do it without being too obvious though- you either are or you aren't. Your behavior will reflect that.

Other guys suggest things like being touchy, but I find that awkward (maybe not for you), so I don't do that.

[QBYattackmen15]

yeah i refrain form ebing touchy becaus eive tried that and i too think it causes awkwardness. you knwo what it was with my last girlfriend, a lot of like, long moments of eye contact. and if they look back at you and dont lose the stare/gaze, then you know they dont feel awkward with it. think thats a petty safe way to test it. cause if they stop looking then you can quickly look away your self. but the problem is, we have goggles on for the mountain.

[McC4rtn3y]

teasing her/ making fun of a girl in a joking way works wonders, but that might just be what works for me.

[laxr24]

How long have you guys had the same girlfriend before having serious relationship problems?

[QBYattackmen15]

umm i think her longest relationship was...i dunno, 4 or 5 months maybe. for me its prolly around their as well. ive had relation ships that have lasted less then a week while i have had relationships that have lasted months. and we have both gone out with the same person more the once before.

EDIT: sorry i thought that was a question for just me not everyone haha. but hey i still answered your question.

[QBYattackmen15]

teasing her/ making fun of a girl in a joking way works wonders, but that might just be what works for me.

haha yes that actually does work. in an actually surprising way.

[sabreace]

Umm...

I don't think less than a week really counts as a relationship...

[Midman03]

I like this girl in my school but i don't know if she likes me back. We are good friends and i don't want to ruin it by asking her out if she doesn't feel the same about me. What are some things that i can tell if she likes me or not?

[CtLaxin]

teasing her/ making fun of a girl in a joking way works wonders, but that might just be what works for me.

haha yea i do that to but be careful, its worked a bunch of times but theres some which did not work well at all

[veronalax33]

if anybody ever asked a girl out like champ kind did in anchorman with veronica, you're my hero.

[McC4rtn3y]

well, if a girl can't take a joke then she's going to kill me later on anyway, so it's no real loss.

[Beastlaxman12]

ok... its me again, this about the same girl. This girl i like and she likes me, we have hooked up but i don't know if i want a girlfriend but i really like just liek having fun and hanging out and flirting with this girl. she's real cool. and today she asked me, "what is us??" meaning like what are we friends or what? and im nto sure. I want to go out but i dont liek ahving a girl friend, does anyone have ideas??? i need to talk to her tomorrow so could you get back to this one quick??

[ColtsLax]

How long have you guys had the same girlfriend before having serious relationship problems?
Depends, do you have sex?

If no, id say between 4-6 months, If yes, then anywhere from 2 weeks after the first time to 6 months. If your having sex, and you're with her for the sex and that attitude is shared, then it can last a while.

If your not, then 4-6 months is about right, basically, your initial infatuation with the girl wears off unless there is a possibility of getting some.

[Live4It]

ok... its me again, this about the same girl. This girl i like and she likes me, we have hooked up but i don't know if i want a girlfriend but i really like just liek having fun and hanging out and flirting with this girl. she's real cool. and today she asked me, "what is us??" meaning like what are we friends or what? and im nto sure. I want to go out but i dont liek ahving a girl friend, does anyone have ideas??? i need to talk to her tomorrow so could you get back to this one quick??

We don't know what "yous" are, you do, and you said you don't want a girlfriend, that's your choice. So you need help/advice/ideas on what exactly?

[Beastlaxman12]

ok i might have things cleared up, the thing i was asking is if it s good idea or not, today i answered the questiona nd then we made out and then talked again and it we said that were not just like a small "fling" but we aren't dating, my question is if this is a good idea? like nto dating but just being basically friends with benefits but we liek eachother and i liek her a lot. so its more of the step below dating but above friends with benefits. so i was wondering about if thats a good idea?

[Live4It]

That's your choice, it's not something we can give you advice for, it's almost like telling you if you like a girl or not. The best I can give you is, to decide, if you have feelings for this girl or not, if you do, go out with her, if not, just be friends(friends as in friends), since I don't really think having 'friends with benefits' is a good idea when you're only 13, or at all in highschool. But all in all, it's 100% your choice.

[Beastlaxman12]

ok well thats good advice thanks bro btw do you jsut comment on like e ery girl problem in here?? are you like a therapist?? lol

[Rizzle]

Ok, there's a girl who I've known since like middle school. I always thought she was pretty cool, she's smart and really attractive. But recently, her and I had been texting quite a lot and talking in school more, even though we have only sorta been friends the past 4 years.

