Anxiety Disorder Megathread

[czechinthepipes]

The Official Anxiety Disorder Megathread.

This thread is for:
Anyone who has any type of anxiety disorder(s), suffering from anxiety type symptoms, suffering from depression, expressing one's problems or thoughts, people going through hard times of anxiety and stress related things and for anyone that wants to talk about their problem(s), and for anyone you wants more information about anxiety, depression, and overall nervousness.

I will start off and share a bit about myself and my anxiety:

I have an anxiety disorder classified as Anxiety N.O.S.(none otherwise specified) disorder with I.B.S. (stands for Irritable Bowel Syndrome) which means I get super anxious, nervous and worry about things that normal people don't think about. I have had my anxiety and IBS about my whole life. Only the past 9 years have been bad enough that people have noticed it. I have more than one disorder; Generalized anxiety, social anxiety, Insomnia, and a tiny bit of OCD and of course my IBS. I treat it with a variety of anti depressants and some IBS medicine. As well as a lot of therapy which at the moment I am in a rise of being better and do not need the extra help. My anxiety overall has been up and down, terrible and then sometimes decent. It has been a constant battle that I live with and fight with every day hoping to get over it. To sum it all up in a few words it is terrible, and pretty much has made my life a living hell. Overall though I deal with it, my family and friends are very supportive and I am truly blessed to have all that I have. My many doctors, always working with me relentlessly trying to find a way to beat it. I am very thankful for them.
I live my life day by day, and nothing more. Live life to the fullest that I can and enjoy every minute of it. I learn from my mistakes, correct them and move on knowing that I am all the wiser for my mistakes.
I do know that someday I will beat my problems, and be what I call a normal person.

So please, all of those who would like to discuss, please do so...
(The above was edited 3/26/08 )

Ok well since this is now a mega thread just discuss about problems you have (anxiety, depression, confidence etc...) or about helping others.
IMPORTANT: IF YOU'RE HAVING PROBLEMS TELL YOUR PARENTS AND SEE A DOCTOR. IF YOU OR A FRIEND AT ANY TIME THINK ABOUT COMMITTING SUICIDE VOICE YOURSELF TO YOUR FAMILY OR TO YOUR FRIENDS FAMILY IMMDIATELY (OR SOMEONE YOU CAN CONFIDE IN THAT IS AN ADULT), OR SEEK IMMEDIATE MEDICAL HELP. SUICIDE, AND OR SUICIDAL THOUGHTS ARE NOT TO BE TAKING LIGHTLY, SO PLEASE GET HELP FOR YOURSELF OR YOU FRIEND.

Some information that could be helpful:

Anxiety:

http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/newsletter/FPN_4_13.html
http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/ken98-0045/default.asp

Depression:

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/depressionmenu.cfm
http://www.psycom.net/depression.central.html
(The above was edited 10/15/06 )

So please all of those interesting in talking about your problems, seeking help or just interested please feel free to post and converse with others with similar interests, or problems.

**Note**: If you need some help, or someone to talk to please feel free to PM me.

[navylaxfan15]

I know how you feel. For about a three year stint, I was always experiencing panic and anxiety attacks and I was on paxil for a while. Eventually, I just told myself to stop it and I beat the fear out of me and now its all about working hard rather than worrying.

[middleton23]

i used to take prozac for anxiety but didnt like the side effects so just sotped

[egrlax10]

yeah ive got that too, used to take prozac, then paxil, and now its gone pretty much.

[Frndlefire]

My freshman year of college I was diagnosed with anxiety - panic attacks and such. I realized then that I have been having panic attacks infrequently since I was about 13...mostly when playing sports. They gave me lorazapam (sp?) but I didn't like how it made me feel so I stopped taking it. Anyway, I was able to learn how to avoid it just in paying attention to my personal mental state. Not to inwardly obssess about things as much....i dont know. good luck.

[czechinthepipes]

wow i wish i could be like you guys and just get over it. i ve been on most of the anti depressents, curently zoloft and xanax(sp?) plus some meds for my stomach. i also have to see a phsycologist(SP?)

[egrlax10]

yeah i saw a psychologist too, it really helped me get over it. youll get over it eventually, itll just take time.

[twin58]

I could write a book on it. However bad yours is, mine was worse. I've had it for years and years and years. I recognize the meds many of you have been on. In my case, they were prescribed for depression. I detested the side effects, so I stopped taking them.

High school was rough. If someone showed up with a time machine and said I was going back to do it all over again but without being able to change anything, I'd jump off a bridge first.

Edited:
"Upset stomach" - nice euphemism. I'm relieved to hear I wasn't the only one. It certainly seemed that way.

Also, the meds do not work for everyone. Even for depression, the odds are 50-50 that they'll be any better than a placebo. There was a recent study. You know me; I can find it if you want. Everyone's different.

The latest thing for depression, according to an NIMH study, is ketamine. Yes, ketamine, with just about instant results. I might want to give that a try. What have I got to lose?

