Girl Problem Megathread!

[shadowelite84]

my girlfriend might have a tumor...

[ML_LAX09]

my girlfriend might have a tumor...


That's sad, I'm sorry.

[navylax161]

Okay, but how do I know when to go in for the move? and the otherday we were hanging with my friend and she first started flirting with me than ended up getting really close to my other friend..im worried, what should I do? Should I tell my friend to back off? what should I do with her?
is she a girl who flirts with a lot of guys? if she is, dont make a big deal out of it. was your friend flirting back, or was it just one way? if he was, talk it out with him and explain that you like her.

once youre pretty sure she likes you, thats the green light to go in for the move. dont bring it up at an odd time, but as long as she likes you, it wont matter too much when you go in.

[GuitarnLax36]

my girlfriend might have a tumor...

Im sorry man that really stinks I hope that she doesn't

[Topcorners]

is she a girl who flirts with a lot of guys? if she is, dont make a big deal out of it. was your friend flirting back, or was it just one way? if he was, talk it out with him and explain that you like her.

once youre pretty sure she likes you, thats the green light to go in for the move. dont bring it up at an odd time, but as long as she likes you, it wont matter too much when you go in.

No she isnt usually the one who flirts with alot of guys, and my best friend already knew I liked her.

[Stringer4Lax]

Wow, "test driving" you? If she is saying that about you and then says you're "too good friends" that does suck. By "test driving" did she just kind of use you for a bit, cause that's what it sounds like.

No she didnt use me. It wasnt test driving it, but thats the ebst way to describe it. we were good friends and i liked her more than she liked me i guess...

[Stringer4Lax]

hey stringer you still have a chance if she wants to be friends than that means she likes you. You can definatley win her over.
I pmed you

Thanks man, i just kinda feel like junk. cant believe her friend would say that.

[navylax161]

Thanks man, i just kinda feel like junk. cant believe her friend would say that.

what did her friend say? i thought she told you

my girlfriend might have a tumor...

im so sorry dude. i wish her and you the best.

[Stringer4Lax]

what did her friend say? i thought she told you





Her friend tells me she doesnt like me. She is not really her friend tho. Also happens her friend is my ex. Still ticks me off and i dont know what to believe.

[Stringer4Lax]

Well guess what people, the girls friend is lying. What do ya know.


EDIT- Yay, nevermind i am screwed :( The girl was in fact lying and knew nothing, but she just wants to be friends....I feel like junk.

[dpc1192]

Like this girl but she's this kid I knows ex.

He's not like my best friend ever but I don't want to be a jerk, oh and they dated for a pretty long time.

Me and her just started chillin but we get along super well and have alottt of chemistry.

[navylax161]

^ask him if its cool to ask her out.

[dpc1192]

yeah she kinda treats me like a boyfriend already

like she'll come and chill with me and my buddy instead of going to parties hahaha

[smalbikpro]

never thought i'd find myself posting in here, but there's a first for everything i suppose. background, and sorry for the novel.

a girl moved in a few houses down about 2 1/2 years ago, i liked her, but fell into the friends zone, and over about 2 years between the end of freshman year and the middle of junior year she became my best friend. so in the spring of junior year when lacrosse started i didn't have as much time to hang out with her so we drifted apart a bit and she got with some grimey boyfriend that just made her depressed all the time. so about midway through the season she was out of school for 2 weeks, we talked occassionally but i was never allowed over to visit (important later on). so she comes back to school on thursday and everything is fine and dandy, then friday i skipped lunch to do some work in the library and it was a pretty normal day. so the following monday my friend wasnt on the bus or in lunch so i figured she was sick again, but then my friend says to me later "can you believe she actually moved?" and i had no idea what he was talking about. but it turned out she had moved back to ny to live with her mom (parents are divorced) without telling me or saying a single word to me, but told everyone else. so as you can imagine i was devastated, and all that week everybody was all what happened to your friend? which didn't exactly make me feel any better as i had no idea myself. so then later in the same week one of her other friends tells me that the reason she was absent for the 2 weeks earlier was that she had tried to kill herself so her dad had to stay home to watch her 24/7 and she only came to school those 2 days to get her transfer papers and whatnot.

so fast foward to now, she hasn't spoken a word to me since she left, and its slowly tearing me up inside not having any closure on the situation. last summer she went home (to ny) to visit for several weeks, and im hoping she still may visit here, but im thinking thats less likely now. i've thought about her everyday since she's left, and just the past couple days its gotten worse. so i was thinking about giving her a call or emailing her or something, but A. im not sure if she even wants to talk to me seeing how she left. and B. it would probably be the most akward/terrible conversation of my life.

any advice on what i could say or how i could get back in touch? not your typical girl problem post eh?

[hometownlax18]

you got it and i want to get back to hooking up with her again but like it seems kinda like she's lost some interest in being intimate but i know i still have a chance if i play this right. only thing is i'm not sure how i should play it...

ya thats a tough spot b.c if you back off talking to her and stuff like you don't want to be as good of friends then she most likely will also think you don't wanna hook up anymore...i don't really know what to tell you here?

[cheesehead]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I HATE THAT "YOUVED WALKED INTO MY HEART AS A FRIEND" LINE!!!!!

[Live4It]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I HATE THE FRIEND ZONE!!!!!!!!

Wanna elaborate? Cause I'm guessing something didn't work out.

[cheesehead]

let's just say i went from "i'm so happy you're my boyfriend" to "you're such a good friend" pretty damned fast :banghead: :DOH: :chair: :sad: :hot: :angry: :angry:

[smarterhug]

any advice on what i could say or how i could get back in touch? not your typical girl problem post eh?
This is DEFINITELY not your typical girl problem. I'm a girl, so maybe I can help a little bit.

Forget about her. I know it's hard...EXTREMELY hard because you were such good friends, but it has to be done. After trying to do something like committing suicide without even confessing an inkling of your problems to your "best friend", I hate to say it, but she must be dealing with some psychological problems that are far too serious for you to help her with. In other words, she's too far gone. And you're right. It WOULD be an awkward conversation, especially if she didn't take the initiative to call you to talk about her move, her problems, and her life. As sad as it sounds, she's not the same friend you had before.

And if you think about it another way, she already got a boyfriend in the middle of your friendship, so she must not feel that way about you. I would try to find some sense of closure within yourself and move on. If she chooses to talk to you later and to open up about some of her personal life, then it's okay to listen (and I'm sure she would really appreciate your support), but don't take it further than friendship. And if you doubt that piece of advice, think about it this way: if your girlfriend doesn't value her life, then how can you expect that she even values your relationship?

It sucks, I've been in similar (NOT the same) situations, but I can kind of relate. It's all about moving on, kiddo.

[smalbikpro]

It WOULD be an awkward conversation, especially if she didn't take the initiative to call you to talk about her move, her problems, and her life. As sad as it sounds, she's not the same friend you had before.
I would try to find some sense of closure within yourself and move on. If she chooses to talk to you later and to open up about some of her personal life, then it's okay to listen (and I'm sure she would really appreciate your support), but don't take it further than friendship.

your absolutley right she isn't the same person, i think the closure i need is to just know that she's doing okay, i definitley wouldn't be trying to re-ignite our old friendship. i'd like to think i've moved on a bit, its just tough when everything reminds me of her. and i'd also like to think that if our paths ever did cross further down the road i'd be able to have a conversation with her or hang out or something. i really appreciate your help, this just isn't something i can talk with any of my other friends about.

[Run-DMC]

let's just say i went from "i'm so happy you're my boyfriend" to "you're such a good friend" pretty damned fast :banghead: :DOH: :chair: :sad: :hot: :angry: :angry:

Hey dude, I know your frustrated, but sometimes girls just need their space. And I'm sorry that it didn't work out, but there are many other girls out there that are available, and just because one moved away isn't the end of the world. It's an oppurtunity to meet some new people! I doubt she is the only person in the world who wanted to date you :P

[Run-DMC]

my girlfriend might have a tumor...

Be there for her, she'll be in my prayers.

[cheesehead]

Hey dude, I know your frustrated, but sometimes girls just need their space. And I'm sorry that it didn't work out, but there are many other girls out there that are available, and just because one moved away isn't the end of the world. It's an oppurtunity to meet some new people! I doubt she is the only person in the world who wanted to date you :P
your right, but the thing is i'm not that great at meeting new people. the only thing i can think is when me and a friend were playing wallball at the tennis courts he told me that this one girl kept checkin me out. and they were wearing lacrosse shirts too so they must be worth talkin to :yumyum:.

[Live4It]

your right, but the thing is i'm not that great at meeting new people. the only thing i can think is when me and a friend were playing wallball at the tennis courts he told me that this one girl kept checkin me out. and they were wearing lacrosse shirts too so they must be worth talkin to :yumyum:.

It sounds to me like you had a perfect set up, a conversation was practically started for you. I mean come on, if you see a girl you may like, and you think she's interested in you, and she's wearing or doing something that shares your interest(aka an instant conversation starter), those are the oppurtonities you've gotta jump on,(figuratively of course), especially when you are trying to meet new girls.

[cheesehead]

i would have but this happened before i got dumped. these things only happen when you're taken. they used to be there pretty much every night, haven't seen them since i 've been freed. another good example:my family pretty much runs the whole clothing order thing for lacrosse. so like 3 days after i started going out with my girlfriend (now ex obviously) the entire pom team at my school shows up to pick up their orders and they were all hitting on me and i was like :OMG:, why did you guys wait until now to come? i think girls have a sixth sense that can detect guys that are taken and tells them to go flirt.