Anyways, this would all be good and well and I'd love spending more time with her, except one problem. She had a boyfriend, who was also a friend a of mine, who she was together with for a good 2 years on and off. However, last December he moved to VA and I figured they were pretty much cut off from eachother.

I hope this doesn't make me sound like a jerk, but I thought this was my chance to maybe start something with her, considering I kinda began liking her a few months back. But, she still really talks to her ex a lot, and I guess they aren't technically dating, but could still be "together" in a way (as together as you can be when you live 4 states from one another).

The problem is, she still talks to me and I to her, and we always have fun when were hanging places or wherever, and we have so many things in common, but I don't want to make a move at all for fear of what could happen. I'm not the kinda person who would do that if she still likes her ex in VA, but I'm afraid to ask what's really going on.

It's kinda confusing, and this is my last chance to go anywhere with someone I really like, because my lax team captains don't let kids try to get girlfriends during the season, but you are allowed to have one before it starts and into it. Kinda stupid rule, if you ask me.

What should I do? Should I ask her about it for fear of being rejected totally or something, or just wait it out and see what happens? Any more help from anyone who has experience in a situation like this would be much appreciated.

[cheesehead]

i'm pretty pathetic when it comes to girls :loser: . only very rarely do i start talking to a girl consistently and about the time i feel ready to ask her out she will discontinue our conversations. i just can't figure out what my problem is, people tell me i have an insanely deep voice but i don't think that's it . any ideas?

[CPLAX08]

Dude, have you thought that it might be the girl? Don't worry about the voice, quite frankly, I like deep voices in guys much better than high pitched ones. Most girls do.

Can you think of other things you might do around them that will make things end that way?

[Sir Mackel]

Ok, there's a girl who I've known since like middle school. I always thought she was pretty cool, she's smart and really attractive. But recently, her and I had been texting quite a lot and talking in school more, even though we have only sorta been friends the past 4 years.

Anyways, this would all be good and well and I'd love spending more time with her, except one problem. She had a boyfriend, who was also a friend a of mine, who she was together with for a good 2 years on and off. However, last December he moved to VA and I figured they were pretty much cut off from eachother.

I hope this doesn't make me sound like a jerk, but I thought this was my chance to maybe start something with her, considering I kinda began liking her a few months back. But, she still really talks to her ex a lot, and I guess they aren't technically dating, but could still be "together" in a way (as together as you can be when you live 4 states from one another).

The problem is, she still talks to me and I to her, and we always have fun when were hanging places or wherever, and we have so many things in common, but I don't want to make a move at all for fear of what could happen. I'm not the kinda person who would do that if she still likes her ex in VA, but I'm afraid to ask what's really going on.

It's kinda confusing, and this is my last chance to go anywhere with someone I really like, because my lax team captains don't let kids try to get girlfriends during the season, but you are allowed to have one before it starts and into it. Kinda stupid rule, if you ask me.

What should I do? Should I ask her about it for fear of being rejected totally or something, or just wait it out and see what happens? Any more help form anyone who has experience in a situation like this would be much appreciated.

The longer you wait the closer she will continue to get with her ex. Do what you gotta do.(As in ask her out.)

[CPLAX08]

Ask the girl out, otherwise time will run out, season will begin, you'll make up other excuses afterward, and the cycle will begin again.

Do it, do it, do it.

[cheesehead]

Dude, have you thought that it might be the girl? Don't worry about the voice, quite frankly, I like deep voices in guys much better than high pitched ones. Most girls do.

Can you think of other things you might do around them that will make things end that way?

if i knew i would fix it, but i don't. i don't act like an idiot so that can't be it. it might be because i'm pretty unemotional and quiet at school but other than that i have no idea

[Bretmac]

Ok, there's a girl who I've known since like middle school. I always thought she was pretty cool, she's smart and really attractive. But recently, her and I had been texting quite a lot and talking in school more, even though we have only sorta been friends the past 4 years.

Anyways, this would all be good and well and I'd love spending more time with her, except one problem. She had a boyfriend, who was also a friend a of mine, who she was together with for a good 2 years on and off. However, last December he moved to VA and I figured they were pretty much cut off from eachother.

I hope this doesn't make me sound like a jerk, but I thought this was my chance to maybe start something with her, considering I kinda began liking her a few months back. But, she still really talks to her ex a lot, and I guess they aren't technically dating, but could still be "together" in a way (as together as you can be when you live 4 states from one another).

