Girl Problem Megathread!

[Titanoh]

NEED HELP.

Ok so I like this girl and weve been good friends for liek a year now and she just broke up with her boyfriend last week and we hooked up the day after they broke up at a party. THen she texts me the next day saying that she likes me and has feelings for me but doesn;t want a relationship right yet becase she not "ready" and she like wants me to wait. But i realy like her and she didnt give me a time period of how long the waiting period will be. so I have no clue what to do because i really don't want to wait around. Help me out her guys............... Please
First off, does the relationship sound like a good idea to you? I've been on the bad side of "rebounding" before, but if you really like her go for it.
Send her a text back, saying something like: if you have feelings for me, I don't see the point of waiting, yadayada.

[Run-DMC]

NEED HELP.

Ok so I like this girl and weve been good friends for liek a year now and she just broke up with her boyfriend last week and we hooked up the day after they broke up at a party. THen she texts me the next day saying that she likes me and has feelings for me but doesn;t want a relationship right yet becase she not "ready" and she like wants me to wait. But i realy like her and she didnt give me a time period of how long the waiting period will be. so I have no clue what to do because i really don't want to wait around. Help me out her guys............... Please

Be a man and wait. For girls it could be a period of time from a week to a year, but probably closer to a week. Your going to have to wait on this one, as to not rush her into anything, which she won't like.

[zucedamoose]

ok here we go again...
-girl i like
-goin to a movie or something thursday
-not sure if it's a date or what
-should i tell her i like her?

cheese, just make subtle moves and see how she reacts, like move prty close or accidentaly get both of ur hands in the popcorn at the same time, lol or sumthin like that and if she doesnt care or seems to like it maybe be a bit less subtle or talk to her

[cheesehead]

cheese, just make subtle moves and see how she reacts, like move prty close or accidentaly get both of ur hands in the popcorn at the same time, lol or sumthin like that and if she doesnt care or seems to like it maybe be a bit less subtle or talk to her
crap dude that was months ago. i have no girl problems (which is weird) except that my girlfriend's mom is being a female dog and not letting her leave the house at all :rofl:

[Live4It]

crap dude that was months ago. i have no girl problems (which is weird) except that my girlfriend's mom is being a female dog and not letting her leave the house at all :rofl:

I still have advice for you then, whatever your girlfriend's mom does, do not take sides against her. One thing you don't want to do if you really like a girl is get on the wrong side of her parents, especially her mom.

[Run-DMC]

The only thing worse than the wrath of a mother (who could potentially tell other mothers about their experiences with you) is the wrath of a dad/brother.

[Live4It]

The only thing worse than the wrath of a mother (who could potentially tell other mothers about their experiences with you) is the wrath of a dad/brother.

Physical harm aside, you're worse off being on the Mom's bad side, because if the Dad doesn't like you, and her mom does, more than likely the mom would stick up for you, basically protect you, and give you a chance, get what I mean? But if you get on the mom's bad side, it doesn't matter if her dad likes you or not, it will be much more difficult to get away with anything. Obviously this is not in all cases, just sort of a generalization, or hell, it may even be a preference, since I would prefer to be on the mom's good side. Or you could avoid all cases and don't screw up with either of them.

[Run-DMC]

Physical harm aside, you're worse off being on the Mom's bad side, because if the Dad doesn't like you, and her mom does, more than likely the mom would stick up for you, basically protect you, and give you a chance, get what I mean? But if you get on the mom's bad side, it doesn't matter if her dad likes you or not, it will be much more difficult to get away with anything. Obviously this is not in all cases, just sort of a generalization, or hell, it may even be a preference, since I would prefer to be on the mom's good side. Or you could avoid all cases and don't screw up with either of them.

I understand what you mean, I think I was thinking on the physical harm side of it.

[Live4It]

Oh, I knew where you were coming from, so I figured I'd throw out what I meant. You've always gotta watch for the physical harm though.

[Run-DMC]

Oh, I knew where you were coming from, so I figured I'd throw out what I meant. You've always gotta watch for the physical harm though.

An older brother of a girlfriend can always be a threat, definitely.

[titanVision]

Physical harm aside, you're worse off being on the Mom's bad side, because if the Dad doesn't like you, and her mom does, more than likely the mom would stick up for you, basically protect you, and give you a chance, get what I mean? But if you get on the mom's bad side, it doesn't matter if her dad likes you or not, it will be much more difficult to get away with anything. Obviously this is not in all cases, just sort of a generalization, or hell, it may even be a preference, since I would prefer to be on the mom's good side. Or you could avoid all cases and don't screw up with either of them.


Yea and when the mom backs up for you against the husband she could be like "uh huh papi you'll never get this"

then the guy would give in, then he well get this.

[GuitarnLax36]

Hi guys new issue with the girl
I asked her to go to my schools homecoming and she said that it would be fun to go with me but shes going with about 50 other freshman (Im a sophomore shes a freshman) and she thought that I wouldnt want to come with her and all of them.
QUESTION. Can I still ask this girl out? Or should i just give up.

[Live4It]

Hi guys new issue with the girl
I asked her to go to my schools homecoming and she said that it would be fun to go with me but shes going with about 50 other freshman (Im a sophomore shes a freshman) and she thought that I wouldnt want to come with her and all of them.
QUESTION. Can I still ask this girl out? Or should i just give up.

That first part is an excuse, not trying to send you into a depression, but if she liked you, she wouldn't say that, most girls wouldn't care about who else they're going to hang out with if they're going with a guy they like, and they definitely wouldn't make an excuse to get out of it. But wait, there's still hope, there's a chance this girl does like you, but is shy/doesn't want to show it, the "loser" thing maybe her way of flirting, and/or maybe she's playing some kind of hard to get. You can ask her out again, not like tomorrow, or consecutive days, or every time you see her, but when the time is right, unless you know that she really doesn't or never will like you, don't give up on her.

[GuitarnLax36]

That first part is an excuse, not trying to send you into a depression, but if she liked you, she wouldn't say that, most girls wouldn't care about who else they're going to hang out with if they're going with a guy they like, and they definitely wouldn't make an excuse to get out of it. But wait, there's still hope, there's a chance this girl does like you, but is shy/doesn't want to show it, the "loser" thing maybe her way of flirting, and/or maybe she's playing some kind of hard to get. You can ask her out again, not like tomorrow, or consecutive days, or every time you see her, but when the time is right, unless you know that she really doesn't or never will like you, don't give up on her.

thanks for the advice. I wasnt planning on asking her out until after homecoming anyways so maybe that is a long enough time? Homecoming is next weekend btw. Maybe I have to process all of this haha

[Lettuce]

Find a new girl. One that doesn't hang out with 50 freshman. I have developed a theory, and it goes like this:
a^x

a = how annoying a girl is
x = how many girls she is with

Never attempt to take on a group of girls. You are just going to fail. And if you do it enough, you will come out bitter, broken, and jaded. It's not worth it, man.

[cheesehead]

Find a new girl. One that doesn't hang out with 50 freshman. I have developed a theory, and it goes like this:
a^x

a = how annoying a girl is
x = how many girls she is with

Never attempt to take on a group of girls. You are just going to fail. And if you do it enough, you will come out bitter, broken, and jaded. It's not worth it, man.
girl problems concentrated into mathematical equations. i love it, now maybe us guys can figure out this beast once and for all

[Lettuce]

girl problems concentrated into mathematical equations. i love it, now maybe us guys can figure out this beast once and for all It's why I have a calculator on me at all times.

[cheesehead]

It's why I have a calculator on me at all times.
good idea, i'll have to find mine

[navylax161]

how do you judge what the numbers put in for a and x would be?

[Live4It]

how do you judge what the numbers put in for a and x would be?
The annoying scale is a numbered scale using only the numbers 1,3,5,7,10.

1 is not annoying at all, or very little and very rare.

3 is occasionally annoying, sometimes annoying under certain conditions, or can be annoying in a way that doesn't make you mad(if you don't know what I mean, then it doesn't matter), and rarely gets on your nerves, and is rarely anywhere close to intolerable.

5 is a girl that can be pretty annoying sometimes, and pushes to the edge of tolerable, but not quiet over the line.

7 can piss you off, similar to 5 she's also near that line, but sometimes crosses it, you can tolerate her sometimes, but is annoying between 65%-78% of the time, and is completely intolerable between 15%-30% of the time.

10 is intolerably annoying, you sometimes wonder if you can get away with giving her a nasty backhand, (but hopefully decide against it, 'cause that would be wrong.). Annoying between 80%-99% of the time, completely intolerable between 45%-80% of the time.

*if a girl is annoying 100% of the time, or completely intolerable more than 80% of the time, then she is known as a "IDZ", (Intolerable Danger Zone), there is no number assigned to this variety of female.

[brineman9]

^^ dude you come up with that on you own? yeah dont get involed in a group fight over you between girls... best way to get out of it is "lie & lie and lie some more" school for scondrals!!!!

[bhslax10]

Ok so I've been dating my girl for about a month. Everything is pretty good but we always fight about this other guy. He calls her all the time and tells her he like her. They talked this summer but she always tells me there just friends. I always here stuff about them at school and it really pisses me off. I've known the kid for a while and we dont really have problems and I'm not going to say anything to him cuz he's jacked and would whoop my a$$. What do i do?

[Live4It]

Ok so I've been dating my girl for about a month. Everything is pretty good but we always fight about this other guy. He calls her all the time and tells her he like her. They talked this summer but she always tells me there just friends. I always here stuff about them at school and it really pisses me off. I've known the kid for a while and we dont really have problems and I'm not going to say anything to him cuz he's jacked and would whoop my a$$. What do i do?