[smarterhug]

your absolutley right she isn't the same person, i think the closure i need is to just know that she's doing okay, i definitley wouldn't be trying to re-ignite our old friendship. i'd like to think i've moved on a bit, its just tough when everything reminds me of her. and i'd also like to think that if our paths ever did cross further down the road i'd be able to have a conversation with her or hang out or something. i really appreciate your help, this just isn't something i can talk with any of my other friends about.

I think you're doing just great. :-) It's a a very tough thing to deal with, especially something for a high schooler, and it'll definitely take time to heal. But you seem to be taking it with a good sense of maturity. Your ability to talk to her in the future will be based off of that, and I feel as though you won't have any problems with it if it comes up later.
Just some more helpful advice from a college student to a high schooler: Friends will come and go, but it's the people that you continue to keep in contact with, even after you go to college, who will really be the one's that you can call "true friends". I might just be preaching to the choir, but I know that I didn't believe it as a high schooler. I thought my group of friends would be "2gether 4ever" and I was extremely wrong. Only now am I starting to see a thin outline of who my good friends really are, and it'll only get clearer as college goes on. :DOH:

[smarterhug]

I'd just like to say...this thread is hilarious, adorable, and ridiculously entertaining at the same time. Ohhh guy problems. :-P

[Show'emTheNumba]

Seems like you want the ultimate, hooking up with a girl but not having the attachment of a girlfriend. Although I cant give you advice on this, I wish you luck.

[Run-DMC]

i would have but this happened before i got dumped. these things only happen when you're taken. they used to be there pretty much every night, haven't seen them since i 've been freed. another good example:my family pretty much runs the whole clothing order thing for lacrosse. so like 3 days after i started going out with my girlfriend (now ex obviously) the entire pom team at my school shows up to pick up their orders and they were all hitting on me and i was like :OMG:, why did you guys wait until now to come? i think girls have a sixth sense that can detect guys that are taken and tells them to go flirt.

It may seem that girls only want you when your taken, but the truth is that you can still get them when your not taken. Does this make sense? I'm really trying to help out :]

[cheesehead]

It may seem that girls only want you when your taken, but the truth is that you can still get them when your not taken. Does this make sense? I'm really trying to help out :]
yeah it makes sense, it's probably all in my headlike the voices nobody else hears

[HCLax40]

how often do highschool relationships end up working out anyway?

[Run-DMC]

My parents met in high school and I'm sure many others did as well, so I would say it's still a low percentage but some do go all the way.

@Cheesehead: Thats the right idea my man!

[Stringer4Lax]

Well, i have bounced back rather well.

Theres this one girl, quite attractive, that REALLY likes me.
Her friends are even calling me telling me that.

Just thought i would share how well i've bounced back.
PS i totally gave up on that other girl.

[DJ Death]

oh crap...2 girls, both very good-looking, both very interested in me, both jailbait...this sucks...

[mullengoal141]

DJ.... if they are jailbait.... um... just dont... it could be both immature and bad for you in so many other ways... buckshot to the tail light is never the best way to leave her parents house the first time...

[DJ Death]

yeah, i know, i never for a second thought about going there, but just the fact that i have this situation in front of me just plain sucks.

[mullengoal141]

hmmm... whats the difference in ages? and is it socially reasonable?

[DJ Death]

i'm almost 19 and one is 17 and the other is 16. doesn't matter, though, i'm not going there.

[smalbikpro]

I think you're doing just great. :-) It's a a very tough thing to deal with, especially something for a high schooler, and it'll definitely take time to heal. But you seem to be taking it with a good sense of maturity. Your ability to talk to her in the future will be based off of that, and I feel as though you won't have any problems with it if it comes up later.
Just some more helpful advice from a college student to a high schooler: Friends will come and go, but it's the people that you continue to keep in contact with, even after you go to college, who will really be the one's that you can call "true friends". I might just be preaching to the choir, but I know that I didn't believe it as a high schooler. I thought my group of friends would be "2gether 4ever" and I was extremely wrong. Only now am I starting to see a thin outline of who my good friends really are, and it'll only get clearer as college goes on. :DOH:

i sent her an email last night, i'll let you guys know how everything works out.

[IHSLAX4]

Well if you think she wants it too, why not try hooking up with her? If she says no then that answers your question. lol I think its pretty straight forward.

[valax3]

any help with this is appreciated, ive been talking to this girl for a little while, and shes a really cool girl. she just broke up with a guy shes been dating for over a year, so i know shes not yet ready for a relationship, she's told me that. in a few weeks, a lady friend of mine who lives 1000 miles away will be around for 2-3 days. this girl is absolutely stunning. it's definitely possible that something could happen during those 2-3 days. i'm a little worried this could possibly ruin my chances with the local girl, but i don't really know how she could find out

[LaX 4 LiF3]

ok. this chick liked me a while ago and now that were in the same school (hs) i like her more than i did last yr. how do i tell her i like her without physically going up to her and besides a freind telling her any options? i may just go for the freind type deal just to see if she still likes me (probably)

[mullengoal141]

ok. this chick liked me a while ago and now that were in the same school (hs) i like her more than i did last yr. how do i tell her i like her without physically going up to her and besides a freind telling her any options? i may just go for the freind type deal just to see if she still likes me (probably)

thers more to telling a girl you like her than just coming out and saying it. you need to maybe not go the friend route, i say just hang out in her group, especially if thats part of your group of friends, you dont need to be romeo here spilling your love out for her haha.

all you need to do is hang out with her inthe same group, if you are funny or have some even remotely redeemiong trait she'll probably notice you and it can go from there...

like i said telling someone you like them is not necessary, a certain look, smile, or the correct words can do wonders

[LaX 4 LiF3]

how would i go about telling a girl that i like her without telling her in person? i dont want to text or anything. like get a friend tell her, online (facebook) what? ooo and she liked me and seems like she still does

[Run-DMC]

I got a good one that I got my girlfriend with. You bring up a conversation about who she likes, and when she asks you who you like...you describe her and she figures out it's her. Girls think it's sweet..lol. It worked for me.

[murphlax]

how would i go about telling a girl that i like her without telling her in person? i dont want to text or anything. like get a friend tell her, online (facebook) what? ooo and she liked me and seems like she still does

Don't do it unless it's in person. For real. Especially not via facebook. Facebook is not the place for serious conversations. If you say it in person, she'll know you're serious. I know it's tough to muster up the courage, but overall that's the only way to do it.

[Run-DMC]

Don't do it unless it's person. For real. Especially not via facebook. Facebook is not the place for serious conversations. If you say it in person, she'll know you're serious. I know it's tough to muster up the courage, but overall that's the only way to do it.

I dont think he is concerned on doing it, it's the HOW to do it which is the problem. And I admit, it's a hard thing to do.

Live4it always has good advice...why do we always need him when he isnt here? lol

[Live4It]

ok. this chick liked me a while ago and now that were in the same school (hs) i like her more than i did last yr. how do i tell her i like her without physically going up to her and besides a freind telling her any options? i may just go for the freind type deal just to see if she still likes me (probably)

Ok, a few things:
A: I before E except after C.
B: Never ask a girl out if you're afraid to even talk to her or go up to her.
C: Never ask a girl out online or through any type of text.
D: Never have a friend talk to a girl for you.

Those are the main things, but you're lacking confidence. If you ask a girl out in anyway besides person to person, it probably means you lack confidence, and you're probably not comfortable enough around this girl to talk to her. Now, how would it work out with a girl you're not comfortable around? And if you ask her out online or through a friend, it will be harder to gain that comfort, because things will be awkward.So unless you're going to build up enough courage to talk to her, don't bother, because it would rarely work out......but I really do suggest you do try, think about this, and actually answer this question: Tell me why you don't want to go up to this girl?

PS: I really like RUNDMC's thing....of course, you would have to actually talk to the girl before you could use it....and remember the question and tell me why.

[Run-DMC]

Toldja he's brilliant. Strike up a conversation (like live4it said) about something that she is interested in orthat you are interested in. It's almost impossible to have NOTHING in common.

[DJ Death]

and it doesn't have to be something that both of you are interested in. you can talk about anything. me, personally, i like to make fun of girls. works for me, but don't take it too seriously or they'll get offended. for example, i saw this cutey chillin by the beach standing on a log and i walked up to her and asked her if she was trying to get taller, and then i said it wasn't working. she told me to shut up, but she had this huge grin on her face, and that's how we started a conversation. it's easy. just have some confidence and don't seem awkward and you'll be fine.

[Live4It]

You guys are right. The only thing is, I don't know what his problem is exactly, whether it's he doesn't know how to talk to her, or if he's afraid.
If it's because you're afraid....don't be, so you go up and talk to her, more than likely she's not going to run away, or attack you, so what's the worst that could happen? Once you get that initial conversation in, the next time it'll be easier, and even easier the time after that. If it's you don't know how....It's easy, but the advice I'd give you is don't plan, don't think about what you're gonna say or how you're gonna say it ahead of time, you'll over think it, you'll be more nervous, and if you have planned what you want to say you're more likely to mess it up. So initially, try to start a spur of the moment conversation, about something going on at that very moment, or something that you notice about her, or something she's doing, or something that happened recently. Sometimes life will drop one right in your lap and just set you up with an easy one, plus if you're in a class together it's loaded with opportunities. Also the stuff that DJ said is good too. Spur of the moment conversations like that are much easier, and generally less awkward, since they aren't random in the sense of like walking up and saying "What kind of music do you like?". And then after you start one of these conversations, you can throw in the "Oh, by the way I'm____" at the end, if she doesn't know your name already. Just be confident.

