Girl Problem Megathread!

[SDPirate]

and by that i mean doing anything competitve against girls.

generally this will probably be a video game of some kind or some other peddly game.

do you just dominate or let them win.
you can never just dominate and then give them the win or they still get mad. its just an all around annoying topic

[Live4It]

First, totaly dominate them so that they know you can win, then ease into letting them one once in a while.

[Mavido]

First i dont go and require atleast 1 thread a day (as the TLF populace) to figure out how to deal with females.

[Jesse]

My girls whole family plays Tennis and are very competitve. She wants to play me next week.
She has just started getting back into Tennis after quitting... So I dont want to beat her... But she wont let me let her win either...
I know what you mean, but I couldnt understand it at first... Grammer man..

[SilverZeppelin]

i would pretend to play at an even level as them (ie win and lose equal proportions of rounds)

btw how are you getting girls to play video games lol

[manup5183]

My rugby teams ahs two really annoying girls. the arent really fat or ugly or any of that but they are soooo annoying. They usuually are getting hit. we dont play any different with them.

[SilverZeppelin]

but like pirate said, if you dominate them they get mad and leave. ive seen it happen.

[laxrat22]

what i do is dominate at some actvities but then let her win at others. theres been a couple times when my girl would complain about me beating her at something and then i remind her of the other things she beats me at and it makes her feel better

[sweet_ceX]

You gotta dominate first, show them that your good, and them the next time let them win so they actually know you let them win.

[CTLaxer]

Play to your abilities. Don't be a jerk and totally humiliate them if you're clearly above her abilitiy in whatever it is you're doing. Girls are very perceptive and can tell if you're playing down to their level. Depending on the girl this might be taken as acceptable, but most will not. You'll also find that as girls get older (ie, not high school), they want to be treated the same as any other person so losing to them on purpose will be seen as highly insulting and will quickly bring an end to any relationship with them.

Hope this helps.

[laxander]

So, cutting to the chase, I liked this girl. I was planning on asking her out, (my best friend knew this) I had the phone in my hand, ready to call, when I get this IM from another friend asking "Did you know Phil and Melanie are going out?"
Me:......wha--?
Now, my friend, hardly liking her, knowing im going to ask her out, asks her first.... I don't know the point of this post. I'm just ranting i guess.

[Warrior]

Well, If your friend did that to you then hes not a friend, and if the girl said yes to that friend then would you really want to go out with he rif she said yes so easily to another person.

Your still kind of young so you haven't figured this one out yet, but "Women come and go, and sooner or later you'll find a good one who won't want to leave and who you want to hold onto."

edit:: Though there are a few girl threads that you may want to look into that have good advice.. If i wasn't soo lazy i would merge this for ya, but i don't wanna at the moment, i gotta boogie....

[swish7209]

sock him a good one so he wont do it again

back stabbers :nono:

[AttackMan17]

For me, depends on the sport. If its tennis, I don't have to let her win...I'll lose anyway, because I am horrible at tennis now. But something like lacrosse...depends on how good she is. If she's good. Then I'll play pretty strongly. If she's bad/ok, I'll play bad/ok. Most of the ladies I hang out with play lacrosse, and I'm getting back into goalie (yeah!)...so they shoot on me, and if i feel like they are not as good at lacrosse, I'll let some shots by. If they are good, I'll try and stop all of them. I would NEVER just make it obvious that you're letting her win, because then she'd probably think that you think that she couldn't win otherwise. So, i usually if say...getting shot on (like I said above)...I'll stop a few, let one or 2 by, stop a few, let a couple by. But, IMO just like purposely missing all of them is stupid.

[laxander]

Well, If your friend did that to you then hes not a friend, and if the girl said yes to that friend then would you really want to go out with he rif she said yes so easily to another person.

Your still kind of young so you haven't figured this one out yet, but "Women come and go, and sooner or later you'll find a good one who won't want to leave and who you want to hold onto."

edit:: Though there are a few girl threads that you may want to look into that have good advice.. If i wasn't soo lazy i would merge this for ya, but i don't wanna at the moment, i gotta boogie....
Yeah, not friends anymore
they kinda talked about it for a while before decided they were guna date
"sooner or later" I see the sence in that, but it's cool that before that people can date others they're mentaly or physicaly attracted to.

[libertyvillelax]

Dick move on his part. If I were you I would definitely end my friendship with that friend of yours.

[AttackMan17]

Got a blunt hitting device...such as a club or bat?

That may solve your problems.

:runaway:



But, I hate people who do that.

[MeRattack]

you got served, go drop his a**

[laxander]

Got a blunt hitting device...such as a club or bat?

That may solve your problems.

:runaway:



But, I hate people who do that.
The moment i heard this i went to my attic and sorted through my hunting stuff, nothing that wouldn't kill him
*thinking* gut hook....no.....rifle...no.....knife.....no.....

[laxander]

Today at school, and yesterday.....I didn't see him once, i asked ppl if they saw him...."yes" so hmm...and he usually comes to my locker

[Zach]

Also, no girl wants to date a guy who sucks at sports, you can't let them completely blow you out.

[Hackstall]

Nothing is stopping you from asking her out on a date as well...it isn't like they got married. And even that usually doesn't stop people.

[Crimdad]

Flirt with her say hey baby you tired cause you've been runing through my mind( or some tacky pick up line from the tacky pick up line thread) go for her still if you want her you gotta go for it

and sorry to hear very dick move by that friend

[TRELAX1201]

like everyone,
trust no one.

live by it from now on

[MaKiMaKi13]

good one CS, but yea you dont need people like that ive actually had this happen to myself last year just drop em like a sack of potatoes and find some new women

[sweet_ceX]

There were too many girl problem threads coming up again, so I merged them.
What is it about this time of year?

[ShermanLax607]

Valentine's day sweet_ceX... DUH! :dummy: Probably not, but that was the first thing that popped into my head.

But anyways, my girl is coming over this weekend, and if it doesn't rain she badly wants to play me in Lacrosse, but one thing, she has never played and she said she wants full contact. Wow.. lol but still. We had a conversation about this and she said she'd be able to take me easily and knock me down, I'm 6'3", 185, and she is around 5'5" maybe 120? Those are estimates obviously, so I think she is a little out of her league.

But anyways, any ideas? I was thinking about playing soft and probably letting her get by me a few times. But any advice would be great.

[justlaxin484]

Today at school, and yesterday.....I didn't see him once, i asked ppl if they saw him...."yes" so hmm...and he usually comes to my locker


hes one shady kid from the looks of it....meet him in the parking lot :naughty:

[MaKiMaKi13]

Valentine's day sweet_ceX... DUH! :dummy: Probably not, but that was the first thing that popped into my head.

But anyways, my girl is coming over this weekend, and if it doesn't rain she badly wants to play me in Lacrosse, but one thing, she has never played and she said she wants full contact. Wow.. lol but still. We had a conversation about this and she said she'd be able to take me easily and knock me down, I'm 6'3", 185, and she is around 5'5" maybe 120? Those are estimates obviously, so I think she is a little out of her league.

But anyways, any ideas? I was thinking about playing soft and probably letting her get by me a few times. But any advice would be great.

hmm let her take you down ?? lol pretty simple answer there man

[berger1227]

when you're on d use as poor footwork as possible that still looks like youre trying and maybe trip once (only once shed know its fake if you do twice)

and obviously dont like give her the hard poke check to the kidney...

[MaKiMaKi13]

There were too many girl problem threads coming up again, so I merged them.
What is it about this time of year?

well springs approaching so i guess most of the guys on this forums are just getting an early start, either that or valentines day lol

[AttackMan17]

and obviously dont like give her the hard poke check to the kidney...

Where's the fun in that?

I say, just deck her a few times. :laugh:







Er...That may not go over too well...I say just get used to how whe plays, and play on her level, and let her get by once in a while, but dont make it really obvious.

[Kid A]

Valentine's Day, send a dozen roses to the school, either have them sent to the office and have her called down, or have them delivered to her classroom.

Believe me boys, there aren't many foolproof women-traps, but that one's kryptonite.

[UVALax64]

Valentine's day sweet_ceX... DUH! :dummy: Probably not, but that was the first thing that popped into my head.

But anyways, my girl is coming over this weekend, and if it doesn't rain she badly wants to play me in Lacrosse, but one thing, she has never played and she said she wants full contact. Wow.. lol but still. We had a conversation about this and she said she'd be able to take me easily and knock me down, I'm 6'3", 185, and she is around 5'5" maybe 120? Those are estimates obviously, so I think she is a little out of her league.

But anyways, any ideas? I was thinking about playing soft and probably letting her get by me a few times. But any advice would be great.


Waste her. Lax is your game, not hers. WASTE HER.

Well let her score like once.

Then waste her and make it like 14-1. Don't let woman think they know more about lacrosse than us.

P.S. You should definitely let her take you down :rolling:

[justlaxin484]

and by that i mean doing anything competitve against girls.

generally this will probably be a video game of some kind or some other peddly game.

do you just dominate or let them win.
you can never just dominate and then give them the win or they still get mad. its just an all around annoying topic


well if i let my girlfriend win, she usually gets all up in my face with the "what now, i own you" kinda stuff. so we play again and then its total domination on my part hahah to "put her in her place", but she never gets mad by it or anything. neither of us can focus on any kinda game long enough to deceide a winner most of the time anyways.... :naughty: :thumbsup:

[jkolar20]

dont let them win please no

[Warrior]

There were too many girl problem threads coming up again, so I merged them.
What is it about this time of year?