Well since you're clearly afraid of him, you do nothing and like it. But, if you find a pair on the side of the road, ask him to back off.
Normally I would tell you to talk to your girl about it, or I'd tell you to stop being insecure, but since you already talked to her, and he said he likes her, and you are, in fact, insecure, you could talk to him. But be careful, you talk to him, and it could cause problems between you and her, but if you think there's a possibility you could lose her to this guy, you have to take your chances, the end decision in this one is totally up to you.
PS: Your problem reminds me of the Oliver situation on the OC, the only difference is Ryan wasn't afraid of him, and ironically, Ryan whooped his...

^^ dude you come up with that on you own?
I actually made it up as I went, I didn't have an "annoying scale" predetermined in my head.

[Sir Kevin]

I actually made it up as I went, I didn't have an "annoying scale" predetermined in my head.

I do find it quite easy to do things like this. Just make the randomest comparisons and people will typically find it hysterical.

[hometownlax18]

Well since you're clearly afraid of him, you do nothing and like it. But, if you find a pair on the side of the road, ask him to back off.
Normally I would tell you to talk to your girl about it, or I'd tell you to stop being insecure, but since you already talked to her, and he said he likes her, and you are, in fact, insecure, you could talk to him. But be careful, you talk to him, and it could cause problems between you and her, but if you think there's a possibility you could lose her to this guy, you have to take your chances, the end decision in this one is totally up to you.
PS: Your problem reminds me of the Oliver situation on the OC, the only difference is Ryan wasn't afraid of him, and ironically, Ryan whooped his...


I actually made it up as I went, I didn't have an "annoying scale" predetermined in my head.


ya this kid doesn't strike me as the "ryan" type though

Ok so I've been dating my girl for about a month. Everything is pretty good but we always fight about this other guy. He calls her all the time and tells her he like her. They talked this summer but she always tells me there just friends. I always here stuff about them at school and it really pisses me off. I've known the kid for a while and we dont really have problems and I'm not going to say anything to him cuz he's jacked and would whoop my a$$. What do i do?

Eventually your going to have to do something about him, you need to tell your girl that you trust her (I'm just assuming you do) but you don't trust this guy and you don't like that he always talks to her and and it would make you feel a lot better if she quit toying with you...if she really likes you and not this other guy then it shouldn't be a problem but if she then keeps talking to him, theres a problem and you'll need to as live4it said "find a pair" and confront him...before doing this though i would recomend you find someone who could whoop his *** (hopefully your already friends with some one fitting the description, otherwise find this guy and start buying him lunch)

[Lettuce]

how do you judge what the numbers put in for a and x would be?
a = the level of annoying. This is relative; if you have spent all of your life around obnoxious girls, your levels will not be sensitive. If you haven't, they will be very sensitive. You can choose this yourself, but I would recommend using the 1-10 scale.
x = the total number of girls present, including the girl. Example: just your girlfriend = 1. Girlfriend and her friend = 2. Girlfriend and her friend and her friend = 3. Etc.

[GuitarnLax36]

Find a new girl. One that doesn't hang out with 50 freshman. I have developed a theory, and it goes like this:
a^x

a = how annoying a girl is
x = how many girls she is with

Never attempt to take on a group of girls. You are just going to fail. And if you do it enough, you will come out bitter, broken, and jaded. It's not worth it, man.

haha ok i think im going to find a new girl then

[tomtom]

Ok so I've been dating my girl for about a month. Everything is pretty good but we always fight about this other guy. He calls her all the time and tells her he like her. They talked this summer but she always tells me there just friends. I always here stuff about them at school and it really pisses me off. I've known the kid for a while and we dont really have problems and I'm not going to say anything to him cuz he's jacked and would whoop my a$$. What do i do?

Diplomacy. You have to tactfully let this guy that you want him to ease up. Be firm, but dont be threatening. A threat is a sure sign of fear or insecurity, and if he knows you're already having trouble, he'll step it up a notch.

Let him know that you want him to take it down a notch. Tell him that even though he has every right to talk to her, you want him to show you the same respect you're showing him by not trying to steal her away.

At the same time, you have to show this respect too. You need to trust her, and you need to recognize the fact that she can talk to whoever she wishes.

I know its a terrible position to be in, but you've got to stick it out. At the same time, now's a good time to start chalking up some brownie points with her. Remember, you aren't trying to get rid of him, just keep yourself one step ahead. Even the playing field by getting mutual respect with this guy, then step your game up.

[Tehb2]

^^ dude you come up with that on you own? yeah dont get involed in a group fight over you between girls... best way to get out of it is "lie & lie and lie some more" school for scondrals!!!!


:roll: Live4It not only lives-for-it, he practically runs this thread. He gives usually the best and most thorough adivce, and ask a question, and he'll give his best to answer it, whether that requires a 10pt scale or a graph.

Come on, ask him to graph something, I dare you! :agree:

[SuperHyphy]

An older brother of a girlfriend can always be a threat, definitely.

Haha you wish you were a threat Run!

Anyway. I have issues on telling whether or not I really like a girl, or if I'm in it just for the chase. Any other reckless womanizers out there? Anyone with advice?

[Run-DMC]

Haha you wish you were a threat Run!

Anyway. I have issues on telling whether or not I really like a girl, or if I'm in it just for the chase. Any other reckless womanizers out there? Anyone with advice?

I'll deal with you at school, champ.

[K-Lax215]

heres my problem, theres this girl i like (obviously, no other reason to be in here) and shes a good friend. i have absolutly no idea where i stand if i ask her out, and im not sure that i want to risk our friendship if she says no.

seriously man, just go for it, cause if she ever gets a boyfriend you will be dying on the inside. dont let her get away if you care that much, just dont worry if she'll say yes or no, just talk to her about it and it will be absolutely fine

[UNClacrosse]

So there's this girl I met a couple months ago, and we started to like each other after hanging out a couple times and talking. She said she liked me, but didn't really want a boyfriend right now and I totally get that. And so knowing this, I asked her to my school's formal dance, she said yes and we had alot of fun. And then, a couple days ago, she just completely tells me she only likes me as a friend and it probably won't change. I don't even understand how this happened and I don't know what to do.

[Live4It]

So there's this girl I met a couple months ago, and we started to like each other after hanging out a couple times and talking. She said she liked me, but didn't really want a boyfriend right now and I totally get that. And so knowing this, I asked her to my school's formal dance, she said yes and we had alot of fun. And then, a couple days ago, she just completely tells me she only likes me as a friend and it probably won't change. I don't even understand how this happened and I don't know what to do.

Be her friend. Don't be one of these guys who basically wants all or none, meaning, that if she doesn't want to be more than friends, and you do, you totally bail. For now you have to stick it out, because if you mess it up with her because you don't want to be "just friends", you could lose her forever. And who knows, down the road it could work out for you. After all, you've only known this girl for a couple months, it's not like a girl you've known for years that just wants to be friends, it's different.

To sum it up, be friends with her, you do still a chance. Just don't try to pressure her into being more than friends. And one more thing, sometimes having a good friend can be as good, and last longer, than a girlfriend.
If you haven't noticed, the point I'm trying to get across is; stay friends with her! Especially if you want another chance.

[Live4It]

Anyway. I have issues on telling whether or not I really like a girl, or if I'm in it just for the chase. Any other reckless womanizers out there? Anyone with advice?
Can you see yourself with this girl? Try to picture yourself with this girl as your girlfriend, can you? Do you like what you see? Do you find yourself thinking about this girl at random times and/or does it seem like she's always on your mind? Think about that stuff, you should just know, when you see this girl you should be able to feel it, and tell that you like her. If you have any doubts, just give it time and see how you feel about her, you don't want to ask this girl out just to realize that you don't really like her.

[laxr24]

Alright, big problems here, and I apologize in advance for the long rant. I've been going out with this girl for a year and almost a month, shes a sophomore and i'm a junior. On friday we had made plans to watch a movie at her house, just the two of us. However, friday afternoon she and her friend decided to go to this party with seniors, juniors, and sophomores. Since my friends were going to be there, I went to the party despite telling her I did not want to go. She showed up completely out of it and was not aware of anything she was doing, if you catch my drift. Right after I left because I could not stand seeing her falling down, hanging all over other guys, ignoring me, and trying to converse with me despite her state of being, she hooked up with this other guy, a sophomore. The next afternoon (saturday) she told me what had happened and was honest about what had happened. Obviously I was very angry with her and her choices and we had a long talk about everything. Now as my girlfriend for over a year, we've been through a lot. Her parents, which are friends of mine and are sincere people towards me are getting a divorce, which has been very hard on her. But recently, she's been a very lacking girlfriend. Yesterday (sunday), she told me she can't be with me anymore and that she feels so awful for hows she's treated me recently. Basically, she dumped me even though she ruined my weekend and cheated on me. She claims that she needs time on her own to figure things out and be "strong on her own". I know she truly cares about me and I care about her more than anything, but I don't know what to do. She says she can't be with me because she can't be what I deserve. I realize this is only high school but she's the coolest girl I've ever met. She lives close to me, I play golf with her dad, I hang out with her brothers, we have everything in common...but I have to let it go? I don't understand. I know she cares about me, so why is she saying we need to take a break? I told her I can be as close or as distant as she wants me to be but she just says she can't do it. What should I do?

[Live4It]

Tell her how you feel, tell her that you want to be with her, even though times are hard for her right now, you want to be there for her. Tell her exactly how you feel about her, if you didn't already, tell her the stuff you said in your post, how she's the coolest girl, you care about her....And if she says something like "She says she can't be with me because she can't be what I deserve." again, tell her that it's not possible to deserve anything better than the best, and that's what she is.
There's a chance she really does want some space, if she does, tell her that you'll still be there for her. If she really likes you, she'll come around.