The problem is, she still talks to me and I to her, and we always have fun when were hanging places or wherever, and we have so many things in common, but I don't want to make a move at all for fear of what could happen. I'm not the kinda person who would do that if she still likes her ex in VA, but I'm afraid to ask what's really going on.

It's kinda confusing, and this is my last chance to go anywhere with someone I really like, because my lax team captains don't let kids try to get girlfriends during the season, but you are allowed to have one before it starts and into it. Kinda stupid rule, if you ask me.

What should I do? Should I ask her about it for fear of being rejected totally or something, or just wait it out and see what happens? Any more help form anyone who has experience in a situation like this would be much appreciated.

ask her waht the deal is with _____ and just make it seem like it has nothing to do with you and her

[CPLAX08]

cheesehead:
Try showing more emotion when you talk to her.

I'm not saying like bawl over a sad movie, but try and be more enthused when y'all talk. She might be getting the impression that you're not really into her, since your emotions seem blank from her perspective. You know what I mean?

[cheesehead]

ok what about initinating conversation. i can't believe i'm asking people about this i'm a sophmore i should already know this crap :ahhno:

[Rizzle]

Well, today I was with my neighbor and we ran into the girl at the mall. Her ex was up visiting from VA though, and the two of them actually looked really happy together. Happier than I thought they'd still be after being so far from eachother. And, he's still kinda my friend and stuff, so I guess I'm wrong. I can't bring myself to bring the two of them apart like that. Just wouldn't feel right. I could deal with just being friends with her I guess, and keeping my other friend in the process. Sucks cuz I really thought I liked her, but whatever. Gotta start focusing on lacrosse season now anyways.

:sad:

[CPLAX08]

cheesehead:
What about it? Find out what she's interested in. If you see that you have something in common, weave it into a conversation, but do it nonchalantly, so she won't think that planned what you were gonna say. But you have to start will small talk (classes, etc..) because if you go right into something from complete silence, it seems weird.

Oh, no worries about asking (as you put it) 'about this crap'. We're here to help. No one knows everything about dealing with the opposite sex. If we did, man, it'd be a LOT easier on ALL of us.

[QBYattackmen15]

ok so im asking a girl out tomorrow over the phone because i dont see ehr much during lax season cause we both play and i only have one class with her evry 2 days and in that class alot of her frineds are their and i ont wnat to ask ehr in front of them and have pressure like that be put on her. but the thing is, i dont wnat to just call her and ask her out instantly. what are some ways to lead up to it instead of just blurting it out?

[Lettuce]

ok so im asking a girl out tomorrow over the phone because i dont see ehr much during lax season cause we both play and i only have one class with her evry 2 days and in that class alot of her frineds are their and i ont wnat to ask ehr in front of them and have pressure like that be put on her. but the thing is, i dont wnat to just call her and ask her out instantly. what are some ways to lead up to it instead of just blurting it out? "What are you doing tomorrow night?"

[FitzGoalie]

asking someone out is one thing that you really have to take charge of and not really let the other person get much say in the matter (have a place and time picked out already to avoid that annoying ironing-out-the-details talk).

confidence is the key, and you should not [expletive deleted] foot around it. and don't use the terms "date" or "go out with." just present the situation in manner that it's pretty obvious what you're getting at, but don't state anything outright. that's what the date itself is for.

So instead of:
"hey you want to go on a date with me? *wait for reply*"Where do you want to go?"*wait again*"What time is good for you?"*wait*"whould i pick you up or what?"...so on and so forth

Try:
"you like sushi? i like sushi. i want some sushi. let's get sushi. tomorrow. I'll pick you up at 8 o'clock. sound good? alright, see you then."

[Lettuce]

asking someone out is one thing that you really have to take charge of and not really let the other person get much say in the matter (have a place and time picked out already to avoid that annoying ironing-out-the-details talk).

confidence is the key, and you should not [expletive deleted] foot around it. and don't use the terms "date" or "go out with." just present the situation in manner that it's pretty obvious what you're getting at, but don't state anything outright. that's what the date itself is for.

So instead of:
"hey you want to go on a date with me? *wait for reply*"Where do you want to go?"*wait again*"What time is good for you?"*wait*"whould i pick you up or what?"...so on and so forth

Try:
"you like sushi? i like sushi. i want some sushi. let's get sushi. tomorrow. I'll pick you up at 8 o'clock. sound good? alright, see you then." Yeah. Don't second guess your self either, or think too much about it. Just close your eyes and do it.