Today was national break-up day. I know this because Yahoo! News told me so...

[abomb]

So, cutting to the chase, I liked this girl. I was planning on asking her out, (my best friend knew this) I had the phone in my hand, ready to call, when I get this IM from another friend asking "Did you know Phil and Melanie are going out?"
Me:......wha--?
Now, my friend, hardly liking her, knowing im going to ask her out, asks her first.... I don't know the point of this post. I'm just ranting i guess.
dude.......im sorry. closest thing to that, that has happened to me is this year i was about to ask this girl i liked to homecoming, had a unique/special way of asking her, and the day before i was planning to ask her (two weeks before actual homecoming) this guy who is also on my lacrosse team asks her out as in boyfriend/girlfriend. thus they go together to homecoming, still together to this day. and she kept bringing up who i was planning/going to ask to homecoming the days leading up to the dance. i ended up not going. oh well, better luck next year right?

[laxpro]

My girls whole family plays Tennis and are very competitve. She wants to play me next week.
She has just started getting back into Tennis after quitting... So I dont want to beat her... But she wont let me let her win either...
I know what you mean, but I couldnt understand it at first... Grammer man..
Grammar is the correct spelling.

[SDPirate]

my gf has become obsessed with n64. sdhe has actually gotten pretty good at mario cart. and decent at goldeneye

[laxrat22]

Valentine's day sweet_ceX... DUH! :dummy: Probably not, but that was the first thing that popped into my head.

But anyways, my girl is coming over this weekend, and if it doesn't rain she badly wants to play me in Lacrosse, but one thing, she has never played and she said she wants full contact. Wow.. lol but still. We had a conversation about this and she said she'd be able to take me easily and knock me down, I'm 6'3", 185, and she is around 5'5" maybe 120? Those are estimates obviously, so I think she is a little out of her league.

But anyways, any ideas? I was thinking about playing soft and probably letting her get by me a few times. But any advice would be great.

let her lay you out and as you're going down pull her down with you and turn it into a "wrestling match"

[MaKiMaKi13]

my gf has become obsessed with n64. sdhe has actually gotten pretty good at mario cart. and decent at goldeneye

yea if it was a wrestling match an dsuch id probably let the chick win, or they wanna play DDR because i suck at that but any other video game i will own them lol and probably end up rubbing it in there faces and regretting it later unless ive known em for awhile

[aviator]

Alright.............

This year, second semester, I meet this girl. First off with out talking to her we sort of "looked" at eachother, later on the semster we ended up sitting by eachother when a friend of mine was sick (we choose our own spots). After about a week of helping her in the class, getting to know eachother, and what not we become friends. This is around spring time. As the semester goes along even more, we become really close. We talk the whole hour and could've still talked for hours. It turns out she is in the minority of liking awesome music, lax, hockey, and still being drop-dead gorgeous. On the last day of school, I gave her my number, she gave hers about a week before...any way, we hang out in the last class, where the school isn't doing anything. We sat on the grass and talked again, and I ended up being only with her at the end of the day. We hugged and what not and went on with summer. A few days into summer, a friend of mine throws a big party, and we are both there. After hanging out with some of my buddies for an hour and a half or so, she sees me and we end up hanging out in the pool. However, as we are talking, another friend of mine starts to dunk me and stuff. All three of us (me, the girl I liked, and my friend (a guy)) all sit and talk. The girl is kindof like sitting around me and flirting and stuff, and the kid I was hanging out with earlier calls me over, so I tell her I would catch up with her in a bit. Turns out she went to the other friend that was with us, and kissed him once, then realized what she was doing and left for the garage to sort of hide out. I go their not really expecting to see her, but I do and I talk to her again. She is sortof worried what she did, as if she screwed up something. She had me ask the kid if he was interested, he wasn't and she was glad. Apparantly, she liked somebody else, and after sitting by her talking to just her for the rest of the night and watching the stars and stuff, she has me guess who she liked. Now I do not live in a lax town by any means, and after asking other ?s that narrowed it down to me and a couple other kids, I asked what sport he played. She said she would tell me another night, as she doesn't want to "get with" 2 guys at once. BTW she is not a s l u t by any means aight. So after all this talking we end up holding hands and planning another hangout. We decide to bring all of our fave movies to her house, which was also when she was gonna telll me who she liked, and if it were to be me, I was gonna ask her out. I say I have to go, she begs me to stay, blah blah....after I leave I realize I really like this girl. A few days later I texted her, and we had (in comparisin to our other convos) a very well bland conversation, that didn't really get me anywhere. I texted her the next night asking if she wanted to hang out the day after, and she said she had to babysit. Just a question for everyone, do you think she is playing hard to get because she thinks I am on to her, or she isn't much of a txter and prefers in person contact, or the last possible thing, her feelings for me passed. Thanks for reading I guess.....ha


END RANT

[laxattack76]

hard to get, just by reading your post i can tell this chick digs you. give in to the whole hard to get thing. it will make her feel special, nothing better that you can do for a girl. just wait it out, if you really like her and she is as amazing as you make her out to be you should wait it out. it could mean a long-term relationship in the near future.

[LiquidMercury16]

she's playin hard to get, you're still in highschool stay single and enjoy life. Relationships tie you down too much haha, plus like I said it's highschool chances are you would break up anyways so unless a relationship is the only way you can consistantly "get some" forget it and just find friends with benefits

[XLaxClipper]

Like every other thing, it depends on the girl. Just have to read her right. Some will think its cute if you let them win. Others are competitive and will get pissed off if they feel your letting them win. Some will get pissed if you don't let them win.

[Live4It]

pssh......I didn't bother reading your whole story, or book, because I don't want to waste 10 miniutes of my life worrying about yours.

But anyone who plays hard to get in highschool is dumb, if they're too hard to get, I just move on...there's plenty of others who aren't gonna play games with you.

[Warriorlacrosse]

Nothing is stopping you from asking her out on a date as well...it isn't like they got married. And even that usually doesn't stop people.

Anything you want to talk about :naughty:

[JEeagleslax]

btw how are you getting girls to play video games lol

ok...so i am rele bored otherwise i wouldnt be looking at a thread that basically is complainin bout all of us girls and how competitive we are... if u want a girl to play a video game normally just ask. my boyfriend and i spent like 3 hours playing video games last weekend cuz we were bored. and don't ever let us win b/c if were gonna win we want it to be cuz we r better at the game not cuz u let us. my boyfriend realized this and he creams me in EVERY video game we play EXCEPT Need For Speed: Hot Pursuit

[JEeagleslax]

lol ok im a girl and ill tell u this much...be4 i started dating my boyfriend now we were best friends and i would always say to him that the guy i like didnt feel the same blah blah ill never be good enough...needless to say he always said yes u r good enough he does like u and he ended up having me over one night and kissing me on the forehead...basically how we started dating. it will be 6 months together on sunday. she prolly is playing hard to get b/c she doesnt no if u like her as more than a friend or if u r just trying to be supportive. thats what i did anyways and if i hadnt i coulda been with my boyfriend for another 3 months be4 we ACTUALLY started dating. just tell her u like her. its wayy less complicated

[aviator]

Alright, gonna send this back up because I need some more advice

So i have been contacting this girl every few days either over the internet or through texts, and when I catch her at a good time, we talk for a good length (still nothing like our in person convos) and stuff. It has been about a little over a week since we hung out together, but we still keep in contact...Next week there is this big parade/festival/mini fair thing in my town, this is where I was gonna ask her out...I was jw do you think I should express I like her over a text or phone conversation before then, because it has been a while since we really had one of those moments together (the last time we hung out), and another week may be enough time for the feelings to pass alittle bit, however I know this may be good dependng to see if we both really like eachother enough to have a solid relationship. Gah, girls are confusing..............

[zak]

How is that even a problem? Just make a move at that fair jont. Talk to her before if you feel that its necessary, necessary meaning you think shes forgotten about you. Youre thinking with the wrong head. Just get 'er done.

[zak]

Alright.............


http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/the_tucker_max_advice_page.phtml

Read.
Reflect.
Apply to your life.

[aviator]

ha thx zak, first post help, second, eh not so much...........but yea, I am over complicating things, I know she likes me and I like her

[zak]

ha thx zak, first post help, second, eh not so much...........but yea, I am over complicating things, I know she likes me and I like her
Well then its smooth sailing from there. I mean as long as you dont have any dark secrets and "she" isnt a "he" you'll be cool.


Also, i didnt really realize both posts i responded to were yours. wooo 2am!

[THALAX]

My girlfriend doesn't like lacrosse...Should I dump her? Or peg her in the face with a ball and then dump her? hmmm decisions, decisions...

[aviator]

try and get her into it


Like how badly does she not like lax?
is it just a "I don't really understand it" or a "I HATE LACROSSE AND LIKE REAL SPORTS THAT ARENT BRAND NEW" sort of thing


and yes, I know that lacrosse is one of americas oldest, if not oldest sports and love it to death, but a few people that are alien to the game that I know think it is "new and confusing"

just take her to a mll game if you can, then to a resturaunt, then back to the crib for uhhh some more "action involving a pole"


or dye/string a head for her/with her. she might think it is artsy/crafty and most girls like that stuff

[LaxMaxVince]

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/the_tucker_max_advice_page.phtml

Read.
Reflect.
Apply to your life.

haha i love tucker max

my dillemma- ive liked this girl for a while now, turns out we became really close, really good friends. the sad thing is, she looks at me more as a best friend than more than that. we talk on the phone usually for around maybe an hour and a half to two hours. she and a few friends even came over to play on my wii (that is not an innuendo haha) its gotten to the point where she would talk about the guy she likes and i would offer advice and stuff. i dont want to say anything negative to her so i just go along with it.

im afraid if i tell her i like her, that it will make things awkward between us, and it will jeopardize our friendship.

should i just wait things out, hoping that something will happen someday? ive never met a girl like this one. shes absolutely amazing, smart, gorgeous, and has a wii like me. i cant ask for anything more.