[Run-DMC]

and it doesn't have to be something that both of you are interested in. you can talk about anything. me, personally, i like to make fun of girls. works for me, but don't take it too seriously or they'll get offended. for example, i saw this cutey chillin by the beach standing on a log and i walked up to her and asked her if she was trying to get taller, and then i said it wasn't working. she told me to shut up, but she had this huge grin on her face, and that's how we started a conversation. it's easy. just have some confidence and don't seem awkward and you'll be fine.

Dude! You a mean flirter too!? My girlfriend still gives me crap for being one!

[killman3680]

and it doesn't have to be something that both of you are interested in. you can talk about anything. me, personally, i like to make fun of girls. works for me, but don't take it too seriously or they'll get offended. for example, i saw this cutey chillin by the beach standing on a log and i walked up to her and asked her if she was trying to get taller, and then i said it wasn't working. she told me to shut up, but she had this huge grin on her face, and that's how we started a conversation. it's easy. just have some confidence and don't seem awkward and you'll be fine.

I do this too. Making her laugh at herself is actually fairly easy.
As Live4it said, don't tell her straight up you like her. It hardly ever works.

Instead, hang out with her in a comfortable, relaxed setting, maybe amongst friends. Just joke around with her, maybe flirt a little bit. Have confidence, and even if you don't know what you're doing, act like you do.

Really, just be yourself and you'll be fine. Girls hate guys who try too hard to impress them, or act like something they're not.

[bonebrakr12]

do what you did last time you hooked up with he, should work again

[LaxMaxVince]

so i have a problem. ive been going out with a girl at my school for a little bit over a year, and im feeling like its time to call it quits. im not that interested in her anymore as a gf, and i have been flirting and looking at other girls often. however, i think shes still pretty interested in me, and we're good friends, so if we were to break up, some friendships might be lost in the process.

i really miss being single, hanging out with my other friends, and the overall freedom that goes along with it, but my gf is a very sensitive girl, and i dont want to break her heart. i know i should wait a while longer to see if i continue to feel the same, but if i do feel the same, what should i do about our relationship?

[Live4It]

so i have a problem. ive been going out with a girl at my school for a little bit over a year, and im feeling like its time to call it quits. im not that interested in her anymore as a gf, and i have been flirting and looking at other girls often. however, i think shes still pretty interested in me, and we're good friends, so if we were to break up, some friendships might be lost in the process.

i really miss being single, hanging out with my other friends, and the overall freedom that goes along with it, but my gf is a very sensitive girl, and i dont want to break her heart. i know i should wait a while longer to see if i continue to feel the same, but if i do feel the same, what should i do about our relationship?
It's not fair to her if you stay with her, even though you don't feel the same way about her that she feels about you. And that's exactly what I would tell her.
If you do break up with her, help her through it, like you said she's sensitive, so don't just break up with her and leave, maybe talk to her for a while, and make sure she'll be alright.

But make sure you try to stay friends with her, even if it takes some time.

[tomtom]

It's not fair to her if you stay with her, even though you don't feel the same way about her that she feels about you. And that's exactly what I would tell her.
If you do break up with her, help her through it, like you said she's sensitive, so don't just break up with her and leave, maybe talk to her for a while, and make sure she'll be alright.

But make sure you try to stay friends with her, even if it takes some time.

On the flip side, realistically ask yourself what you're getting out of it. I've been in your spot twice- once I went with Live4it's route. It went as well as could be expected, and we started talking again about 6 months after the breakup. We still don't really talk too much though.

The second time, it was slightly different, as the relationship had been "dead" for a while before she broke it off. Not sure if that experience will help you.

But what I'm getting at, is to remember that you only want what you can't have. The other girls you're flirting with will always seem much better than they are simply because theyre off limits. Ask yourself- are you really bored with your girlfriend, and finding that she isn't who you thought she was or has changed, or are you simply tired of a boring relationship? My guess is that it's the latter. That's what it was for me.

Instead of immediately breaking things off, see if theres a way to "jump start" your relationship, so to speak. If you go to the same places or types of places for dates most of the time, try a new spot. If you have friends that are dating, a double date might make things interesting. If you're articulate and coy, try dropping hints that you're looking to try something new with her. You're now past the intial phase of a relationship where everything is necessarily new and exciting, now you have to put in effort if you want it to work.

Lastly, I noticed you mentioned you missed being single and hanging out with friends. If she isn't giving you enough time for other friends, speak up and let her know. Tell her they are important to her and you feel you've been neglecting them too much lately, and you want to spend some more time with them. This in itself might be exactly what you'll need as a "jump start"- enough time away from her could remind you why you're wioth her to begin with.

Before you do anything, just ask yourself-

Why did I start dating her?
Have the reasons stated in answer #1 changed?
Has anything in particular prompted me to consider ending things?

The answers there will help. Good luck.

[Live4It]

On the flip side, realistically ask yourself what you're getting out of it. I've been in your spot twice- once I went with Live4it's route. It went as well as could be expected, and we started talking again about 6 months after the breakup. We still don't really talk too much though.

The second time, it was slightly different, as the relationship had been "dead" for a while before she broke it off. Not sure if that experience will help you.

But what I'm getting at, is to remember that you only want what you can't have. The other girls you're flirting with will always seem much better than they are simply because theyre off limits. Ask yourself- are you really bored with your girlfriend, and finding that she isn't who you thought she was or has changed, or are you simply tired of a boring relationship? My guess is that it's the latter. That's what it was for me.

Instead of immediately breaking things off, see if theres a way to "jump start" your relationship, so to speak. If you go to the same places or types of places for dates most of the time, try a new spot. If you have friends that are dating, a double date might make things interesting. If you're articulate and coy, try dropping hints that you're looking to try something new with her. You're now past the intial phase of a relationship where everything is necessarily new and exciting, now you have to put in effort if you want it to work.

Lastly, I noticed you mentioned you missed being single and hanging out with friends. If she isn't giving you enough time for other friends, speak up and let her know. Tell her they are important to her and you feel you've been neglecting them too much lately, and you want to spend some more time with them. This in itself might be exactly what you'll need as a "jump start"- enough time away from her could remind you why you're wioth her to begin with.

Before you do anything, just ask yourself-

Why did I start dating her?
Have the reasons stated in answer #1 changed?
Has anything in particular prompted me to consider ending things?

The answers there will help. Good luck.
This is good advice.
He mentioned he was going to give it time to see if it would work first, my advice was more for if he decided to break up with her.
But definitely give it a shot. The only thing I would add, is if after some time of trying, you still feel nothing for this girl, don't wait too much longer, because if you do there's a chance she will become closer to you, and it will make it harder for her, and possibly for you. Now don't get me wrong, I do think you should really try to make this work, just don't take too long.

[wallabear]

i hate the friend zone.

gotten burned by it way too much

[laxmaniac101]

i hate the friend zone.

gotten burned by it way too much

preaching to the choir.

[Run-DMC]

i hate the friend zone.

gotten burned by it way too much

Also known as "The Zone of Death" and "The Danger Zone"

[cheesehead]

i hate the friend zone.

gotten burned by it way too much
i know the feeling dude, i've heard at least 5 variations of the "i love you as a friend" line. oh well, that's why men invented bricks

[GrimsleyLax00]

i need some help with a girl......well duh but i just wanted to say that.

i have liked her since christmas and she has liked me off and on since then but weve never gone out. i wud consider myself as a someone who sucks at talking to girls but when i talk to her it feels as easy as talking to one of my guy friends. i really dont wanna loose her and my best friend (her ex) is trying to get her to go out with me but it doesnt seem to be working. any help? thanks guys

if you want to know about her-- shawn johnson, alicia sacramone, angelina jolie together along with an amazing personality

[Run-DMC]

If it feels really easy talking to her, continuing do it, and maybe ask her to a movie sometime. Maybe you don't need your friend to help you out because you find it so easy to talk to her. She probably wants you to do the talking and make the moves, not your friend. Girls love it when you take the reins (sp?) and initiate conversation and such. She probably doesnt feel comfortable when her ex is trying to get her to go out with another guy.

[Attackalltheway]

I have this problem. Theres this girl that i used to have a thing with until this thing came up preventing me from liking her anymore. and now this girl is having a hard time moving on from me. ive tried to tell her that im not worth her time and im being as gentle as i can with the situation but no matter what i say she won't get over me. How will i get her to move on?

[laxr24]

What do you all do on dates? Besides the usual dinner and a movie, what else is there?

[Attackalltheway]

What do you all do on dates? Besides the usual dinner and a movie, what else is there?

Have her over, go to her house, mall etc...

[hometownlax18]

ok so not so much as a problem as a question:
most of you that our in highschool have a homecoming dance, i already know who I'm asking and she pretty much knows I'm asking her but I pride myself on doing really creative/stupid stuff to ask her and i really don't have any ideas right now...so any thoughts??

[cheesehead]

ok so not so much as a problem as a question:
most of you that our in highschool have a homecoming dance, i already know who I'm asking and she pretty much knows I'm asking her but I pride myself on doing really creative/stupid stuff to ask her and i really don't have any ideas right now...so any thoughts??
write it on a brick, i think you can figure out the rest

[murderlax]

What do you all do on dates? Besides the usual dinner and a movie, what else is there?

i sounds lame, but i just like hanging out with the girl. laying around and just talking/cuddling is the of the best things to do on a date. go to the beach(if you arent landlocked) and set up a blanket and maybe a picnic and just sit around a talk. get a bonfire going and snuggle to "stay warm".
or take her somewhere fun. try a novelty store, or costume store and just goof around. that is bound to get laughs going and fun times started.
if all else fails, take her to a puppy store.

ok so not so much as a problem as a question:
most of you that our in highschool have a homecoming dance, i already know who I'm asking and she pretty much knows I'm asking her but I pride myself on doing really creative/stupid stuff to ask her and i really don't have any ideas right now...so any thoughts??

chances are the answers you will get will come from those who have used/seen them done. not so original i think. try thinking of something that will get her to say something along the lines of "thats so cute!", "how in the world did you...", etc.
try to make it outlandish and something you have never seen before. alot of things have already been done, i.e writing on their car, the note in the locker, yada yada ya.
if it comes down to it, just find out her schedule and in a class where you dont have her, talk to that teacher and ask permission and tell her what will go down. then go in and surprise her with flowers. simple yet effective.

