being trusted

[peewee_52]

okay well...A girl I like..will go out with me..but first she needs to be able to trust me really good(her ex tried to do stuff with her)
any suggestions to proove to her she can trust me and stuff?

[mass_elite21]

dont jump on her halfway through the first date haha. really though, im a girl, and i'd say that if i had those issues it would be cute if they guy didnt really try to do stuff, and let me make the first move so that things would happen if when i was ready. or like on you next couple dates, dont do anything but hold her hand and idk maybe a peck on the cheek at the end of the night.

[peewee_52]

i understand what you mean
wich Is a good idea
thanks
but..shes not even my girlfriend yet lol
thats why she needs to be abe to trust me and stuff lol

[Riot]

How old are you? What are you guys getting into? I'd say you should just take it slow.

[peewee_52]

How old are you? What are you guys getting into? I'd say you should just take it slow.
just about 14
c'mon..im not gonna wait till im 20 to have my first gf(not that this would be) im just making a point that its just a part of life lol

we have been taking it pretty slow..i dont wnana rush anything..ethier does she

[BigKLaxer]

No offense, but I don't think posting ALL of your relationship problems on a public internet forum qualifies you as trustworthy.

[peewee_52]

No offense, but I don't think posting ALL of your relationship problems on a public internet forum qualifies you as trustworthy.


i havent posted that many
and..its not like ANYONE told me not to..and you guys have enevr met me and prolly never will lol

[peewee_52]

why are people so rude to people on these
like seriously..i wrote it to get help..not to get everyone mad at me ^o)

[m2daRizzle]

why are people so rude to people on these
like seriously..i wrote it to get help..not to get everyone mad at me ^o)

unfortunatly thats the way the internet works. Its alot easier for people to be cocky/rude/immature when they dont know the person and are not face-to-face with the person they are harassing

[peewee_52]

unfortunatly thats the way the internet works. Its alot easier for people to be cocky/rude/immature when they dont know the person and are not face-to-face with the person they are harassing

so you agree with me rite
Theres some nice people on here who stick up for people and stuff
but like you said ufornulatly people thikn they can be cocky and rude

[m2daRizzle]

so you agree with me rite
Theres some nice people on here who stick up for people and stuff
but like you said ufornulatly people thikn they can be cocky and rude

yup, i agree with you entirely.

[brikk9]

Well if people posted tips and not stuff like they're doing then you could get a friend who uses TLF to talk to her and say, "Hey look at this, he likes you a lot, you know how I can tell? He posted a thread on a lacrosse site to get advise on how to not screw things up with you." Sounds like a good idea to me anyway...

[Laxgoalie4282]

Well if people posted tips and not stuff like they're doing then you could get a friend who uses TLF to talk to her and say, "Hey look at this, he likes you a lot, you know how I can tell? He posted a thread on a lacrosse site to get advise on how to not screw things up with you." Sounds like a good idea to me anyway...
haha that might creep her out, and make her not like you at all.. i think taht she would freak out if you told her taht
but i think you should just tell her that you understand taht she needs time, and let her make the descision based on things you do in everyday life, not on something you plan out specifically to make her trust you. that will probably work better, even if it takes a while longer.

[JazzyJake]

i was kind of in the same situation a few weeks ago
just hang out with her, and try not thinking about making out with her when you're with her, just be as close friends as you can.
good luck man ; )

[spyopticgoggles]

when you ask her out, paint a shoebox red and pink and put a card in it that says something romantic. put it at the end of her driveway and knock on her door then hide in her bushes or something. my friend did that and it worked so it could work for you.

[ML_LAX09]

when you ask her out, paint a shoebox red and pink and put a card in it that says something romantic. put it at the end of her driveway and knock on her door then hide in her bushes or something. my friend did that and it worked so it could work for you.


Thats not his problem, he needs her to trust him, not do something like that.

[Rick]

The same thing happened with my girl, and it seems like it is more and more common these days for people to be hesitant to trust other people--with good accords.

But anyways, basically don't try anything too drastic, because she will just think you are like this other guy that she was seeing but then apparently was too hasty. If it feels right, I mean, do it. If you want to try something but it is iffy, wait a while, no harm, because good things come to those who wait.

Basically my girl said 'I love you' before 'I trust you' so apparently trust is a big thing among girls these days.

Like I said, just act cool around her and since you aren't even really with her yet, take things slow and basically allow her to make the first move if anything. Also, just show good qualities around her, as in showing loyalty and what not.

Good luck.

[the wister]

Move On!

If she's that much trouble and you're only 14, you are digging yourself in way too deep. If you have to ask a bunch of strangers how to deal with a girl that you're not even dating, then it's way too much drama already and it's only going to get worse. I find it hard to believe that at your age this is really something that is an issue. Trust me, life with women gets a lot harder than this, you just gotta get out there, get hurt, get back up, and learn.
GO GET EM!!!!

[laxboyJZ11]

i agree with the wister, you are young, live life don't live with a lot of drama. Why do you put lol at the end of your posts? sorry its just a pet peeve of mine when people say lol at something that isnt funny like example,
A: hey bro whats up?
B: Nothin much just chillin lol

or

"thats why she needs to be abe to trust me and stuff lol" <-- pointless, i don't think one person laughed out loud

[truste1]

Just be a gentleman, open any door you happen to come across for her. If you're walking down the street makes sure she's away from the street so if a car comes running up or splashes a puddle you take it. She might not notice what you're doing so sneak in some small comment about it if you feel you need to. Just make her feel comfortable with you, these can be things you do even if you aren't dating.

[CnSLax3]

I'd give you a suggestion but I can't read anything you wrote.

[dillz18]

You really want to know? Talk to her about it. Talk to her a lot. Girls like this crazy thing called 'quality time'. Crazy, I know.

[abomb]

dont even waste your time with her

[Live4It]

Not to be rude, or mean, or anything, but seriously, if you this many problems with girls, you just aren't ready yet, maybe you haven't had that many problems, but from the girl threads I've seen from you, it seems that way. You just have to go with things, don't keep posting for help and asking what other people would do, becuase then your not being yourself, and not helping yourself. Also by what I've heard from you in the past, you have alot of respect for girls, and that will help you out. So just stop worrying about all these little girl problems, things will work out if they are meant to.

[mnlax9]

Worst. Idea. Ever.


amen to that

[XcaliLaxX]

Leave her in the middle of the desert and promise to come back. And if you come back then she will trust you

[Jayhawks13]

make her think that you love her. but on the DL, dont love her.