[QBYattackmen15]

asking someone out is one thing that you really have to take charge of and not really let the other person get much say in the matter (have a place and time picked out already to avoid that annoying ironing-out-the-details talk).

confidence is the key, and you should not [expletive deleted] foot around it. and don't use the terms "date" or "go out with." just present the situation in manner that it's pretty obvious what you're getting at, but don't state anything outright. that's what the date itself is for.

So instead of:
"hey you want to go on a date with me? *wait for reply*"Where do you want to go?"*wait again*"What time is good for you?"*wait*"whould i pick you up or what?"...so on and so forth

Try:
"you like sushi? i like sushi. i want some sushi. let's get sushi. tomorrow. I'll pick you up at 8 o'clock. sound good? alright, see you then."

well i mean this is a good idea, but i mean she could stilltake this as a friendly thing just to go out and have some fun, not exactly making your point of actually wanting a relationship. Because me and this girl have gone out lots of times, ive been to her house just me and her shes been to mine. So just asking her on a date without actually saying "date" im not sure that would work.

[Lettuce]

Why don't you.. kiss her? Or are you going to ask permission first?

[hannahbanana4]

LET THEM WIN, IF U CAN EBAT THEM LET THEM WIN. but if u really do 'stink' than fairs' fair

[Rozlyn]

Depends on the type of girl.
But generally it shouldn't matter if you win or lose.

Most girls don't care, unless they're competitive && boyish.

[FitzGoalie]

well i mean this is a good idea, but i mean she could stilltake this as a friendly thing just to go out and have some fun, not exactly making your point of actually wanting a relationship. Because me and this girl have gone out lots of times, ive been to her house just me and her shes been to mine. So just asking her on a date without actually saying "date" im not sure that would work.

yes, but a brief conversation in a hallway or on the phone really isn't the place to reveal ones deepest feelings. but, if the woman accepts the initial invitation, regardless of their perception of why their going out, then the date itself really serves as the best forum for romantic advances, since it would most likely be a much more relaxed, personal environment.

[QBYattackmen15]

yeah me and this girl have had those talks. i literally knwo everything about her. Good, Bad, relationships, the list goes and. and pretty much same with her to me. Except maybe that im interested in her...i was supposed to ask her out today but i just didnt. i keep putting it off and id like to stop that haha. but really thats just getting a pair of balls. If i could take my lax confidence to my relationships, that would be nice haha.

[Lettuce]

Yeah we've all been there. Stop making excuses and do it. Call her now; if she's into you, she won't care.

[QBYattackmen15]

no im not ognna call her now haha...if i dont talk to her tomorrow, ill call her tomorrow. and if i dont do it tomorrow, thennnn, i dunno ahha. thats the problem, i have no reason not to put it off till later.

[Bretmac]

QB call her or i will put in my sig that qb is to scared to call a girl...jks

[Lettuce]

Yeah I wouldn't call her either. Just wait for some other, more assertive guy to snatch her up.

P.S. girls are attracted to confidence.

[Live4It]

no im not ognna call her now haha...if i dont talk to her tomorrow, ill call her tomorrow. and if i dont do it tomorrow, thennnn, i dunno ahha. thats the problem, i have no reason not to put it off till later.

Is this the same girl as last time????

And when you talk to her, make sure you don't say "haha" so much. :P

[QBYattackmen15]

Is this the same girl as last time????

And when you talk to her, make sure you don't say "haha" so much. :P

no this isnt the same. me and the other girl are really good friends now. this si a different one that ive known for alot longer.

ill be sure to do that. :chuckle: (in replacement of "haha")

and just to egt away from the embaressment that would be Bretmac putting that in his sig and the thought of what Lettuce said, ill do my best to ask her tomorrow. and tis not that im afraid to call her, im afraid to call her AND ask her out at the same time.

[Lettuce]

Don't get too worried about it. The worst that can happen is she'll be flattered.

[zak]

yeah me and this girl have had those talks. i literally knwo everything about her. Good, Bad, relationships, the list goes and. and pretty much same with her to me. Except maybe that im interested in her...i was supposed to ask her out today but i just didnt. i keep putting it off and id like to stop that haha. but really thats just getting a pair of balls. If i could take my lax confidence to my relationships, that would be nice haha.

Dude just hit 'er in the head with a brick. Works every time.

