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[RenagadeGoalie]

im on an 8th grade youth team. so a couple weeks ago were in a game. its third quarter and were losing the lead that we had. a fast break devolps and our center defense who is the head coaches son is up near top center trying to play the breaking middie while his man slips past him. he gets burned by the breaking middie and im left 2 on 1 with the center defense's man about 4 yards off the crease, they pass it to the crease man, he shoots and scores. im getting majorly pissed off that this happened but im keeping my cool. our coach calls a time out and as im jogging over he says to me, "you gota step up and make that save nex time, thats an easy shot to save." easy shot?!?!?!?!? how many guys can make a save 4 yards off the crease 2 on 1 any time let alone rd quarter when we are losing the lead? i flip out. my best defender and our best attackman both flip out. he jsut blamed me for his sons mistake. his son screws up and he has the balls to say its my fault. i flipped out in front of my team and i want to learn how to control it beacuse it wasnt the first time hes used me or other people as a scapegoat for his sons mistakes, any suggestions?

[Goalie18]

If you know it wasnt your fault and your other good players know the coach is full of it then just brush it off. Take the player aside and tell him you screw up one more time and he'll find ot whats coming to him. Im not saying to completly threaten him but its a youth a team so dont worry bout it. Next year it will be diffrent

[btgoalie21]

If my coach ever said that to me in that situation i would walk off the field. That is totally outragous that he said that to you. I would tell your coach the next time he blames you for something that you will sit and not play. Thats what i would do.

[blonyxpony]

well...this happens to the best of us. my first year the same thing happend. my d sucked, and i was only decent at the time. other teams goalie makes clear. attacker gets it, my d is nowhere to be found he shoots, he scores....coach gets pissed and benches me the rest of the game even though the score was 9-2

this year i started working out more and running more than a jack-rabbit on steroids. same thing happend in a game. goalie makes save, he clears, attack gets it, and burned my d. as he was running at me i took off towards him. he takes the shot but as he does i stuff his shot and level him..this time after the game the coach told me good job and to keep it up...

so it seems that with all coaches...you just have to prove to them that they are wrong and to work to earn their respect...

[ehsgoalie]

well i used to get pissed my 8th grade year (last year) and my parents just told me if i do it again i cant play and that worked. But also sometimes when im pissed and my d isnt working i just come out of the cage when i know i can (like when you said the guy was 4yards out) and nail them and so them how to play d.

[laxlegend08]

try channeling your anger towards the ball. it usually works pretty good. what i do is just get determined to prove them wrong and make sure that ball doesnt go past me

[CTwiltongoalie1]

well i used to get pissed my 8th grade year (last year) and my parents just told me if i do it again i cant play and that worked. But also sometimes when im pissed and my d isnt working i just come out of the cage when i know i can (like when you said the guy was 4yards out) and nail them and so them how to play d.


NEVER EVER COME OUT OF THE GOAL


Real and experienced attackman will dodge right around you and have an open shot at the net, or just shoot right around you, take your pick. Many goalies that don't play at a high level or are inexperienced themselves do this alot. If you come out of the net, you will give up many more goals this way if you are playing with good teams, believe me.

[BOMBERd-pole]

NEVER EVER COME OUT OF THE GOAL


Real and experienced attackman will dodge right around you and have an open shot at the net, or just shoot right around you, take your pick. Many goalies that don't play at a high level or are inexperienced themselves do this alot. If you come out of the net, you will give up many more goals this way if you are playing with good teams, believe me.

if you know that the attackman is going to score than you should come out and lay him out to tell him nothing is free and hell become more hesitant to coming near your crease

and as a goalie you can never let your anger get to you always focus on the present channel your rage into the ball coming twoards you. step and make the save like you kno how to do goalies should always have short term memories

[BK_Knights_9]

My coach tries to stay very positive and always says that it is only a mistake if you do it twice. Sounds like a tough situation with your coach blaming other people. Just try and shake it off and look forward to the next play. Don't let others get inside your head.

[RenagadeGoalie]

well after my outburst i sort of channeled my anger towards the ball. i came out and didnt allow a goal for the rest of the game. a lot of people have become aggitiated at the way or coach treats his son as he should not be starting and is no longer one of the best on the team

[kalata05]

i flip out on my defense too...they blow....yea it pisses me off when the dont slide and let someone right on the crease to do some make me look like an idiot shot (behiend the back, between the legs, etc..) and then they blame me for losing...i just go off sometimes....like ill yell at them the whole time the other team has the ball i have to yell out slides and other such and picks....them make me so angry