*Note: When I say "Tell her", I don't mean to sound like I'm telling you exactly what to tell her, basically just ideas and suggestions, it's just the way they come out. So "Tell her....", actually means, "You could say something like...".

[laxr24]

Yes, Live4It, I've said all those things, both in person and in a long letter I left in her room today. I told her I will be anyone she wants me to be for her, whether it be her friend or something more. I'm going to give her some space and see if she is sincere about it. If she goes out and gets a boyfriend right away, then obviously she's lying to me. I'm said everything I need to say, so now I'm going to sit back and see how she handles this. If she wants me to be in her life like I have been, then that's great but if she treats me with no respect, then I'll let her know how selfish she's being. I don't want to lose her or make her mad, I just want her to be happy and hopefully thats with me. All my friends and even my say she doesn't deserve me, I'm just hoping she realizes how good I am to her and she treats me the same way, like she used to.

[Live4It]

Then it seems like you've done everything you need to right now, I think you know exactly what you are doing, like you said, just give her space now, she'll realize exactly what she is losing if she wants to, and she'll come back. You said her parents are getting divorced, it may cause her to act weird, I don't know if she was the same way to you before that or not, but it could play a big role. And maybe she realized how bad she is treating you, and she doesn't want to hurt you, so she ran. I'm just thinking out loud basically, I don't really know the whole story or the way she is, but from what I do know. But you definitely know how to handle this on your own.

[Run-DMC]

Since Hyphy threw his issue into the ring I'll throw mine.

I really like this girl, BUT, I can't decisively tell if she has the same feelings. She was my homecoming date this weekend (which was a blast, I was Hyphy's wingman f'sho), which means she had to have some sort of interest to say yes when I asked. At the same time, she's also a commitophobe (she's even told me before). I'm not sure whether to ask her how she feels or to wait it out.

I've definitely given advice on this before, and said to wait it out, but it's a lot harder than it seems.

[Live4It]

It seems like waiting it out, and giving it time has been the theme of the advice lately. Don't wait it out, I don't like giving that advice more than twice in one day. I wouldn't really pay attention to the whole comitophobia thing, there would be no real commitment right away anyway. Commitophobes usually have trouble with things like; saying I love you, moving in with someone, engagements, etc...There's also a chance she just thinks that, but she really isn't. So totally ignore that.
If you think that you guys had some kind of connection at the dance, then go for it. If you're really not sure look for the little signs. Just take a shot, you really have nothing to wait for, unless you want to wait to see if she really likes you, but even then, there's no sure thing that they'll be a clear sign, like she may not come right out and say it.

[Run-DMC]

It seems like waiting it out, and giving it time has been the theme of the advice lately. Don't wait it out, I don't like giving that advice more than twice in one day. I wouldn't really pay attention to the whole comitophobia thing, there would be no real commitment right away anyway. Commitophobes usually have trouble with things like; saying I love you, moving in with someone, engagements, etc...There's also a chance she just thinks that, but she really isn't. So totally ignore that.
If you think that you guys had some kind of connection at the dance, then go for it. If you're really not sure look for the little signs. Just take a shot, you really have nothing to wait for, unless you want to wait to see if she really likes you, but even then, there's no sure thing that they'll be a clear sign, like she may not come right out and say it.

I guess that's a little bit what I want is to have her say it and hear it from her instead of from a friend and from other people. I'm pretty good at taking shots (it's worked in the past), but there's something about this girl that makes me nervous (in a good way of course). I see various signs a lot, just can't make the difference on what they mean. (she knows I like her, if that helps)

[GrimsleyLax00]

okay so i like this girl alot. ive liked her since feb. she has dated my best friend and we both liked eachother in march but that ended after 3 weeks. she has a bf and just recently told me she has a thing for her ex(my best friend) but told me not to tell. before she told me she said that she didnt want to piss me off by telling me since i got really mad when she said yes to my best friend. i told her that i love her and what ever makes her happy, i would give anything to make happen. right after she that that is why she loves me and that no one has ever said that to her. i dont know what to do cuz she loves me as a friend and only as a friend. she knows i really like her and she invited me to hang out with her bf and her on saturday(last). i didnt know what to say or think but i figured she told her bf that i like her and it would make things awkward.


any help?




que live4it

[SuperHyphy]

okay so i like this girl alot. ive liked her since feb. she has dated my best friend and we both liked eachother in march but that ended after 3 weeks. she has a bf and just recently told me she has a thing for her ex(my best friend) but told me not to tell. before she told me she said that she didnt want to piss me off by telling me since i got really mad when she said yes to my best friend. i told her that i love her and what ever makes her happy, i would give anything to make happen. right after she that that is why she loves me and that no one has ever said that to her. i dont know what to do cuz she loves me as a friend and only as a friend. she knows i really like her and she invited me to hang out with her bf and her on saturday(last). i didnt know what to say or think but i figured she told her bf that i like her and it would make things awkward.


any help?




que live4it


I know this isn't what you wanna hear, but this girl is a trick! When she's dealing through that many guys in such a short period of time... well it makes it apparent that either she doesn't know what she's doing or is only concerned about herself. I've been in a similar situation and I wish I had bailed out of it earlier. Pick your best friend over a girl everytime.

[Run-DMC]

I know this isn't what you wanna hear, but this girl is a trick! When she's dealing through that many guys in such a short period of time... well it makes it apparent that either she doesn't know what she's doing or is only concerned about herself. I've been in a similar situation and I wish I had bailed out of it earlier. Pick your best friend over a girl everytime.

Lolz sorry about that.

[SuperHyphy]

Can you see yourself with this girl? Try to picture yourself with this girl as your girlfriend, can you? Do you like what you see? Do you find yourself thinking about this girl at random times and/or does it seem like she's always on your mind? Think about that stuff, you should just know, when you see this girl you should be able to feel it, and tell that you like her. If you have any doubts, just give it time and see how you feel about her, you don't want to ask this girl out just to realize that you don't really like her.

I'll be sure to think about those things. Thanks for the advice. It works for me considering I'm a big advocate for the wait-it-out technique.

[hometownlax18]

since it seems like everyone else is throwing their problems out there I might as well do the same. So theres this girl and we met right at the begining of highschool last year and have been friends pretty much ever since, last winter I got hints from her that she liked me but I had a girlfriend at the time and so nothing ever happened. Since then we've become really good friends and we hang out in a group of like 4or5 girls and 4or5 guys and we're all super close. Lately one of the girls we hang out with has been telling me that she likes me and has for like a month or so but isn't the kind of girl to make the first move. This really surprised me when she said this because I'm normally good at picking up hints from girls but I had no clue. Even now that I know she likes me I still have no reason to think so other than what her friend told me. I don't know if I should go for her or not, we've been really good friends but really nothing more and she's very attractive and all but I just almost have a hard time seeing us as more than friends?? help

[Live4It]

since it seems like everyone else is throwing their problems out there I might as well do the same. So theres this girl and we met right at the begining of highschool last year and have been friends pretty much ever since, last winter I got hints from her that she liked me but I had a girlfriend at the time and so nothing ever happened. Since then we've become really good friends and we hang out in a group of like 4or5 girls and 4or5 guys and we're all super close. Lately one of the girls we hang out with has been telling me that she likes me and has for like a month or so but isn't the kind of girl to make the first move. This really surprised me when she said this because I'm normally good at picking up hints from girls but I had no clue. Even now that I know she likes me I still have no reason to think so other than what her friend told me. I don't know if I should go for her or not, we've been really good friends but really nothing more and she's very attractive and all but I just almost have a hard time seeing us as more than friends?? help

If you don't like this girl as more than friends, then don't be more than that, and if you do find out she really likes you, don't do it because you feel bad either....But if you do like this girl, and do want to be more than friends, then I say go for it.





okay so i like this girl alot. ive liked her since feb. she has dated my best friend and we both liked eachother in march but that ended after 3 weeks. she has a bf and just recently told me she has a thing for her ex(my best friend) but told me not to tell. before she told me she said that she didnt want to piss me off by telling me since i got really mad when she said yes to my best friend. i told her that i love her and what ever makes her happy, i would give anything to make happen. right after she that that is why she loves me and that no one has ever said that to her. i dont know what to do cuz she loves me as a friend and only as a friend. she knows i really like her and she invited me to hang out with her bf and her on saturday(last). i didnt know what to say or think but i figured she told her bf that i like her and it would make things awkward.

any help?
que live4it

It would be awkward. I don't exactly know what you can do, if she has a boyfriend, she has a boyfriend, and if she really liked you(as more than a friend), then she wouldn't be going out with other guys. Keep her as a friend, but as long as she has a boyfriend, I say let anything more than that go, find another girl, don't keep pursuing her. Listen to what superhyphy said too. I think that part of your problem is, you're both immature as far as this stuff goes, not meaning it in a bad way, you're just young.

I guess that's a little bit what I want is to have her say it and hear it from her instead of from a friend and from other people. I'm pretty good at taking shots (it's worked in the past), but there's something about this girl that makes me nervous (in a good way of course). I see various signs a lot, just can't make the difference on what they mean. (she knows I like her, if that helps)
So you want her to do what you are too afraid to do? I think I know what you're thinking, you really like this girl, and you're afraid if you take a shot now, there's a chance you'll get shot down, you may mess it up and lose all chances, but if you wait until you're sure she likes you, you don't have to worry about that. Am I right, is it something like that? It's possible that if she does like you, she's not gonna say anything either, so you guys would be basically stuck, someone has to make a move, it's gotta be you. Lose what ever's stopping you, think what's the worse that can happen, you've guys have hung out before, so if she says no, so what? Tell her you still wanna be friends, and you lose nothing, things may be awkward for a little while, but that's all, that's the pessimistic way to look at it, be optimistic, and confident, and go in there thinking she's gonna say yes.
If you play your cards right you have nothing to lose, the worst that could happen is you break even. Go for it.

