View Full Version : Dilema
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 04:07 PM
Ok there is this girl that I have known since elementry school. Lately she has found every reason to talk to me over the phone (saying she needs help with hw even though she is a billion times smarter than me), aim, school, etc. Does this mean anything? Like she interested or what is it?
justlaxin484
09-11-2005, 04:27 PM
it seems to me that she likes you
Warrior
09-11-2005, 04:31 PM
"The only shots you are guaranteed to miss are the ones you dont take" :agree: :agree: :agree:
Ha i have been wantin to say one of those type quotes for a while now lol...
yea it seems like she is...make a move and see what she does...if she makes a move back good luck with your new woman..if not just chill and give her sum space....but still be her friend and all that good stuff
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 04:40 PM
Problem is this would be my first for real gf. So I dont really know what to do.
Warrior
09-11-2005, 04:42 PM
Problem is this would be my first for real gf. So I dont really know what to do.
How old are ya? what grade?
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 04:45 PM
16 in 2 months 10th grade. Yea I know its sad that this would be my first.
Warrior
09-11-2005, 04:51 PM
its all good...but if its your first relationship it wont be too serious i dont think...a lot of couples who arent like really serious just chill at each others houses, go to movies and stuff hang out at the mall stuff like that..its not really too hard so dont worry about that part....ummm just make a small move, flirt with her a bit and see how she reacts..if she flirts back its up to you if you want to ask her out or whatever, and if not its cool just say sorry for that and still be her friend...
and wear protection lol...
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 05:20 PM
Anything else? I just dont know how to ask. My nerves get up and then I start talking to her and then they're shot.
xSURFERx
09-11-2005, 05:24 PM
yea, just hang out, and stuff. u can either try to hold her hand and see what she does(pull away, let you) or u can straight up ask her how she feels
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 05:51 PM
yea, just hang out, and stuff. u can either try to hold her hand and see what she does(pull away, let you) or u can straight up ask her how she feels
Idk if I could straight out ask her but I could probably do the first thing without my nerves being shot.
laxattack8888
09-11-2005, 06:08 PM
Dude, what's your school here in Austin?
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 06:17 PM
Dude, what's your school here in Austin?Austin High
bspalax15
09-11-2005, 06:21 PM
word man. that female has feelings for you.
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 07:45 PM
word man. that female has feelings for you.
hopefully, Im thinking of asking her to homecoming
lax4life6
09-11-2005, 08:12 PM
yeah just go like hang out at her house and stuff like that cuz you dont really have to be going out to just like hang out
ATXLAX
09-11-2005, 09:22 PM
Are there any girls on this site that could give me some advice.
The Chariot
09-11-2005, 10:02 PM
Dude, thats about as clear of a message as you are ever going to get.
Yeah man, you better take that and run with it. Unless shes one of those girls that you cant, for your life, read. Those were always my downfall.
Mavido
09-11-2005, 10:29 PM
Unless shes one of those girls that you cant, for your life, read. Those were always my downfall.
You mean all females... they dont even know what they're thinking half the time.
franks2089
09-12-2005, 07:45 AM
She either likes you or did you guys not talk for awhile and that might be why shes acting strangely. I know that some of my friends that I knew from elementry school didnt talk very much for a couple of years and then we started hanging out all the time.
moondog
09-12-2005, 08:57 AM
A "dilemma" inherently requires 2 UNDESIRABLE outcomes/alternatives. How is this scenario a dilemma?
Anyways--you need to find a comfort zone. You DO enjoy her company, right?
She is probably 10X more terrified than you, and she is probably DYING for you to make that move, or ask her out. Time to shine, bro~
LymanLax28
09-12-2005, 04:49 PM
A "dilemma" inherently requires 2 UNDESIRABLE outcomes/alternatives. How is this scenario a dilemma?
You're an english teacher, correct? I can tell.
Yeah, like someone else said, this is the most clear message you'll ever get from a girl. Go for it.
Mavido
09-12-2005, 04:50 PM
You're an english teacher, correct? I can tell.
Actually he is, he teaches english abroad... Pretty sweet job if you ask me.. hot foreign chicks staying after for tutoring.. Purrr...
(moondog atleast i think thats right... from what i remember)
LymanLax28
09-12-2005, 04:52 PM
I wasn't trying to be sarcastic, I thought that he was, I just wasn't sure. My mom used to be an english teacher and she always corrects me like that.
laxfreak24
09-12-2005, 04:57 PM
In todays day in age, it is acceptable to ask someone out via instant messenger. I know a couple people who've been asked on their first dates through messengers.
On a more personal level, I recommend you invite her to do homework together at Mozarts off Lake Austin Blvd, it's probably close to you and it's a nice chill environment and you can get coffee.
ATXLAX
09-12-2005, 05:08 PM
She either likes you or did you guys not talk for awhile and that might be why shes acting strangely. I know that some of my friends that I knew from elementry school didnt talk very much for a couple of years and then we started hanging out all the time.