[Live4It]

no this isnt the same. me and the other girl are really good friends now. this si a different one that ive known for alot longer.

ill be sure to do that. :chuckle: (in replacement of "haha")

and just to egt away from the embaressment that would be Bretmac putting that in his sig and the thought of what Lettuce said, ill do my best to ask her tomorrow. and tis not that im afraid to call her, im afraid to call her AND ask her out at the same time.

You better go through with this, if you let this one get away like last time, then I will.....??? Well, you better reel this one in. No excuses.

[Bretmac]

glad to see my childish threat worked.... good luck buddy

[CPLAX08]

Just ask her out.

We don't bite, you know...

[yorklaxman]

Quick scenario here for you guys; So this girl I like after I sent her a math program HSe responded with "I love you, thanks", she also plays with her hair alot when I talk to her which is every day after 4 and 6 periods does she want to go out or just be friends the hair things what is absolutely killing me email dont help either

[Live4It]

There's a decent chance she may like you, give it a shot.

[yorklaxman]

No pretty much got shot down when I was about to make a move but we got a dance next month or month after next so I'll probably just bide my time unless its obvious
Pros?... Cons?

[Live4It]

Elucidate "pretty much got shot down".

[yorklaxman]

He friend had asked me earlier if "I like her", went and talked to her after before practice and she said it was all her friends idea but before her friend asked the question she wispered "ask"

[Live4It]

He friend had asked me earlier if "I like her", went and talked to her after before practice and she said it was all her friends idea but before her friend asked the question she wispered "ask"

I don't get how that means you got shot down? Are you saying that her friend asked you if you liked her(as in the girl you like), and when you talked to her(the girl you like), she said it was all her friends idea to ask you if you like her, yet you saw her tell her friend to ask? If I'm understanding you correctly that definitely does not mean you got shot down, maybe she got embarrassed or shy, so she said that as more or less an excuse, so I wouldn't consider it being shot down at all.

[yorklaxman]

its not what you say its how you say it

[Lacrosse4life31]

its not what you say its how you say it

yea because it's very hard to understand your non-coherrent typing. Use periods comma's, and correct words. I can barely understand what you are trying to say.

[yorklaxman]

its not what you say, its how you say it.
Say some one is yelling but if you say it in a normal tone it changes the meaning of the entire sentence.

[Lacrosse4life31]

oh. That helps lol.
umm.... so when she said "ask" she was saying in more of a non-polite tone? Like was she mad that you didn't ask her and just went to her friends?
I don't know, but if she whispered "ask...." it that sounds pretty sexy to me lol.

[yorklaxman]

Normal tone

[Live4It]

its not what you say, its how you say it.
Say some one is yelling but if you say it in a normal tone it changes the meaning of the entire sentence.

So she yelled "IT WAS ALL MY FRIEND'S IDEA!", at you?

I'm a bit confused, you said you pretty much got shot down, because of what she said, and I say it doesn't sound that way to me, then you said it was how she said it, yet you now say she said it a normal tone, I'm lost.

[yorklaxman]

no live4it read more

[Live4It]

I did, then you said, she said it in a normal tone, therefore it doesn't make sense to me why you consider it being shot down? Help me help you.

[yorklaxman]

A) she was quick to awnser
B) she was quick to blame it on her friend
C) she quick changed the subject

[Jackson Dewar]

yeh i did that a few times, im a goalie, and at school in gym class i let the girls score a few times. but the guys i play full contact and just waste em and save it :P but you shouldnt waste her keep it even, unless its guitar hero or some sort of FPS then smoke her.

[rubeo990]

A) she was quick to awnser
B) she was quick to blame it on her friend
C) she quick changed the subject

She was embarrassed. Which means she became shy. Which means she probably likes you.

[mdlaxman]

just start calling her babe all the time then ask her if she wants to go to the movies or to the mall. tell her you are loaded and want to take her out on the town. then walk around town with your arm around her. and when you see her in the hallway point your finger at her like a gun and make that noise where you wink and click with your cheek/teeth at the same time.

[slinkyspine]

just start calling her babe all the time then ask her if she wants to go to the movies or to the mall. tell her you are loaded and want to take her out on the town. then walk around town with your arm around her. and when you see her in the hallway point your finger at her like a gun and make that noise where you wink and click with your cheek/teeth at the same time.

Example of what not to do.

[mdlaxman]

also when you are in the movies with her make sure you remember to yawn and stretch then bring your arm down around her.

60% of the time, it works everytime.