Experimental Antidepressant Use of Ketamine (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ketamine#Experimental_Antidepressant_Use)

Disclaimer: I am not a doc. Don't go shooting up ketamine, OK? Talk to your healthcare provider.

Even more editing:
I see that one of ketamine's nicknames (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ketamine#Recreational_use) is "The Hoos." I can't begin to imagine the origin of that.

[franks2089]

Lets hear it for SOCIAL ANXIETY. Meds do work, take about 2-3 weeks to begin working but after that you'll be good.

[czechinthepipes]

hey twin, how long have you actually had your anxiety? mines not that bad like i dont get many panic attacks where i role up in like a ball and start freaking out, shaking sweating etc... i do have depression but its not bad. my worst problem is my stomach. are you over your anxiety yet? also which one(s) do you have?

[NyMatt]

I had that all the time was put on zoloft by a psy. and now am much better. Also this thing my chiro. does called NAET, you can check it out at http://naet.com/ is helping a ton.

[twin58]

hey twin, how long have you actually had your anxiety?

Forever. As long as I can remember. The "upset stomach" manifestation of the anxiety disorder went away years ago, so at least I don't have that to worry about, thankfully. Good riddance to that.

My guess is that the disappearance of that, in my case, came about naturally, not because of some medication. As you age, you get more control over your life. Kids have every aspect of their lives dictated to them. With no control, of course they're always on edge. You have somewhat more choice as an adult, so in that regard, there is less cause for anxiety. Of course, adults have quite enough to make them anxious, so maybe things get worse, not better. There's always something to worry about, isn't there?

are you over your anxiety yet?

No.

also which one(s) do you have?

I'm just generally uneasy around people. I'm shy and quite the loner, and I don't get out that much. I'm always concerned that I'll fail spectacularly at whatever I do, so there's low self-esteem. I've never been an outgoing person.

I don't think anyone knew what an anxiety disorder was when I was growing up. At least anxiety disorders are now being diagnosed. Who says there hasn't been any progress?

[czechinthepipes]

well ya it is better still not well known all my friends and teachers think im just a baby and am lieing. i actually just talked to a doctor about my stomach and he says that i have I.B.S. also which is part of my anxiety, if i get rid of that then my anxiety willl be better(vice versa SP?) from what you yours is worse than mine and youve had it longer too. mines not terrible like i dont have many panic attacks, usually just depressed, shy around others, and nervous at new or hard tihngs. but most people that dont have anxiety disorder are except theirs isnt to the extent of others.

[twin58]

"I.B.S."

I experienced some of that about five or six years ago. It showed up, it was there for a while, and then it went away. Hot weather seemed to set it off, as it happened in the summer of 2000 or 2001. It hasn't recurred. Probably idiopathic. Shows you how much I know. It wasn't any fun. Oh, you've noticed.

[Neoshaakti]

Im not diagnosed with anything, but yeah I get where your anxiety is coming from...
Idk I try to ignore it, but mine may not be that bad...
but I know what u mean when u say anxiety drove you to become a hermit...

[czechinthepipes]

^^^ oh i c. well thats cool that it isnt that terrible for you. wish mine would just go away. lol

[twin58]

"wish mine would just go away"

Oh, I understand that. I assume you've checked for problems with certain foods. Many people just can't handle dairy products. Drink a big ol' glass of milk, and the next thing you know, you're in trouble.

[czechinthepipes]

ya the only problem i have with food is really rich and fatty foods. milk doesnt bother me unless i drink a lot of it.

[holyschnikes101]

I used to get stomach aches whenever we went places for more than like 3 hours. I just felt nervous about being somewhere else. I got over it in 5th grade though.

[Lowell]

when i was a kid like 3 times every month i would have these very painful camps and i still don't know what they where from.... i get them like 1 every 6 months now.

[FairSpanishLadi]

ok well i know we arent suppossed to make threads about medical conditions but what i am asking is if anyone has heard or even has an anxiety disorder? i have an anxiety disorder classified as Anxiety N.O.S.(none otherwise specified) disorder with I.B.S. which basically means i get super anxious, nervous, and worry about or at little things that normal people dont think about which upsets my stomach and causes me to be like a hermit/ loner. so basically i just wanted to know if anyone has or know or has even heard of this. ???

As an undergrad I volunteered at a mental health facility and later worked at the place for a bit, and I just took the MCAT 2 weeks ago so I know some.

Most mental health diagnoses are N.O.S. There is medication you should speak to a physician about (I assume you've done this), but the best thing I can tell you is therapy helps most. It can get you to start thinking about how people view you in the same way you view everyone else. For instance, people notice things about themselves that other's don't, like a a bad hairday. Nobody notices a bad hair day but the person looking in the mirror. Ask yourself if you would be talking about someone for doing something you may be self conscious about. If the answer's "no," then its just in your head and nobody notices whatever you're self conscious about. This is cognitive therapy, which is very, very helpfull. If you walk past 2 people laughing, do you think they're maybe laughing at you for something? These are the kinds of things that Cognitive Therapy addresses, but only certain clinicians administer Cognitive Therapy. Talk to your parents about seeking out the right MD or PhD.