[Live4It]

What do you all do on dates? Besides the usual dinner and a movie, what else is there?

Just hang out. Sometimes those are the best dates. I think murderlax summed it up pretty well.

[GrimsleyLax00]

If it feels really easy talking to her, continuing do it, and maybe ask her to a movie sometime. Maybe you don't need your friend to help you out because you find it so easy to talk to her. She probably wants you to do the talking and make the moves, not your friend. Girls love it when you take the reins (sp?) and initiate conversation and such. She probably doesnt feel comfortable when her ex is trying to get her to go out with another guy.

but she doesnt really talk to me and when she does its on aim. btw im in eigth and shes a freshman and almost 2 years older than me. but anyway we used to talk at least 2 hrs on the phone every night in the spring and once we talked for 4 hours(thats a big deal with me cuz i suck with girls).

[Live4It]

I don't see what your problem is? You can easily talk to this girl, you like her, you think she likes you....so what exactly is holding you back? If you find a girl like that, you've gotta cease the opportunity. And don't have your friend try to get her to go with you, just ask her out yourself.

[GrimsleyLax00]

I don't see what your problem is? You can easily talk to this girl, you like her, you think she likes you....so what exactly is holding you back? If you find a girl like that, you've gotta cease the opportunity. And don't have your friend try to get her to go with you, just ask her out yourself.

but right now i dont think she likes me and we havent hung out in forever. do you think that changes anything?

[laxmaniac101]

Then you should hang out with her and try to gauge how she feels

[aviator]

I'm back!

but not how you would expect.

So me and this girl have been togethr 6months. Everythig is perfect and we are great together. We spent alot of time together this summer, but now that schools started and fall lax will be too, we wont have as much time to hang out. What can we do thats fun and memorable when we do?

Additional details:
-I'm 16 but I dont have my liscense yet
-my parents are....crazy. and rarely let anyone come over, if she were to come to my house it would just be the typical make food/watch movie/fool around
-her parents are a little worried of always finding us in bed together, so I wanna be like out and about
-I got money to burn haha
-so i wanna find some fun places to go besides a resturant or a movie. or just fun stuff to do around the house

[GrimsleyLax00]

Then you should hang out with her and try to gauge how she feels

she doesnt have school yet and i do so were trying to hang out when she doesnt have school and after mine is over and every time i ask either she lies about having plans, has plans, or doesnt have anythiung but ends up having sumthing at the last minute

[golden showers]

so, i got this chicks number.
her friends gave it to me.
idk what she looks like but apparently she's not ugly or anything.
we've sent texts and she sounds pretty cool.
should i meet up with her?
but like, where?
edit:ya i wanna take a gamble, at least her friends are decent looking.

[DJ Death]

that's mad shady. i wouldn't trust anything but my own eyes if people tell me that this girl is not ugly or anything. personally, i think it's a great opportunity to pull a crank yankers gig, but i'm guessing that's not what you're aiming for. i say get a look at her first before you commit to anything.

[leelax14]

Ok I have had some real girl problems in the past few weeks. So theres this girl, i met her at a volunteering session a couple months back. She noticed me because i was wearing a lax camp shirt. So she started to talk to me and she said that she would talk to me on facebook. She did that and we talked for a good long period of time. I liked her then, and I flirted with her all the time but i had a doubt in my mind that I didnt like her (which I dont). She invited me to her friends party, and I met some new people. A couple days later a couple of girls i met there started to talk to me on facebook and stuff. But one girl that i met I thought had everything I was looking for in a girl. She was smart, pretty, and had a good peresonality. We texted a lot, and I felt that their was a connection between us. We got into more serious matters consisting of past relationships and what we wanted to do in the future. So i told one of my friends that I liked her and so im pretty sure he told her. She texted me a day later saying that she found out about liking her, she said that she wasnt mad but felt terrible about the girl i was flirting with at first (which was a close friend of hers). The first girl i met (the one that invited me to the party) found out about me liking her friend. I herd that she cried over me not liking her, so i apoligized and we are now on good terms. Back to the girl that i like, she hasnt talked to me since she found out i liked her. I dont really know what to do. Ive tried to talk to her but she hasnt responded, i know it was a bad move on my part but its in the past and im trying to move forward. Im afraid i moved to quickly (which isnt the first time ive done that) and i think she sees me as a loser. What should i do? Not talk to her and move on or try and talk to her and be friends or something?

[lids369]

once i acted like i didnt like a girl that knew i liked her, so the girl thought that it was just a rumor and forgot about it,

[golden showers]

that's mad shady. i wouldn't trust anything but my own eyes if people tell me that this girl is not ugly or anything. personally, i think it's a great opportunity to pull a crank yankers gig, but i'm guessing that's not what you're aiming for. i say get a look at her first before you commit to anything.

i guess i'll try to pull a crank yankers gig w.e that means.
advice?

[GuitarnLax36]

Ok I have had some real girl problems in the past few weeks. So theres this girl, i met her at a volunteering session a couple months back. She noticed me because i was wearing a lax camp shirt. So she started to talk to me and she said that she would talk to me on facebook. She did that and we talked for a good long period of time. I liked her then, and I flirted with her all the time but i had a doubt in my mind that I didnt like her (which I dont). She invited me to her friends party, and I met some new people. A couple days later a couple of girls i met there started to talk to me on facebook and stuff. But one girl that i met I thought had everything I was looking for in a girl. She was smart, pretty, and had a good peresonality. We texted a lot, and I felt that their was a connection between us. We got into more serious matters consisting of past relationships and what we wanted to do in the future. So i told one of my friends that I liked her and so im pretty sure he told her. She texted me a day later saying that she found out about liking her, she said that she wasnt mad but felt terrible about the girl i was flirting with at first (which was a close friend of hers). The first girl i met (the one that invited me to the party) found out about me liking her friend. I herd that she cried over me not liking her, so i apoligized and we are now on good terms. Back to the girl that i like, she hasnt talked to me since she found out i liked her. I dont really know what to do. Ive tried to talk to her but she hasnt responded, i know it was a bad move on my part but its in the past and im trying to move forward. Im afraid i moved to quickly (which isnt the first time ive done that) and i think she sees me as a loser. What should i do? Not talk to her and move on or try and talk to her and be friends or something?


oh no so you fell into the whole I like you now its akward phase. I would just call her up and try to talk to her as a start bro

[literacola]

I met a girl at school last year, we hung out a couple of times over the summer. We've flirted some, she has more than a taken girl should, in my opinion. Well I find myself starting to like her a little more. At a party a little while ago we hang out, dance (if you call it that), and she walked me back to my room, as I was unable to do so myself. I thank her, she says "no problem, you'll just have to take care of me next time. But, she has a bf thats on the other side of the country. Word from a friend is that their relationship is really rocky, one minute she hates him, the next she loves him. So I don't know what to really do. I want to be there for her and stuff, but I don't want to be put in the "friend zone".

[rgriego]

Help??????? theres a girl that i really like.not sure if she likes me and idk if she really likes me back or if she's being a tease. then theres another girl, we're pretty good friends and shes pretty cool to be with. i 'm so confused. any good advice for me?

[DJ Death]

i guess i'll try to pull a crank yankers gig w.e that means.
advice?
you've never seen crank yankers? on comedy central? well, it's basically a show about prank phone calls, but since you edited your post saying how you guys text each other, it's not gonna work anyway.

um, i still say try and get a look at her first before you commit to anything. you have absolutely nothing to base a relationship off of at this point, so you need to lay eyes on her and talk to her and see where you stand with her.

[Bruno.]

Always a friend, Im always girls really good friends, but not someone they go out with. Is there any escape from this eternal damnation, if so what should I do. What am I doing wrong that puts me here in the first place.

[Lettuce]

Always a friend, Im always girls really good friends, but not someone they go out with. Is there any escape from this eternal damnation, if so what should I do. What am I doing wrong that puts me here in the first place. Quit being a wimp. Start being a man. Quit listening to girls' problems. Start being a man.

Be assertive. Be confident. Smell good. Have good posture. Learn how to hold yourself when you walk.

Quit being a wimp.


Help??????? theres a girl that i really like.not sure if she likes me and idk if she really likes me back or if she's being a tease. then theres another girl, we're pretty good friends and shes pretty cool to be with. i 'm so confused. any good advice for me?
Yeah. Say this:

"Hey. Want to go out some time?"
"Okay, cool."

And then when you go out, kiss her. If she kisses you back you're golden. If she doesn't... you're not.

[rgriego]

alright. i hope i don't look like fool, thanks

[aviator]

I'm back!

but not how you would expect.

So me and this girl have been togethr 6months. Everythig is perfect and we are great together. We spent alot of time together this summer, but now that schools started and fall lax will be too, we wont have as much time to hang out. What can we do thats fun and memorable when we do?