Yea thats what Im kinda worried about. We used to talk all the time in 7th grade and didnt really talk in 8th or 9th grade except on aim. And now she is in 2 of my classes and we talk a lot on the phone, aim, in person, etc.
navylax500
09-12-2005, 05:11 PM
she is in luv wit u man ask her out
unta8
09-12-2005, 05:16 PM
Yh man luv!
HdGLaxWarrior
09-12-2005, 05:43 PM
16 in 2 months 10th grade. Yea I know its sad that this would be my first.
No it's not sad. MS relationships dont even count.
Palmettolax45
09-12-2005, 06:34 PM
is she hot cuz if she is take your chances and ask her out whats the worst thing that can happen shell say no, no big deal
manhassetlax
09-12-2005, 08:07 PM
take her to ur lax games
Mavido
09-12-2005, 08:50 PM
take her to ur lax games
Thats not for months.... and this kind of situation is time sensitive.
No it's not sad. MS relationships dont even count.
True, but 10th grade is high school.
ljlax
09-12-2005, 11:31 PM
Are there any girls on this site that could give me some advice.
HI i'm a girl
and she may or may not like you
just cuz she talks to u a LOT doesnt really mean anything. cuz i have good guy friends. does she touch u when shes tlaking (arm,shoulder,knee, etc)
if u are friends then it should be pretty easy to get into a situation where u are alone hanging out with out "asking her out" then u can like try maybe putting ur arm around her/holding her hand. something small and subtle like that. if she looks freaked out or like "what are u doinggg" then u may want to umm avoud ever thinkging she liked u. but then if she holds ur hand back. then maybe after a while like maybe after like random small touchy things like arm around the shoulders etc. then ask whats going on with u two. and be like i like u etc etc.
but u could ask her to homecoming "as a frined" first. and make ur move there. or SOMETHING
i dont know
its hard to tell unless i actually see the girls behavior
and even then some girls are super fickle and CONSTANTLY change their minds....
edit---being in 10th grade and almost 16 doesnt mean ur like "super" old to have never been in a relationship. many relationships even IN highschool end up being pointless and not even really REAL relationships..... and well middle school is a different story...
RottingMind13
09-13-2005, 01:30 AM
time to just man up and do somethin about it. If you want to be with her go for it. The worst situation would be she says no. O well, it happens all the time dude. No biggy and if she does u just pick urself up and move on. If she says yes then you got an opportunity you might've missed if u didnt do anything about it
franks2089
09-13-2005, 07:40 AM
just ask her out
ATXLAX
09-13-2005, 07:46 AM
Does this mean anything. I asked her if she wanted me to give her a ride home( I can drive at 15 because of a hardship license if you were wondering), and when she said yes she seemed happier than most people when I ask them.
ljlax
09-13-2005, 07:58 AM
um it means u gave her a ride home.
remmeber youre FRIENDS so like stuff like that should be pretty normal right?
geggieman
09-13-2005, 08:45 AM
yeah dude its just a ride home. i mean most people who need rides are glad to get one. especially friends. but my advice is just to keep talking to her as much as you can and try to see if there are any "signs". what those may be i have absolutely no idea whatsoever. i'm stuck in one of these same situations myself
HdGLaxWarrior
09-13-2005, 01:46 PM
True, but 10th grade is high school.
Yeah. He said it would be his first girl. So I told him to relax. MS relationships dont matter anyway.
moondog
09-13-2005, 01:54 PM
Yes, I am an English teacher. Good work.
OutBurst
09-13-2005, 02:02 PM
Problem is this would be my first for real gf. So I dont really know what to do.
Bang her and then ask questions later.
It works every time, trust me.
Right Stefi? :agree:
ShermanLax607
09-13-2005, 02:04 PM
same dude, take it as it comes really, talk and especially SEE her as much as possible
good luck... and it wont happen fast, let it take its time and take it slow, it is ur first :)
Yeah. He said it would be his first girl. So I told him to relax. MS relationships dont matter anyway.
Thats not what i saw! Whatever, so what if i cant read well. Who cares.
um i means u gave her a ride home.
OMG DUDE SHE TOTALLY LET ME BORROW PENCIL IN MATH IM AS GOOD AS IN!
Like said above, dont read into everything too much, until that kind of stuff means something, then you should read into it. See that fuzzy gray line? This is the dilema of every guy everywhere, if we actually knew exactly how to read girls, there would be world peace.
HdGLaxWarrior
09-13-2005, 02:24 PM
That's not exactly what I said. But that's what I meant?
Yeah, i figured it out, i jsut read it wrong earlier.
ljlax
09-13-2005, 09:57 PM
Bang her and then ask questions later.
It works every time, trust me.
Right Steffi? :agree:
good luck with that.....
:ahhno: :thumbsdow :nono: :dummy: :banghead: :loser:
yeah those are all the smileys that i thought fit...
edit
its S-T-E-F-I
thanks
:)