Turning down a girl?

[Enjoi LAX]

There's a girl that likes me and wants to go out. I don't want to go out with her. I'm a nice guy and don't like to hurt peoples feelings if possible. What's a good way to tell her I'm not interested but not come off sounding like an jerk. Serious thoughts only peeps, thanks.

[lax21goalie2008]

Just say that you don't really see her as a romantic interest, only a friend.

[Live4It]

In my opinion, sometimes it's harder to turn down a girl, than to ask one out....umm, just be honest with her I guess? but whatever you do, don't go out with her because you feel bad, I made that mistake before, I felt like a total ahole, it's a whole other story though, and I don't want to tell it.

[LiquidMercury16]

Tell her you have AIDS.....that or just tell her you're not interested in anything more than friendship with her. Or somehow try and convince her to be friends with benefits....

[ESPN]

ive had to do this before and it is hard and awkward. i dont have really an advice except not talk to her much.

[MACDADDY]

just say

sorry but im already going out with another girl

[LiquidMercury16]

Yah that doesn't always work out so well. Try to avoid that because than she tries to find out who than you say some other girl at another school than she see's you hitting on a girl at your current school and than she spreads rumors that you are a cheating dirtbag....

[lhslaxer22]

Just be honest; say you like being single at the moment or something along those lines. I'd rather have a girl turn me down honestly than make up some BS excuse about how she has a boyfriend in Iowa and she never sees him and he's in the military and all that junk.

[MaKiMaKi13]

hit her in the face with a brick j/k just be nice about it there really is no nice way to let someone down tell her your not interested

[smalbikpro]

say your going havnig a rough time right now and you dont want to be a burden on her.

[kevidinho]

Don't put it off. Just get it over with and be honest. Tell her that you would still like to be friends(if you do, it sounds like you do), but you just don't see a relationship like that working out between the two of you.

Like I said, don't put it off. Everyone but myself wanted me to ask a girl out last year, so I just didn't do it. And I never talked to her about, it was just stupid not to tell her that I didn't want to go out with her.

[mullengoal141]

bascically, be honest. the best way to do it is to tell her that you just dont have those same feelings for her, not that you dont think shes a wonderful person that could make SOMEONE happy, but you just dont feel that way about her.

[moondog]

1) Get it over with immediately

2) Tell her you like her as a friend

3) Tell her she is not your type

4) Be polite, but firm

It's always nice to have a good collection of girls that will basically do anything for you--never know when you're going to need them...if you know what I mean...

[shoebag2000]

Tell her you are not into girls.

Or just do what everyone else has been saying.

[truste1]

This guy did this to a girl I know: text her and say you only want to be friends, "just cause"

or be like "hoe you busted"

[EastCoastDeft]

if your young (10-13?) say your not ready to have a girlfriend
or
the good old i think we could be friends and if theres a romantic spark ill tell you

[Enjoi LAX]

Yeah I guess you guys can only can only give me general things to say, in the end I need to some up with something to say. I'll just be honest and say that I want to be single right now. I'll let her know that I still want to be friends and this doesn't mean I despise her I just don't want a GF now. Thanks for the suggestions.

[Enjoi LAX]

if your young (10-13?) say your not ready to have a girlfriend
or
the good old i think we could be friends and if theres a romantic spark ill tell you

Nah I'm 16 and have had girlfriends in the past.

[spartacus9]

I was in the same boat, bro. What I did was just dont give her any ammo to convince herself that you like her. Just when she tries to talk to you, be passive and stoic. Lets say youre at a party or something and her friends are there. When you leave dont give only her a hug, either hug all of the girls there or just leave. Either that or go back in time and hit her with a brick the first time you see her.

[lublax77]

everyone sayin to hit her in the face with a brick, BAD IDEA. my family was on vacation and my bro saw a girl on the dock, so he tried to throw the rock in the water and splash her, he ends up hitting her in the face and shes had a crush on him for like 5 years

[moondog]

"Just SHOW IT to her, man!" (Dazed and Confused)

jj

[hvlacrosse311]

everyone sayin to hit her in the face with a brick, BAD IDEA. my family was on vacation and my bro saw a girl on the dock, so he tried to throw the rock in the water and splash her, he ends up hitting her in the face and shes had a crush on him for like 5 years

hahah that may be the best crush story of all time. I was golfing in florida and i hit this guy with my ball and he came over and started yelling at me and telling me off, dropping the F bomb every other vowel. Later that i week i met this girl down there and went to go pick her up and the guy i hit with the golf ball answers the door and just stares at me for like a minute, i had no idea it was his daughter. That was akward, it was on Palm Island so everybody knows everybody down there, just bad luck i guess, but she was hot

But id just tell her your gay and your not very big down there

[cjm3113]

You have to be honest, you don't want to get involved in something you aren't interested in.

[Live4It]

Don't make an excuse like "i don't have time for a girlfriend" or "i want to be singel right now." Unless it's true, because if a girl comes along that you want to go out with, then you'll have aanother problem.

[bubba]

say your too comitted with lacrosse and dont have time for a girlfriend

[mnlax9]

truth truth truth.

if you lie to her, someone will find out and tell her friends and then you willl be hated by her and her friends will think your a jerk off

[faceofflax15]

Tell her: "That she is beautiful, and in most instances, you would be interested in her, just there's a certain X factor that you don't feel when you talk to her."