[twin58]

I should have posted this link right away.

Go Ask Alice! (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/)

1. What is Go Ask Alice! ?
Go Ask Alice! is the health question and answer Internet service produced by Alice!, Columbia University's Health Promotion Program — a division of Health Services at Columbia.

2. What is the mission of Go Ask Alice! ?
Go Ask Alice! is a health Q&A Internet service. It works to provide readers with reliable, accessible information and a range of thoughtful perspectives so that they can make responsible decisions concerning their health and well-being.

5. Who can ask questions?
Originally, the site was for Columbia students only. Its instant success on campus, combined with new Internet capability, quickly landed Go Ask Alice! on the World Wide Web for global access.

Go Ask Alice! receives nearly 2,000 questions weekly from college and high school students, parents, teachers, professionals, older adults, and others, on every conceivable health topic. All questions are read.

Inquirers to Go Ask Alice! are anonymous — their addresses are electronically scrambled prior to reaching GAA!'s e-mailbox.

It is an oldie, in terms of the Internet, having been around since 1993.

There's nothing you can ask them they haven't been asked already.

[Scootermcpie556]

well I actually suffer from the same problem but am also clinically paranoid where I find some everyday thing and think it is in someway a bad thing.

[czechinthepipes]

^^ thats crazy im really sorry.

[devillax57]

i know a girl that sometimes drinks on xanax and even when people try to stop her, she still does it. Can't that make you suicidal?

[NC-LACROSSE]

hey im not sure if i had anxiety but around the time i went into middle school i got a really bad case of insomnia like everynight i was up till 1 or 2 in the morning mostly i worried about school or my parents getting a divorce or about moving (alot was going on back then) my parents didnt talk to a docter or anything in fact i think that was what helped...

after awhile i just got so angry that i couldnt sleep that i kinda mentaly beat :dummy: my fear andandry thoughts out of my head, they didnt go away but i just didnt care about them anymore... i know it seems harsh that i dont care about moving or my parents problems, but thats just it, its stuff out of my control...

oh i had insomnia for an intire year before i could sleep better...

whatever your anxious about turn to other things grander than what your worried about... vent your feelings, i suggest playing music like guitar or drums anything like that, play sports and dont focus on winning focus on having fun... oh yes listen to music try and find a song about your feelings.

try taking any frustration or fear and doing somthing like playing guitar or somthing, (thats what i do when i feel over whelmed i get on my gutiar and bust out a giant melody of power chords, in fact ive actually broken 2 strings in two days just because i was playing so hard). <<< the point is to vent :banghead: :chair: :angry: your feelings throgh somthing, try and find what your expressive way is...

or if you religous turn to your :worship: religon :worship: (i actually think that thats what helped me the most, but some religions difer...)

i sincerely hope that someday you can stop taking those pills and not worry about anything :thumbsup:

[czechinthepipes]

i know a girl that sometimes drinks on xanax and even when people try to stop her, she still does it. Can't that make you suicidal?
anit depressants in general can make you depressed. but yes drinking could intesify the depressing or bring depression more often and faster. it also can have bad side affects, im not really sure what they are but they are pretty bad.
NC-Lacrosse. thanks for the idea i try that stuff but nothing really helps, hopefully i will be able to stop taking the meds im on.

[twin58]

Here's one more link, this time to the Wikipedia entry on anxiety disorders. I am not suggesting that reading Wikipedia is a substitute for getting medical attention. The entry does, however, have a general discussion and, at the bottom, links to other websites that might prove helpful.

Anxiety disorder (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anxiety_disorder)

There might in the future be some sort of gene therapy that can cure anxiety disorders, but right here, right now, there is no cure. The medications that are prescribed for anxiety disorders are not cures; rather, they are treatments. Paxil, to name one, will not cure anxiety disorders. Further, not everyone will respond to medication. Don't overlook other forms of treatment, such as cognitive therapy or behavior therapy. The treatment or combination of treatments that works for you is the right one. What works for you might be all wrong for someone else.

It's not something that will go away. You can't snap out of it, any more than you can snap out of having brown eyes or being left-handed. You need to pay attention to it, because it will affect your life, and not in a good way. I suppose there's a genetic advantage to having an anxiety disorder, but I've never found it.

Having an anxiety disorder does not make you a bad person. It makes you a person with a disorder; one of many people with a disorder. You wouldn't make fun of someone for seeking treatment for a broken leg. Similarly, you should feel no stigma for seeking treament for an anxiety disorder.

You have lots of company; I'm sure that it is one of the most popular topics at Go Ask Alice! (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/)

Important disclaimer: Again, I am not a doc. My comments are worth what you are paying for them.