[DJ Death]

the way i see it, you have to be friends with her before you can be something more, or else things you didn't know about her come to the surface while you're with her and make things a lot different than when you first got together with her, so to me, you're all set, but you should tell her to see you as not just a friend, but a man.

[LaxMaxVince]

the way i see it, you have to be friends with her before you can be something more, or else things you didn't know about her come to the surface while you're with her and make things a lot different than when you first got together with her, so to me, you're all set, but you should tell her to see you as not just a friend, but a man.

hmm, thanks for the input, really appreciate it.

does anyone else have any input? sry im not really the best when it comes to girls

[JazzyJake]

she's playin hard to get, you're still in highschool stay single and enjoy life. Relationships tie you down too much haha, plus like I said it's highschool chances are you would break up anyways so unless a relationship is the only way you can consistantly "get some" forget it and just find friends with benefits
i'd disagree with that.
i had been friends with my girlfriend for 3 years before i asked her out.
it was never a 'like-like' situation until this past year, and from what i've found, find a girl that you're just great with, and it won't matter!
and FYI she still kicks my *** on some of the games on HER wii, but she can't mess in CS:S :laugh:
ahhhhh she's great

[BurnSomeRope]

Got a blunt hitting device...such as a club or bat?

That may solve your problems.

:runaway:



But, I hate people who do that.

understand how that statement can be mistaken for meaning something else.

[aviator]

hey guys just an update


I have been texting her every couple days since the last time we hung out. She ended up basically stopping playin hard to get, recently. Example: I texted her late one night wondering if she was still up. First thing she said next morning was she wasn't but wanted to talk then or whatever. We ended up talking for a little more than a half hour. Later that night she texted me again, and we talkd for a good amount of time. We ended up planning on hanging out at that fair shindig today and sunday (my birthday)(both her idea). I was just wanting to hang out with her on one day, and seeing what would happen, then taking her again, but she was confident she wanted to hang out both days, which is a good sign that she certanly likes me as much as before. The next morning (today) she textd again, and we talked some more. I said that I would talk to one of my ffriends (a guy) that was bringing me and I would get back to her. It turns out it starts pouring, and I texted her a bit ago saying that it was pouring. She was really bummed out, but wanted to hang out tommorow and sunday. Turns out keeping on talking to her occasionally, and me being awesome (ha, somewhat joking) that she ended up being more confident I liked her, and her getting more attached to me. So yea, thanks to whoever helped me. Hope I helped people to.

[LaxMaxVince]

hey guys just an update


I have been texting her every couple days since the last time we hung out. She ended up basically stopping playin hard to get, recently. Example: I texted her late one night wondering if she was still up. First thing she said next morning was she wasn't but wanted to talk then or whatever. We ended up talking for a little more than a half hour. Later that night she texted me again, and we talkd for a good amount of time. We ended up planning on hanging out at that fair shindig today and sunday (my birthday)(both her idea). I was just wanting to hang out with her on one day, and seeing what would happen, then taking her again, but she was confident she wanted to hang out both days, which is a good sign that she certanly likes me as much as before. The next morning (today) she textd again, and we talked some more. I said that I would talk to one of my ffriends (a guy) that was bringing me and I would get back to her. It turns out it starts pouring, and I texted her a bit ago saying that it was pouring. She was really bummed out, but wanted to hang out tommorow and sunday. Turns out keeping on talking to her occasionally, and me being awesome (ha, somewhat joking) that she ended up being more confident I liked her, and her getting more attached to me. So yea, thanks to whoever helped me. Hope I helped people to.

sounds good, make sure to update us afterwards

[aviator]

Ok a lil update...Today I was unable to get a ride to the fair thing, and neither was she. However, we made plans for tommorow (my birthday) so that should be good. 15 looks like it is gonna be great so far ha. But ya, so I guess I will update either tommorow or the coming days

[Riot]

Me and my friend are going to be hanging out with this beautiful girl that I used to have a thing for, but now just think she's hott. She has a boyfriend and they are both in love -- it's a great relationship. How should I go about breaking them up? I'm not really interested in the long haul.

[Laxgoalie4282]

Me and my friend are going to be hanging out with this beautiful girl that I used to have a thing for, but now just think she's hott. She has a boyfriend and they are both in love -- it's a great relationship. How should I go about breaking them up? I'm not really interested in the long haul.
hahahaha get some dirt on her bf and set him up so it looks like he was cheating on her... not really, why do you wanna break them up, just to hook up with her? if tahts the case, find someone hotter and hook up with them.

[middieman1]

Okay so here's my big dilemma.
I've been with this girl for about 9 months and we were usually pretty good. Yesterday she said she wanted a break so we could like have fun during the summer and stuff like that and i asked her if she was going to get with other guys and she said maybe. Theeen after that whole conversation i ended up getting pretty intoxicated and hooking up with a random girl from my school. My girlfriend (well now ex) is extremely mad and i don't know what to do.

Any ideas?

[valax3]

alright so theres this girl that seems to change how she feels about me all the time. recently a loose chick sent her old conversations between the where i was saying how the girl was getting in everyones business and talks bad about everyone, which made her upset. im not really sure what to do with this girl, cause i can talk my way out of anything with her. i know if i could get into a lasting relationship with her itd be great, but i dont want her changing her mind on me after a week, any help?

[singsingallstar]

beat them but keep it close

[Riot]

What the heck. How do I get my ex to stop telling her mom to email my mom the details of our nonexistant relationship? I just accidentally checked my mom's email, and my ex-girlfriend's (we broke up like 4 or 5 months ago) mom is still emailing my mom to tell her when I turn her daughter down.

Excerpt:
I'm sorry that [Riot] chose to avoid the post-trip gathering. a few of the guys said it was because of Katie... and that he thinks I hate him. it's ok to tell him that I still love him. Katie has nothing to do with it.

The whole family is just weird. Her mom called my mom to ask her if I was breaking up with her daughter........ because I didn't spend enough time talking to her between the field and the locker room during a lacrosse game that I was playing in. The answer was yes, if you were wondering.

[Bretmac]

ok so heres my dilema i liked this gril and i dont like her anymore but after i stopped i didnt tell her that im not intrested and i kinda have a thing for her friend who liikes me HELP!?

[aviator]

Alright everyone, big update on my amazing story

There is a plot twist/new characters!!!

ok

So I end up going to that fair shindig yesterday (well by the time I get done posting this it will be 2 days, wahtever, just the 24th) and I see her there. She said she was looking for her friend, so I help her find her. Later after talking with a group of people, we ditched everyone as we always do during group outings. She said she was actually looking for me or whatever. We end up talking alone not about relationship stuff, but about our summers so far and sports and stuff. Then a few of her friends show up, and one of them says (we will call him A) A is here. The gal I like seemed worried, and was sorta hiding, anyway, we all talk and take pictures and stuff, when we see A in the distance, he notices her and comes over right away.


A little info on kid A
he is really popular
he is one of my more distant friends, we talk occasionally, both think eachother is cool, and stuff like that, but like he was never in my group of close friends
he really likes her
most girls end up liking him
he really likes the girl I like (we will call her C so it is less confusing)
C thinks A is kind of annoying though, she used to like him, he likes her now, alot
He texts her alot
He acts as if they are going out
She doesnt really like this because she likes someone else


So he comes over, and like hugs her and stuff and starts trying to start a conversation with her, she goes with it because she said earlier she is to nice to let someone down, which allthough very inconvienont for me, I also think is kinda cute. I said it, get over it. Ok, so after time he leaves, and she sits down and talks with me again. One of her other friends is walking by, and she says she is going to say hi. The girl that came up to talk to us earlier is still with us, and C walks away for a sec. This girl says right away "You know she likes you alot right?" And I respond with "Kindof, I thought so until the whole A thing, but I really like her".....

C comes back and after talking some more, we go BK to get some food, only her friend goes in, because me and C where getting food elsewhere. This gave me some time to talk to her alone. I say "well if you don't like a, who do you like." then she has me guess which I started doing at that party from chapter one I think, haha. I ask what sports he plays, she said she can't say, that it would give it away. I say "Oh like they are sports that not many people here play (my town is lame on lax, we dont have a team), sports he has to go to other schools to play. (C)"yes exactly", Around this point in the conversaition I ask "Well does he like you" (My head was screaming YES HE DOES) and she said " SOmetimes I think so, not sure" I said something liek " well I am sure he does" and see her friend coming out of BK (UGGHH).

We then go to a grocery store, where they decide to get me stuff for my bday. They end up getting brownies, candels, streamers, pop, and cups and stuff, hurrying to make sure they get it before 3 (time I was born). We end up setting the stuff up in front of the store, and it was great. I really liked it, and it only made me like the girl more. Me and her took more pics together, and we headed back to the fair.

