Team blame you for everything????

[Sjrlax69]

Hi i need some advice from other goalies who might be or have been in my situation, My team has no offence at all so the ball never leaves my side and i get triple the amount of shots the other teams i play get. Then when i do let in a goal ( i average like 4 a game ) my whole team says its my fault we lose. The whole team hates me has this happend to anyone else if so what did u do? should i transfer to another school?
-Thanks for your time, please get back to me

[kylezkdlf]

Tell them to improve themselves. If the ball is never on your offensive side, your team basically can't win. Goalies are the final defense but they aren't solely responsible the W-L.

[Dadabhoy_Muzzi]

I have had this happen to me before. I used this as motivation an came back the following year and shut everyone up. Ignore them and play your game. Ask one of them to step into the cage and have them stop something. Just keep your head in it and everything will work out. Good luck.

[goalie diez]

i am in a similar situations. in our last game our team didnt get one shot off in the first half and we had like 9 the whole game. so the ball is on our side of the field 90% of the time and we are usually man down because we are a new team so we are pretty much a goon squad. but at first my team blamed everything on me but then they realized that it wasnt all completley my fault and that they needed to play a little tighter on defense and keep the ball on the otehr end of the field.

[lax21goalie2008]

That is total BS. The only way someone could blame you for a tick in the loss column would be if you let mutiple shots in from 15+ yards.

[bplaxg33]

ball goes through 9 others before you or at the minimum 6 others (ppl who get penalties you gotta consider just getting blown by lol). Point that out talk to your defense and captains and get them to back you more. The defense should be as frustrated as you.

[Raiderslax911]

well our goalie had 0 saves in a 10-8 loss. And i scored a hat trick, so is it okay to blame him then? one kid shot from the opposite restraining line and made it, the ball flew right over his stick, he is awful.

[bplaxg33]

positive reenforcement man. and get him some more practice. btw did the other team take alot of shots and miss wide or did he only see like 10 shots the game and not get a chance to really settle into his game?

[lax21goalie2008]

well our goalie had 0 saves in a 10-8 loss. And i scored a hat trick, so is it okay to blame him then? one kid shot from the opposite restraining line and made it, the ball flew right over his stick, he is awful.
I think you could blame him then.

[mattlax743]

nah usually the goalie is the last one who gets blamed on the teams i have been on.

[imhungry114]

In lacrosse being a Goalie is completely different than any other sport. Its not like hockey when people are smacking a puck off the ice to you, they are throwing a ball at you. Since im only a backup goalie, I never let my team blame our starter for loosing. During practice I hand them my stick and tell them to get in there and at first they are lke "ok I can do this" but after the first shot they drop a load in their pants. So during practice pass your stick off and see what they do, it will be different after that.

[stablaxr22]

i have had that hapen too i just say hey why dont u just come play golie if its so easy :devil:

[RgLax]

sjr where do u play in jersey

[Sjrlax69]

i play for saint joes montvale ( bergen county )

Thanks guys for all the advice, other goalies are the only people who understand my deal

[tobin4]

the goalie on our team probably averages about 60 shots a game. our defense...doesnt do so well. today he had an amazing game, he got 26 saves, and we lost 3-15. it sucks that our defense doesnt do so well and our offense cant score very much when we get it down there. but it is in no way our goalies fault

[Laxmann019]

People should never blame a goalie for anything unless they're willing to take his spot. Next time they blame you just say you wanna step in here and give it a try?

[cjm3113]

We never blame our goalie. While he isn't the greatest, he is always giving it 110% and putting his body out their for the team. If you don't want to give up as many goals, don't give up as many shots. That's how I look at it.

[spike191]

Hey, I think we play you guys this coming saturday I play at bridgewater?, do you play fro varsity or JV. I sit V and start JV, so if im right i will see you there. Either way I think that a goalie can only take the blame some of the time? If you play against us I wish you luck, especially if your on JV. PM me if im thinking of the right team?