[irishlax555]

the best one is clearly just to point over her shoulder and be like, oh is that joey, then just rest your arm around her

[yorklaxman]

just start calling her babe all the time then ask her if she wants to go to the movies or to the mall. tell her you are loaded and want to take her out on the town. then walk around town with your arm around her. and when you see her in the hallway point your finger at her like a gun and make that noise where you wink and click with your cheek/teeth at the same time.
I'm not a pimp I'll get demolished for that stuff

[livin4lax09]

haha that sounds EXACTLY like the advice my friend who's never gotten any girls would give.

[Live4It]

I'm not a pimp I'll get demolished for that stuff

Most people would, and don't worry, I guarantee you that it never works for the person who posted it either, hell, if he thinks that that works, then I guarantee nothing works for him.

[mdlaxman]

it totally works man. and the stretch, arm around the shoulder in the movies thing works too just because it is so cheesy that it has become cool again haha

its all confidence though. girls dig confidence. girls hang out with guys who are huge jerks because they have confidence. you dont have to be a jerk but you do need the confidence part.

[Live4It]

it totally works man. and the stretch, arm around the shoulder in the movies thing works too just because it is so cheesy that it has become cool again haha

its all confidence though. girls dig confidence. girls hang out with guys who are huge jerks because they have confidence. you dont have to be a jerk but you do need the confidence part.

Trust me, I know how this stuff works, and there's a difference between confidence and arrogance.

when you see her in the hallway point your finger at her like a gun and make that noise where you wink and click with your cheek/teeth at the same time.
First of all, this part is just incredibly stupid, if I saw someone do that to try to get or impress a girl, without just joking around by doing it, I would immediately think loser. Maybe if you were like in middle school, or if you were one of those guys(losers) who stands in a bar/club and waits for the girls to walk by, and say things as they pass.

[mdlaxman]

haha i meant for him to do it just joking around. nobody does any of the stuff i said seriously. but watch hes going to try my technique and end up with the cutest girl in school

[Live4It]

haha i meant for him to do it just joking around. nobody does any of the stuff i said seriously. but watch hes going to try my technique and end up with the cutest girl in school

That's different, if you do it jokingly to your friends it's fine, like girls that you're friends with. I've done it before, either joking or being sarcastic. But I can pull off the clicky-wink, but sometimes the finger point is just too stupid.

[cheesehead]

alright, heres the situation (trust me this will sound pretty stupid but bear with me). so theres this girl that lives down the street from me, pretty hot, interested in playing lacrosse but her mom wouldn't let her, and apparently whenever she comes over to baby sit my brother she asks about me. problem is i almost never see her so i don't know how to get in contact with her so any suggestions? :worship:

[<<RANGER>>]

Throw a lax ball through her front window....:agree:

[navylax161]

introduce yourself to her when she babysits your bro. then work from there.

[cheesehead]

introduce yourself to her when she babysits your bro. then work from there.

problem is if im there when he needs babysitting i'm the one watching him though

[<<RANGER>>]

Do you see her at school?

[cheesehead]

nope :banghead:

[<<RANGER>>]

But she lives just down the street....

[cheesehead]

never see her dude, and i think it would be kinda wierd if i just sorta showed up at her house, plus when it comes to this stuff i kinda lack testicular fortitude

[<<RANGER>>]

You could get your little bro to say somethin like "my brother thinks your pretty". I don't know how old your brother is, but If he's younger (like mine), then this might work; at least to let her know you're interested.

[DJ Death]

yeah, and coming out of a kid's mouth, it's either simply adorable or simply shows you don't have the cojones to tell her yourself. it could go either way. don't ask me what'll make it one way or the other, cuz i have no idea. good luck, though.

[cheesehead]

ok, idea. i'm goin to this notre dame vs. denver game in april. so i guess i could ask her to go, never see her so i might have to leave a note at her house but that usually comes off a little desperate

[<<RANGER>>]

Dude just call her

[cheesehead]

i'm dumb i don't have it dude

[canadianlaxer19]

yo cheesehead listen to my idea,...
next time she is coming to baby sit your bro, come home a bit early. say your plans fell through or someone cancelled on you. then when you get home be like "sorry, i thought i was going to be out for a couple more hours." and she will probably not know what to do really because she has no plans for the night and was banking on making some money and just being at your place looking after your brother. if she tries to leave be like "why are you leaving, don't you want to stay .. my parents are still going to pay you obviously!" or whatever and then just like chill and talk to her , i don't know what to do about your bro. maybe once he goes to bed say something a little bold? just an idea

[<<RANGER>>]

i'm dumb i don't have it dude

Phonebook maybe?