[czechinthepipes]

ya, i m sorta doing cognitive therapy. so those who only have anxiety for a lil while didnt get rid of it its still there they just live with it thus they dont have problems or really even notice it? i mean since its a genetic thing it doesn just pop up its been there and will be there, right?

[twin58]

"it doesn just pop up its been there and will be there, right?"

The potential is always there. For some people, it is always in play. For others, it can lie dormant, and as long as nothing untoward happens to you, you won't know it's there. Then some stressor comes along - you flunk out of school, you're in a car wreck, a loved one dies - and there it is again, an unwelcome visitor knocking on your door.

Anxiety disorders and depression are closely related, both, it is thought, resulting from low levels of a brain chemical. I read something a long time ago, and I can't remember where. It said the opposite of depression is not happiness; rather, it is resilience. The anxiety disorders and depression reflect an inability on the part of the sufferer to handle the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune (http://www.artofeurope.com/shakespeare/sha8.htm), slings and arrows that non-sufferers easily shrug off.

You treat it when it's there, and you are vigilant against its return, knowing that it can come back.

[NDKnights157]

i suffered from anxiety for about 2 years and just got done "weening" off of paxil about 3 months ago

i went to a physciatrist and we talked over everything that bothered me and **** and everythings all good now

[czechinthepipes]

^^^ good for you man. hopefully i will be doing that within 4 or 5 months, right now i cant even get to school cause my anxiety causes upset stomach which causes more anxiety= a vicious circle. so when i get back to school and comfy there i ll wait a few months(2 or 3) then start weening off slowly over 4 or 5 months.

[twin58]

"i cant even get to school cause my anxiety causes upset stomach"

Yikes. That is bad. I always made it to school. Then the "upset stomach" kicked in. Maybe your way is better, when you think about it.

[midnitecruiser]

as of late i have felt like crap. my social life is on a steep decline and i am my own worst enemy, ill describe: im in high school and its a private school so when i first started out i didnt know aanyone, however i made some friends thru lax and watnot. anyway im a sophmore now and i feel like i have serious social problems, like extreme self-consciousness and being afraid to participate in class b/c im afraid of wat people think of me, and also anxiety of meeting new people and seeing my old public school friends and all. looking at me from the outside im just a nice normal kid, im not depressed, a lil quiet but u would never be able to guess im going thru all this. the real problem is that i feel like its holding me back from really forging strong reltionships with people and just being comfortabel with myself. im praying that all of this is just me going thru puberty(hormones and all) and also the fact that im a little insecure of myself b/c i still have a really undeveloped voice if u know wat i mean.on top of it all i have a hemoroid on my butt b/c i poop so much Lol. :whyme: any help advice or past experiences will help.

[Warrior]

You could have an anxiety disorder, consult a doctor just incase. Your problem with the hemeroid/constant bowel movements may be from something like IBS..

My best advise is try not to take life so seriously.. Your young and you got tons of time to get over your teenage ailments. Just try to take care of yourself, when meeting new people or making relationships just be yourself and let that be the determining factor of if you and that other person get along... And just have fun-- Your young still... Enjoy it.

[theonly]

You could have an anxiety disorder, consult a doctor just incase. Your problem with the hemeroid/constant bowel movements may be from something like IBS..

My best advise is try not to take life so seriously.. Your young and you got tons of time to get over your teenage ailments. Just try to take care of yourself, when meeting new people or making relationships just be yourself and let that be the determining factor of if you and that other person get along... And just have fun-- Your young still... Enjoy it.

word. if you act diferently so your "friends" like you, its pointless. because eventually your true self will show through and you'd be making friends for the wrong reasons. about the hemmeroid :concerned .....ermm.....ask the doctor? :runaway: i really dont know.
if it makes you fell any better,
I <3 U

[cali feeder]

First of all, the fact that you can come out and tell every single one of us about yourself like that is absolutely awesome :thumbsup: . I'm a sophmore too, and I'm also concerned about what other people think of me; thats completely normal. Find a few friends that don't care what you look like or what your voice sounds like, and that should boost your self-esteem and give you a lot more confidence.

Also, I'm sure some of this is puberty taking its toll. Don't worry, its gonna pay off.

About the hemroid thing...see a doctor, I guess.

Try to relax...you have plenty of years ahead of you, and you only go through highschool once; enjoy it :thumbsup: !

[Tehb2]

I kinda know what you mean. I sometimes feel like I;m not social enough. Mostly I only feel this way toward the girls. I'm terrible at tallking to girls, only because I just cant seem to start the conversation, I only kick in if they talk to me. As for anyone else, I'm okay, but I'm sure I'll get over it. But I've never been to any new school, that must be difficult. I think one thing that makes it hard on me is I definently act alittle older than the other kids around me. I'm focused in school, and I try to keep on task when its important. Alot of people dont though, they just goof off, which is okay when nothing is going on, but if something needs to get done, its not okay, and too many people admire those that are defiant.