[ThugLife9998]

the defense on my always blamed the goalies, which pissed me off because they werent playing tight or sliding or anything.

[wolfenburg]

If someone balmes you ask why he didn't score more goals. That raely makes them quiet.

[laxgoalie16]

i had that happen to me once, i said why dont you play net....he shut up.

[min_sarker]

Just get them out of your mind and play your game. I am not a goalie for lax but i am a goalie for soccer. I played jv this year and i will have two years on varsity. I have been playing goalie for like 2 years, and i have adapted myself to just keep them out of my mind. Ask them to take your spot for one quarter even and they won't because they dont understand the pressure.

[pineapplezzzz]

When the team wins, it's because the offense did good. When the team loses it is the goalies fault because he didn't save them. I have had shots come at me that were beyond savable and I screwed up and the D gets mad but you can't let it get to you or you will believe what they are saying and then you will do bad. Just shake it off and remember it is easier to count your saves than losses. If your teammates want to talk they need to check themselves. People always blame others for their mistakes.

[laxgoalie66]

they need to strengthen the offense and the blame shouldnt be on you, you do what you can they dont understand the skill it takes to be a goalie and they shouldnt blame you for the ball being on your side of the field the whole time cause the offense/defense isnt good

[nemiman18]

my team does the same thing

in practice one of our defensemen starts actually yelling at me about how to play goalie. i handed him my stick and said "ok man, ill ride the bench all season if your as good as you say" he dropped the stick and walked away. He still thinks hes a better goalie than i am so i ask him why he plays D

a bunch of kids on my team are good about it though, my coach isnt

[IHSLAX4]

well i think you can blame the goalie when its a really savable (sp?) shot. if the guy shoots it from 15 yards out top right (stick side) and the goalie doesn't save it then its his fault, but if a man goes through your whole team and fires one from like 5 feet away then its the teams fault, so tell them to shut up if they aren't playing good enough defense. my goalie is the same way, he will let in a goal right on the crease which was the defenses fault and our team will blame him for it, but then they will shoot from like 15 yards out and blast one stick side and they will still blame him (even though its his fault anyways) but he doesn't get much love from my team lol.

[EHSLAX12]

shots that can be saved are shots from 10 yards plus. anything inside that is a bit more complicated. i kinda have the same problem where my offense will throw away the ball in transition or make a bad decision and the ball comes back to me. it frustrates me because it happens so often. i dont get blamed as much as i should be but i still get blamed for some things i shouldnt be blamed for. when we lose the 1 goal games where i get a transition shot its more difficult for me to save it because its mostly a. backdoor cutter, b. 1 on 1, c. rocket from inside 10, or d. transition play because my offense threw away the ball or didnt do something right that cost us the ball. since it happens so frequently i get more frustrated and i suffer from it. W-L doesnt just depend on the goalie, it depends on the whole team. if your defense is bad (like mine) youll see about 5x more shots than everyone else. if they play bad, your offense plays bad, youll play bad or itll show that you do, even if you didnt. goalies are only given the loss or win when they couldve played better than they did, which is why i have 1 loss and 2 wins right now. its just something you have to ignore for now. dont let your team rag on you. its their fault that you get that many shots.

[goaliesdadfan]

Frankly, if this is how it sounds, it sounds to me like a lack of leadership and knowledge of the game on the part of your coach and the team captains to allow this to occur. Not sure blaming anyone for anything that goes wrong, unless its a boneheaded play, is a good culture to have on a team (i.e., does your team blame an attackman for missing a shot?).

The goalie does need to do their part though - give 100%, commit to improving his/her skills and play their part in the defensive and outlet scheme of the team, etc.

[SVLax2011]

Well if you're in like middle school or something it will improve as you get older becuase they will mature up and realize it's probably their own fault. Just don't worry aobut them and focus on YOUR game not theirs

[dillz18]

I blame our goalie when he stops trying. When we get one or two quick goals scored on us, or a really easy save that goes in he gets down on himself. I'm allowed to because I played goalie too, and taught him some stuff last year in his first year.