[Run-DMC]

So you want her to do what you are too afraid to do? I think I know what you're thinking, you really like this girl, and you're afraid if you take a shot now, there's a chance you'll get shot down, you may mess it up and lose all chances, but if you wait until you're sure she likes you, you don't have to worry about that. Am I right, is it something like that? It's possible that if she does like you, she's not gonna say anything either, so you guys would be basically stuck, someone has to make a move, it's gotta be you. Lose what ever's stopping you, think what's the worse that can happen, you've guys have hung out before, so if she says no, so what? Tell her you still wanna be friends, and you lose nothing, things may be awkward for a little while, but that's all, that's the pessimistic way to look at it, be optimistic, and confident, and go in there thinking she's gonna say yes.
If you play your cards right you have nothing to lose, the worst that could happen is you break even. Go for it.

You have it exactly right. I guess I've got to make the first move, I'll work on doing that. I'll try to get out of this "stuck" thing, and make a move.

Thanks, your a help.

DMC

[laxr24]

Update on my situation: it turns out that sunday night she cheated on me with the same person at another party for well over an hour. Basically, all chances of a friendship, let alone a relationship have been shot. I did nothing wrong, which is why it hurts so much.

[Live4It]

Then forget about her, it will be hard, but just let her go, and get over it. Don't get yourself down, it's not worth it.

[MNLAXGoalie]

Okay so I see everyone on TLF has shared there problems I will too. First some back round stuff same old story I like this girl everyone says she likes me back. I talk to her all the time and it seems like she likes me. So today I was about to ask her out, but then I got this text saying don't ask her from one of her close friends. I texted the friend back and I guess the girl I like wasn't ready to have a boyfriend or something about being confused about life. I really think this girl would say yes if I asked her out. There a football game tomorrow should I go for it or not?

[mullengoal141]

Okay so I see everyone on TLF has shared there problems I will too. First some back round stuff same old story I like this girl everyone says she likes me back. I talk to her all the time and it seems like she likes me. So today I was about to ask her out, but then I got this text saying don't ask her from one of her close friends. I texted the friend back and I guess the girl I like wasn't ready to have a boyfriend or something about being confused about life. I really think this girl would say yes if I asked her out. There a football game tomorrow should I go for it or not?

i say you can't go wrong with telling her how you feel. or you could just ask her to grab a bite to eat with you after the game. that would be a good way to ease into things, and then afterwards, ask her if she'd like to go on a for real date. it would ease her into the situation and that might be better than just hitting her with it out of no where.

[Live4It]

Okay so I see everyone on TLF has shared there problems I will too. First some back round stuff same old story I like this girl everyone says she likes me back. I talk to her all the time and it seems like she likes me. So today I was about to ask her out, but then I got this text saying don't ask her from one of her close friends. I texted the friend back and I guess the girl I like wasn't ready to have a boyfriend or something about being confused about life. I really think this girl would say yes if I asked her out. There a football game tomorrow should I go for it or not?

I think the girl can decide for herself if she's ready for a boyfriend or not, don't listen to her friend. If you like this girl, go for it.

[LAXinJD]

Okay so I see everyone on TLF has shared there problems I will too. First some back round stuff same old story I like this girl everyone says she likes me back. I talk to her all the time and it seems like she likes me. So today I was about to ask her out, but then I got this text saying don't ask her from one of her close friends. I texted the friend back and I guess the girl I like wasn't ready to have a boyfriend or something about being confused about life. I really think this girl would say yes if I asked her out. There a football game tomorrow should I go for it or not?

Why not just ask her on a date? You don't have to be boyfriend and girlfriend. It would be just a date. Just like mullengoal141 said, ask her to grab a bite to eat or something. If the date goes well she may be able to make up her mind if she wants a boyfriend or not. What's the worst that happens? She says she doesn't want to grab a bite to eat. I doubt that will happen though.

[zucedamoose]

ok heres my problemo, so Iv liked this chick for prob 6 or 7 weeks and we talk maybe a minute or two every day and i hung out with her and her friend for n hour at the beach today but were not really good friends. i think she might kinda like me but im not sure. Id like to talk to her more often but i dont wanna be obvious about liking her. she has a few other guys that like her and i was wondering about some good ways to start talking and hanging out more without being to obvious and messing it up.

[elementlaxer]

just "happen to run into her" at football games and stuff like that. places where lots of people will be so you won't seem like you are stalking her or anything. im not really sure about how to have times like you did today though

[MNLAXGoalie]

I hung out with her a little at a game and I guess that her friend was completely well BSing yeah. I'm just not feeling it any more. I'm gonna move to Canada and marry lacrosse I heard its legal there :naughty:

[tomtom]

I did nothing wrong, which is why it hurts so much.

Not defending her actions or trying to make things worse for you, but yes you did. If your girlfriend of over a year is so intoxicated she's stumbling around, you need to take her home. While this wasn't why things ended badly, and I'm sorry they did end badly, it's something you really should have done. You said so yourself- she was angry with her actions the next day. It's tough to love somebody when you're mad at them for doing something, but that's when it matters most.

[Tehb2]

Tomtom's got a point. If she's that messed up could it really be that hard to get her out of the party and away from doing something (well, did something at this point) worse? I guess the concern would be she could refuse, but persistence would win out in this situation, whether you eventually convince her to go home, or you hang around to keep an eye out on her.

I'll say that she did do the most wrong, and don't feel like things fell apart because of you, but in retrospect it may have been possible to try and prevent what happened.

[NorthAtk13]

never mind theres reasons for deleting this...

[brineman9]

im giving up on girls that are involed in drama.. i just want a suttle hubble but fun girl

[gooberkiller17]

whats a girl?

[tomtom]

I'm beginning to forget that myself up here, gooberkiller.

NorthAtk- There really isnt much you can do. Try hanging out with her sometime if you want, but unfortunately it's very difficult to leave the friends zone once you're there. If you're going to go for it still, go for broke and make a move quick. It's a bad situation and there arent many happy endings, but you've got as big a chance as you make for yourself. My advice: Sex Panther.

[cheesehead]

ok so my girlfriend goes to another school so i decided to go to her homecoming this year. so we get there, and frankly, it sucked. all she did the whole time was yap with her friends who i don't know about...well i have no idea what they were talking about and we only danced for two songs, both slow (which is ok i guess). so i drop her off at home after the dance, everything is still fine. so today she was acting like the monthly visitor hit and things just don't seem right to me. problem is i don't know whether she's acting like this for "biological" reasons or something i did. my female parental unit (she's like my in-home live4it) told me to kinda play hard to get for a couple days. also i kinda have this "curse" goin where i get dumped around the one month mark. so really as usual i'm clueless, she says she's not mad but she sure sounded like it.

[tomtom]

ok so my girlfriend goes to another school so i decided to go to her homecoming this year. so we get there, and frankly, it sucked. all she did the whole time was yap with her friends who i don't know about...well i have no idea what they were talking about and we only danced for two songs, both slow (which is ok i guess). so i drop her off at home after the dance, everything is still fine. so today she was acting like the monthly visitor hit and things just don't seem right to me. problem is i don't know whether she's acting like this for "biological" reasons or something i did. my female parental unit (she's like my in-home live4it) told me to kinda play hard to get for a couple days. also i kinda have this "curse" goin where i get dumped around the one month mark. so really as usual i'm clueless, she says she's not mad but she sure sounded like it.

Play it smooth. Give her a bit of space for a day or two and see if that helps. If not, try and talk to her and figure out if everything's all right- if something is wrong, it may not necessarily be something you did.

[cheesehead]

i got dumped again!:rofl:

[cheesehead]

i got dumped again!:rofl: at least she texted me herself this time instead of having one of her friends do it :clap:

[Run-DMC]

Aw dude..sorry. A text message is no way to do things anyways.

[cheesehead]

think it's any coincidence that we started dating about 3 weeks before homecoming and she dumps me 2 days after? haha apparently i'm an immature jerk even though i'm 2X as mature as everybody in my class (junior). i think epic fails are in order?

[Run-DMC]

I think she's the one who has the immaturity problems. Stay away from girls like that.

And yes. It sounds convenient.

[cheesehead]

haha i think i'm pretty much boned because all the girls in my grade think i'm an idiot because up until 8th grade i was an idiot but i grew up a lot over the summer and she knows pretty much every girl at our neighboring school. i guess the good lil christian boy who isn't wasted every weekend holds no attraction to the opposite sex :angry:

[Run-DMC]

Yes they do, it just depends on finding the right girl. She (or they, in the jackpot circumstance) is out there. Don't get discouraged. For now, focus on other things, or continue to beat yourself up, your choice.

[cheesehead]

i think i'm just going to take a break from girls (like i have a choice). they seem to be nothing but trouble and it's hard to compete with football players with big bank accounts

[<<RANGER>>]

i think i'm just going to take a break from girls (like i have a choice). they seem to be nothing but trouble and it's hard to compete with football players with big bank accounts

You have finally seen the light.:clap:

[cheesehead]

You have finally seen the light.:clap:

epic.......win? :grin:

[Live4It]

i think i'm just going to take a break from girls (like i have a choice).

...Do you mean you're.......uhhmm....swinging from the other side of the plate now??

Just kidding.

[cheesehead]

...Do you mean you're.......uhhmm....swinging from the other side of the plate now??

