Help Please??

[PiratesMiddie17]

Ok.... Hi guys i was wondering if i could get some advice from you all because im having trouble, i know it may not be a big deal but i need some help.

Me and my friend have been best friends ever since i dont know how long. This year lacrosse is starting to get REALLY BIG! and i know that its my sport and i am really good and i really want to go far with it. i mean in my life lacrosse is in it right now. I used to be a swimmer but when lacrosse came around i was doing both but now i just cant get away from lacrosse i HAVE to play it everyday and im jus obessing because i loven the sport. Well my friend is a BIG horseback rider. and she has been for a lonnnggg time. now shes playing lacrosse and it seems that lacrosse is a big part of her life too i mean she wants to try out for a travle team and play in highschoool and im not sure if shes forgeting about horseback. i mean i dont want to be selfish because i know that lacrosse is a sport for everyone but its almost like shes trying to beat me in it. im not sure, sometimes she uses the exuse that her parents dont like the fact that she rides and they want her to keep up with horseback but i can NOT see her parents saying that and they never have. im not sure and if i tell her how i feel she will get SOO mad at me tell me to get over it and all that stuff i really need some help. Advice? Please??


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[AZReDWiNG]

Umm.. Get over it?

You switched sports too.

[Zecher]

lol

Competitiveness = Human Nature

[PiratesMiddie17]

Well thanks for that help that didnt mean much! >:| but i know i did but its just shes still keeping up with horseback and is still obessing over it but then again she tells me that lacrosse is her sport. and i mean i dont know!!! other people say horseback is big so she needs to pick one and deicate to that i mean i did with soccer swimming lacrosse i had to pick 2 swimming and lacrosse and now i have picked lacrosse! so....uh! i dont know! i need TRUE help though or at least some decent advice

[Zecher]

Well, first off, I'd let her know how ya feel. But then again, of course she's gonna wanna beat you. That's just how people are. Also, I don't see the point in having to commit yourself to one sport. Why can't you be into two? Let her do both. There's nothing wrong with that at all. But again, if it's really bugging you that much, go talk to her.

[PiratesMiddie17]

yeah i know. that is what i call GOOD advice. its just that whenever i talk to her she gets SO mad at me. and i really hate having my best friend mad at me.

[Zecher]

Well, be sure to let her know that you don't mean this as a threat or that you wanna make her mad.

[laxfolife24]

number one if she is your best friend she should not get mad at you over something like this. it is normal to feel that kind of pressure its just human nature to be competitive and she is prob just looking up to you. i would just live with it if i were you and if it gets really unbearable talk to her, tell her how you feel and if she really is your BEST FRIEND she will understand and tell you how shes feels. remember that there are two sides to every story.

[OutBurst]

I don't understand what the hell you are trying to say man. Please give me a quick outline...

[WestSideLa X eR]

Recap:

1. Your obsessed with lacrosse
2. Your friend is obsessed with lacrosse AND horseback
3. It seems as though your friend is doing lacrosse just to beat you in it, even though she is excelling at horseback

Am I right?

If so, then the only thing you CAN do is to practice harder. Don't want to sound harsh, but thier will always be someone out thier better than you, and your goal as a player is to improve. Your friends competition should in fact encourage you to try your best. Don't let something like this get in the way of your friendship....corny I know but you'll regret it later if you do

[oslax19]

i dont really understand why you care so much that she wants to play lacrosse. big deal if she wants to compete against you. just use it as motivation to work all the harder at it. i love having friends that play lacrosse also, its someone to play catch with. and is willing to talk lacrosse. unlike others who just look at you wierd cause its all you talk about. at least thats how it is with me

[AZReDWiNG]

Again, GET OVER IT.

What is wrong with trying to be good at two different sports? Everyone wants to be the best at everything. Show her up or something, but either way, GET OVER IT. She didn't steal your boyfriend, just a sport that really belongs to nobody let alone you. It's her freedom to choose what she wants to play. You introduced her to lacrosse, and now she loves the sport enough to want to be good at it. If anything, I'd be flattered that I got this person into the game. The fact that she wants to be better at it than you simply reflects the idea that she's sticking with this sport; she's not doing it to be "cool".

[PiratesMiddie17]

ok...west side laxer u got it 100% and thanks for all the replys i mean im a lil better about it and yes she is my best friend but dont ask me why she gets mad because i truly have NO idea. and for the people who say get over it THATS NOT HELPING!!! ok? well thanks for the advice.

[HCrum05]

My best friend and I started playing lax this year too and we both love it. We are very competetive (as most guys are) and we're always going at each other on the field. When we do hitting drills, the two of us line up to hit each other. We always check eat other harder than most and so on and so on. But we're still great friends even if we do get a bit harsh on the field. Also it's kind of interesting that we're the 2 biggest guys on the team. I'm 6'2'' and 225 lbs and he's 6'6'' and 245 lbs so we're always seeing who the biggest and badest is. All I can say is, if you're best friends, it shouldn't be a problem. Best friends always get over their problems and work things out. We yell at each other all the time, but the next day it's like nothing happend. Hope things work out for you.

[AZReDWiNG]

ok...west side laxer u got it 100% and thanks for all the replys i mean im a lil better about it and yes she is my best friend but dont ask me why she gets mad because i truly have NO idea. and for the people who say get over it THATS NOT HELPING!!! ok? well thanks for the advice.

Actually, I was the only one saying it.

But seriously, do you threatened by her encroaching on "your sport"? Did you even read my previous post? You have nothing to lose by her playing, and if anything you should feel good that you introduced someone to the best sport ever.

[SDPirate]

right seabiscuit on your chest and lie on her bed and ask if she will think about getting back into horseback riding...






j/k
are u a girl or a guy?
if ur a guy why do u care if shes good at girls lacrosse?
its not like shes gonna steal ur spot or something

[Jpettit25]

Her name is Christina.

[HCrum05]

Check her sig...

[PiratesMiddie17]

lol yeah. i think we have worked things out. thanks for all of your help. and yes i am a girl lol thank you Jpittie :-P

[dlaxer]

Again, GET OVER IT.

What is wrong with trying to be good at two different sports? Everyone wants to be the best at everything. Show her up or something, but either way, GET OVER IT. She didn't steal your boyfriend, just a sport that really belongs to nobody let alone you. It's her freedom to choose what she wants to play. You introduced her to lacrosse, and now she loves the sport enough to want to be good at it. If anything, I'd be flattered that I got this person into the game. The fact that she wants to be better at it than you simply reflects the idea that she's sticking with this sport; she's not doing it to be "cool".
uhhh . . .you need to learn how to respect people's problems a little more, and that is not helpful, and especially not the second time

[PiratesMiddie17]

Thanks and yeah i mean you cant solve people problems like that. :-/ but thanks.

[Middie2attak]

im sorry but if she is good at both sports, get over it. i mean you are good at both sports too! and what if her parents arent lying? if she is telling you that they are sayin that, and she is ur BFF, then u should belive her.

personally i think you sound a little jelous that she is gettin into "your" sport.


but other than that... talk to her. tell her how you feel. if you guys are really that tight, she should understand.



what if shes not tryin to beat you? i doubt she is. and i TOTALLY doubt that shes doing lacrosse just to be better than you. Because if she wants to get onto a travel team n play in highskool, maybe she really loves it! and thats nothin to get mad over