Additional details:
-I'm 16 but I dont have my liscense yet
-my parents are....crazy. and rarely let anyone come over, if she were to come to my house it would just be the typical make food/watch movie/fool around
-her parents are a little worried of always finding us in bed together, so I wanna be like out and about
-I got money to burn haha
-so i wanna find some fun places to go besides a resturant or a movie. or just fun stuff to do around the house

question still stands

[Run-DMC]

Go-Karts if she's adventurous.
Laser Tag.
(The whole amusement park theme).
A lake if it's close.
Rent some ATVs or Jetskis (if your close to any).

I'm still thinking..

[aviator]

Go carts would be alright
theres a decent laser tag place
we went to the lake the other day
no atv places

keep thinking :)

[Run-DMC]

Dude I'm working on it...is there a mall close?

[aviator]

haha

yeah, sorta close

[Run-DMC]

haha

yeah, sorta close

Chicks dig the mall. I used to go and goof off with my girlfriend. We had a good time. I'm still thinking about it, whilst I work endlessly on homework.

[aviator]

haha I'm "working on homework" too

but yeah, the mall is getting overdone.. we've been there alot ha

back to the homework, i'll figure this out laterr

[goalie30]

girls want domination so just be a man and get it done. they want you to be mean and act hard to get they want a challenge

[literacola]

I met a girl at school last year, we hung out a couple of times over the summer. We've flirted some, she has more than a taken girl should, in my opinion. Well I find myself starting to like her a little more. At a party a little while ago we hang out, dance (if you call it that), and she walked me back to my room, as I was unable to do so myself. I thank her, she says "no problem, you'll just have to take care of me next time. But, she has a bf thats on the other side of the country. Word from a friend is that their relationship is really rocky, one minute she hates him, the next she loves him. So I don't know what to really do. I want to be there for her and stuff, but I don't want to be put in the "friend zone".

UPDATE: saw her at a friends apartment last weekend, we talked and hung out together for the majority of the time i was there. her boyfriend called and she went outside to talk to him. came in a few minutes later and her friend asked her how it went. she said that she "pretty much wouldn't have a boyfriend tomorrow". well we went back to our rooms after a hug, and ive seen her just a couple of times since then. well i found out today that she has broken up with her boyfriend. Now I know this is a tricky time right now, so my plans are to be there for her as a friend and take it slow, but let her know subtly that i dig her. any other suggestions? and i plan to see her in a few days at a friends place.

[cord13]

mods: for some reason i cant access the regular megathread, and it seems about full to the brim. would it be possible to make a continuation of the original? if not, im sorry for wasting your time.


theres this girl that i really like and i tried asking her to " hang out" ( i never really asked her out as a date, but she understood what was going on) she always made excuses and eventually said that she want to just be friends.(although she told me that it usually took a lot of consideration before she decided that she didnt want to "hang out") so i was talking to a friend of hers the other day and she said " i told her that she should give it a shot, but she seemed unsure", and she seems to really like me as a friend. so ive been thinking i should give it one last shot and ask her to homecoming. what do you guys think?

[brineman9]

butter her up with compliment all the time. then ask her.

[GrimsleyLax00]

i really like this girl and she sorta likes me. enough to say yes if i asked her out. ive never asked a girl out beforeso can anyone give me tip and ways to do it?

[golden showers]

how do i ask a girl for her number?
or should i just give her mine?
what do you guys say so you don't sound completely retarded?

[Kr3wLaxUno]

whatever you do dont do this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4D0555EtAZ4

[hometownlax18]

mods: for some reason i cant access the regular megathread, and it seems about full to the brim. would it be possible to make a continuation of the original? if not, im sorry for wasting your time.


theres this girl that i really like and i tried asking her to " hang out" ( i never really asked her out as a date, but she understood what was going on) she always made excuses and eventually said that she want to just be friends.(although she told me that it usually took a lot of consideration before she decided that she didnt want to "hang out") so i was talking to a friend of hers the other day and she said " i told her that she should give it a shot, but she seemed unsure", and she seems to really like me as a friend. so ive been thinking i should give it one last shot and ask her to homecoming. what do you guys think?


if she is unsure if she likes you or just wants to be friends then homecoming could be your big chance, unless she really doesn't like you at all or she wants to go with someone else, just be creative and she will most likely say yes... you can google it for all kinds of cool ideas but what i did was (my girls bedroom window is over her driveway) so i went and got 50 luminary bags and candles and arranged them to say hc and worked it out with her friend to make her look out the window when i texted her....she loved it but anything creative/funny/origanal will work

[killman3680]

Go carts would be alright
theres a decent laser tag place
we went to the lake the other day
no atv places

keep thinking :)

- Go Tubing. Most mountains have tubing runs. It's fun, relitively cheap, and you get to play in the snow too.

- Go to a Concert. In the past week I've gone to Jack Johnson and Oasis with my girlfriend. Its been pretty expensive, but completely worth it. Make sure its a band she loves though.

- Go for a Walk in a big park, or on a hike in the woods.

These are fun dates I've recently been on.

[cord13]

if she is unsure if she likes you or just wants to be friends then homecoming could be your big chance, unless she really doesn't like you at all or she wants to go with someone else, just be creative and she will most likely say yes... you can google it for all kinds of cool ideas but what i did was (my girls bedroom window is over her driveway) so i went and got 50 luminary bags and candles and arranged them to say hc and worked it out with her friend to make her look out the window when i texted her....she loved it but anything creative/funny/origanal will work


well thats what i thought was going on, so i kind of avoided her. and when she caught on to that, she texted me wanting to know why i was avoiding her. I told her that i didnt want to make her uncomfortable, and she said that that wasnt it at all. whenever sees me, she always seems happy to see me.

[navylax161]

how do i ask a girl for her number?
or should i just give her mine?
what do you guys say so you don't sound completely retarded?

baby girl, can i gitcha digits? (10)

[BLUEJAYSFAN9]

haha...

So first time in here, but i like this girl..but i barely know her haha...so how should i get a conversation going? not sure if she likes me, but i have known her for like 1 month..hahaha. Shes only in like one of my classes...Help please.

[Spartanlax47]

how do i ask a girl for her number?
or should i just give her mine?
what do you guys say so you don't sound completely retarded?

i lost my phone number, can i have yours?

[navylax161]

haha...

So first time in here, but i like this girl..but i barely know her haha...so how should i get a conversation going? not sure if she likes me, but i have known her for like 1 month..hahaha. Shes only in like one of my classes...Help please.

is she a friend of a friend? have your friend make an introduction, and they stay there to help keep the conversation going. once youre on your feet, you should be able to talk to her easier.

otherwise, just read the posts in this thread on starting conversation.

[BLUEJAYSFAN9]

Nahhh, She isnt really a friend of a friend. Its a private school, so people come from all over. But shes in like my math class. I could sit next to her, but it would be quite awkward..Some good conversation starters??

[navylax161]

Nahhh, She isnt really a friend of a friend. Its a private school, so people come from all over. But shes in like my math class. I could sit next to her, but it would be quite awkward..Some good conversation starters??

talk about your math teacher

talk about the math

talk about another class in school

talk about school

throw some jokes in there, and lead to other topics.

i dont think it would be that awkward if you sit next to her. i mean maybe if youre the only two in the class and you go right next to her.

[BLUEJAYSFAN9]

hahah alright man, thanks. That would be awkward.

[cheesehead]

anyone know how to get rid of the "deer in the headlights" feeling?

[GrimsleyLax00]

i like a girl (lets call her girl 1) now i was talking to her friend(does girl 2 sound good?). i asked if she thinks i have a chance with girl 1. she said that she has moved on. i have tried to move on from girl 1 but i cant. one time, i tried liking another girl(3?). it made my friendship stronger with 3 but she found out and it ruined it all. now im....lets say between a rock and i hard place. i dont know what to do. cna anyone help?

[cverlie.2]

Well i've made up my mind, i'm going to ask this girl out tomorrow, but how should i do it? any ideas? I just dont want to screw up. or sound awkward.

[Run-DMC]

anyone know how to get rid of the "deer in the headlights" feeling?

Getting hit by the car, usually.

[yorklaxman]

alright proplem time again, alright so i have this girl that i like(obviously), we talk and are pretty good friends we text each other like crazy. i cant tell if she likes me or not because we just talk about kind of random stuff. she is preety flirty in general(not whoreish). but i dont want to mess up our friendship b/c i like her. i think just wait until homecoming and ask her to go as friends. help me either with new plan or advice.

[cverlie.2]

Well i've made up my mind, i'm going to ask this girl out tomorrow, but how should i do it? any ideas? I just dont want to screw up. or sound awkward.

Sorry for the double, but i need to know before tomorrow!

[veronalax1219]

try playing like you would against your friends, but dont smoke her too bad,

[Run-DMC]

Sorry for the double, but i need to know before tomorrow!

Part 1: The text messages

You: "What number is your locker?"
Her: Blah 1232 Blah..Why?
You: I have something to ask you. See you then.

Part 2: In person
You: Hey
Her: Hey
You: So I was going to ask you a question..would you like to go out sometime?
Her: OMG YES WHY DIDNT YOU ASK EARLIER

(Tee hee hope that helps bro)

[cverlie.2]

Part 1: The text messages

You: "What number is your locker?"
Her: Blah 1232 Blah..Why?
You: I have something to ask you. See you then.

Part 2: In person
You: Hey
Her: Hey
You: So I was going to ask you a question..would you like to go out sometime?
Her: OMG YES WHY DIDNT YOU ASK EARLIER

(Tee hee hope that helps bro)

That does...kinda the first part is null because her locker is next to mine. I go to a very small private school, so all the 10th grades lockers are next to each other anyway.