As for hemoroids-too much info :D

[twin58]

Did you see the similar thread here last month, Anxiety Disorder (http://lacrosseforums.com/showthread.php?t=58306)? A lot of listers chimed in, and there were some good links there that you might wish to pursue. I think the Go Ask Alice! (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/) website, with its no-holds-barred policy, is particularly good. You can ask them anything. There's no question they haven't heard. Since it is part of the Columbia University student health service, it is geared towards adolescents and young adults.

What you're going through is no fun. Best wishes.

[MeRattack]

ya you might have social anxiety disorder

[brikk9]

Just be yourself. If people dont like you when you are being yourself, then they arent worth hanging out around anyways.

I believe it was evel knievel who said that you eventually come to a point in your life where you stop caring about what other people think about yourself and only worry about what you think about yourself. Just be the person you want to be, dont care about what other people think. Because when you be yourself, you run into people who like you for being yourself, and youll never have to be anyone else.
That is the truest thing I've heard in a while, that is GREAT advice for him. But although Evil has some great advice, I wouldn't suggest being exactly like him, that could hurt :nut: .

[raykessler]

honestly i used to feel that way a lot also, then one day during the summer before sophomore year i had a social epipheny, all the "cool" people don't give a .... about what other people think about them, they do what they want and they are CONFIDENT ABOUT IT. The secret to everything is confidence, with out it your done. A few things i did to improve mine, go to a mall, where most people dont know you, and look every person you see straight in the eyes, espically hot girls. Do not look away under any circumstances before them. If you have to get into a staring match thats fine. Nothing says lack of confidence more then backing down from something, and on a small level looking away is backing down, but its the little things that count. Theo ther thing i did was for the first month of school i dressed as rediculously as i could, not stupid, but rediculous, like black pinstripe pants, neon purple polo, and brown shoes with neon orange soles. The purpose of that was again confidence. If i could feel confident in myself wearing something rediculous i could do it 5 times as well when i dressed well. If some one made fun of me i would just shrug it off and change the topic, like nothing was out of the ordinary. These are things that worked for me, be yourself, but a little confidence never hurt anybody.

[lax_dude]

it was either the coach at Umass or At UVA that
said
"LET THE FUR FLY"

if you get what i mean just be yourself and if you have god friends they will accept u

me myself as im thirteen im still goung through the puberty phase and im loving it your still young and energetic although i have a deep voice now i used to have a squirrel voice doesnt matter it will kick in soon and then when it does it would be so cool
but u will not realy no this because you hear yourself everyday
ask one of your old public school friends and let the fur fly. I found this out by this Hot girl she told me that my voiced changed and it cool life in high school or whatever schoo. IF u feel uncomfortable you should talk to family our friends there your tell all u want and no tell

remember to let the fur fly

[lax9]

honestly i used to feel that way a lot also, then one day during the summer before sophomore year i had a social epipheny, all the "cool" people don't give a .... about what other people think about them, they do what they want and they are CONFIDENT ABOUT IT. The secret to everything is confidence, with out it your done. A few things i did to improve mine, go to a mall, where most people dont know you, and look every person you see straight in the eyes, espically hot girls. Do not look away under any circumstances before them. If you have to get into a staring match thats fine. Nothing says lack of confidence more then backing down from something, and on a small level looking away is backing down, but its the little things that count. Theo ther thing i did was for the first month of school i dressed as rediculously as i could, not stupid, but rediculous, like black pinstripe pants, neon purple polo, and brown shoes with neon orange soles. The purpose of that was again confidence. If i could feel confident in myself wearing something rediculous i could do it 5 times as well when i dressed well. If some one made fun of me i would just shrug it off and change the topic, like nothing was out of the ordinary. These are things that worked for me, be yourself, but a little confidence never hurt anybody.

exactly what kessler said, pretend to be confident and pretty soon you wont be pretending any more

[b-waterlax]

Everyone is giving great advice so I would do what they say, but for an example I can say that I have this friend that is pretty much a pure poser. He would always follow our other friend around and do what he did(long hair, Polos) but the most annoying thing was when he bought his lax equipment without ever seeing a game or using a stick. Why would he do this? Our other friend had been tossing a ball around with me and watching games so he decided to play. Well the other friend has since moved out of state and now this poser is following random people and slowly losing friends(including me). So the moral of this story is, no matter how many people like you as a fake, its all a wash when they realize who you are. I'd rather have 5 really good friends that can take a joke or be embarassed than 100 friends that are so worried about being in control that they flip out if you question them.
Also, i am one of only a few laxers in my school, and can say that my friends make fun of me for loving it so much(including TLF), but the best thing is that we are still friends and it doesn't bother them or me.
So Be cool, be you, and be yourself-Live4It

[HSCkid44]

i think the confident and be yourself thing is rigth in the money.
to get self confidenes u have to take some risks and tell your self that u can do any thing u want and try not to care what other people say and if they are talking they will be the one 20 years form now picking up ur trash at ur nice house.
it is high school u got to relax, enjoy it ,and not take it seriously u only get on e shot.
i hope every thing works out ok

