View Full Version : Coaches leading you on?
mass_elite21
07-30-2006, 06:04 PM
Has anyone else had a hard time deciphering where you actually are on a coaches list? I mean for some I can tell when a coach is legit interested...but for others they say I'm high on their list, but their level of contact is much less than others. Is anyone else having similar experiences?
BeaverFondu
07-30-2006, 06:39 PM
I'd assume that if someone was older than you they would need more help than a younger person who has more time to mature and get into the process.
mass_elite21
07-30-2006, 06:42 PM
I'd assume that if someone was older than you they would need more help than a younger person who has more time to mature and get into the process.
what? I dont know what you mean
ilaxitup007
07-30-2006, 07:12 PM
well you should ask them where they see you...it's not a rude question, and you should also tell them where their school is on your list. It's honesty which is much appreciated in the hectic process. you should be able to tell by measuring your skill/potential against how good the schools team is.
BeaverFondu
07-30-2006, 07:14 PM
what? I dont know what you mean
Lets say that your a Rising Junior looking to get into the recruiting process but then theres a Rising Senior already in the process who needs some help figuring out what to do and how to do it right.
mass_elite21
07-30-2006, 07:36 PM
makes sense haha..thank you
thechosenone
07-30-2006, 10:38 PM
mass_elite21,
where are you from? I live and play in NH and played for the littlenecks this summer.
jedimasterPIMP
07-30-2006, 10:44 PM
I usually just straight up ask them where I stand on their list. Its a straight up question and I think its an absolute necesity when it comes to talking to coaches. And you also need to tell them how you feel about their school honestly. If a coach is really interested in you and your not really feeling the school and you don't tell them that then you are leading the coach on and thats not a good move to pull.
I don't think it has anything to do with age considering that coaches rarely even talk to rising juniors.
mass_elite21
07-31-2006, 04:20 PM
mass_elite21,
where are you from? I live and play in NH and played for the littlenecks this summer.
i'm from mansfield, MASS. ive never heard of the littlenecks...you must be a guy lol.
goalieskcickay
07-31-2006, 04:25 PM
I assume you play for Mass Elite? I play for Team Central. We played you guys at some Tournaments this summer. I think you beat us. (I was on vacation during the tournies)
DukeLax2
07-31-2006, 04:37 PM
ivy league schools usually lead their players on because they cant really commit to you into fall of your senior year. many other coaches over recruit to be safe as well so you need to be sure to keep your options open until you are sure where your headed.
laxstar003
08-02-2006, 07:14 PM
As everyone said, flat out asking is probably the best way. I wouldn't judge on how high the level of contact is though - coaches are very busy right now and they all have different styles of recruiting. You can judge on what they say when they do contact you, though. If they call you one of their top recruits, invite you on an official visit, etc. you can be fairly sure your in a good place with them. Unless you are looking at an elite program, I wouldn't be too worried about coaches lying to you and leading you on.
lilaxgurl23
08-02-2006, 08:15 PM
As everyone said, flat out asking is probably the best way. I wouldn't judge on how high the level of contact is though - coaches are very busy right now and they all have different styles of recruiting. You can judge on what they say when they do contact you, though. If they call you one of their top recruits, invite you on an official visit, etc. you can be fairly sure your in a good place with them. Unless you are looking at an elite program, I wouldn't be too worried about coaches lying to you and leading you on.
This is so true. With some coaches I feel like I talk to them every day through e-mail or some sort of communication and some I feel like I talk to once every two weeks or less. Most though I talk to about once a week, sometimes I'll call to check in or usually they'll call. For most, we've gotten to the point where they know me pretty well and things are starting to close, so there isn't too much of a need to make me feel wanted or for them to know that I'm interested in their school, but I know from other people's experiences some are just beginning.
Basically, if you have any questions about what you're getting yourself into, whether it be where you rank on your list to how much financial aid you could recieve to the amount of playing time you will see, you need to ask the coach. So it seems like most coaches have been very honest with me. Some, you get those vibes like they're not for real, but I think you can catch them if you just pay attention to what they're saying. Not all coaches are going to be your best friend, but most will be honest with you, and I suggest you do the same back to them.
nykeep23
08-02-2006, 10:20 PM
The idea of being "lead on" is a very scary thought. If a coach comes straight out and says that your their top recruit for a particular position, is there a chance they could be lying? It seems to me as though a coach wouldn't lay his reputation down just to "lead on" a recruit like that...or at least I hope not. I can't wait to make a firm commit and have it all over with.
laxstar003
08-02-2006, 11:03 PM
I don't think too many coaches would tell you that you're one of their top recruits unless you were up there on their list. And if they would lie to you like that, you probably don't want to play for them in the first place.
And you are definitely not alone in wanting commit and have it over with!
truth
08-04-2006, 09:50 AM
The idea of being "lead on" is a very scary thought. If a coach comes straight out and says that your their top recruit for a particular position, is there a chance they could be lying? It seems to me as though a coach wouldn't lay his reputation down just to "lead on" a recruit like that...or at least I hope not. I can't wait to make a firm commit and have it all over with.
They will flat out lie to you. I have seen it.
lilaxgurl23
08-04-2006, 11:31 AM
I would suggest reading this thread- http://www.laxpower.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=11444
Pretty much I believe a lot of coaches are pretty honest with their top recruits. If you're in the mix, they might not be so much. Either way, whether you're a top recruit or not, nothing is final until you sign your NLI, so keep your options open incase something does fall through.
And yes, I am right there with you in wanting to committ and get it over with.