[Run-DMC]

Oh okay. Well I guess you could just ask to meet at her locker after school?

[cverlie.2]

Oh okay. Well I guess you could just ask to meet at her locker after school?

I should state another problem, this girl is kinda stalking me and the girl...always following us and stuff...I have no idea if it is going to be an issue or not.

[Run-DMC]

Hmm. Stalker...Restraining order maybe? I'm thinking meeting in some place that you are FOR SURE the girl wont be there.

[cverlie.2]

Hmm. Stalker...Restraining order maybe? I'm thinking meeting in some place that you are FOR SURE the girl wont be there.

Good idea, i have no idea where though. Hopefully she just leaves for like 30 seconds.

[GrimsleyLax00]

i like a girl (lets call her girl 1) now i was talking to her friend(does girl 2 sound good?). i asked if she thinks i have a chance with girl 1. she said that she has moved on. i have tried to move on from girl 1 but i cant. one time, i tried liking another girl(3?). it made my friendship stronger with 3 but she found out and it ruined it all. now im....lets say between a rock and i hard place. i dont know what to do. cna anyone help?

PROBLEM STILL STANDS. i need to know before tomorrow

[Sir Kevin]

alright proplem time again, alright so i have this girl that i like(obviously), we talk and are pretty good friends we text each other like crazy. i cant tell if she likes me or not because we just talk about kind of random stuff. she is preety flirty in general(not whoreish). but i dont want to mess up our friendship b/c i like her. i think just wait until homecoming and ask her to go as friends. help me either with new plan or advice.

I am in the same exact situation. Literally, same exact situation.

Any help would be delicious.

[cverlie.2]

I asked and everything went great, thanks guys.

[Run-DMC]

Welcome dude. Best wishes for you and the woman :)

[brineman9]

uh ha im not good at talking to girls i dont know. i always find ways to make them talk to me. (not like force but mabe i did something they liked or though was cool without me noticing them.) now highschool is a different story. its harder to get girls to notice you like i used to do. any advice.

[Run-DMC]

Girls will notice you for what you do naturally, so don't do anything that is forced. Maybe a funny comment or a gesture will get them to notice you. The deal is getting them to notice you in the right way for doing the right things (i.e. picking up someones books when they drop or just being a funny kid). Don't be the tool that craves attention from girls. Let them do all the work, my man, and they will flock to you.

[brineman9]

dude. you made my day. ha dang i miss an oppertunity this morning.

[Run-DMC]

Dude, your welcome lol.

[brineman9]

yeah. i start pen wars in class with some pens. and i "miss" and hit a cute girl and raise my eye brows at her. pretty tricky eh

[Run-DMC]

Hmmm I like that..good work. lol

[navylax161]

yeah. i start pen wars in class with some pens. and i "miss" and hit a cute girl and raise my eye brows at her. pretty tricky eh

your teacher might not be thrilled by the pen war idea, but your call, haha. its a good idea.

[brineman9]

my teacher is oblivious to what we do. we have these open discusions where we say things the relate do the word on the board and he will wright them down. people say some intresting word and phrases

[akalata]

Argh, problem for me. I am a senior in high school, which is all guys. So I don't get to talk to girls during the day. I am also a big kid (fat, if you like) and i try and put myself out there, but all the girls I have dated ( a grand total of two) have said im an amazing guy and one cheated on me, and the other had a boyfriend. Soooo my run of luck with girls hasn't really been the best lately. Can i get some lengthy advice? I just need some type of motivation. It just sucks cause if this has happened to any of you, it makes you feel worthless and not good enough. So it sucks horribly.

[Rizzle]

Ugh, problem.


I am talking (if you can call it that, more like gently arguing, even though I do not want to) with a girl who I previously had a lengthy relationship with. I wanna say 7-8 months. Anyways, I started liking her again, but she says she is different and has moved on. My friends and I agree though that she was a much more likeable person the way she used to be, when I was dating her.

She and some dumb friends of hers try hanging out with upperclassmen these days and are basically being attention whores. However, I know that is not who my ex is on the inside.

She is convinced she is different in a good way, but I believe differently. How can I prove to her that she was loved not only by me, but by all our friends when she was the person she used to be? She refuses to believe me and just curses me out now when I say I just miss being happy and having things the way they were. But what made me happy was when we were together and she was happy. Seeing her smile was what kept me going.

So what can I do to convince her she can still be that different girl that I was madly in love with? Man, I wish I could just go back in time and take back what I did, I'd die to still be with her.

Any help is appreciated. (Live4it, this is your cue!)

[Tedster33]

What do do when people are talking about your girlfriend, also when her friends are weird/embarrasing to bee seen with as heck

[cverlie.2]

I wouldnt call this a problem but i need ideas. So this girl i am going out with (same as the one i've been asking about) and I were going to the lake tomorrow, but lo and behold me ride flaked out, so we are stuck missing each other. I need ideas of other places to go, movies is a possibility.
Ideas?

[falconslax10]

i dont know what my problem is ....im awful with girls im afraid of rejection..because it sucks. girls just dont like me but everyone says im a nice guy and people from other schools are like yeah i bet u get all the girls and i say haha yeah...right. i was told it was because im not confident enough in middle school.


hogh school started this year and i decided to start with a clean slate and be confident but not cocky and its not working i mean one girl led me on so i asked her to homecoming and she said let me think about it ill call you tommorow...that was two weeks ago! and now shes dating my friend. which makes things super akward. home coming is two weeks away and i really wnat to go but not without a girl. im kindof stuck between a rock and a hard place because i want a girlfriend really bad but girls dont like me. please help me im a despereate case

[navylax161]

sounds like youre doing things right falconslax. just give it time and let it sink in, it wont happen in two weeks.

[hometownlax18]

i dont know what my problem is ....im awful with girls im afraid of rejection..because it sucks. girls just dont like me but everyone says im a nice guy and people from other schools are like yeah i bet u get all the girls and i say haha yeah...right. i was told it was because im not confident enough in middle school.


hogh school started this year and i decided to start with a clean slate and be confident but not cocky and its not working i mean one girl led me on so i asked her to homecoming and she said let me think about it ill call you tommorow...that was two weeks ago! and now shes dating my friend. which makes things super akward. home coming is two weeks away and i really wnat to go but not without a girl. im kindof stuck between a rock and a hard place because i want a girlfriend really bad but girls dont like me. please help me im a despereate case

Sounds like you almost might be trying too hard, you can't just go out n sit there and expect girls to approach you but at the same time you can't be desperate, its a hard thing to balance...also if I can warn you as great as the concept of a girlfriend might seem to you, its really not a big deal in high school especially freshmen year, if the right girl comes along you'll know it but don't try to force it because you'll most likely end up with a series of bad relationships and a lot of regrets....also don't let not having a date to homecoming stop you from going, get a group of guys together that are all flying solo and go as you group, having a date is way overrated especially if you want to dance with lots of people instead of just one;)

I wouldnt call this a problem but i need ideas. So this girl i am going out with (same as the one i've been asking about) and I were going to the lake tomorrow, but lo and behold me ride flaked out, so we are stuck missing each other. I need ideas of other places to go, movies is a possibility.
Ideas?

Is it just your ride that flake or the ride you where sharing because if it was just your ride you could just ask her if she could bring you (I'm assuming you live close)...if that doesn't work out go to a park, hangout at you house just be creative...avoid the movies if possible, I mean c'mon its fall, its nice out, enjoy it while you can

[BluejayBlitz9]

This is my first post in this thread. I havent had much experience with a gf. I am 16. I have kissed girls and stuff, but not in a while. I am not going to hook up with someone just for the sake of it or action. I want to find a girl I really care for before I mess around.

I went into town last night after work with my co-worker and I met some other kids from school. I was hanging with this girl who I just met, as she goes to another hs in my district. She totally blew me away. Shes tall, georgeous, as down to earth as it gets, super outgoing, and honestly she just mesmorized me. I know I only met her that night, but I honestly just have never met anyone who interested me so much. She is not one of those girls who tan so much they become "orange" and have a stuck up attitude. Shes just diffrent.

The group I was with is chilling this weekend, and I was wondering how I could stand out again . She was talking to me mostly out of the guys, and we hugged like 20 times randomly. The only problem is that I think she is way way way out of my league. I know its really odd since I barely know her, but I have a wierd feeling. Thanks guys, I really appreciate how I am the oldest so I dont have an older bro to talk to. Plus, all my cousins like 3 hrs away. Thanks. Basically, what I am asking is, How can I play it cool and make her interested in me? Much Appreciated,
Bluejayblitz9

[zucedamoose]

make her happy when she's around u lol thats my guess

[cverlie.2]

Is it just your ride that flake or the ride you where sharing because if it was just your ride you could just ask her if she could bring you (I'm assuming you live close)...if that doesn't work out go to a park, hangout at you house just be creative...avoid the movies if possible, I mean c'mon its fall, its nice out, enjoy it while you can

Both of our rides flaked. And so she is hopefully coming to my house...depending on what her parents say....

[Run-DMC]

This is my first post in this thread. I havent had much experience with a gf. I am 16. I have kissed girls and stuff, but not in a while. I am not going to hook up with someone just for the sake of it or action. I want to find a girl I really care for before I mess around.

I went into town last night after work with my co-worker and I met some other kids from school. I was hanging with this girl who I just met, as she goes to another hs in my district. She totally blew me away. Shes tall, georgeous, as down to earth as it gets, super outgoing, and honestly she just mesmorized me. I know I only met her that night, but I honestly just have never met anyone who interested me so much. She is not one of those girls who tan so much they become "orange" and have a stuck up attitude. Shes just diffrent.