We talk to the rest of the people in our grade, where A is clearly avoiding me, supposidly really mad. I go back with C and her friend to get there bikes at the grocery store. As I was about to ask her out (seriously, i said her name and it was on the tip of my tounge) her friend butted in and changed the subject, hurrying her home. We said our goodbyes, and she biked away. I go back to hang out with the other people, waiting for my ride. We all start walkin in the directioon of BK, and when we are there my dad calls and tells me to wait there for him. While sitting there waiting, I text her saying

Sorry about that, truth is, I really really like you, I was about to say something, but didn't want to with your friend there

She almost instantly responded with

Me too :)

I then told her

I feel really dumb saying that over a text, but whatever

she responded, and we talked for a bit where I said I would ask her out the next time we hung out, that she would be happy and "suprised" (sarcasm, even more of a plus, shes great), also she was excited that she could not be stalked by A anymore. She had to leave after some convorsation, and texted me later that night, I told her I was setting up my new net that I got as a present, and that I wanted to talk to her after. After shooting on the cage for a bit, I texted her saying "hey, Im done, whats up" or something. She responded saying she was in a fight with A and she would bbl. I shot some more, ate, watched some tv and texted her, thinking the fight was over, she said it wasnt, I asked what it was about, she said he was mad she hung out with me, and other stuff as well. I told her I would talk to her tommorow because she had to go to bed. I texted some of my other friends for a bit, and went to sleep my self, listening to "our Cd" (sounding the seventh trumpet, I burned it for her when I first met her, we had our first big get to know eachother conversation about music mostly, and she has said mmany times how she loves the cd and stuff, that I had great taste and it made her think of me or whatever) Next morning I woke up, came on here for a bit and texted her. She said she was still in the fight, I told her she could text me after if she wanted. I went to shoot more, and do other stuff, checking my fone for a txt. I thought of her all day, except for the few hours of my lax game tonight. I texted her a while after it, saying I was back and whats up. She said she was at cheerleading practice and had to go. I then texted her at 11 something assuming it was over. It was, but she had already fallen asleep, no response yet (tommorow I will get one early in the morning most likely)


The problem is, we are at a very akward stage, in between friends and boyfriend/girfriend, I am planning on taking her to a movie this week so we become the latter. Hopefully it will work out. I was going to say something like "Now I know this is going to be a major shocker (SARCASM), but will you be my girlfriend?"

good, not good? opinions please, or should I go with the serious "I have really liked you for a long time, I think you are an amazing person, and are very beutiful, I would love it if you where my girlfriend" or something along those lines

Meh, none of you read that probably :p

[Riot]

Is reading my mom's email wrong?

[Wu-Tang]

screw relationships if your in highschool they dont mean a thing.......i live my life by the hit-it and quite-it rule. thats all im tryin ta say

[lax_gal1910]

My girlfriend doesn't like lacrosse...Should I dump her? Or peg her in the face with a ball and then dump her? hmmm decisions, decisions...
Peg her in the face first, then drag her to every single lacrosse game for the rest of the summer...she'll come around

[lax_gal1910]

ok so heres my dilema i liked this gril and i dont like her anymore but after i stopped i didnt tell her that im not intrested and i kinda have a thing for her friend who liikes me HELP!?
dude...tell her! Shes gonna keep thinking u like her if you dont which will make it even harder for when you go for her friend. Let her know extremely gently...and tell her you have a thing for her friend

[BeaverFondu]

Okay so here's my big dilemma.
I've been with this girl for about 9 months and we were usually pretty good. Yesterday she said she wanted a break so we could like have fun during the summer and stuff like that and i asked her if she was going to get with other guys and she said maybe. Theeen after that whole conversation i ended up getting pretty intoxicated and hooking up with a random girl from my school. My girlfriend (well now ex) is extremely mad and i don't know what to do.

Any ideas?

Just talk it out with her, but do it in person, go out to lunch, go over to her house or vice versa. But tell her she can't go back and forth on the issue if she just really wants to be with you, and then mention stuff about how if she called for the break because she wanted to fool around, then she can't be mad if you fooled around.

[Jesse]

Is reading my mom's email wrong?
Its ok if she doesnt find out.
Find anything cool?

Aviator. Ive never asked a girl to "be my girlfriend", we both just sorta assume it. Its kinda weird to ask that question.
Im at that "awkward" stage with a girl right now, im seeing her tomorrow.

[lax_gal1910]

Aviator, go with the sarcastic one...its funny and she'll think its cute. Then, a little later tell her how hardcore your feelings are just so shes sure.

[Bretmac]

dude...tell her! Shes gonna keep thinking u like her if you dont which will make it even harder for when you go for her friend. Let her know extremely gently...and tell her you have a thing for her friend
i have tryed but she is one fo those freaky girls thats like if you tell me yuo dont like me ill kill my self probably shoulda put that in my first post but anway well i have grad tonight and idn what im gonna do with her and her friend so im a little scared

[LiquidMercury16]

Aviator, it's not official unless it says so on facebook haha, that is the standard in college at least. Forget women in highschool, and most of freshman/soph year of college. Just hook up and enjoy the free-for-all orgy type atmosphere. No sense in tying yourself down when there are so many opportunities.

[pole15]

Is reading my mom's email wrong?

Its ok if she doesnt find out.
Find anything cool?

Why is Riot so misunderstood?

[LiquidMercury16]

He always is but if you do understand it provides great laughs

[smooth87]

What do you wear to an oyster bar? I'm hitting one up in lower Fairfield County (CT) with a lady friend but i don't want to under dress or be too over dressed and look like I'm trying to hard.

[CtLaxin]

What do you wear to an oyster bar? I'm hitting one up in lower Fairfield County (CT) with a lady friend but i don't want to under dress or be too over dressed and look like I'm trying to hard.

id say jeans and a polo

[Riot]

What do you wear to an oyster bar? I'm hitting one up in lower Fairfield County (CT) with a lady friend but i don't want to under dress or be too over dressed and look like I'm trying to hard. I've found that a suit and tie work for all occasions.

[LiquidMercury16]

So true riot, either that or suit with just the button down...I'm dressed up but I still know how to party haha.

[TPGoalie]

never go wrong with the tuxedo tee

[DanK112]

I feel really dumb saying that over a text, but whatever

she responded, and we talked for a bit where I said I would ask her out the next time we hung out, that she would be happy and "suprised" (sarcasm, even more of a plus, shes great), also she was excited that she could not be stalked by A anymore. She had to leave after some convorsation, and texted me later that night, I told her I was setting up my new net that I got as a present, and that I wanted to talk to her after. After shooting on the cage for a bit, I texted her saying "hey, Im done, whats up" or something. She responded saying she was in a fight with A and she would bbl. I shot some more, ate, watched some tv and texted her, thinking the fight was over, she said it wasnt, I asked what it was about, she said he was mad she hung out with me, and other stuff as well. I told her I would talk to her tommorow because she had to go to bed. I texted some of my other friends for a bit, and went to sleep my self, listening to "our Cd" (sounding the seventh trumpet, I burned it for her when I first met her, we had our first big get to know eachother conversation about music mostly, and she has said mmany times how she loves the cd and stuff, that I had great taste and it made her think of me or whatever) Next morning I woke up, came on here for a bit and texted her. She said she was still in the fight, I told her she could text me after if she wanted. I went to shoot more, and do other stuff, checking my fone for a txt. I thought of her all day, except for the few hours of my lax game tonight. I texted her a while after it, saying I was back and whats up. She said she was at cheerleading practice and had to go. I then texted her at 11 something assuming it was over. It was, but she had already fallen asleep, no response yet (tommorow I will get one early in the morning most likely)

Why not call? your texting charges must be through the roof.

[Riot]

My friend might hook me up with some eurotrash chick. She came here to clean dishes for this Jewish camp.

I'm kind of scared -- does anybody have any experience with eurotrash chicks?

[faceofflax15]

My friend might hook me up with some eurotrash chick. She came here to clean dishes for this Jewish camp.

I'm kind of scared -- does anybody have any experience with eurotrash chicks?
They're attracted to Mullets.

[Riot]

Actually, apparently she has one.
"she has hair extensions that give her a little bit of a mullet"
gross

[ADKlax24]

Alright heres my story.

Heres a little info on the girl.
Has had quite the number of bf's
goes to another school (all three middle schools are connected but we went to different ones, now we are both freshman)
She went to my last lacrosse game (ended the season 12-0) and she told me after she was gonna kiss me but her friends told her not to.

Heres a little info on me
Well me and all my friends are the best lacrosse players in school, we run a tight group and surpisingly we dont get to many chicks.
I have never had any serious relationships and in the past i have been more of a "hit it and quit it" kinda guy.

I went to elementary school school with this girl and i hadnt talked to her since, i would sometimes see her in the hallway but she didnt show any interest in me. So a couple weeks later at this health fair she comes up to me and she asks for my number and we start talking. We would talk for a very long time sometimes even up to four hours. We became really close friends and i was gonna ask her out. On a field trip to the Great Escape we held hands and she hugged me all the time. So i thought she liked me. I tell a couple of my friends that i am gonna ask her out. That was big mistake telling anyone. One my friends tell her that i am gonna ask her out and she tells him to tell me not to and shes likes someone else. A couple of days later i found out she is going out with that guy.

All signs pointed to that she liked me. women.......

Here we are today and im trying to fix things with her and get things back to normal. I need some help getting our friendship back to normal and should i try to go out with at another time?

Oh yeah this all happened in about a period of two months so it was relatively quick.

[aviator]

alright all, I am hanging out with her tomorrow, we are going to watch a movie at her place in between her cheer practices, I probably will have enough stuff to fill another "chapter" look for an update in the next few days....