Just kidding.
lol no way dude i'm just going to enjoy being single. girls are nothing but trouble for the nice guys

[Live4It]

lol no way dude i'm just going to enjoy being single. girls are nothing but trouble for the nice guys

It's only trouble if you make it that way, you're in as much control as they are. You're trying too hard.

Some advice, lose the inferiority complex, gain confidence. Don't doubt yourself, and don't put it in your mind that you have to compete with the"football players with big bank accounts", because you don't, everyone's got a fair shot. Unless the only girls you go for are the ones who like football players, and even so, you've gotta level that playing field in your mind.

On another note, lacrosse players have so much more as far as getting the girls. Come on, when I saw "it's hard to compete with football players, blahblah", I laughed and then puked in my mouth a little, they have got nothing on us.

But your main thing is losing that inferiority complex, because that is the cause of your troubles right now from what I'm hearing. From what you have said: You are represented by "X", [X≤ Nice Guys < "Bad Boys" ≤ Rich Football Players] that is your thought process with an inferiority complex regarding girls, this is the way I want you to think for starters:
[X=Nice Guys=Bad Boys=Rich Football players], then eventually move up to this thought process: [Nice Guys=Bad Boys=Football Players < X].

Did you know? Every girl I've ever liked or wanted, liked me just as much, if not more. Did they all really? I don't know, it's possible, but as far as I was concerned they all did. So it could've me thinking that way, or they actually all did, either way I make myself believe it, and it usually works out for me. Of course, you can't always get the girl you want, but you have to take a chance, and quickly heal your wounds if you get shot down. Remember, it's only trouble if you want it to be.

[Lettuce]

lol no way dude i'm just going to enjoy being single. girls are nothing but trouble for the nice guys No, no. Not true. Girls are nothing but trouble for emasculate guys that don't know how to handle a lady. This type of guy is often mistaken for a nice guy, but that is not the case.

So stand up for yourself. Grow a backbone.

[cali feeder]

I have a problem: I constantly toy and flirt with girls that I know like me and then end up feeling terrible about it and hooking up with them, leaving them yearning for a relationship while I'm moving on to the next girl. I can't seem to make myself stop.

I've already had relationships, and I wouldn't mind another, but this just keeps happening.

Am I just a prick?

[Run-DMC]

I have a problem: I constantly toy and flirt with girls that I know like me and then end up feeling terrible about it and hooking up with them, leaving them yearning for a relationship while I'm moving on to the next girl. I can't seem to make myself stop.

I've already had relationships, and I wouldn't mind another, but this just keeps happening.

Am I just a prick?

The fact that you feel terrible about it means you aren't a total prick..

[Lettuce]

I have a problem: I constantly toy and flirt with girls that I know like me and then end up feeling terrible about it and hooking up with them, leaving them yearning for a relationship while I'm moving on to the next girl. I can't seem to make myself stop.

I've already had relationships, and I wouldn't mind another, but this just keeps happening.

Am I just a prick? Nothing is wrong with that.

Maybe start referring to the hook-up as "tryouts" (after the fact, of course).

[cjm3113]

I have a problem: I constantly toy and flirt with girls that I know like me and then end up feeling terrible about it and hooking up with them, leaving them yearning for a relationship while I'm moving on to the next girl. I can't seem to make myself stop.

I've already had relationships, and I wouldn't mind another, but this just keeps happening.

Am I just a prick?

That is not prickish. That is actually required male behavior up until the age of at least 17. After that, you may choose to settle if you would so prefer.

[GCdorman40]

it helps if the girl knows that you're undecided about having a relationship with them. meaning as long as you aren't like "i wanna date you" just to hook up with them, and they know it's more of a "i like you, but idk what i want out of the relationship" kind of deal.

also, you may end up liking one of these girls as well. keeping your options open to this situation can lead to a relationship. just don't get too bad of a rep by doing it.

[GrimsleyLax00]

ok so i like 2 girls. 1 has a bf who i have know for 6 yrs but we hate eachother. i hung out with her earlier today and last night. she sorta flirted with me but her friends do that with every1. we also just met last night at the movies. the other is the girls in my previous posts. shes single. what should i do?

[MNLAXGoalie]

I would go for the girl that you don't hate. If I'm correct you like a girl you hate?

[GrimsleyLax00]

no her bf and i hate eachother. he got pissed at her for hanging out with me and bonebrkr12 (here on tlf). he also plays lax. hes been on my eam since 2nd grade. i was thinking bout going after her to piss him off but now im going for her cuz i like her. and parts of her. hahaha

[Sir Kevin]

My problem is telling if girls are interested. I guess it's pretty common though. It sucks.

[Run-DMC]

My problem is telling if girls are interested. I guess it's pretty common though. It sucks.

It's totally a problem. I guess you can tell from the way they talk to you or act around you, but, they may just be the type that's into flirting and really likes another guy. But this isn't a problem. The fact that they like to talk to you is good.

[kasper.nilsson]

i didnt want to ever post in this thread, but here goes:

Theres this girl that i kinda like, and i think she likes me. she always asks me who i like, and sometimes flirts, but other times she can get kinda b**chy. its fine with me, and i'm interested,but i need a second opinion on whether or not she likes me before i go in for the kill. help please!

[dalaxmandef3]

If she's asking who you like that's a definite sign she's interested. Go for it. She says no then oh well. She says yes then you've got yourself a girl. Maybe you'll pay more attention to her then the next stick you're stringing. (10) I know you'll care more about that stick then you could ever care about a girl. (10) Sarcasm on Sarcasm? Is it possible?

[dalaxmandef3]

Live4it has made 129 posts in this thread and DMC has made 85. Wow.

[Lettuce]

(10) I know you'll care more about that stick then you could ever care about a girl. (10) Sarcasm on Sarcasm? Is it possible? Meta-Sarcasm.

[Live4It]

i didnt want to ever post in this thread, but here goes:

Theres this girl that i kinda like, and i think she likes me. she always asks me who i like, and sometimes flirts, but other times she can get kinda b**chy. its fine with me, and i'm interested,but i need a second opinion on whether or not she likes me before i go in for the kill. help please!

Quick answer, since I'm tired and leaving:
From what I hear, it seems to be some signs of interest, including the b...ch...y part, I say go for it.

[LaxMaxVince]

Live4It for Open Forum Moderator w00t

[IceColdCanadian]

So yesterday I was at a mad Halloween party with my friends. I was chilling outside and 4 girls came up and started talking to me. We all talked for about 20 minutes (I'm not going to tell you guys what we talked about), and then left. Then at the end of a CRAZY night, me and my buddy start leaving and one of them runs up to me grabs my arm, and tells me one of her friends is really interested in me... My buddy is yelling at me to leave since police and ambulances are coming, and I can't even remember what this girl looked like or who she was by the end of the night, so I gave her friend my home phone number (I know, bad move), and left. Now I'm afraid that she will be lighting up my home phone and I can't even remember what she looked like. If she calls, what can I tell her? I want to know what she looks like first and try to remember who she is before I start getting to know her better.

Any suggestions?

[Major]

You don't have a cell phone?

[IceColdCanadian]

You don't have a cell phone?

No. I'm dead broke.

[Areed]

When/If she calls, asks if she has a facebook.. Good luck :P

[3rdPersonPlural]

So yesterday I was at a mad Halloween party with my friends. I was chilling outside and 4 girls came up and started talking to me. We all talked for about 20 minutes (I'm not going to tell you guys what we talked about), and then left. Then at the end of a CRAZY night, me and my buddy start leaving and one of them runs up to me grabs my arm, and tells me one of her friends is really interested in me... My buddy is yelling at me to leave since police and ambulances are coming, and I can't even remember what this girl looked like or who she was by the end of the night, so I gave her friend my home phone number (I know, bad move), and left. Now I'm afraid that she will be lighting up my home phone and I can't even remember what she looked like. If she calls, what can I tell her? I want to know what she looks like first and try to remember who she is before I start getting to know her better.

Any suggestions?

IF she calls, talk to her. Tell her that you are a little foggy about your conversation and ask to be reminder what you and her talked about. That might help you recollect.

[Areed]

Alright guys, check this out. My best friend has a pretty good looking sister, and tonight, after my friend and I had a few drinks, his sister asked me up to her room.. My friend was passed out so I figured it would be cool. I mean we hit it off I guess, but I didn't want to do anything because it would more than likely ruin my friendship with him. So I basically kept it friendly and left after like half an hour. She probably though I was just being a jerk but who knows.. Also, to be completely honest, I'm not positive she wants me. I mean she texts me pretty often and invited me up to her room at 1:30 in the morning.. but I don't want to risk my friendship with him for nothing IF she doesn't like me. A few suggestions would help my situation greatly.. Thanks guys..

[psibley19]

Walk through the situation to it's completion in your mind. If in the end you are not willing to loose your friend in the process then don't do it. The only time I actually saw this work out for someone I know the girl and guy got married. Kudos to you for not taking advantage of the situation, because she is definitely sending signals. Bros before Hos unless you're ready for the consequences.

[Run-DMC]

i didnt want to ever post in this thread, but here goes:

Theres this girl that i kinda like, and i think she likes me. she always asks me who i like, and sometimes flirts, but other times she can get kinda b**chy. its fine with me, and i'm interested,but i need a second opinion on whether or not she likes me before i go in for the kill. help please!

Kasper, I don't want this to sound mean or anything, but girls your age act like that all the time. They act b**chy to get attention, always ask you who you like, etc. I'm confused why if she gets b**chy you would be okay with that? The only way your going to know is if you ask.

Heres my never fail way: Next time she asks who you like, describe her to a T and BAM girls love it.