The group I was with is chilling this weekend, and I was wondering how I could stand out again . She was talking to me mostly out of the guys, and we hugged like 20 times randomly. The only problem is that I think she is way way way out of my league. I know its really odd since I barely know her, but I have a wierd feeling. Thanks guys, I really appreciate how I am the oldest so I dont have an older bro to talk to. Plus, all my cousins like 3 hrs away. Thanks. Basically, what I am asking is, How can I play it cool and make her interested in me? Much Appreciated,
Bluejayblitz9

Dude, the only true way to get a girl to be interested in you is to be yourself completely. If they like you because you are acting like someone else then the feelings are fake because they don't like you for you. Act like Bluejayblitz9, not ImTryingToGetThisGirlToLikeMeSoImActingLikeATool. You've obviously got to be an insightful kid because you see this girl as gorgeous, not OMG SMOKING HOT like many people I know. The only advice I've got is be yourself, that's all that you can do. (Thank you, Audioslave for that lyric :) )

Hope it turns out ok,
Run-DMC

[BluejayBlitz9]

Dude, the only true way to get a girl to be interested in you is to be yourself completely. If they like you because you are acting like someone else then the feelings are fake because they don't like you for you. Act like Bluejayblitz9, not ImTryingToGetThisGirlToLikeMeSoImActingLikeATool. You've obviously got to be an insightful kid because you see this girl as gorgeous, not OMG SMOKING HOT like many people I know. The only advice I've got is be yourself, that's all that you can do. (Thank you, Audioslave for that lyric :) )

Hope it turns out ok,
Run-DMC

Yeah Thanks. She kept saying I was the nicest guy that she has ever met and I made her laugh alot, so I guess thats a plus

[LAXinJD]

Yeah Thanks. She kept saying I was the nicest guy that she has ever met and I made her laugh alot, so I guess thats a plus

Of course that is a plus. Because either you are genuinely making her laugh, which is good. Or she is like other girls and just laughing at your jokes because she likes you.

I have been told by a girl that is a friend that "Guys think they are funny so they tell us jokes, and if we like them, we will usually laugh just to make them think they are funny"

So getting her to laugh is great. Also, I hope that you truly are a nice guy and don't treat girls like objects (from your post, it seems like you are a nice guy). And if you are nice, and she is telling you, then that is great. But like was mentioned, just act yourself. That is the best thing anyone could ever do.

Hopefully she won't turn out to be one of those girls that go for the "bad guys" and then just get treated like crap by them. So I hope she likes you, and I wish you the best of luck.

[BluejayBlitz9]

Of course that is a plus. Because either you are genuinely making her laugh, which is good. Or she is like other girls and just laughing at your jokes because she likes you.

I have been told by a girl that is a friend that "Guys think they are funny so they tell us jokes, and if we like them, we will usually laugh just to make them think they are funny"

So getting her to laugh is great. Also, I hope that you truly are a nice guy and don't treat girls like objects (from your post, it seems like you are a nice guy). And if you are nice, and she is telling you, then that is great. But like was mentioned, just act yourself. That is the best thing anyone could ever do.

Hopefully she won't turn out to be one of those girls that go for the "bad guys" and then just get treated like crap by them. So I hope she likes you, and I wish you the best of luck.


Thanks man. Greatly Appreciated. I honestly do not know her, as I only hung out for like 2 hrs in town lol. She seems really down to earth though, and dosent have much of a dating experience (which is both good and bad). I never ever just hook up with girls for the heck of it, I honestly find it shallow and I am just not like that. I hope she likes me, as I said, she really is the perfect girl. Hopefully we will bond again . plus we might go into town or have a rock band party, so i can woo her with my vocals (10) any other advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Run-DMC]

Thanks man. Greatly Appreciated. I honestly do not know her, as I only hung out for like 2 hrs in town lol. She seems really down to earth though, and dosent have much of a dating experience (which is both good and bad). I never ever just hook up with girls for the heck of it, I honestly find it shallow and I am just not like that. I hope she likes me, as I said, she really is the perfect girl. Hopefully we will bond again . plus we might go into town or have a rock band party, so i can woo her with my vocals (10) any other advice would be greatly appreciated.

So do I, I respect that, and certain girls do too. Anything in a group setting where you can be yourself is definatley a great environment to work your "mojo" on her. Best of luck to you.

DMC

[elementlaxer]

k i have a problem. i have had a crush on this girl since the end of last school year, but she is a freshman and i am in 8th grade and i can't get the courage to ask her out. so the other day she was telling me a bunch of secrets she had about herself or something (idk why), and she told me that she used to have a crush on me. now my problem is that i still have a crush on her, but she already told me she likes some other guy right now, what do I do?

and we are really good friends we pretty much talk every day

[cverlie.2]

k i have a problem. i have had a crush on this girl since the end of last school year, but she is a freshman and i am in 8th grade and i can't get the courage to ask her out. so the other day she was telling me a bunch of secrets she had about herself or something (idk why), and she told me that she used to have a crush on me. now my problem is that i still have a crush on her, but she already told me she likes some other guy right now, what do I do?

and we are really good friends we pretty much talk every day

My advice, just ask her. I know it sounds lame, but do it. I was nervous for a little while too but when i asked my girlfriend out, everything went great!
PS- me and here were in the same situation, except i'm a sophomore and she is a freshman.

[elementlaxer]

k thanks. i kinda want to wait and see what happens with the guy she currently likes cause according to her it sounds like he likes her too

[GuitarnLax36]

alright im a sophomore and I like this freshman girl I talked to her a a lot over the summer and kinda had a crush on her when i was in 8th grade and she was in 7th any advice on what i should do next? I talk to her on the phone and facebook see her at school but not for long at all because its in between classes. Any advice? please pm me that way my issue wont be the only one addressed thanks guys.

[elementlaxer]

My advice, just ask her. I know it sounds lame, but do it. I was nervous for a little while too but when i asked my girlfriend out, everything went great!
PS- me and here were in the same situation, except i'm a sophomore and she is a freshman.
guess what! it worked!

[LAXinJD]

alright im a sophomore and I like this freshman girl I talked to her a a lot over the summer and kinda had a crush on her when i was in 8th grade and she was in 7th any advice on what i should do next? I talk to her on the phone and facebook see her at school but not for long at all because its in between classes. Any advice? please pm me that way my issue wont be the only one addressed thanks guys.

Well, I decided to not PM, because this a girl problem megathread, and your problem could apply to other people as well. So hopefully my advice will help you, as well as them.

It seems to me that what you really need to do is hang out with her. Obviously you are comfortable with talking with her, as it seems like you do a lot. Try and hang out at lunch first. Invite her and her friends to hang out with you and your friends one Saturday at the mall or the park etc. Or just try to hang out one on one. Invite her to your house after school or on the weekend. Maybe do homework together? Just all you have to do is ask her to hang out... and then things can develop from there. Then if you feel it's right you can ask her out. BUT, the main point, once again, is to just ask her to hang out in some way, shape, or form.

[cverlie.2]

guess what! it worked!

Youre welcome! Glad it worked for you!

[akalata]

Girls are way too confusing when you are a teenager if you ask me. Cause i am 17, and all the girls my age are shady cause I am a big guy, but i talk to them, but whenever i ask them out on a date they "have a sick grandmother" or something ridiculous as an excuse. but yeah. advice or anything?? please?

[BluejayBlitz9]

All righty, I found out that the girl I was talking about is rumoured to like one of my good buddies. He was saying how he may ask her to homecoming. He is a good friend and we have had eachother's back for a while so I know he isnt doing this to rub it in. I havent told him how I feel about her, but he may have already guessed. What do I do?

[GuitarnLax36]

Well, I decided to not PM, because this a girl problem megathread, and your problem could apply to other people as well. So hopefully my advice will help you, as well as them.

It seems to me that what you really need to do is hang out with her. Obviously you are comfortable with talking with her, as it seems like you do a lot. Try and hang out at lunch first. Invite her and her friends to hang out with you and your friends one Saturday at the mall or the park etc. Or just try to hang out one on one. Invite her to your house after school or on the weekend. Maybe do homework together? Just all you have to do is ask her to hang out... and then things can develop from there. Then if you feel it's right you can ask her out. BUT, the main point, once again, is to just ask her to hang out in some way, shape, or form.

thanks alot man wow I never thought of doing homework together that is a good idea im going to try that

[bigdale9]

ok. problem guys. i go to an all boys school and need a home coming date. however im too busy doing other things to meet girls. how do i do this on a tight schedule

[cverlie.2]

ok. problem guys. i go to an all boys school and need a home coming date. however im too busy doing other things to meet girls. how do i do this on a tight schedule

Well i've got several ideas, all end up with a stolen kidney more than likely. Is there an all girls school around yours?

[Run-DMC]

ok. problem guys. i go to an all boys school and need a home coming date. however im too busy doing other things to meet girls. how do i do this on a tight schedule

You + mall = homecoming date.

[elementlaxer]

You + mall = homecoming date.

my thoughts exactly. haha

[bigdale9]

wait, mall? ive heard the idea but dont get it. do i go to the mall and be like "hey ladies lol" what do i do once i get there?

[Run-DMC]

Assuming your with a friend (a wingman), entertain some ladies for the day and make them your homecoming dates. Assuming this is the shortest possible route to getting a date in the first place.

[kjalax3]

I really like this girl. but i hate her friends. when i talk to the girl i like and she tells her friends what i say they try to make fun of me but i don't really care it's because they're really jealous haha. but anyway i wanted to ask the girl out on monday. but this kid i'm friends with has been talking to her a lot recently and i'm thinking he's trying to move in on her.