[mmlaxplaya17]

you can either...
play it off and hope that in time she loses intrest
or
you can straight up tell her that you dont like her which i think is always fun. you could bake her a cake that says "just firends" or "friend zone" on it.

and if all else fails do the brick thing. heck bake her a cake with a spring loaded birck inside of it so when she cuts it she gets smacked in the face!

http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a115/mmlaxplaya/bricktogirl.jpg

[Wooks]

Throw a brick at her

[navylax161]

dont lie or do anything that she can tell everyone about an dmake you look like an a-hole.

[lax@wwu21]

You're 15. Don't worry about it. You're not going to marry her. Not many people end up marrying the first girl that comes their way. Just tell her that you're not wanting a girlfriend. Its hard, but it has to be done.

[LaxDman62]

Just avoide her. I liked a girl for a while. Then when she started liking me I didnt like her anymore and just avoided talking to her. It tells her youre not interested. If you still want to be friends and talk to her then just tell her the truth.

[odysseybmx54]

My best advice is to just talk to her. Something along the lines of not being ready for a girlfriend, wanting just friendship, or anyhting. Don't lie and if you do think steps ahead. Think of how it could affect you in the long run.

[Tehb2]

This has always been a fear of mine, but I've never had to go through this situation......guess thats both good and bad...:sad: :bawling: (:chuckle: :roll: )

[Live4It]

This has always been a fear of mine, but I've never had to go through this situation......guess thats both good and bad...:sad: :bawling: (:chuckle: :roll: )

Mostly bad, since that makes me think you haven't been asked out much, or you're just really desperate and say yes to whatever you can get.

[Sir_Jimmy_Page]

i've got a good friend who currently has a boyfriend (in maine... we are in massachusetts... its not gonna last lets just say that) and who really does like me even though she has a boyfriend

i really am not looking forward to this...

[XxlacrossexX]

tell her she has cooties

OR

tell her she is just a booty call but thats it (given shes hot)

OR

Hit 'er in the face with a brick!

[Laxer1241]

tell her your kinda crushing on someone else and shes real sweet, but yah....

[laxgoalie66]

what laxer1241 said, say you were already plannin on asking someone else out.

[Live4It]

Then you better actualy ask someone else out. Unless you say you like somebody else, and it wouldn't before to her, meaning the one that asked you out, if you went out with her.

[DJ Death]

Then you better actualy ask someone else out. Unless you say you like somebody else, and it wouldn't before to her, meaning the one that asked you out, if you went out with her.
come again?

[Laxer1241]

Then you better actualy ask someone else out. Unless you say you like somebody else, and it wouldn't before to her, meaning the one that asked you out, if you went out with her.

No trust me Ive had experiences... if she asks what happened just say it didnt work and now your kinda upset so your not looking for a relationship yet

[nd_lacrosse]

dont be honest, the truth hurts. just ignore her untill she gets over it.

[thepalehorse]

tell her your not interested in a girlfriend right now. dont be a jerk and just ignore her, thats worse.

[centralpole513]

yo man, just level with her that shes more of a friend but not in a romantic way. good luck

[LAXinJD]

Be careful about saying you don't want a girlfriend right now, because when a girl that you do want to be with comes along soon, think how you will look if you go out with her. Just be honest and say you don't see a romantic relationship between the two of you.

[laxman359]

if shes not ugly go out with her and git sum or you could be respectful and just turn her down but were young and only live once

[Thumper 9C2]

look just think of how compatible you two are and (since you don't seem to see a connection) tell her you don't think she's right for you.

[James]

wow, there is hardly a similar answer from any of you. Lets try not to confuse him lol.

I would just say the truth. You know what hurts more then the truth, is being lied to and finding it out. Just go with the truth.

Every day at school its like this for me, I am a pro. I have to bring a spatula and some pam to keep the girls off me ;)

[Spartan]

just say your dealing with someone else.

[XxlacrossexX]

Hit it 'an quit it

[Enjoi LAX]

Ha guys are nuts, I told her the truth and it's no big deal.

[Live4It]

Ha guys are nuts, I told her the truth and it's no big deal.

Who's advice was that? Oh, I think it was mine. Yea, that's right, I know my stuff.

[Enjoi LAX]

I was never planning on lying to her in the first place.

[sdlaxdawgs]

after you told her u hit her in tha face wit a brick?

[WSlax9]

just tell her your gay. I did this to a girl and she NEVER talked to me again.

[Tehb2]

just tell her your gay. I did this to a girl and she NEVER talked to me again.


Does anyone talk to you anymore? I can't believe you recommend that as a strategy! If this was in school it'd just be awkward. If its not, then okay, no worries about crazy rumors.:roll:

[COBRALAX13]

slap her in the face...girls like that

[WSlax9]

Does anyone talk to you anymore? I can't believe you recommend that as a strategy! If this was in school it'd just be awkward. If its not, then okay, no worries about crazy rumors.:roll:
Hahaha she never told anyone so no worries =D..well..at least i dont think she did cause no one mentioned it in front of me haha:laugh:

[laxgoalie66]

hit it, then quit it