[viking goalie]

I had the same problem when i was a frosh, excpet the hemroid you should prooly talk to a doc about. My freshman year i went around to all my classes, didn't do anything in class, didn't talk to anyone, didn't do anything after school. I had no life what so ever, then soph. year i started to play lax. Lax changed my life b/c i was kinda good at it right away, like it just felt right playin lax. That gave me so much confidence its not even funny. You just need to not care what other people think, act yourself and if they dont like it then they shouldn't be your friends. My main prob was that no one noticed me, so when i started to lax what better way to stand out then play goalie. After that i just loosened up and didn't care about what other people thought so much because it didn't matter any more. Im just saying you have to like yourself for yourself before someone else can like you for being you

[D Bay]

well, I am a very outgoing person most of the time, participate in class, hang out with people on weekends, but can be shy around the ladys sometimes... Anyway, I think I'm qualified to try and give you some simple advice, and that is to just get out there and step past that line that you feel is holding you back. You aren't going to ever make progress and be happy with yourself if you don't take a proactive role to better your situation. Let other people see your personality. Whichever group of people you can relate to, see if they want to hang out on the weekends. There you're building those relationships. Just be who you are and some people are bound to recognize you and like you for who you are. Most important of all,relax, have fun, get a little out of line once and a while, and be confident in yourself

[ethslax12]

lately ive been feeling really depressed, i dont know why i am telling anyone this, cuz there isnt really anything you could do, but i just need to tell somebody. I feel like my life is going no where. the only thing im any good at is lacrosse, at least that how i feel. i like my friends, but i feel like the weekends are always the same. im just tired of everything always being the same for me. my grades are mediocre, going down slowly, and my love life is nonexistant. im not a downer when im around people, and im not an emo kid. i just think about these things when im alone and get really depressed. i wonder what im even living for and then i think of lacrosse. i cant relate with any of my teamates though because to them lacrosse IS just a game, but to me it has given me a reason to live. this may sound like im just asking for attention, and thats why i dont want to share my feelings with people, because i dont want to be one of those people that are always looking for sympathy. im not suicidal or anything and im sure, i hope, this is just a phase, but i just needed to get all of that off my chest

[hurricane20]

i used to feel like you do alot........just try to meet some new people and do some more stuff....be more outgoing, but dont overdo it cuz then you'll be remembered as the crazy retard(you dont want that)......school functions like homecoming and other sporting events are a good way of meeting new people....and ladies ;)

[Attackalltheway]

Go to all of your dances and events. That is a good way to meet new people

[theonly]

Talk to your parents.

[SeanO39]

I kind of felt like that last year. I ended up fueling my unhappiness into getting good grades and getting into a private school. Then I kind of escaped my old school and got a new start and everythings going swell right now. Get into music too. Music seems to solve just about everything.

[Hooligan]

Merged 3 different anxiety related threads together...continue.

[czechinthepipes]

^^thanks hooligan. and guys i would like to say one thing to remember even though it is great to talk about it but remember if you are having any of this problems seriously or badly go talk to you parents its really important.
also talking does help a lot so continue.

[ethslax12]

As far as you not having a girlfriend, Ill give you this piece of advice- Ive been through highschool, Im in college, and I can tell you that highschool relationships are usually a waste of time anyways. Well, a waste of time, and a waste of money. You arent going to get married to the girl anyways, and usually they cause more trouble than they create.

It seems like you have a passion for lax, and thats great. But lacrosse cant be your entire life for the rest of your life, you are going to have to branch out sooner or later. Find out all the the things you like, think you might like, and give them a chance. Get involved in school groups, with friends, maybe your church if you are a religious person, etc.
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i know that im never gonna actually marry the girl, but its not even taht i really want i girlfriend, i just want some action, thats what i really never get. if i had a girlfriend i would feel like i had something to hold onto, be comfortable with, but even if i just got action every once in awhile i would be happy too, but i hookup with a girl like once a year.

as for the passion thing, i also have begun a passion for business. i am hoping to start my own business when i get older, and i am in a club for buisness at my highschool. everything is gonna turn out ok like you said, i just have been having some real bad days the past couple of weeks, once lacrosse starts in the next couple weeks ill be fine

[czechinthepipes]

im confused, are u saying you want a girlfriend or that you want action?

[gigo567]

Okay, I am bumping the thread up.


I think I have some social disorder. When I am around people I really don't know I get pretty nervous and can't start a conversation. I am never willing to do things and I think it is really starting to affect my social life. I have no clue what to do. I want to make new friends but it is almost impossible to do and I want to be able to start conversations and not be nervous.

It is also affecting my grades and Drama class(required) is really hard for my to do and perform in.

I am really confused and do not know what to do.