[Dan]

Geez, what's with all the *****footing? Quit worrying about whether or not there is mutual liking and get something done. Girls A: Like confidence and B: don't like it when you *****foot. That's redundant, of course, but it needed to be said. Call up, be like, hey, snuggams, let's watch a movie, cuddle, get it done. Not hard. Don't mention any ulterior motives, just say, hey, you wanna watch a movie? Wanna go to a park? Wanna have a campfire? Whatever, these are all golden opportunities whether you want easy action or a girlfriend. Even fireworks. Go watch the fireworks with a girl and if you're not holding hands/cuddling with her, you suck.

[LiquidMercury16]

So true Dan, so true. All these kids on here worrying about relationships in middle school and highschool. Guys take it from the older people on here, hit it and ditch it while you can and than go to college and do it some more and than find a good girl your junior or senior year in college. Just always wrap it up. If you think about it logically, the relationships that last through highschool and into college are pretty much slim to none. So might as well enjoy highschool and college and just get it on like rabbits.

[lax_gal1910]

alright all, I am hanging out with her tomorrow, we are going to watch a movie at her place in between her cheer practices, I probably will have enough stuff to fill another "chapter" look for an update in the next few days....
nice to know you will have another chapter, lol. Youre keeping us on the edge of our seats!

[lildixon]

One general rule of thumb for all of ya'll when dating girls, whatever they have now, they are going to have more of later

If they are fat now they are gonna be fatter later
If they are a *female dog* now they are gonna be more of a *female dog* later

just keep that in mind folks

[ColtsLax]

this goes for everyone.

Just smash her out. seriously.

Aviator, you missed a real good opportunity when A was talking to her at the fair. Next time you see this chick and A talking, saunter over (it has to be a saunter) and say "hey Babe, (kis her) lets go do something" and walk away, that will give A the message real quick.

Adk, drop her, shes not interested, there is nothing there, move on and find another girl, there are 3 billion of them out there.

Riot, that girls mom said she still loves you, perfect opportunity to smash her out. Then you can say you did some chicks mom. Seriously, do it.

[WIlax]

Got a problem..help would be appreciated...aight so Ill give you the background info first...Theres Me. BoyA GirlA.......
Me, Boy A, and Girl A, are all best friends...we hang out almost every day...I REALLY like Girl A, she has no idea and I want to take our relationship to the next level. Problem is Girl A likes Boy A, and Boy A wants no part of her at all but she has no idea... Should I just tell her that I like her and he doesnt like her...or should I just forget it because it could ruin a great friendship...

I know that was confusing..if misunderstood ill retype it in a semi-coheirant way...help is really appreciated...

[lax_gal1910]

hmmm...tricky, tricky...i say just leave it for a while, the friendship will probly be more important in the longrun

[WIlax]

True...boy A knows that I like her though...and so do a couple of other people..cause I spilled the beans to them while intoxicated...and Id rather it be me telling her than it slipping through the grapevine to her

[lax_gal1910]

ooooohhh...in that case, yes, tell her. Itll be so bad if she finds out from someone else. What have you got to lose? If the friendship is strong enough and nothing ends up working out between you and her or him and her, then you guys will still be friends

[Dan]

Eh, friendships really come and go at a young age. Sure, I could say that all my friendships with girls in high school are so important blah blah blah. My friendships with guys have lasted. With girls, it varies. Some have grown strong, but most have fallen off. When you go to college a lot changes. I'm a lot closer with girls from college than any girl I've known for 4 times as long at home.

This being the case and the truth 99.9% of the time, go for the girl you like and don't wuss around. I don't care who likes who or what. If you like her and there's a chance, that's all you need. Seriously. Don't worry about the drama or the whole crap about who likes who. Go with your gut and not your brain.

That's all I got.

[CSlax06]

Number one rule about women (other than they are the root of all evil...), dont keep secrets! As much as you feel like a n00b going up to a girl, your going to have to do it anyways!

[laxr24]

Is it wrong to go out with a girl that all your friends despise?

[Live4It]

No, it depends a little though, as long as she doesn't try to keep you from seeing your friends, or your friends don't hate you for going out with her, then I think it's ok if they don't really like her.

[N8dawg19]

i have seen that happen and it didnt end good srry to down u bro but that was my friend and u have ur friends

This happened to me two days ago..
I go to the fair with my buddy and two BZs i like one of the girls and he supposedly likes the other girl. So we have fun at the fair flirt with the two girls, go home he spends the night and he starts talking about how him and the girl i was flirting with have a thing for each other. GAY . The good news was that the other girl likes me and in the end we were all happy. Lessoned learned live in the moment and there is such thing as karma.

[raykessler]

I don't need help i just need to vent....

last night my friends and I went out with a group of girls and pretty much each of us paired off, hooking up at some point (mabie not that night but in the future) was pretty much guaranteed. So we walk them back to the dorms and everyone except me and my girl go to bed. We stayed up TALKING until 5:45 AM. She was just being really awkward about everything. It is extremely frustrating.

But whatever I will probably hook up with her if not tonight then tomorrow and she's awesome (wants to see transformers with me, how many girls will do that?). I don't care how sleep deprived i have to get talking to her it WILL happen.

[valax3]

All right I kinda need some help here if possible.

So recently there were two chicks that liked me, one whom I dislike, and the other I see as a friend right now. After earlier I decided to completely shut down the first girl mentioned, and my problem lies with the other girl and her friend. Her friend caught my eye, but I didn't want to hurt my friend by going for this girl. Now I'm not sure whether or not to tell this girl that I kinda like her because of my friend. Any help?

[CtLaxin]

All right I kinda need some help here if possible.

So recently there were two chicks that liked me, one whom I dislike, and the other I see as a friend right now. After earlier I decided to completely shut down the first girl mentioned, and my problem lies with the other girl and her friend. Her friend caught my eye, but I didn't want to hurt my friend by going for this girl. Now I'm not sure whether or not to tell this girl that I kinda like her because of my friend. Any help?

How do you know this 2nd girl likes you? also how close is this girl as a friend. I dont think many can answer this because not many know how she is but dpeneding on how close she is, the closer yu are, the more i think you shouldnt but if ur not that close then go for it

[aviator]

PLOT TWIST

So after talking to "C'' the for a bit, I tried making plans with her, The plans fell through, so a few days later (the 29th I think, not sure) I tried making plans with her again. She said she was on her way to south dakota, blah who vacations there. Apparantly, there is no service there as I havent talked to her since, thing is, there is this other girl I had a thing for a while (couple months 1-3 ish) back, and off and on I felt the feelings were mutual. We will call her "L". So at one point I sorta liked "L" and "C" at the same time or whatever, but I got over L as more than a friend and as you all know focused on C. So on that same day, right as my conversation was ending with C, L said hi, and being that I only talked to her for like an hour the whole summer, we have had pretty consistint conversations since then (once again like the 29th or something), where we talk on and off all day. I basically stopped trying to contact C the past few days, and just figured, well, balls in her court, I am not gonna say anything to her nless she does first, you know? So I continue these conversations with L, and it takes my mind of off C better than almost anything (number one is lacrosse, 2 is movies/games/hanging with other friends), and ya, she is also very attractive, and easy to talk to, with great taste and whatnot. I am thinking to pursue this more, but worried I might end up losing C in the process (doesn't worry me now, she is still in SD for a while, she said about a week), so I am thinking off maybe hanging out with L at a movie or other thing. Do you think C would be mad at this, being we have a "certian relationship (didn't know how to spell gar-un-teed), or is it okay if we arent together yet. I already told L about my feelings for C and she was interested in that, and was saying things that might have hinted at possible feelings for me as well....UGH

So...

waiting on C to talk to me before contacting her first

Good idea? Bad Idea?

and

Pursuing possible "more than friends" with L

Good idea? Bad idea?

Look for more later

[faceofflax15]

Eh, friendships really come and go at a young age. Sure, I could say that all my friendships with girls in high school are so important blah blah blah. My friendships with guys have lasted. With girls, it varies. Some have grown strong, but most have fallen off. When you go to college a lot changes. I'm a lot closer with girls from college than any girl I've known for 4 times as long at home.

This being the case and the truth 99.9% of the time, go for the girl you like and don't wuss around. I don't care who likes who or what. If you like her and there's a chance, that's all you need. Seriously. Don't worry about the drama or the whole crap about who likes who. Go with your gut and not your brain.

That's all I got.
Bingo boys. You guys are trying to hard and thinking to much. You're thinking with the wrong hea..... you know the rest of the line.


So, I believe I have a new female companion, Neat-o.

[beach2300]

PLOT TWIST


So...

waiting on C to talk to me before contacting her first

Good idea? Bad Idea?

and

Pursuing possible "more than friends" with L

Good idea? Bad idea?

Look for more later


Wait for "C" to talk to you. If you have made attempts and she hasnt responded in a couple of days...get over it.

"L"- depends on how much you like her. If not more than "C", dont bother. Someone else will come around.