She babysits for your family so its bound to be somewhere, you just need to find it.

[canadianlaxer19]

Phonebook maybe?

She babysits for your family so its bound to be somewhere, you just need to find it.

Yeah, cheesehead doesn't seem to be too motivated. You obviously know her and her parents names, you know what street she lives on, there's only one "Cheesehead's Bitty - 69 Cheesehead lane" in there dude just look it up

[cheesehead]

so u dont think she would find it little wierd

[canadianlaxer19]

so u dont think she would find it little wierd

if you find her number, call her and invite her to play/watch lax because you remembered she was wanting to play or get involved with it or whatever it was. if you do the coming home thing, it could be weird if you make it weird. you just gotta play it like its coincidence and not a big deal, I guess. if she starts to play along or flirt or whatever then just say something like "so my brother told me you say a lot of stuff about me?" it will put her on the spot and the answer might be legit. I don't know, I would try it if I was in your spot.

[Live4It]

Alright cheesehad, if you've never really talked to a girl before(a specific girl), it would be a little weird to straight up call her, not to mention awkward. So hows the babysitting situation usually work? How old is your brother? When does he go to bed? Basically, does she pretty much chill for a while at your house while your brother's in bed?

Here's the best thing I came up with, I'm pretty much making it up as I go. Now this is something a little different, but it would be perfect for you guys to talk and to get to know each other. This would probably be better if you have/had a brief conversation with her at one time or another before hand. Find a night when you know she will be babysitting late, and have plans that so that you will be home early, early enough that she is still there, but late enough so your brother's in bed, but make sure she'll be there for a couple hours after you get there. So here's my idea, on your way home stop at a movie place, and grab a couple movies, and when you get home she'll presumably be just chilling and watching TV. So say to her something like, "hey, I grabbed a couple movies on my way home, do you wanna stick around and watch them with me?" To me it sounds like a good idea, I like it. Usually I would say something like just talk to her, like be home before your parents so you can talk to her a little bit before she leaves. Which you could do sometimes as well, actually it may be a good idea to do that once before the movie thing, but it wouldn't matter.

[cheesehead]

the only time she babysits is if im on a hunting trip or something and wont be back until the next day so i doubt this will work out. in other news theres this girl in a couple of my classes that just gave me her number so i think thats good. thx for your help anyway

[laxxx101]

did you make the babysitter up?

[cheesehead]

no, but it was wierd because as soon as i gave up on her, this other girl gave me her number :thinking:

[canadianlaxer19]

how do you pick between girls if there is more than one that like you?

[Live4It]

When more than one girl likes you, usually you pick the one you like the most.

[laxxx101]

you dont pick you get with all of them.

[RaiderDBiscuit]

Thats what we call THE JACKPOT

[Live4It]

Thats what we call THE JACKPOT

What would be a reason for my girlfriend being "unsure" about making out with me? I mean we kiss like all the time. Do you think its a trust thing?

H E L P:/

I guess in her eyes 'making out' is a big step up from 'kissing', she's just not ready to take that step yet. I don't think it's much of a 'trust' thing.

[RaiderDBiscuit]

Thanks I was just a lil confuzzled

[FitzGoalie]

alright,m i never thought i'd have to post my own situation on here, but here goes:

so there's this girl in my english class who goes to a different school, my school's main rival in fact. earlier this year, we had this playful flirtation thing going on in class, on facebook, etc. and we seemed to definitely have a raport. I was very careful about it though, and was cautious to act. however, i analyzed everything and realized that there was pretty much no way she DIDN'T like me. so on the day i plan on asking her out, i found out not only does she have a boyfriend, but he's a player on the lacrosse team (our rivals). oh well, so sad, life goes on.

last friday, we beat their team in a thrilling overtime game. Now remember that this chick's boyfriend is a lacrosse player for that team. however, he is currently in a different country for a while, which may or may not be relavent. on monday, she comes into class and says to me "Congratulations! I came to the game and rooted for you! you were awesome!...Do you have a girlfriend?"
i replied "no" and she gave that satisfied "i know something" kind of look that girls do sometime.

so.....WTF??

is she just a tease or is she honestly expecting something? if she does, is it acceptable to fool around while her boyfriend is out of the country? will i get beaten up by the entire lacrosse team at this rival school?

[canadianlaxer19]

break them up dude

edit: live4it, you're right.