[thrashthrash215]

you got it and i want to get back to hooking up with her again but like it seems kinda like she's lost some interest in being intimate but i know i still have a chance if i play this right. only thing is i'm not sure how i should play it...

i've been in the exact situation. what i did was i played it really confident, and basically started being a total meanie to her but flirty at the same time. when you do that girls always want your approval so she started liking me a lot, but i realized i didn't wanna pursue it for various reasons.

depending on the girl, that may work.

[lexlax92819]

I'm trying to get this girls attention. But she kinda keeps ignoring me. I need help.

[dalaxmandef3]

I'm trying to get this girls attention. But she kinda keeps ignoring me. I need help.

Plastic surgery. Maybe she's not interested. You can't win them all. Keep trying though.

[lids369]

how od you get rid of a girl that likes you but you think shes the most annoying person in the world without being a prick?

[Run-DMC]

Ignoring her and avoiding conversation usually works.

[tomtom]

I'm trying to get this girls attention. But she kinda keeps ignoring me. I need help.

Describe more what her ignoring you means. is she cutting off conversations and leaving? Not being talkative when you approach her? Not responding to you talking to her?

The key is to just get her talking about something. Anything. It doesn't have to be something exciting, just anything. Don't talk about yourself, talk about her and find out some things about her, then mention some things about yourself that fit with the conversation to see if she's interested. The cliche "how about this weather lately?" small talk is actually surprisingly effective if you know how to build off it. Learn to tell is the conversation is entertaining her, if it looks like it isn't you'd better change that fast. If it is, keep the subject going. In general, the odds of something happening are inversely proportional to the time she's bored with you and directly proportional to the time she enjoys talking to you.

[cali feeder]

I know I've posted this elsewhere, but here's a quick piece of advice on "getting with" females you're meeting for the first time.

When you first meet them, ignore them and be somewhat of a jerk. They'll crave your attention and at the same time, because you're ignoring them, go crazy for the jerk attention you're giving them. Then, about 90 minutes later, start being real sweet to them. They'll be on you by the end of the night. As long as you're even remotely good looking, this works about 9/10 times. Sad, but man it almost never fails.

Girls love attention (and money, so you can throw that in the mix too).

EDIT: This is not recommended for finding a relationship. But for everything else, this is almost sure-fire.

[Live4It]

I know I've posted this elsewhere, but here's a quick piece of advice on "getting with" females you're meeting for the first time.

When you first meet them, ignore them and be somewhat of a jerk. They'll crave your attention and at the same time, because you're ignoring them, go crazy for the jerk attention you're giving them. Then, about 90 minutes later, start being real sweet to them. They'll be on you by the end of the night. As long as you're even remotely good looking, this works about 9/10 times. Sad, but man it almost never fails.

Girls love attention (and money, so you can throw that in the mix too).

EDIT: This is not recommended for finding a relationship. But for everything else, this is almost sure-fire.

I must say I agree with most of this advice, and it is pretty logical as well.....

[hometownlax18]

I know I've posted this elsewhere, but here's a quick piece of advice on "getting with" females you're meeting for the first time.

When you first meet them, ignore them and be somewhat of a jerk. They'll crave your attention and at the same time, because you're ignoring them, go crazy for the jerk attention you're giving them. Then, about 90 minutes later, start being real sweet to them. They'll be on you by the end of the night. As long as you're even remotely good looking, this works about 9/10 times. Sad, but man it almost never fails.

Girls love attention (and money, so you can throw that in the mix too).

EDIT: This is not recommended for finding a relationship. But for everything else, this is almost sure-fire.

This is sooo true. Make sure your a classy jerk though, not like makes fun of girls/punches people for no reason jerk...I think by jerk you mean like a little cocky, girls love confident guys

[cali feeder]

This is sooo true. Make sure your a classy jerk though, not like makes fun of girls/punches people for no reason jerk...I think by jerk you mean like a little cocky, girls love confident guysYeah, subtly cocky.

Remember, nice guys finish last.

[hometownlax18]

Yeah, subtly cocky.

Remember, nice guys finish last.

that should be one of the golden rules of girls

[cali feeder]

that should be one of the golden rules of girlsOn this note...

Don't let ANY girl ever tell you that's not true. Because they're most likely lying.

[lhslaxer22]

I agree with that statement 100%. You learn from experience.

[hometownlax18]

I agree with that statement 100%. You learn from experience.

Girls don't want us to know that we should be jerks but we do now so their doomed haha...actually its funny we're talking about this because friday night I was talking to one of my best friends who's a girl and she admitted that to some point the worse you treat a girl the more they want you, she said its like they "want to fix us"

[Run-DMC]

I know I've posted this elsewhere, but here's a quick piece of advice on "getting with" females you're meeting for the first time.

When you first meet them, ignore them and be somewhat of a jerk. They'll crave your attention and at the same time, because you're ignoring them, go crazy for the jerk attention you're giving them. Then, about 90 minutes later, start being real sweet to them. They'll be on you by the end of the night. As long as you're even remotely good looking, this works about 9/10 times. Sad, but man it almost never fails.

Girls love attention (and money, so you can throw that in the mix too).

EDIT: This is not recommended for finding a relationship. But for everything else, this is almost sure-fire.

And this is why I love cali feeder.

[S. Parker]

see, what u do is let her get ahead at the beginning, then come back, but let the girl win by one

[skstorm]

hey so my girlfriend broke up with me cuz i was drunk and made out with a different girl (i know im stupid) and she found out. and i dunno its been a few weeks and i want to try and fix stuff between us and maybe get back together. and its her birthday on thursday so im thinking maybe flowers and a card saying sorry or something. Any suggestions on what to do i dont really have a ton of time.

[Attackalltheway]

hey so my girlfriend broke up with me cuz i was drunk and made out with a different girl (i know im stupid) and she found out. and i dunno its been a few weeks and i want to try and fix stuff between us and maybe get back together. and its her birthday on thursday so im thinking maybe flowers and a card saying sorry or something. Any suggestions on what to do i dont really have a ton of time.

good luck man, unless you guys were really close id say theres little hope for reconciliation

[Live4It]

hey so my girlfriend broke up with me cuz i was drunk and made out with a different girl (i know im stupid) and she found out. and i dunno its been a few weeks and i want to try and fix stuff between us and maybe get back together. and its her birthday on thursday so im thinking maybe flowers and a card saying sorry or something. Any suggestions on what to do i dont really have a ton of time.

The only thing you can do is talk to her, apologize, ask for another chance, etc...Pretty big mess up, so good luck. I wouldn't just show up at her house on her birthday with flowers though, you may want to try to talk to her first, but you could send a card and flowers if you wanted, saying sorry, but you definitely need to talk to her sometime, even if you send the flowers/card first then try to talk to her the next day or whatever.

[dukeslax]

anyone ever have a girl call them gay best friend. I'm sure she doesn't think I'm gay because my friends and I thinks she is hot (she is also my friends girlfriend). Any advice for this situation and seeing as this would make a difference we (the lady and I)
are close friends generally talking a good amount.

[Live4It]

anyone ever have a girl call them gay best friend. I'm sure she doesn't think I'm gay because my friends and I thinks she is hot (she is also my friends girlfriend). Any advice for this situation and seeing as this would make a difference we (the lady and I)
are close friends generally talking a good amount.

uhh.....what?

[hometownlax18]

uhh.....what?

i think he's saying that his friend's girlfriend who is hot called him her gay bestfriend and he's worried about it i think?
you said she knows your not gay so she probably said this playfully and I think she's probably refering to like the steriotypical movie how theres the main hot girl and then her best guy friend who is gay which so they go like shopping together and talk about all sorts of stuff...bottom line she's kidding around and just observing that your really good to talk to

[Run-DMC]

But it also means she doesn't think of him in a romantic way, correct?

[dukeslax]

If you did not understand what I said exactly Hometown hit the hammer right on the nail. I'm just wondering if this might mean something or she being playful wanting to make me like Will for anyone whose ever seen an episode of Will & Grace. I doubt it does but but girls confuse me. I figured if this did mean anything Live4it or someone else would know.

[SuperHyphy]

Alright guys, check this out. My best friend has a pretty good looking sister, and tonight, after my friend and I had a few drinks, his sister asked me up to her room.. My friend was passed out so I figured it would be cool. I mean we hit it off I guess, but I didn't want to do anything because it would more than likely ruin my friendship with him. So I basically kept it friendly and left after like half an hour. She probably though I was just being a jerk but who knows.. Also, to be completely honest, I'm not positive she wants me. I mean she texts me pretty often and invited me up to her room at 1:30 in the morning.. but I don't want to risk my friendship with him for nothing IF she doesn't like me. A few suggestions would help my situation greatly.. Thanks guys..

Hot sisters=score. I guess if you were drunk you could use that as an excuse for hooking up with her. Mainly figure out how your friend would react. Maybe he wants a guy he can trust like you to go out with his sister. Or maybe he's super protective of her, and you are infact risking your friendship. What I would do is make jokes about how hot his sister is and see how he reacts. You can decide how to react from there

[hometownlax18]

If you did not understand what I said exactly Hometown hit the hammer right on the nail. I'm just wondering if this might mean something or she being playful wanting to make me like Will for anyone whose ever seen an episode of Will & Grace. I doubt it does but but girls confuse me. I figured if this did mean anything Live4it or someone else would know.

ya she's being playfull trying to make you Will, I couldn't think of the guys name or I would of said that last night...It's all good it just means she considers you guys really good friends

[Tedster33]

I got to an all boys catholic school, but in the morning our school also provides transport for the local catholic girls school. That leaves our bus with one freshman girl on it. She is fairly attractive, and quiet. Ever since the first day of school when I told her that she looked super delicious without even knowing her name she has had a strong distaste for me and the feeling that I am the creepiest man in world(Intended Result). I have already held a concert of love songs for her on the bus while playing a bongo drum(and singing in my scratchy awful voice) and baked her a cake for her birthday along with telling her how she looks among other things. I am running out of ideas and need ideas of things to do to/for her on the bus ride. All help is appreciated.