[valax3]

Alright so i know this second girl likes me because her friend told me. She is a fairly close friend, and I had talked to the first girl a little more, who is not as close of a friend

[lax_gal1910]

PLOT TWIST

So after talking to "C'' the for a bit, I tried making plans with her, The plans fell through, so a few days later (the 29th I think, not sure) I tried making plans with her again. She said she was on her way to south dakota, blah who vacations there. Apparantly, there is no service there as I havent talked to her since, thing is, there is this other girl I had a thing for a while (couple months 1-3 ish) back, and off and on I felt the feelings were mutual. We will call her "L". So at one point I sorta liked "L" and "C" at the same time or whatever, but I got over L as more than a friend and as you all know focused on C. So on that same day, right as my conversation was ending with C, L said hi, and being that I only talked to her for like an hour the whole summer, we have had pretty consistint conversations since then (once again like the 29th or something), where we talk on and off all day. I basically stopped trying to contact C the past few days, and just figured, well, balls in her court, I am not gonna say anything to her nless she does first, you know? So I continue these conversations with L, and it takes my mind of off C better than almost anything (number one is lacrosse, 2 is movies/games/hanging with other friends), and ya, she is also very attractive, and easy to talk to, with great taste and whatnot. I am thinking to pursue this more, but worried I might end up losing C in the process (doesn't worry me now, she is still in SD for a while, she said about a week), so I am thinking off maybe hanging out with L at a movie or other thing. Do you think C would be mad at this, being we have a "certian relationship (didn't know how to spell gar-un-teed), or is it okay if we arent together yet. I already told L about my feelings for C and she was interested in that, and was saying things that might have hinted at possible feelings for me as well....UGH

So...

waiting on C to talk to me before contacting her first

Good idea? Bad Idea?

and

Pursuing possible "more than friends" with L

Good idea? Bad idea?

Look for more later

Yea, definately wait for C...and if "more than friends", while probly not a good idea, happens, make sure youre the one to tell C

[aviator]

alrite a bit more of an update


I still havent really talked to her yet, but this being after she was done with vacation she got her fone taken away, and me making a dumb decision while talking to "L" deleted her from my fonebook :/ The night I did that I basically got over her because I heard a rumor that possibly she had a thing with "A" (turns out not the truth, found out that last night). Anyway, taht night I stayed up pretty late talking to L and really started getting feelings for her, some of the things she said really helped me at the time and made me feel for her. Just comparing my situation w/ C to times in her (L's) life and stuff, then ya the convo moved on and one and it was great. I have a big problem with wearing my heart on my sleeve, but hell, it looks good w/ my shirt hahaha. Anyway, after being completely over her I went over to one of my friends houses the next night. He was saying he talked to C on the fone (he has a girlfriend and is not interested in her because they already tried dating in early spring and it ended in about a week, he was talking to her so they could become JUST FRIENDS again because they went through a period when they where very mad at eachother for a while. So he said after sorting his thing out they talked about me for a bit and found C still likes me, and that she has no thing with A that they just hang out as friends, with him trying to get action and a relationship, and with her holding back. He said something about how C said when I hang out with her she really really really likes me, but when we arent hanging out, she still likes me but not as much as when I am hanging out with her, kind of confusing, but that is her only drawback as a person, she can be confusing at times.) Moving on in the story, I was debating with my self on what to do. Planning on either calling her or something saying I had to talk to her about some stuff, but that I wanted to do it in person. So ya, planning on having another very long conversation with her, and if I am not going out with her after that, it was because we just are going to stay friends, because after really really liking her this summer, the past few weeks, my feelings kind of just stopped, and I assumed the worst. Me being worried for that heart of mine on my sleeve, I felt a bit more concerned about pusuing something with her if it will end after like a week with us not being as good of friends, because as much as I like this girl, I love her as a person, and love the friendship and conversations we have, but on the other hand, the conversations maybe where sort of "taken to a new level" due to us having things for eachother. So ya, I have L where I wanted her the other day, but now I don't want her and my feelings are mixed for C, but everything bad thought about her recently were just rumors and miscomunication, so after I see her again and talk to her, things will more than likely spark up again. And now I have a good 2 and a half hours to think more, off to go mow the lawn with my tired body and pulled groin, GAH, alright


Oh, before I forget I will be at all Midwest Barnes and Noble locations book signing for all the fans (10)

[aviator]

oh, and I also got another offer for a girl a year younger that like gaur-un-teed action, and I am having my birthday party with friends at a waterpark, where me and my best friend are planning on macking up some honeys, so this might all have to wait, or I might have to just miss out on those 2, because a lasting relatiosnhip with C eh would actually be better.....ya....maybe...ha, jk but ya

[navylax161]

wow there should just be an "aviators social life" megathread. it would be like 8 pages long.

[faceofflax15]

Ehh, People, also a good tip, Never get in a friend zone with a girl your interested in. Do whatever you must to stay out of it.

[aviator]

oh navylax that made me chuckle......it would deffinatly be that long, and recognized by a major movie studio (not to toot my own horn) and turned into a big budget movie




with snoop dogg making a cameo

[pole15]

This thread is pretty pathetic. Like, no offense or anything.

[Riot]

my parents wont let me ride in the car with teenage girls driving if were going on dates..! can somebody tell me y my parents r out to ruin my life?

[DJ Death]

i would do the same thing if i were your parents. teenage girls are the WORST drivers...i just went through my senior year of high school and there was literally an accident in the student parking lot at least once every 2 weeks, all of them involving girl drivers.

[murderlax]

Ehh, People, also a good tip, Never get in a friend zone with a girl your interested in. Do whatever you must to stay out of it.

"48hrs to kiss her before the "friend zone" kicks in..."

-scrubs

[Valaxman17]

Ehh, People, also a good tip, Never get in a friend zone with a girl your interested in. Do whatever you must to stay out of it.

wish i had remembered that 2 weeks a go im stuck in the friend zone with a chick now

[James]

"48hrs to kiss her before the "friend zone" kicks in..."

-scrubs
Not true at all. You have to make it clear you are sexually interested. You can do that plenty of ways.

Mostly Kinesthetics ( think thats what its called).

[animalbmx]

my parents wont let me ride in the car with teenage girls driving if were going on dates..! can somebody tell me y my parents r out to ruin my life?

your parents are doing a smart thing

[Dan]

Friend Zone sucks.

[kb-lax_attack10]

alrite a bit more of an update


I still havent really talked to her yet, but this being after she was done with vacation she got her fone taken away, and me making a dumb decision while talking to "L" deleted her from my fonebook :/ The night I did that I basically got over her because I heard a rumor that possibly she had a thing with "A" (turns out not the truth, found out that last night). Anyway, taht night I stayed up pretty late talking to L and really started getting feelings for her, some of the things she said really helped me at the time and made me feel for her. Just comparing my situation w/ C to times in her (L's) life and stuff, then ya the convo moved on and one and it was great. I have a big problem with wearing my heart on my sleeve, but hell, it looks good w/ my shirt hahaha. Anyway, after being completely over her I went over to one of my friends houses the next night. He was saying he talked to C on the fone (he has a girlfriend and is not interested in her because they already tried dating in early spring and it ended in about a week, he was talking to her so they could become JUST FRIENDS again because they went through a period when they where very mad at eachother for a while. So he said after sorting his thing out they talked about me for a bit and found C still likes me, and that she has no thing with A that they just hang out as friends, with him trying to get action and a relationship, and with her holding back. He said something about how C said when I hang out with her she really really really likes me, but when we arent hanging out, she still likes me but not as much as when I am hanging out with her, kind of confusing, but that is her only drawback as a person, she can be confusing at times.) Moving on in the story, I was debating with my self on what to do. Planning on either calling her or something saying I had to talk to her about some stuff, but that I wanted to do it in person. So ya, planning on having another very long conversation with her, and if I am not going out with her after that, it was because we just are going to stay friends, because after really really liking her this summer, the past few weeks, my feelings kind of just stopped, and I assumed the worst. Me being worried for that heart of mine on my sleeve, I felt a bit more concerned about pusuing something with her if it will end after like a week with us not being as good of friends, because as much as I like this girl, I love her as a person, and love the friendship and conversations we have, but on the other hand, the conversations maybe where sort of "taken to a new level" due to us having things for eachother. So ya, I have L where I wanted her the other day, but now I don't want her and my feelings are mixed for C, but everything bad thought about her recently were just rumors and miscomunication, so after I see her again and talk to her, things will more than likely spark up again. And now I have a good 2 and a half hours to think more, off to go mow the lawn with my tired body and pulled groin, GAH, alright


Oh, before I forget I will be at all Midwest Barnes and Noble locations book signing for all the fans (10)

sounds like you should try to hook up a 3 way... just my opinion

[steve-okneav-o]

[QUOTE=James;1276043]sexually interested.[QUOTE]


lol you sound like my 5th grade sex ed teacher.

[aviator]

yay I am giving another updat, this is where the story really turns wierd.....member L as a supporting character? yup, spinoff bee-otches....

So I am talking to her last night and we had this joke we were going to write a song about our problems with past relationships from a few days ago, and during the last convo I tell her my problems with C were basically finished, and that I was just confused on weather to put her in the "friend zone" on purpose, because that is what I see C as more of now. And after I said I would probably fall for C next time I saw and talked to her. L thought that was sweet, but she also said this
" Yep, I am just trying to help. Sorry if it is not what you wanted to hear (she warned me to be careful), but I just dont want her to (expletive) you over cuz ur cooler than to let someone do that"

and after telling her thanks, and that it has been amazing talking to her and I apologized for talking about C so much, that the conversation should be about me and L. She said she didnt mind and she thanked me for saying that and stuff. I also told her that the reason I talked about C was because when I fall for for girls, I fall hard. she thought that was very cute and told me so. After I told her this I also hinted at liking someone else that was on "the back burner" for a while. She wanted to find out who, and I didn't really tell her at the time, wanted her to squirm a bit. I then told her that I had a thing for her earlier during the school year. She said that was funny, because she did for me too, then said she hates when that happens. I told her something that got her to realize the "other girl" was her. She told me that she actually liked me alot now, and said that I had to hang out with her soon. So ya, tuesday I am going to a movie with her and we are going an hour early to talk. She said she was very excited, and wehn I sadi goodbye, she said she wasnt expecting "it" to happen then, but she was very glad. I was talking to her a bit today and I asked a question about if something would happen between me and L what if I would talk to C and sort things out, if I could still come out of it trying to be very close with C again but this time as a really good friend, she said she didn't care at all, as long as there was no cheating. So basically, it get all the girls but the one younger than me..........for now, jk I plan on being with L because she said she wanted someone cool to be with and be close with for a while, told her the same, but if something doesn't work out, even though I hope things do, I can still get that other girl, and I may try to hold it off to after my party, but if something is there with L on tuesday, I am taking it for sure because I am starting to care for L more. To quote the matches "I always trip on my clumsy heart". So ya, and I am worried, that during my thing with L me and C fall for eachother again.....hopefully I can avoit this and just stay great friends with her. So ya....L is the winner for now

[murderlax]

Not true at all. You have to make it clear you are sexually interested. You can do that plenty of ways.