[Bobsch]

Gigo, it sounds like a couple of possibilities:

1. You might just be really shy. I know that sounds funny for someone nominated as one of the most talkative, but many shy people feel more comfortable talking to people on the internet than they do face-to-face. I'm pretty shy, but it gets easier over time. I can speak to a group pf strangers if I feel like I'm kind of an expert in something, but don't usually like to meet strangers face-to-face (sometimes I like to do that, too, but it seems kind of exhausting after a while).

2. Maybe it is some kind of a social disorder, especially if it is a big change. Most people seem to have some changes in their personality around your age (becoming more or less outgoing), so it might be just what many go through. Or there could be something causing this that we can't really help you with on this forum. I'd recommend talking to your parents or a teacher you trust and they can find someone to help you.

[czechinthepipes]

^^as Bobsch said gigo, it could be your really shy, i am shy, yes i do have social anxiety but as said am shy. dont go worrying about have social anxiety, i hope by creating this thread that im not giving anyone ideas that they may have some type of anxiety, yes everyone has anxiety day to day and worry and all that , and even some get it for a period of time, unless 1)you've had it for a few years or 2) its really affecting your life then technically its not a disorder.
sadly gigo the only way you can really get over it unless you actually have a really hard time or actually have social anxiety disorder than the only way to get over it is to go face to face with the problem. i kno that sounds scary but thats really the only way, i should kno im on tons of medicine and see tons of special doctors and yet with all that i still have to force my self to put my self into that scary zone, yes meds help and so do doctors but the only way to really get over it is to put your self out there and fight it head on..
so gigo talk to your parents, let them kno you may have a problem, before you go to a doctor and get your parents all involved keep pushing yourself a little longer and if it doesnt go away or gets worse, talk to your parents tell them its serious and go talk to your doctor.
i kno it sucks but just keep pushing yourself and you ll be fine.

[gigo567]

^^as Bobsch said gigo, it could be your really shy, i am shy, yes i do have social anxiety but as said am shy. dont go worrying about have social anxiety, i hope by creating this thread that im not giving anyone ideas that they may have some type of anxiety, yes everyone has anxiety day to day and worry and all that , and even some get it for a period of time, unless 1)you've had it for a few years or 2) its really affecting your life then technically its not a disorder.
sadly gigo the only way you can really get over it unless you actually have a really hard time or actually have social anxiety disorder than the only way to get over it is to go face to face with the problem. i kno that sounds scary but thats really the only way, i should kno im on tons of medicine and see tons of special doctors and yet with all that i still have to force my self to put my self into that scary zone, yes meds help and so do doctors but the only way to really get over it is to put your self out there and fight it head on..
so gigo talk to your parents, let them kno you may have a problem, before you go to a doctor and get your parents all involved keep pushing yourself a little longer and if it doesnt go away or gets worse, talk to your parents tell them its serious and go talk to your doctor.
i kno it sucks but just keep pushing yourself and you ll be fine.
Yeah, I am going with extremely shy. I have been pushing myself and forcing myself to talk. So far it seems to be helping and stuff.

[czechinthepipes]

^^good, keep it up, eventually you ll be so good at not being shy it wont be a problem anymore.. me for example, i have been undergoing alot of treatment in the passed month and have noticed tons of improvements in my life that i dont even think about anymore and yet 2 months ago i stressed over them as if it was the end of the world, and its only been a month, i another month i ll be better, and so on and so forth.
so ya dont stress to much everyone has some type of social/or anxiety problem.

[NDKnights157]

after like a year and a half of trying to figure out and ignoring what was wrong with me i had been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and i was put on paxil for like 6 months and through counseling and ive been off the paxil for like 4 months now and i rarely have any symptoms of anxiety anymore

[czechinthepipes]

after like a year and a half of trying to figure out and ignoring what was wrong with me i had been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and i was put on paxil for like 6 months and through counseling and ive been off the paxil for like 4 months now and i rarely have any symptoms of anxiety anymore
good, im glad that your better. i wish mine was simiple like that. i still have no cure. but anyways good for you man.

[Bone]

I wish for you to get better and I'll keep you in my prayers. As for me, I'm claustrophobic (highly) and I'm afraid of the dark :bawling: lol j\j about the dark part! :nofear:

[Sjrlax69]

I am diagnosed with OCD. it sometimes causes anxiety which causes me to do rituals. anyone else here have ocd?

[czechinthepipes]

I am diagnosed with OCD. it sometimes causes anxiety which causes me to do rituals. anyone else here have ocd?
Well since OCD is part of the anxiety disorder family it is quite reasonable to have anxiety with your OCD, which causes your rituals or obsessive tendencies. I too along with a few other anxiety disorders have very slight OCD. How long have you known and what are you doing for your OCD?