[SpartanLax01]

hey guys so Im in 6th grade and I really like this girl so I decided to ask her out and she's the first girl I've asked out so I just went up to her in the hallway and asked her if she wanted to go out sometime but she just looked at me and was like what the H*** are you serious? and walked away should I have asked her differently or something?


Trust me bro, from experience wait until at least 8th grade. Before then it just makes things awkward and weird haah

[VianneyLax22]

Stop messing with her? Why would you be mean to an attractive girl?

[FindingReign41]

You intend to just mess with her?

[Tedster33]

Because she is much better looking then me anyways, I have no shot, She thinks its funny, so why not.

[atacklax]

I thought she thinks you're creepy?
Write her a poem.

[Tedster33]

I thought she thinks you're creepy?
Write her a poem.

What I mean by that is she laughs, but in the this is really weird what's going on laugh.

[chucktownattack]

Because she is much better looking then me anyways, I have no shot, She thinks its funny, so why not.

Don't be an emo kid...

Leave her alone. I used to mess with people way too much, and now lots of people don't like my cynical and obnoxious attitude.
This thread is clearly not real.

[Atkman9]

flowers!! lol

[Floridalax00]

So whats your motive here? Creep her out for entertainment for the bus ride?

Make a shirt with her picture on it.

[navylax161]

write her name all over notebook paper next to your name, and stuff like that. youve probably seen that in a movie or on TV at some point, so you know what i mean.

[Tedster33]

So whats your motive here? Creep her out for entertainment for the bus ride?

Make a shirt with her picture on it.

Well, as tradition, there have been two other girls who have transfered in years past because of we on the bus

[Floridalax00]

Well if you take it to the point where the girls feel so embarrassed by what your doing that they transfer schools, thats just wrong and immature.

[Tedster33]

Well if you take it to the point where the girls feel so embarrassed by what your doing that they transfer schools, thats just wrong and immature.

Those were not my doing, and Im a goofy/weird kid as is, so most people know its a joke

[thisvato516]

Because she is much better looking then me anyways, I have no shot, She thinks its funny, so why not.

this happened to me....and after a while we satrted talkling and just when i was about to ask her out, i find out she just went out this with guy the day before and sh couldent even tell me, i felt worthless

[tobin4]

Bring her flowers, get a friend of hers to go to the movies with her and you and another friend, then have HER friend in on it and have her not show up so its just you your friend and her, hah.

write her a poem, every day sit as close as possible to her lol


two of my friends did this to a girl that goes to my school...the end result wasn't great...tears were involved. just a warning



propose to her

[Hounds4life]

hahah your a maniac. making innocent girls transfer. haha jk but yea just keep doing dumb stuff like mentioned above, go up and kiss her :agree:

[Tedster33]

hahah your a maniac. making innocent girls transfer. haha jk but yea just keep doing dumb stuff like mentioned above, go up and kiss her :agree:

Sexual Harassment Is where I draw the line

[Floridalax00]

If thats the case, Im all for making a creepy "I love _________" shirt and wearing it everyday.(10) Seriously, how immature can you get?

[navylax161]

hahah your a maniac. making innocent girls transfer. haha jk but yea just keep doing dumb stuff like mentioned above, go up and kiss her :agree:

that could get you in A LOT of trouble. bad idea.

[Atwatwaw]

i don't care if this post gets deleted, you have a real problem. are you serious? how old are you, 7? you are only insulting yourself by boring yourself to such an end that the only way to quench your boredom is to harass someone. oh, i have an idea, why don't you fix the problems in your life that are making you so insecure?

[gfkeeper28]

If you actually like her you could try going up to her and being sincere about it instead of bringing in bongos and singing on a school bus. She probably just thinks you're being a jerk. Which it seems like you are. If you don't actually like her, stop.

[Hounds4life]

that could get you in A LOT of trouble. bad idea.

haha i no but from what he has said he sounds like he could care less, in all honesty i would just stop. It's not that funny

[itsthatkid]

I know what you should do...

Apologize to her and try to win over her friendship. It'd be a lot more fun having an attractive friend to sit with and talk to every morning then continuously bugging somebody.

[attackofthelax]

One day you will like girls....

[sabreace]

One day you will like girls....

Until then, I advise not getting too close or else you'll be infected with cooties.

[navylax161]

honestly, most of this is right. stuff like this really is not very funny. i used to find it funny, but its just immature. also, as itsthatkid kind of said, shes a pretty girl. you go to an all guys school. why ruin a golden opportunity like that?

[itsthatkid]

Tedster33 has not made any friends yet

Tehe.


Tell her I said hey, wink wink.

[thrashthrash215]

where do you guys go when you make plans to "hang out" with a girl?

i've always found the mall, movies, and bowling incredibly boring. i usually just drive around aimlessly and talk... which also can be boring.

[gfkeeper28]

For starters, this may get moved to the girl problem megathread.

If you're just starting to see her, try to coincide it with a school football or basketball game or something of the sorts. It'll be an exciting atmosphere and you'll both be around mutual friends, so it'll be comfortable as well.

[fhslaxplayer]

chillin at home is usually pretty tight go rent a few movies or something

[akalata]

i agree w. gfkeeper. football games or basketball games are an awesome place when tryin to talk to girls, cause your among friends (as stated before) or go to some place with a bunch of friends and talk to her.

[Run-DMC]

I got to an all boys catholic school, but in the morning our school also provides transport for the local catholic girls school. That leaves our bus with one freshman girl on it. She is fairly attractive, and quiet. Ever since the first day of school when I told her that she looked super delicious without even knowing her name she has had a strong distaste for me and the feeling that I am the creepiest man in world(Intended Result). I have already held a concert of love songs for her on the bus while playing a bongo drum(and singing in my scratchy awful voice) and baked her a cake for her birthday along with telling her how she looks among other things. I am running out of ideas and need ideas of things to do to/for her on the bus ride. All help is appreciated.

You sir, are an immature disgrace to the male gender.

[Live4It]

I got to an all boys catholic school, but in the morning our school also provides transport for the local catholic girls school. That leaves our bus with one freshman girl on it. She is fairly attractive, and quiet. Ever since the first day of school when I told her that she looked super delicious without even knowing her name she has had a strong distaste for me and the feeling that I am the creepiest man in world(Intended Result). I have already held a concert of love songs for her on the bus while playing a bongo drum(and singing in my scratchy awful voice) and baked her a cake for her birthday along with telling her how she looks among other things. I am running out of ideas and need ideas of things to do to/for her on the bus ride. All help is appreciated.
Give it time, and in a few years from now, you will find yourself here:
http://img397.imageshack.us/img397/8391/3r534rq5.jpg

DISREGARD EVERYTHING ABOVE THIS LINE-------------

In all honesty, he's just insecure, he wants to talk to this girl, and is afraid, and doesn't know how to go about it, so he does the things that he talked about. It's the only way for him to have any type of communication with her.

[K-Lax215]

haha i never thought i would actually post on this thread but here it goes:

so there is a this girl that currently i have known for close to 1 year now, she was new to my school and we met through my best friend (this comes into play a little later on)...and last year we became really really good friends and we actually did like each other, we used to text and talk all the time...however she decided to do something about this so she asked my Best friend if i liked her and he didnt even ask me and flat out said NO to her...so she decided to move on and start dating this other guy who is in college, so when i saw that i was thankful that i didnt move in because i thought she rejected me and just wanted to be friends.

so now its my senior year in high school (shes a junior), and we are best friends...but she is still dating this guy. We both share feelings and we know how happy we make each other, and she always tells me that "ohh bill you are the best!"...and yet she still chooses this other guy...very confusing

Now i wouldn't be so upset if this guy was actually a good guy, but he has treated her like dirt so many times, and the problem is they fight, then make up, then fight and so on...I dont understand why she tells me im the best and then goes and picks this guy...I mean i went over her house on Halloween and they got into a huge fight over the phone, and later she told me that she would rather lose him before me...but she still chooses him over me time and time again and I am just so sick of it, i cant be the best and yet still be second to him every time...i don't know what to do anymore, i was stabbed in the back by my best friend and that's why we are not together...i just don't know what to do, a couple of my 2 best friends say i should just make her choose but i really don't wanna go on seeing her if she chooses him...URGHHHHH please help! cause honestly i really do love this girl, but she doesnt see that i care more for her...thanks!

EDIT: Anyone got advice?

[cord13]

One day you will like girls....

hopefully, 'cause California doesn't allow that any more.

[laxlax&morelax]

Hey Fellas, I'm having a little problem here and I would love some help.

There is this girl who is in two of my classes that I am starting to like. She is pretty, confident, smart, has a great sense of humor and a great personality. I didn't really know her before this year, but I got to know her this year, we talk and have hung out in a group a couple times. Problem is I think she might sort of like me, but at other times I think she may not.

Some days we talk a lot, she laughs at a lot of my jokes, complements me on how good I am at one of our classes, complements me on how I know about stuff she does and is interested in, jokes around with me and all that stuff, but other days I barley talk to her and other days it is somewhere in between. So I get a lot of mixed messages and when she does compliment me and everything, I'm not sure if it is because she likes me or because she is just being nice because she is a very nice person.

So basically I was thinking that if we start talking more and more and she starts consistently acting like this towards I will ask her out and if not I won't because I don't want to ask her out too soon and seem desperate. I'm just wondering how can I drop a suddle hint that I like her?

Any help is appreciated.