Mostly Kinesthetics ( think thats what its called).

no, no, no. it's not my philosophy, it's taken from an episode of scrubs.

maybe you should have read my post better next time.

[faceofflax15]

In fact, if you are in friend zone, Start a fight with her. Stop talking with her for two weeks.
Then go at it again.

I refuse to ever go in friend zone again...
was there too much last year

[lax_gal1910]

wow there should just be an "aviators social life" megathread. it would be like 8 pages long.

lol...definatley!!

[lax_gal1910]

aviator,
Stick with L, and DO NOT fall for C again, she has played hard to get for way too long

[Live4It]

L..C...jeez, this is starting to sound more like HS math than girl problems, but this is wayy more confusing.

[laxpimp]

aviator...

Are any of these people named Joey, Jen, Pacey, Andie or Dawson..?

Kidding bro.

Anyways. Been there. Anytime you think you're gona fall for "C", just think of how much fun you have with "L". Do whatever it takes do stay with "L", she's the keeper. "C" is definitly toying with you, and worth the effort. If you can talk to "L" about all your problems, be completly comfortable with her, and what not, she's the better choice in all of this.

[laxr24]

what is the best way to exit the friend zone

[Lacrossebum03]

But whatever I will probably hook up with her if not tonight then tomorrow and she's awesome (wants to see transformers with me, how many girls will do that?)

How many girls would do that? I asked one to go see it with me and a friend, and she didn't go.. shafted, haha.

[aviator]

ah, just another one, ha I understand this is for advice, but havent really needed too much just been updating with info

so ya, L's phone has been really messed up, so I havent really ahd a full conversation with her in the past few days, however it is getting replaced, so yaa, look for a longer one after we hang out and stuff

[Sack Attack]

aviator,

Hit 'em both.

[Live4It]

aviator...

Are any of these people named Joey, Jen, Pacey, Andie or Dawson..?

Kidding bro.



I got that joke, sad, isn't it?

[GClax49]

i say to a girl i havent seen you in awhile
and she says i no where do you usually hang out?

How do i respond? say i dont care where we hang out and assume she is implying she wants to do something?


edit: I then said: I dc though we can hang out wherever u want.
and she says k

how do i respond to this??

[GClax49]

anyone got an idea? i want to respond soon

[zak]

Give me her number, ill hang out with her for you, and if it goes well ill let you know.

Christ, just hang out with her. You do know where you hang out right? Just bring her there.

Edit: On second thought, just hit yourself in the face with a brick.

[GClax49]

yeah, but what does k mean? Is it a k i dc or a k lets do something??? I dont know what she is trying tho say here

[laxr24]

it doesn't seem like she's too interested if she responds with k

[lax_gal1910]

I got that joke, sad, isn't it?

lol...me too :P

[lax_gal1910]

she mite be...shes probly just nervous. Youre the guy, youre supposed to be the one who initiates where and when. Suggest an idea, then if she says sure, okay, or something like that, then she wants to.

[laxpimp]

I got that joke, sad, isn't it?

Not at all friend.

[GClax49]

I don't know how to approach this at all...I don't want to sound like weird or anything just asking her too. I dont want to just ask her out of nowhere, any suggestions on how to work it into a conversation...

[aviator]

ok everyone.....this update is very interesting

so....yesterday..well 2 days ago because its after midnight (it was monday)
I had a lacrosse practice and game and had my phone off. Now as a few of you know, I didn't have C's number anymore (page 2 I think) and havent talked to her since like the begining of the month. Anyway...she calls and texts while my phone is off. I return her text afterwards, and talk to her for a while. Now I am not going into details very much because that would drag on for a while, but to sum it up she was very happy to talk to me again, she had tried contacting me since the last time we talked alot (she says alot of people dont recieve her messages every once in a while, and that she would have tried more, but her grandmother recently had a heart attack and her family had to help her out and stuff. So at this time she was in the Dakotas again, but will be returning Saturday. She also said she really wanted to hang out, and that her feelings for me never changed. She basically dropped the whole hard to get thing and seemed even more interested than ever. So I made plans to hang out with her Saturday, and also fell for her agian, the only problem at this point was telling L. So I hit her up, and asked her first off if her feelings stayed the same (remember, I havent talked to her rerally the past week except a few short conversations). She said that they kind of did, but only because she was unable to talk to me, but she sorta figured if we hung out they might change back, but also that she liked this other guy a little bit, or she was starting too. I told her about C, she understood, and agreed to be just friends for the time being. All of this, all though taking a long time, works out amazing for me. The party discussed earlier is on thursday, and she gets back saturday so we will see what happens



now, for today, er yesterday (tuesday)

I went to the sounds of the underground concert with a group of friends. C text messeged me and we talked pretty much all day off and on. She said she wished she was there with me and stuff, and that made me fall for her even more, the music there is stuff most people don't like. I told her who was playing and who played and stuff in between sets and all that, she new almost all the bands, and liked all of them except the few that I also didn't like (I was telling her about mushroomhead and she said ew I hate them, so do I) and all taht. I thought this was really cool, oh, she even thought the GWAR blood and show sounded "very sick but sounds like alot of fun". She is awesome. Anyway, later when I was on the way home, I sugjested that me and her go to warped tour together, she loved this idea and was going to ask tommorow, er today (ugh) because she had to go to bed early. But I digress.



Ya, so things all worked out, I guess if need be I will post a final update


I guess thanks to everyone who sort of helped, I guess all I needed was to retell my story and I kind of figured everything out on my one, but some of the comments helped so ya....I hope I also helped out other people and all that. Alrite.............

[cjm3113]

Okay, so I'm the pitcher and you guys are the catcher. We are meeting at the mound to discuss an important issue. I just hit a home-run, but when I hit the ball, I broke my bat. Now, the game is tied and the other team's best batter is up. Do I take my chances and pitch to him? Or should I play it safe and walk him?

[lax_gal1910]

Aviator,
Well, took you long enough :P, but glad everything finalllllllllllllllllllllllllllllly worked out

[lax_gal1910]

I don't know how to approach this at all...I don't want to sound like weird or anything just asking her too. I dont want to just ask her out of nowhere, any suggestions on how to work it into a conversation...

Just you know, talk to her and stuff, then start talking about something coming up that the both of you are interested in, and u know, just be like, 'hey we should go together'. Or forget that and just ask her out! It wont be weird if shes interested

[irishlax555]

wait. if your the pitcher... why are you batting. your in the national leauge?

[cjm3113]

wait. if your the pitcher... why are you batting. your in the national leauge?

Yes, the Milwaukee Brewers.

[ohiolax23]

hey guys here's my situation. ive started liking this girl who used to like me a couple months ago, problem is she has a boyfriend. I didn't really do anything a couple months ago because she was only kinda hot, but now shes really really hot. Me and her started talking again recently and i think she might be starting to like me again. a couple of months ago she was crazy for me (my friend showed me the messages she sent him about me on myspace). I really dont know what to do
:[ help

[FamousAmos]

So theres this girl.
Me and her like each other alotttttttttttttt, but theres one reason as to why we're not going out yet.

Because i have a problem with her flirting with guys. . . .

How should i tell her i feel uncomfortable with her talking/flirting with guys?

if it wasnt for that, i'd ask her out already

i was thinking about this
"hey, listen i dont like how youre flirting with all these guys, ya know? gives me second thoughts, you dont see me going around talking to other girls"

[murderlax]

well famous, i dont think you should say that scine you two arent officially a couple.
just go for it and tell her how you feel, if she doesnt feel the same way, throw a brick at her head.(10.)

[FamousAmos]

well famous, i dont think you should say that scine you two arent officially a couple.
just go for it and tell her how you feel, if she doesnt feel the same way, throw a brick at her head.(10.)

my god, maria sharapova is actually HOT.

[murderlax]

my god, maria sharapova is actually HOT.

yea, haha

i kno.
my avy speaks for herself

[Live4It]

So theres this girl.
Me and her like each other alotttttttttttttt, but theres one reason as to why we're not going out yet.

Because i have a problem with her flirting with guys. . . .

How should i tell her i feel uncomfortable with her talking/flirting with guys?

if it wasnt for that, i'd ask her out already

i was thinking about this
"hey, listen i dont like how youre flirting with all these guys, ya know? gives me second thoughts, you dont see me going around talking to other girls"

Are you two actualy going out yet? If not, you have nothing to say about it, since she doesn't have a boyfriend, she can flirt with all the guys she wants. But if you are going out, ask her "Do you like me?" if she says yes, say "then why do you flirt with all these guys?" Then just ask her to stop becuase you're insecure.

[aviator]

ah, duped again by Live4It.....