[ryanDFW]

after reading some of the things here, im starting to think i may have some kind of social problem. im able to make friends pretty easily, hardly any enemies, if any. i guess you could consider me popular at my school but the problem lies within deeper relationships. when i first meet people, i love hangin out with them and basically look up to them. but after a while, i start to pick them apart in my mind and find something about them that bothers me and every time im with them, i get really annoyed. this has happened to me with pretty much every single one of my closer friends. its as if im looking for a reason not to be friends with them even though i try so hard to ignore it. its not something so extreme that every time i see them i give them dirty looks or anything, but i dont know, it just bothers me that they bother me. im not really looking for any help here cause i realize this is probably something i need to just deal with on my own, just venting.

[LaxiconDevil]

Its real chill you guys can talk about this. I've been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and panic disorder for four years. I'm doing better, but I still take more meds then I would like, to control the panic attacks and the depression and another to get me through the nights because I would have really rough nights, would flip out. I dunno, I guess its just nice to be able to talk about this with lax people; I don't like talking about it with other people because if they don't understand, they make it seem like its a weakness. I used to think that too but I'm starting to come to grips with it.

[sidewinder19]

The latest thing for depression, according to an NIMH study, is ketamine. Yes, ketamine, with just about instant results. I might want to give that a try. What have I got to lose?


I read about that stuff. Apparently it's widespread use originated from a bunch of teenagers breaking into a veterinary clinic trying to find some serious downers. Needless to say they did. Overdosed and dyed off of straight ketamine mixed with water, each drank 500 percent more than the suggested dose for tranquilizing a full grown moose. It makes you really out of it. The book said that having even a very minuscule amount such as a fingernail full is the same as taking 30-50 Tylenol 3's. And these teens each had like almost a Ziploc sandwhich bag each.

[Sjrlax69]

hmmm ive always noticed it but was diagnosed about 2 years ago. It can get bad sometimes but i dont feel medicine is nessasary for it. I just try to live with it, it realy acts up wen im on the field. Im a goalie so the pressure sets it off lol

edit- btw czechinthepipes, whos that girl in ur avatar? she looks like the girl from harry potter

[twin58]

anyone else here have ocd?

I'll say. The worst kind, too - hoarding. My heroes? The Collyer brothers. If you have a few minutes, stop whatever else it is you're doing to read this. The Collyer brothers were the champion hoarders of all time.

Obsessive Compulsive Foundation, Inc. - Compulsive Hoarding Web site. Langley Collyer: The Mystery Hoarder Of Harlem (http://www.ocfoundation.org/1005/m140a_001.htm)

I'd hate to tell you how much that article describes me. I'm not the only one, though. I could tell you stories.

Here's a link that gets into the physiology and treatment of compulsive hoarding (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsive_hoarding#Physiology_and_treatment). Notice that there's no cure. The best you can hope for is to control it.

Important reminder: if you're looking for medical advice, this is what health care professionals are for.

[czechinthepipes]

hmmm ive always noticed it but was diagnosed about 2 years ago. It can get bad sometimes but i dont feel medicine is nessasary for it. I just try to live with it, it realy acts up wen im on the field. Im a goalie so the pressure sets it off lol

edit- btw czechinthepipes, whos that girl in ur avatar? she looks like the girl from harry potter
Do what you have to do to be better. If you don't feel you need to be on meds, then don't, they aren't the best things for you and if you don't need them then don't get on them.
And yes, that is the girl from harry potter, her name is Emma Watson (my future wife... in my dreams).
Important reminder: if you're looking for medical advice, this is what health care professionals are for.
Very very true, if you are truly looking for medical advice or think you may have some type of anxiety, talk to your parents about it and set up an appointment with a Doctor. Even though me and many others have had anxiety for a very long time doesn't mean we have the right or know-how about anxiety and anxiety related problems to give you medical advice.

[Middie009]

I have the problem of wondering if I am certain things when I really know I am not, theses little problems persist and I cannot get them out of my head. Any help... PLEASE these things are taking over my life..

[twin58]

There is a huge thread going on about anxiety already.

Anxiety Disorder Megathread (http://www.lacrosseforums.com/showthread.php?t=58306&highlight=czechinthepipes+anxiety)

I've had big problems with anxiety, but all I can do is tell you about my experiences, not give medical advice. We're not equipped to give medical advice at TLF. Most listers are in the eighth grade through twelfth grade, and the advice you get here is likely to be anecdotal at best, and dangerous at worst. What works for me or another lister may not work for you.

There is, though, a terrific online site for young people, run by the health care staff at Columbia University: Go Ask Alice! (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/)

emotional health category at Go Ask Alice! (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/Cat4.html)

You'll still want to see your school nurse or school counselor right away. It would be a shame not to seek this person's assistance when it is available to you.

Best wishes.

[oclax155]

how old r u ethslax12 cuz im 13 andi talked 2 my doctor and he tells me the sme as my parents, its just hormones my mom always comforts me and if u want 2, i n i do sometimes, just close ur door n cry, i always feel betr after that and just tell yourself that nothin is wrong, i gaurentee that u will feel better.

[mcnutty93]

i saw a psych cause of a bad attitude and he helped with other depression stuff