[Run-DMC]

There's a threshold in which compliments become the basis of telling someone you like them. Hers may be because she wants to keep conversation going, or start it (which are both good), or the fact that she may want to be friends, and is a nice person (which is still a good thing). We're going to act like it's the first one. The fact that its only some days where she talks to you is good. If it was every single day, constant communication can get annoying. Girls need space. Going a day or two without talking and then being able to pick conversation up really quick is great. She's probably (from what I can tell from a few lines of text, mind you) is one of those girls who likes to have a little space. What I would suggest is giving her a little space every now and then and pick up some conversation.

To tell her you like her is...in my opinion difficult. There are a couple different ways that I find acceptable. Text messages that don't exactly say you like her, but give the general idea are a good way to go (in my opinion), providing you already have her number (if you do you're a stud). Telling her in person is..just difficult (again, in my opinion). AIM, Facebook, texts can usually provide some ammunition in dropping hints, but not flat out telling her.

If you're into flat out telling her, try getting her alone.

Good luck brah,

DMC.

[laxlax&morelax]

There's a threshold in which compliments become the basis of telling someone you like them. Hers may be because she wants to keep conversation going, or start it (which are both good), or the fact that she may want to be friends, and is a nice person (which is still a good thing). We're going to act like it's the first one. The fact that its only some days where she talks to you is good. If it was every single day, constant communication can get annoying. Girls need space. Going a day or two without talking and then being able to pick conversation up really quick is great. She's probably (from what I can tell from a few lines of text, mind you) is one of those girls who likes to have a little space. What I would suggest is giving her a little space every now and then and pick up some conversation.

To tell her you like her is...in my opinion difficult. There are a couple different ways that I find acceptable. Text messages that don't exactly say you like her, but give the general idea are a good way to go (in my opinion), providing you already have her number (if you do you're a stud). Telling her in person is..just difficult (again, in my opinion). AIM, Facebook, texts can usually provide some ammunition in dropping hints, but not flat out telling her.

If you're into flat out telling her, try getting her alone.

Good luck brah,

DMC.

Thanks for the help and you pretty much got it right, she is a really independent girl who does like space.

[gfkeeper28]

K-Lax, just wait it out. If they're fighting and he's in college they'll break up sooner than later. I was in that same spot, waited it out, and ended up dating this particular girl for almost 2 years.

[HCS14A]

alright so i'm kind of stuck in a bad spot and can't really get out of it.
i transferred to a private christian school after my 7th grade year at public school (my decision). at my school i attend now (freshman year), i do not find any girls at this school any more than "friends" and want to keep it that way. I still keep in touch with all my friends from my old school, but i can't seem to move a friendship into a relationship. like i'm not saying that i'm just searching for any girl to date, but now that i don't have any new options, i don't really know where to go to find the right girl. i'm fairly good looking, and have dont have to much trouble meeting new girls, but nothing has seemed to click.
cue live4it for advice.

[Live4It]

alright so i'm kind of stuck in a bad spot and can't really get out of it.
i transferred to a private christian school after my 7th grade year at public school (my decision). at my school i attend now (freshman year), i do not find any girls at this school any more than "friends" and want to keep it that way. I still keep in touch with all my friends from my old school, but i can't seem to move a friendship into a relationship. like i'm not saying that i'm just searching for any girl to date, but now that i don't have any new options, i don't really know where to go to find the right girl. i'm fairly good looking, and have dont have to much trouble meeting new girls, but nothing has seemed to click.
cue live4it for advice.

Well, since you can't create a girl that you'll like, there's not much you can do. It's kinda hard to search for and find the right girl, it doesn't hurt to keep an eye out, but when you find the girl, or she finds you, you'll know it. Maybe there is a girl at your new school, you just don't know it yet.

By any chance, was there a girl, maybe at your old school, that you really liked/had a crush on, that is now totally unavailable to you for some reason?

[hometownlax18]

was going to post in the Hottest Olympian thread but its closed so I'll put it on here...

I MET SHAWN JOHNSON,

I was at the Packers @ Vikings game yesterday and they were honoring all the gymnastics medal winners before the game, during the third quarter I went to get some food and was standing in line with my friend and her and some guy (maybe also an olympian) were in front of us, after shell shock wore off we talked to her for a couple minutes and I got a picture with her, its on my friends cell phone and i'm doing everything i can to get it to my comp so I'll post it if i do...I'd like to add that I thought she was good looking before but DAMN she's like 10000x hotter in person

[lids369]

wow you are so lucky! i wish i could have met a girl that hot, o wait i went to petco and there was a ferret that was soo fine, she looked exactly like shawn johnson. (0)

[thisvato516]

i got a problem fellas

ok so last year i met the cutest punk rock girl ever i mean i was head over hells and all that. so i was talking to her but not reallt talking more like getting to kno her. so by the begining of the summer we were really getting to like each other, i mean we had so much in commen, intrests music all that stuff, but we lost contact durin the summer. ok we met up in school and we started over and everything went perfect, i even made a thread here talking about plans to see saw 5 ( we have the same taste in movies music, everything) so in the middle of october she skips school to go hang put with her friends ( i still have my friends she still has hers) next thing i hear she just started goin out with someguy that day. i felt so horrible like i was wortlhless. a few days of being emo pass and im over it and i decide not to talk to her that much anymore, so when i walk past her and talk to 1 of her friends i catch a glimpse of her face and she always does that face that says "why arent u talking to me!?!?! GRRR". and im like u have a BF now, i dont wanna interfere. then i learn she was only going out with him beacuse he has money. so i dont really know what to do. i still have feelings for her but she has a BF and i dont wanna ger caught up in something. so what should i do?

[Live4It]

was going to post in the Hottest Olympian thread but its closed so I'll put it on here...

I MET SHAWN JOHNSON,

I was at the Packers @ Vikings game yesterday and they were honoring all the gymnastics medal winners before the game, during the third quarter I went to get some food and was standing in line with my friend and her and some guy (maybe also an olympian) were in front of us, after shell shock wore off we talked to her for a couple minutes and I got a picture with her, its on my friends cell phone and i'm doing everything i can to get it to my comp so I'll post it if i do...I'd like to add that I thought she was good looking before but DAMN she's like 10000x hotter in person

You're just another person to be lucky enough to run into someone famous. What makes you more special than the person who saw Wayne Gretzky in a grocery store? And honestly, she's overrated, I could pick out at least five girls in my city as hot as her, she just gets more attention, and everyone thinks she's so hot for the same reason people once thought yo-yos were so cool, because everyone else did, she's a fad.

[thisvato516]

why cant some one help me?!?!?!

[Live4It]

i got a problem fellas

ok so last year i met the cutest punk rock girl ever i mean i was head over hells and all that. so i was talking to her but not reallt talking more like getting to kno her. so by the begining of the summer we were really getting to like each other, i mean we had so much in commen, intrests music all that stuff, but we lost contact durin the summer. ok we met up in school and we started over and everything went perfect, i even made a thread here talking about plans to see saw 5 ( we have the same taste in movies music, everything) so in the middle of october she skips school to go hang put with her friends ( i still have my friends she still has hers) next thing i hear she just started goin out with someguy that day. i felt so horrible like i was wortlhless. a few days of being emo pass and im over it and i decide not to talk to her that much anymore, so when i walk past her and talk to 1 of her friends i catch a glimpse of her face and she always does that face that says "why arent u talking to me!?!?! GRRR". and im like u have a BF now, i dont wanna interfere. then i learn she was only going out with him beacuse he has money. so i dont really know what to do. i still have feelings for her but she has a BF and i dont wanna ger caught up in something. so what should i do?
That makes it alright? That makes it worse in my opinion, since she would even go out with a guy just because he has money. But if you really like this girl, I'm not gonna tell you to not try, but you would have a few things to work out. But in this situation, if I were you, since you guys have so much in common, I would try to be friends with her, but I don't know if I would be more than that.
Again, if you really like this girl, don't let me stop you...just be careful.

[hometownlax18]

You're just another person to be lucky enough to run into someone famous. What makes you more special than the person who saw Wayne Gretzky in a grocery store? And honestly, she's overrated, I could pick out at least five girls in my city as hot as her, she just gets more attention, and everyone thinks she's so hot for the same reason people once thought yo-yos were so cool, because everyone else did, she's a fad.

ya I could pick out 5 girls in my school, maybe my grade better looking than her but none of them are world famous or nearly as talented as her, I can't tell you why but watching someone win a gold medal on national tv makes them a little more attractive, why can't we just let a guy dream?

[Live4It]

ya I could pick out 5 girls in my school, maybe my grade better looking than her but none of them are world famous or nearly as talented as her, I can't tell you why but watching someone win a gold medal on national tv makes them a little more attractive, why can't we just let a guy dream?

Let A guy dream, or half the guys on this site alone?

[HCS14A]

Well, since you can't create a girl that you'll like, there's not much you can do. It's kinda hard to search for and find the right girl, it doesn't hurt to keep an eye out, but when you find the girl, or she finds you, you'll know it. Maybe there is a girl at your new school, you just don't know it yet.

By any chance, was there a girl, maybe at your old school, that you really liked/had a crush on, that is now totally unavailable to you for some reason?
you hit the nail on the head. there's this girl i've liked forever and she's liked me like the same amount of time. she considers me as her "best friend" and we chill alot and talk all the time. i think she get's the picture that i want to date her, but she doesn't want to "ruin our relationship" because its "too good to mess up". we like eachother in all, but i don't really know where to go from this point.

[navylax161]

That makes it alright? That makes it worse in my opinion, since she would even go out with a guy just because he has money. But if you really like this girl, I'm not gonna tell you to not try, but you would have a few things to work out. But in this situ