[murderlax]

Are you two actualy going out yet? If not, you have nothing to say about it, since she doesn't have a boyfriend, she can flirt with all the guys she wants. But if you are going out, ask her "Do you like me?" if she says yes, say "then why do you flirt with all these guys?" Then just ask her to stop becuase you're insecure.

:thumbsup: i couldnt have put it any better. :clap:

haha j/k famous

[Lacrossebum03]

So tell me how bad this sucks.... My ex, who I kinda still liked, was with her best friend about 8 miles down the beach from the condo I was at. We hung out a few days, got the feeling we liked the feeling she liked me or somethin, and I was gonna make a move or w/e, but didn't really have an opportunity to. So, the last night we were at the condo, me and one of my best friends walked 8 miles down the freakin beach to see her, took like 2 hours. We get there, end up only staying for 15 minutes, and i tryed to make a move, but she pulled that whole 'just friends' card on me, which def. blew. It really sucked, I was exhausted from the walk/run, and then I got stuffed at the doorstep, to put it in lax terms. I really don't like her anymore, cause shes obviously not worth it.

[nemiman18]

haha i love tucker max

my dillemma- ive liked this girl for a while now, turns out we became really close, really good friends. the sad thing is, she looks at me more as a best friend than more than that. we talk on the phone usually for around maybe an hour and a half to two hours. she and a few friends even came over to play on my wii (that is not an innuendo haha) its gotten to the point where she would talk about the guy she likes and i would offer advice and stuff. i dont want to say anything negative to her so i just go along with it.

im afraid if i tell her i like her, that it will make things awkward between us, and it will jeopardize our friendship.

should i just wait things out, hoping that something will happen someday? ive never met a girl like this one. shes absolutely amazing, smart, gorgeous, and has a wii like me. i cant ask for anything more.

i have the same thing happening with me

except i have far from perfect looks

[bigdale9]

im in 9th grade and this will be my first time really talking to girls, im pretty nervous and very shy, help please

[The_Gunslinger]

Just act normal. Don't be creepy or shy. Try and act confident, even if you don't feel it. If it's a random chat in the hallway, just say something about her outfit or her books, or find some common ground to talk about.

If it's a girl you've been after for a while, just get some info about her and just find some way to approach (again, in a non creepy way). Then just chat with her about her classes, or how the track team is doing, or whatever.

[czechinthepipes]

The main thing to always do is always be yourself. Don't act different to impress girls, it will usually turn out bad. Also don't be shy, they're just girls they aren't going to bite you or make fun of you (unless they are dumb or stuck up). Just think of them as people, not as someone that you want to be with.
Don't worry too much about it, just relax and have fun, girls aren't too important at your age.

[bigdale9]

the only reason i ask is because saturday i got a mixer and stage crew and our sister school up the street

[ML_LAX09]

Is this a cruel sick joke?









No, just kidding.
Did you go to an all boys middle school or something? Cause I'm in 9th and I've talked to girls before.

Czech and Gunslinger hit the nail on the head though. Just be yourself.


EDIT: Ok, I see that you have a dance at a sister school. Which means you go to an all boys school? Correct?

[bigdale9]

all boys high school, and all boys eighth grade so i dont have much experience

[Paulvilax24]

Be funny but don't let it be seen that your trying really hard to be funny.

Just talk to them, you'll know who you want to talk to because they'll most likely be totally checking you out or just start talking to you...Don't push things...it will usually take care of it self.

[The Doors]

be normal... best advice ever. Girls can be quite shallow at that age, but dont let it get you down. Also, Drama girls are awesome. As a former drama/band geek, I can attest that drama girls, although a bit flakey sometimes, are some of the most genuine people

[Chas]

Look your best, don't dress gaudy, but don't wear your workout shirt. Present yourself well; shave, shower, smell nice, do your hair....

Act normal, confident but not cocky. Pickup lines are stupid, just make a little compliment about her outfit or something. Don't over do it, they can tell when you are being fake.

Talking with girls is all about moderation. Be nice, but dont be a butt kisser, you know?

Let them talk, if they are being shy, ask them questions to stimulate conversation. Girls love to talk about themselves. You should mention what you like, but let them do most of the talking. And be yourself. You play lacrosse, you are already a step ahead of other guys.

let me know how it works out.

[veronalax33]

just be yourself, talk like your confident even if you're not. say something kinda funny, but not like you're really trying to be funny. its a mixer too, so girls should probably be up to have a good time.

[ShermanLax607]

be normal... best advice ever. Girls can be quite shallow at that age, but dont let it get you down. Also, Drama girls are awesome. As a former drama/band geek, I can attest that drama girls, although a bit flakey sometimes, are some of the most genuine people

I agree with half of this; the first half.

I know it's hard, you just shouldn't act nervous, even though that is really impossible, but you just have to get by it somehow. The only was to be not nervous is just to keep talking to them and acting like you.

Freshmen girls are very shallow but really if anyone says anything mean, it's natural, no matter who you are, what you say, or what you look like, you're going to get made fun of once in your life.
That being said, don't let it discourage you, because that is basically the worst thing that can happen. Laugh when you would normally laugh, just don't insult anyone, like you can your best friend of 9 years.

I think it is very entertaining to see things like this happen, but man they are going to be crazy to see you, and you them, so just find a nice one and break the ice. Most times girls mistake inexperience as cuteness, especially at that age. Just think about it, 90% of the kids around you are on the same playing field, so there really is nothing to be afraid of.
Good luck man:thumbsup:

[kevidinho]

Don't say that's what she/your mom said..never say those jokes unless they are to people you know well enough. People will just think it is weird if you say it the first time you talk to them.

Or her mom could be dead or something, but you get the point.

OH and girls always like guys that aren't afraid to go dance with them and be himself

[MaKiMaKi13]

be yourself like everyone else has said , if your fake they'll know and then your screwed

[spyopticgoggles]

just remember that girls like to talk and dont really like to hear other people talk. just listen, and butt in at certain times so they know you are paying attention. dont start daydreaming about them in the middle of a conversation. and watch the movie "Hitch"

[laxcanada]

like spyoptic said, dont space out when you talk to them, they know trust me
try to think of common interest that you can talk about (i.e music, movies)
and dance with as many as you can haha, its all good

EDIT: dont take any recreational drugs or alcohol, its stupid and turns girls off

[aisixers376]

just remember that girls are just like boys expect for three things(hair, chest, down low area) just treat her like a normal person or equal. dont kiss *** and act like she is better or worse then you. crack some jokes. it is always good having some friends with you sometimes for backup to break the ice or if their is an awkward silence

[JazzyJake]

Most times girls mistake inexperience as cuteness, especially at that age. Just think about it, 90% of the kids around you are on the same playing field, so there really is nothing to be afraid of.
Good luck man:thumbsup:

+3217492387492837
use it man, lol.
but just relax, don't worry about the stupid little things....(sweating your balls-off nervous, perhaps) :agree:
or the other problem...:puke:

just be 100% confident, 'bawls it'


**EDIT** DO NOT LOOK AT HER BOOBS!

[bethsc]

I agree with all the posts, Just act natural! Then at the end of the night, tell her you look forward to going to prison at an early age! hahahahhahha Good Luck!

[greenshoelaces]

Man that blows you have went to an all boys school. I could not have handled it. You seem to be a pretty tough man, considering you just asked real people how to talk to girls, i honor you.

But besides that. Dont make comments about her actual body looking, you know, fine, at first, just compliment her about her clothers, shoes, bracelet, etc. Just something that she actually has control over.

Other than that, DONT cross your legs, quite possibly the most feminine thing a guy can do, girls just turn the other cheek if you do, because you dont seem confident, sit with your legs spread out, not like enough so it look dirty, but you know. Don't look down at the floor, just look straight ahead, always.

Another good idea, is bring some gum or candy, hide it in your pocket, that way if the conversation gets boring or even completely gone, then just whip out some of your gum or candy, take a piece out, and kindly ask her if she wants a piece. THIS ALWAYS WORKS FOR ME.

Make the first move, and always look right in her eyes, shows her that your confident, and actually are interested in her.

And last, but not least, be funny. Girls love guys who make them laugh. Wear some good cologne.

Oh and for the honor of the lacrosse forums, just say you play lacrosse. EVERY girl loves lacrosse players, we are just simply amazing, in every aspect of life, 3 foot poles. In some cases 6 ft. We look AMAZING. And lacrosse is like the manliest sport of all. BY FAR.

[ramslac05]

and make sure your not on drugs
especially if she hates people who do drugs

take it from me man, i found that out the hard way

[tomtom]

Learn to do some sort of formal dance. You probably wont have the opportunity to show it off at a mixer, but its a great conversation piece. Also, you obviously dont have to be good at it, just know a few steps. It's a great way to spark a conversation, show you arent an unintelligent buffoon, and give a reason to take things a bit further.

If you dont want to go for something so formal, try some swing steps as an alternative. It's a much more energetic dance anyways. And my advice above all, be gentlemanly. Not fake-gentlemanly, genuinely courteous and kind. They'll catch on.

[abomb]

Keep telling yourself "I've got everything to gain, and nothing to lose" and if you are yourself and are confident and arent overly weird, BINGO!!!!!! you got yourself a girl. And that girl will tell all her friends about you and then you have a nice ripple effect going on. And if you get shot down by some ho, then screw her! its her loss and no one like her because she's a brat. Its going to be akward and uncomfortabe at first but its better to get the butterflies out of your stomach now than later.

And see what some of the other guys are doing, take mental notes on what worked for them and apply it to you situation.

tell us how it goes man.