I meant it like, if she seems interested in you, her boyfriend MAY not be satisfying her or something. She is seeking something more than her relationship possibly, and if you got to know her better and talked to her, she might tell you she isn't happy. I just said it because I've done it in the past with great success. If girls show interest in me, it is usually for a legit reason. My first ever gf did the same kind of thing that this girl is doing to you... found out she had a boyfriend and i was like no way she was too outright with me , like flirting with me to obviously and she told some of my friends who are guys that she thinks im hot and she wants me or something. her boyfriend went to the rival school in my area who has historically had a better lax team than our school so i didnt know what to think. i started talking to her, saw her at lunch a couple times and just chatted with her because she was obviously interested, turned out her boyfriend was some weirdo. she ended up breaking up with him and going out with me for a while. so yeah i guess i jumped the gun by saying "break them up dude" but you could probably start something with her if you just talk to her more and see what her relationship is like.

[RaiderDBiscuit]

She might be teasing, or they might have broken up before he left. If they r broken up then hells yea go for it but I dont know about fooling around with her if they are still going out. People watch. And talk. And I HATE that "I-know-something-that-you-dont-know-and-Im-going-to-leave-you-guessing" look. idk this is a confusing one.

Trust me Id never thought Id ask either. But theres good advice in here.

Im going to be thinking about this one myself. Who comes and ask if you have a girlfriend STRAIGHT UP? Ive never seen that before.

[Live4It]

alright,m i never thought i'd have to post my own situation on here, but here goes:

so there's this girl in my english class who goes to a different school, my school's main rival in fact. earlier this year, we had this playful flirtation thing going on in class, on facebook, etc. and we seemed to definitely have a raport. I was very careful about it though, and was cautious to act. however, i analyzed everything and realized that there was pretty much no way she DIDN'T like me. so on the day i plan on asking her out, i found out not only does she have a boyfriend, but he's a player on the lacrosse team (our rivals). oh well, so sad, life goes on.

last friday, we beat their team in a thrilling overtime game. Now remember that this chick's boyfriend is a lacrosse player for that team. however, he is currently in a different country for a while, which may or may not be relavent. on monday, she comes into class and says to me "Congratulations! I came to the game and rooted for you! you were awesome!...Do you have a girlfriend?"
i replied "no" and she gave that satisfied "i know something" kind of look that girls do sometime.

so.....WTF??

is she just a tease or is she honestly expecting something? if she does, is it acceptable to fool around while her boyfriend is out of the country? will i get beaten up by the entire lacrosse team at this rival school?

I may have misread something, but if she goes to a different school, how is she in your English Class?

And if this guy was your friend, it would be 100% unacceptable, now, I'm not saying it's acceptable since he's not your friend, because it's still not really acceptable, but it's better than if he was your friend. But still, if she really liked you, and doesn't like him, she would leave him for you. So be careful not to over step your boundaries.

And "break them up dude", is not good advice, if she really wants you, things will work themselves out, you interfering to break them up isn't a good idea.

[FitzGoalie]

I may have misread something, but if she goes to a different school, how is she in your English Class?

And if this guy was your friend, it would be 100% unacceptable, now, I'm not saying it's acceptable since he's not your friend, because it's still not really acceptable, but it's better than if he was your friend. But still, if she really liked you, and doesn't like him, she would leave him for you. So be careful not to over step your boundaries.

And "break them up dude", is not good advice.

theres a seperate, dual-enrollment high school in our county where kids go to take AP classes and vocational classes, while still being enrolled in "home schools"


and i don't really know the guy at all, and he's never really done anything against me personally, so i would feel kind of bad taking his girl (this is assuming that she actually likes me, and isn't just being a tease.) However, a girl that i'm pretty good friends with also happens to have a crush on this guy, which is a weird twist.

also, there is VERY bad blood between our lacrosse teams. as in, almost every time we play, there's usually a fight that happens afterwards at a party. this is a very old, very deep rivalry. and considering we just beat them for the first time in two years, and i had a large part in that victory (2 shutout quarters, 3 OT saves, 20 saves total) i'm sure there are players on that team that are just waiting to kick my, or any other players butt. now, i'm a tough guy, but i'd really like to avoid physical conflict if at all possible.


*EDIT* also the other day in the middle of class she randomly says: "I really want someone to invite me to [My School]'s prom..."

[RaiderDBiscuit]

I see what you mean about the bitter rivalry. But your team would back you up right? If anybody tried to TOUCH my goalie there would be an