[NALC24]

Ignore them and play your game. Ask one of them to step into the cage and have them stop something. . Good luck.

completly agree with that

[cnyminder]

Well once it was just in a camp and it was the final game. I was coming out and trying to strip the ball away from people and one kid on my team was screaming at me.Apperently he didnt see the were no d.(i cant stand when they do that)

[Milred]

Goaliesdadfan is on the right track. Blaming each other for anything shows a lack of sportsmanship, teamwork, maturity, and leadership. Nobody ever built a winning team by tearing each other down-- winners are always positive and encouraging and supportive of each other, no matter what. The WHOLE team is responsible for winning or losing-- as mentioned before, the defense shouldn't be letting so many shots on you, and the middies/attack ought to win some face-offs and hang onto the ball and score more goals. And your coach ought to be aware of your team's piss-poor attitude towards you and put an immediate end to it. I hope you are on a very young team, because I wouldn't put up with that kind of immaturity and selfishness from anyone high school level or older. You should hand the next complainer your goalie equipment and politely and sincerely ask him to show you how to do it better. Odds are he can't, but if he can, then you have the chance to improve. Don't get an attitude or else you're just adding to the problem. If the problem persists, you might pull the coach aside and make him aware of the situation-- again, not whining about being blamed, but for lack of teamwork and cohesiveness your teammates are displaying.

[goalie4JESUS]

i have had games like that when our offense was completely horrible and it threw the whole team off....just ignore them and think of how bad the team would have lost without the goals you did save

[OHSgoalie10]

sometimes i just love how ignorant players of other positions can be...during a man down play one of our middies (i have no clue what he was doing) goes to about mid-field and just stands there as the other team brings it in from behind and passes to where he was supposed to be for a wide open shot from about 7 yards out. oh, then proceeds to walk down to me and blame me for not blocking the shot...go figure

[goalie diez]

sometimes i just love how ignorant players of other positions can be...during a man down play one of our middies (i have no clue what he was doing) goes to about mid-field and just stands there as the other team brings it in from behind and passes to where he was supposed to be for a wide open shot from about 7 yards out. oh, then proceeds to walk down to me and blame me for not blocking the shot...go figure


all i have to say is wow

[JEeagleslax]

my team tried blaming me for it...so one day i pulled aside EVERY girl who played defense and told them that we need to work as a unit and without them we cant do it. after a few times of that they woke up and listened. good luck

[laxkidg001]

One of the team rules on my team is to NEVER diss the goalie, because he's the only one brave enough to step in front of the net.

[meestagoaliemon]

Well, my team almost never does that, but I kinow where you are coming from.

If someone is letting you have it, tell them to siut up, get in net, and have them take shots.

I did that once to whom is now an eighth grader and he ran out of net crying...no joke...it works.

[Doritos]

lol dude ill do what my best friend did on a game he got sick of the deafens he blocked a shot and took off all the way down field by him self and shoot he would of scored if it ha dent bounced from the inside off the pole but this was are first game and we where all stressed screaming at each other now we made play offs but could not attend long stories short we work as a team and we respect each other because we know that not one player out there could succeed by him self against a entire team they just have to stop using u as a escape goat and look to each other for help.

lmao dude same happen to me except i got blamed for missing a pass that was thrown from the same guy who was going of on me for not catching it telling me all this other stuff all i said was well jez i am sorry i dint grow 20ft under a second XD and may be u should stop drooping all your passes in attack and he shut up but we still cool

[lakevilleLAX17]

yah my d lets them go untouched and when they score they swear at me i stopped it by telling them to play goal they played once in practice havent heard anything sice (that was a month ago)

[laxlosergirl]

no its never the goalie fault if a team loses. the goalie is always the last resort to prevent a shot. if the ball is always on your side, then yell at your defence for not doing a good job. tell them to watch their man if they stray away. or like meestagoaliemon said, have them suit up and get in goal.