[Tehb2]

Move first then! :roll: But seriously, whenever you feel its the right time, make it good and before this other guy.

[somrandomguy]

Girls are way too confusing when you are a teenager if you ask me. Cause i am 17, and all the girls my age are shady cause I am a big guy, but i talk to them, but whenever i ask them out on a date they "have a sick grandmother" or something ridiculous as an excuse. but yeah. advice or anything?? please?

Due to the rules of this forum, I cannot post the first piece of advice I would give you.

*hint* It begins with an R.

Other than that, start running and lifting weights and stop eating junk food and drinking soda. It will improve your lax game as well as your ability to get girls.

[Run-DMC]

Move first then! :roll: But seriously, whenever you feel its the right time, make it good and before this other guy.

^^He's got the right idea.

[starburstyoh]

Well, last year I met this girl and we clicked cuz we both played lacrosse, this was like in january. So yeah we talked all throught the summer and like I got hints from some of my freinds and hers that she liked me, and I liked her alot too. Then like everything was going so good and me and her were really clicking then her best friend got in the way. this chick I talking about well lets just call her A and her freind B.
So it was probly June and me and her were together and chick B started giving me dirty looks when I hugged A. At first I shrugged this off like it was nothing but the looks kept on coming.
Then there was this one day where it felt perfect, like this feeling like I was really close to her and like she was giving off goods sign. The light was green and i was all reved up. then the next day we and a bunch of people were hanging out and it felt as if I didn't knwo her, like we never met. Apparently her freind that night may have told her something about me, and I don't know what cuz I hardly know her freind.
So its been three months and we hang out and it's not the same. Like the light is green and right before I hit the gas it switches to a red. IDK. some of my freinds noticed that I like her and said that we looked good together and told me to pursue her (nothing weird). now finally I seem to be getting back in her life, like little steps. It fells like an endless track I don't know where the end is.
So I need some advice. what to do. And please don't tell me to forget about hr cuz I've tried. the less i see her the more I want her the more i see her the more I love her. Like seriously I think I LOVE HER! I've like many girls and some of them we had a thing. we would be together and then go our seperate ways or just stay freinds, there is no serious attraction to any of them except like this one.
Guys to tell you the truth I am willing to wait years to be with her and I know its sounds like I'm just saying this but I's true. I live a different part of town then her so we don't go to the same school but i see her 3 times a week. Also see goes to my chruch and like I'm cool with her family and her parents, but its the freind.
Someone once told me to calm down a bit and maybe hit on the freind and make chick A jealous but I just don't know. Like each time I'm with her I feel almost invincable and at the same time so weak.... in other words she's my kryponite. This match is ethnical like I'm a year and couple moths older then her and you know nothing wierd.
And i keep thinking....I actually willing to wait and not look look for anyone else.... but I just don't knwo what to do.
Please, some advice... PM me with the advice...
thanks

[Rizzle]

Reposting this because I think it got washed away with the recent influx of posts. I could really use any help anyone can give:


I am talking (if you can call it that, more like gently arguing, even though I do not want to) with a girl who I previously had a lengthy relationship with. I wanna say 7-8 months. Anyways, I started liking her again, but she says she is different and has moved on. My friends and I agree though that she was a much more likeable person the way she used to be, when I was dating her.

She and some dumb friends of hers try hanging out with upperclassmen these days and are basically being attention whores. However, I know that is not who my ex is on the inside.

She is convinced she is different in a good way, but I believe differently. How can I prove to her that she was loved not only by me, but by all our friends when she was the person she used to be? She refuses to believe me and just curses me out now when I say I just miss being happy and having things the way they were. But what made me happy was when we were together and she was happy. Seeing her smile was what kept me going.

So what can I do to convince her she can still be that different girl that I was madly in love with? Man, I wish I could just go back in time and take back what I did, I'd die to still be with her.

Any help is appreciated. (Live4it, this is your cue!)

[navylax161]

im pretty sure ive been screwed over by the friend zone.

sucks.

[Sir Kevin]

im pretty sure ive been screwed over by the friend zone.

sucks.

It's happened to us all. And I'm pretty sure it just happened to me too, but whatever.

[Run-DMC]

Reposting this because I think it got washed away with the recent influx of posts. I could really use any help anyone can give:


I am talking (if you can call it that, more like gently arguing, even though I do not want to) with a girl who I previously had a lengthy relationship with. I wanna say 7-8 months. Anyways, I started liking her again, but she says she is different and has moved on. My friends and I agree though that she was a much more likeable person the way she used to be, when I was dating her.

She and some dumb friends of hers try hanging out with upperclassmen these days and are basically being attention whores. However, I know that is not who my ex is on the inside.

She is convinced she is different in a good way, but I believe differently. How can I prove to her that she was loved not only by me, but by all our friends when she was the person she used to be? She refuses to believe me and just curses me out now when I say I just miss being happy and having things the way they were. But what made me happy was when we were together and she was happy. Seeing her smile was what kept me going.

So what can I do to convince her she can still be that different girl that I was madly in love with? Man, I wish I could just go back in time and take back what I did, I'd die to still be with her.

Any help is appreciated. (Live4it, this is your cue!)

Well I'm not as good as Live4it, but I'll give it a shot.

So you like her again after you broke up? Its not unusual. My ex still has a thing for me, even though I ended it three weeks ago. Anyways, her sudden change in character is (what I consider) an attempt in finding herself. She wasn't happy with the way she was, and is trying to be something she is not. In this manner she is acting like an attention whore. Now, when your friends and you tell her that you like her the way she was, you are also giving her attention, which she desires. You might have to accept that things with her might never be the same again, which is hard, but, seeing someone for who they truly are will get you somewhere. You can first start by having conversations with her (not discussing anything about who she is and what she was) and when something comes up that reminds you of something you two did fun earlier, talk about it. Make her laugh about it, but, as bad as it sounds things may never be the same again. She might be completely convinced that nothing between you two can ever happen again, but that doesn't mean you two can't still be very good friends. I know you still have an attraction to her, but it can't be help. Attraction to someone, liking someone, it all can't be helped. Its some unseen force that does it.

From the way you presented this problem, I can tell you are an articulate guy. Chicks dig it, and I bet you could find another without even trying :)

How was that? I'm no Live4it but I do my best.

Best wishes,
~DMC

[Run-DMC]

I really like this girl. but i hate her friends. when i talk to the girl i like and she tells her friends what i say they try to make fun of me but i don't really care it's because they're really jealous haha. but anyway i wanted to ask the girl out on monday. but this kid i'm friends with has been talking to her a lot recently and i'm thinking he's trying to move in on her.

That's the swagger that girls like, my man. They are making fun of you because they are jealous, your right. You have three choices:
1) Ask her out first.
2) Nonchalantly ask the the friend what he's up to.
3) Shovel + friends face + back of car + drive to next state.

Best wishes,
~DMC

[kjalax3]

That's the swagger that girls like, my man. They are making fun of you because they are jealous, your right. You have three choices:
1) Ask her out first.
2) Nonchalantly ask the the friend what he's up to.
3) Shovel + friends face + back of car + drive to next state.

Best wishes,
~DMC

haha. yeah man. i asked my friend about him and asked him if he could chill cause i like her and crap. cause at lunch the other day he was grabbing her well you know. haha so after i told him everything he goes 3rd grade on me and tells her everything i said. but whatever after she found out what i said she's been a lot more enthusiastic when talking to me

[Run-DMC]

haha. yeah man. i asked my friend about him and asked him if he could chill cause i like her and crap. cause at lunch the other day he was grabbing her well you know. haha so after i told him everything he goes 3rd grade on me and tells her everything i said. but whatever after she found out what i said she's been a lot more enthusiastic when talking to me

God I hate those kids who go third grade on you and tell girls everything. Looks like it worked out in your favor though!

[Sir Kevin]

God I hate those kids who go third grade on you and tell girls everything. Looks like it worked out in your favor though!

Yeah sometimes it makes things easier if people are all gossipy.

[Lettuce]

So I was talking to this girl yesterday, and...

I became unglued; I traveled through my childhood, uncovering things that I haven't remembered for 10 years. I remembered the house I lived in when I was 3 years old.. I remembered EVERYTHING I HAVE EVER KNOWN. I could literally feel myself walking throughout my brain, physically dragging memories up and playing them over and over and over again. A key point from one memory would trigger a whole new memory, and this happened until my friend's apartment -- my brain, at the time -- had been completely explored, and the walls painted with important events from my past.

I thought I could drive - I couldn't. Instead, I took the pizza I was eating and smeared it across my face. Everything made sense.

What should I do?

[Run-DMC]

So I was talking to this girl yesterday, and...

I became unglued; I traveled through my childhood, uncovering things that I haven't remembered for 10 years. I remembered the house I lived in when I was 3 years old.. I remembered EVERYTHING I HAVE EVER KNOWN. I could literally feel myself walking throughout my brain, physically dragging memories up and playing them over and over and over again. A key point from one memory would trigger a whole new memory, and this happened until my friend's apartment -- my brain, at the time -- had been completely explored, and the walls painted with important events from my past.

I thought I could drive - I couldn't. Instead, I took the pizza I was eating and smeared it across my face. Everything made sense.

What should I do?

I would probably wash your face first.

Anyways, talking to this girl may have triggered something about your childhood. She may have looked like an old friend that you had or something of the sort. Becoming unglued to a girl can mean several things. BUT if you don't like her like that, then I would probably say that she reminds you of something that triggered something else that triggered something else. Sounds like this girl is a catalyst.

And..if everything makes sense then..you should have no problems?

~DMC