Official Visits-Do's and Don't's

[molax19]

What would you recommend as "dos and donts" for official visits? For example, is drinking with the team a do or dont? Bringing parents to a nearby hotel? Etc?

[spenny]

search on laxpower for official visit, there were several good threads on that this spring. and i defiantely DONT recommend drinking with the team

[sumSum]

Drinking w/ the team? Happens all the time, yes. Will it happen on your visit? Probably. My rec is don't do it. Don't even touch it. Lately there was some trouble with college official visits at a top 10 D1 lax school. It isn't worth it in the long run. A girl at Duke lost all interest from the school after doing it. It will prolly get back to the coach. Not to mention you could get arrested. Wouldn't that be great :)

[laxgirl0108]

^^Agreed.
Don't do it. It's stupid and you would probably get caught.

[mrmccool]

umm, i dunno about girls lax so much, but i know that visits suck if you sit around at partys/dorm rooms sober. visits are so u can see how u like a school, and if you can be responsible about it, you can drink. feel it out, i know your host will be happy to show u the ropes and answer questions.

[CTLaxer]

visits are so u can see how u like a school, and if you can be responsible about it, you can drink.

So drinking is required to see how you like a school? I fail to see the logic in your statement.

My suggestion is don't drink while you're there. If you don't drink anyways, there ya go. If you are a drinker, just refrain while you're there. The last thing you want to have happen is you get really drunk and piss off some of the players or coaches or even worse, get in trouble while there. There will be plenty of time while you're in college to drink, so just relax during your visit as there's no rush. And if you're underage, you shouldn't be drinking at all, which you are, so....don't do it.

[mrmccool]

So drinking is required to see how you like a school? I fail to see the logic in your statement.

My suggestion is don't drink while you're there. If you don't drink anyways, there ya go. If you are a drinker, just refrain while you're there. The last thing you want to have happen is you get really drunk and piss off some of the players or coaches or even worse, get in trouble while there. There will be plenty of time while you're in college to drink, so just relax during your visit as there's no rush. And if you're underage, you shouldn't be drinking at all, which you are, so....don't do it.

did I say required? I fail to see that in my statement either. All I'm saying is that you should get a good feel for every school you go to. If sitting around sober is your thing, go for it. Then you will know what it feels like to sit around at school sober, and maybe you'll like what you get. But if you're a partyer (sp) then you might want to check out what goes on at the school besides your sport. I know people that have made the wrong school choice because they stayed in the dorms and hung out, then got there and realized everyone was wierd and no one really partied on the weekends. I'm not saying, go drink til you pass out and puke all over your host, I'm saying go out and get a feel for what it would be like to go to that school. that's what you are there for. I did stress responsibility in my post, and if you cannot exercise control of your drinking, then don't drink. But like i said, get a feel. Dont go in decided you are going to get faced, but don't go and decide to be a wallflower either. Visits are for you to feel out your surroundings and compare them to other places. So feel it out, ask questions about the social scene, and ask what's acceptable. If you drink, half of college is underage drinking anyway, so i don't really see the logic there either. Everyone knows you can get in trouble drinking, and most people know how to avoid that. I would suggest the latter.

[sumSum]

I never said she shouldn't go to a party. Most definitley, if that is what your host student is doing, than go. Just dont drink while you're there. You can still feel out the social scene at a school w/o drinking. I would go to a party, it is a great way to meet people and see what they do for fun. However, it isn't necessary to act like a college student until you are one. I stress that the consequences outweigh the risks.

Also, about parents. I've heard it mentioned that parents are brought. I think it depends on how much the coach is willing to pay for you to come. Some don't have the budget to bring the whole fam along and put them up overnight so that is a good question to ask each coach. Taking a tour and doing an admissions interview (if offered) is also a good idea while you're there. Other things to do are to sit in on a class or two, preferably in areas you're intrested in. That's a good thing to ask the team members about, to see who takes what major so you can sit in on a relevant class if that's something you want to do while there. Ask to get a feel for the town and have someone walk/drive you around. Since you can only be there for 24 hours (or is it 48?) try and get the most out of everything.

[spenny]

read this thread and pay particular attention to TShea's post

http://www.laxpower.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=9848

[exile lacrosse]

is there any reason to believe that this advice differs between men and women? it seems like it should be the same for both sexes but i want to be sure.