Problems With A Coach

[LAcrosseRUS]

OK, I thought this would be a good place for this topic because it might be answered better in others. Ok, so I am a freshmen and I have played for 5 years mostly attack. My highschool has only had a team for 4 years and this is their first year with a jv. I decided that I am a big kid so I would like to play some defense. I didn't expect to play varsity but thought I would be called up a couple times. So I was on the JV team, I was mad at first but then tjought I would work on my skills and then go to camp, be ready for next year. They had a hard time finding a coach for JV so a teacher at my school volunteered last minute. i did not have him as a teacher but heard he was a good guy. Anywho, I have a very quick temper and have had a hard time dealing with this since elementary. Long story short, I was starting to get mad at practices because a lot of my team mates do not take practice seriosuly including myself sometimes. Also our coach is not very experinced so does not know how to coach us. He does not say the right stuff at the right time. When we split into JV and Varsity we practiced and then he told us we would be running the hill (A very steep hill then running to a point and back.) I was kinda mad looking at the varsity watching them do game situation stuff while we were conditioning. I said a couple things complaing mostly out of his ear shot. The coach knows I dilsike him and then I think continued to tsalk to varsity coacha nd then talk to the varsity cptain who I have known and respected. I heard what the captain had to say and then started to walk away not because I did not want to hear him or did not respect him but soley because I did not want to say something I would regret. Now I love lacrosse but I am hating this season. Idk, I guess I just needed to talk this out. Any ideas?

[Pitibear]

very good job of putting vent to your thoughts and feelings on this...you are right to use this community as a 'sounding board.'

guess what...I bet you already know the answer to your problems that you discussed above...

1. You must respect even the persons that you have the problems with. The coach who is inexperienced. the players that are not as serious as they should be. the varsity guys who have you outside looking in. You need to respect them, even when you are upset with them.

2. complaining doesn't get you anything...except other people thinking you are the problem.

3. decide what it is you want...

want the jv coach to respect you? give him respect first, ask for his help, ask him to tell you what he is looking for you to do to get better.

want your teammates to stop goofing around so much? lead them by your example.

want the coach to learn more about the game? Learn more yourself, and lead him by example (it can be done if you're serious sbout it).

want the varsity guys/coach to notice you...then do all the above and act like that's where you belong.

don't be a whiney-butt...ever...if you need to learn some behavioral anger stuff, then go get a book or talk to somebody...

But, I bet that you already know every single one of the things I just said, right?

Good, now go out there and work your butt off, and be the best player you can...not for anybody else, but for you to be able to respect yourself...